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Member #4680
05-05-12, 14:00
I recently spent some time away from the Tokyo area.
Small city without much action. After some extensive research I found two pretty good Oppai bars.
One girl gave me her email address. But she was way too skinny for me and and not cute at all (4'9"-4'10"- 75-82 lbs)
I like spinner just as much as the next guy but this girl was just skin and bones.
Found two delivery places about 45 mins to an hour away. That would deliver but just didn't want to go through the hassle.
I did what has always worked for me in the states.
People watching. I found the busiest corner in the restaurant area. I stood there for about 20 mins.
Eventually two massage girls approached me. I don't like to pay over 10, 000 for bad hand jobs, so I had to tell them to scram.
Anyways, eventually I saw a average looking tall Japanese girl and her friend with some junk on the trunk and cute face.
I watched them for about 5 minutes. Went to one of the block looking for a place to eat. Then they come back and decide to go to a fancy place on the second story of this road.
I remember the single girls of the office I was at, talking about this place as the place to have girls' night out.
I waited about 5 mins and they went into the place. Lucky for me they were sitting at the bar. So I sat next to them.
After a few minutes I asked them for a recommendation. The tall chick spoke English the thick girl didn't but I still had my eye set on her.
After about 3 hours of tasting some delicious food and a few beers. And I tried to keep the thick involved in the conversation as much as I could with my limited Japanese and with help from her friend.
The thick chick said she was feeling tired and wanted to leave. She had not had any alcohol. The other girl didn't want to leave but I said."Yes I think we should go I also want to sleep."
Anyways long story short. There is thick Japanese girl that got her face painted after a couple of hours of getting her pussy pounded.
She gave me her work number and would no give her cell phone number. It was funny, but I got what I wanted and I'm not going back to this city.
Stay safe out there.
Capa
BigManJapan
05-05-12, 22:31
BigManJapan. Re catching married woman on CL: 1. Do you post ads, or do you respond to ads placed by JPN women? And 2. What "type" of women are we talking about. Bored housewives in the burbs of Saitama / Tokyo? Have you identified a common theme or are they a random mix (age / socio-economic background)? 3. Generally how much spade work is requiredbefore getting them to a love hotel. 2nd date or 6th date? Appreciate updates on your current CL project.1. I reply to their ads. 2. They are usually early 30s most stay at home and bored. 3. They go to love hotel on 1st date.
Ok so I just had an INSANELY lucky massively good fortune from CL last night! Early evening when I got off work I saw a girl posted she was wanting to meet someone for a drink and conversation. I mailed her and after some chit chat turns out she lives near me like 15 min away! She sends me her picture in her underwear and wow holy shit nice body. I coax her into coming to my station for a coffee. When she arrives she's tall and slim with nice C cups and a round tight little booty she looked a bit like AV star Serina Hayakawa. We talk by the station and she says I seem like a gentleman so let's go to my place. When we get to my place she starts drinking wine and telling me her shirt is to tiny and she doesn't have anything on under it! She pulls out her phone and shows me pictures of her in stocking and thong at a fetish club in Tokyo that she frequents. My spider senses start tingling that I'm in for a good evening! About 10 min later I can't take it any longer and literally pick her up and throw her on my bed! Here's the lowdown on this girl, she tells me basically she's found her mission is to please a man and be his slave sexually. Her blowjob skills are a 9 at least but she kept hitting me and saying dame when I was going to cum she said my dick is for fucking girls. And fuck her I did, she came possibly 20 times and myself 5 pops. We fucked until 4am, took a nap and woke up at 6am and fucked again, she thanked me and let herself out. She left her thong with me as a hostage to be retrieved later. I'm cherishing it now as I write this. If anyone has encountered this girl before you know how damn special she is. My head is still spinning! She's a one girl never ending sucking fucking machine!
Cougar Cookie
05-06-12, 03:03
1. I reply to their ads. 2. They are usually early 30s most stay at home and bored. 3. They go to love hotel on 1st date.
When we get to my place she starts drinking wine and telling me her shirt is to tiny and she doesn't have anything on under it! She pulls out her phone and shows me pictures of her in stocking and thong at a fetish club in Tokyo that she frequents. My spider senses start tingling that I'm in for a good evening! About 10 min later I can't take it any longer and literally pick her up and throw her on my bed! Here's the lowdown on this girl, she tells me basically she's found her mission is to please a man and be his slave sexually. Her blowjob skills are a 9 at least but she kept hitting me and saying dame when I was going to cum she said my dick is for fucking girls. She left her thong with me as a hostage to be retrieved later. I'm cherishing it now as I write this!Thanks for the reply BMJ and the summary of your Saturday night. A great Tokyo adventure! The fetish club sounds interesting. See if you can pump some info from her re the name, location and speciality of the club.
BigManJapan
05-06-12, 06:42
Thanks for the reply BMJ and the summary of your Saturday night. A great Tokyo adventure! The fetish club sounds interesting. See if you can pump some info from her re the name, location and speciality of the club.I'm going to go to the fetish club with her. I forgot to mention that her pussy smooth and hairless, she let me kick back and watch her masturbate pulling her pussy lips wide open while she told me about how she mastubated the night before.
Cougar Cookie
05-06-12, 07:40
Does anyone have the latest intel on Tokyo Nampa bars?
I checked out Heartland, R2, Rigoletto and Motown recently. But was not very impressed with the quantity or quality. Although for Tokyo "weird". Motown is a pretty unique institution / zoo that is pretty entertaining.
Additionally, does anyone have tips for a good pick-up bar (or other venue) for Sunday nights?
Cougar Cookie
05-06-12, 07:44
I'm going to go to the fetish club with her. I forgot to mention that her pussy smooth and hairless, she let me kick back and watch her masturbate pulling her pussy lips wide open while she told me about how she mastubated the night before.Cool. Would be great if you could post the club details after your visit. How old was this chick BTW?
BigManJapan
05-07-12, 02:06
Cool. Would be great if you could post the club details after your visit. How old was this chick BTW?She didn't give her age but I'd guess 27-32? The fetish club is in Shibuya, it moves around because the police shut it down and it's kind of a members only thing. Apparently Japanese office ladies show up there to walk around nude and be exhibitionists putting on shows. Lots of people doing rope stuff etc too. The girl I'm seeing goes to watch the guys getting horny.
Is Nampa in a small town just a recipe for disaster?
I don't have trouble finding the women but the places to go are rather limited compared to what you could do in Tokyo / Osaka / Nagoya. Hamamatsu really isn't that small compared to some places but with only three malls I'm always worried eventually I'll run into someone I know while I'm out with another girl. I try to do my best to take different girls to different places & wards, limit my exposure to their friends but still I know eventually I'll get caught. I guess it's just all part of the game though and I should accept it or spend more time in other big cities.
I'm posting this to see if anyone else has some small town nampa tips I may be missing or even horror stories of getting caught.
Azure Knight
05-10-12, 02:39
I think the internet cafe has come a long way in becoming a great nampa hot spot. There are more booths with pair seats, open floor seating, and I saw one today that has "theater" booths. Flatscreen TV, DVD player, and open floor seating with two pillows. I mean really, that's like the slow-pitch softballl of nampa.
Obviously you don't want to use the net cafe as a substitute for LH, but it can be hard to go to LH without any previous touching or kissing, and scoring those in a public setting are extremely difficult. So take your date to a net cafe to watch a movie or DVD together, get a private seat, get a little touchy-feely and let the rest happen from there. I think its a great option for those of us who can't take girls home, or your place is a little too far from the action. There's a girl I want to try this approach on in the near future, we'll see how it goes.
Is Nampa in a small town just a recipe for disaster?
I don't have trouble finding the women but the places to go are rather limited compared to what you could do in Tokyo / Osaka / Nagoya. Hamamatsu really isn't that small compared to some places but with only three malls I'm always worried eventually I'll run into someone I know while I'm out with another girl. I try to do my best to take different girls to different places & wards, limit my exposure to their friends but still I know eventually I'll get caught. I guess it's just all part of the game though and I should accept it or spend more time in other big cities.
I'm posting this to see if anyone else has some small town nampa tips I may be missing or even horror stories of getting caught.Since you're in Hamamatsu, I'll leave you with this tip:
In addition to all the negatives you've heard about Filipinas (too clingy, emotional, selfish, jealous, etc.) , they also network very well and all know each other. Beware! Hahaha!
I think the internet cafe has come a long way in becoming a great nampa hot spot. There are more booths with pair seats, open floor seating, and I saw one today that has "theater" booths. Flatscreen TV, DVD player, and open floor seating with two pillows. I mean really, that's like the slow-pitch softballl of nampa.
Obviously you don't want to use the net cafe as a substitute for LH, but it can be hard to go to LH without any previous touching or kissing, and scoring those in a public setting are extremely difficult. So take your date to a net cafe to watch a movie or DVD together, get a private seat, get a little touchy-feely and let the rest happen from there. I think its a great option for those of us who can't take girls home, or your place is a little too far from the action. There's a girl I want to try this approach on in the near future, we'll see how it goes.Good point AK. It's also a lot cheaper and could be a good alternative to karaoke as a precursor to the main event (LH).
Azure Knight
05-14-12, 00:04
Question for the nampa vets. I usually wait for the second date to make my move unless it's a specific hookup situation or I'm getting great vibes from her. Anyway, what do you do if, after the first date, she says she wants to bring friends along, or says she has a friend who wants to meet you? I usually drop them as I figure if they're suggesting a friend gathering we're probably not interested in the same things. Anyone else have any other insights into this?
BigManJapan
05-14-12, 01:47
Question for the nampa vets. I usually wait for the second date to make my move unless it's a specific hookup situation or I'm getting great vibes from her. Anyway, what do you do if, after the first date, she says she wants to bring friends along, or says she has a friend who wants to meet you? I usually drop them as I figure if they're suggesting a friend gathering we're probably not interested in the same things. Anyone else have any other insights into this?The bring a friend along thing could mean 3 things. 1: maybe she likes you a lot and wants her friend to meet you, she might want LTR. 2. Maybe she just wants to be friends and would like to hang out with you. 3. Maybe she thinks you're a good match for her even hotter friend?
Question for the nampa vets. I usually wait for the second date to make my move unless it's a specific hookup situation or I'm getting great vibes from her. Anyway, what do you do if, after the first date, she says she wants to bring friends along, or says she has a friend who wants to meet you? I usually drop them as I figure if they're suggesting a friend gathering we're probably not interested in the same things. Anyone else have any other insights into this?Great question AK. I've been in this situation a number of times and the way I handle it depends on my "target" for the lady.
If I just see her as a potential sex buddy, then I say something like "I'd like to meet your friends but I'd rather get to know you better first." Then by the 2nd date, hopefully I'd be fucking her and she wouldn't bring up the idea of meeting others (unless it's a possible 3P partner! Hahaha!)
If I see her as a potential "faux" girlfriend, then I'll say "If we meet up with your friends, are you going to introduce me as your `boyfriend`?" It's a little bit of a joke, but I wait for her reaction / response. If it's positive, meaning she's showing romantic interest, then tell her "Let's go out just us two for now and soon we can meet them." If it's negative, such as her saying it's too fast or early to think about relationship, then say "Well, I just want to focus on you for now, so I prefer that only the two of us meet."
In any case, as the weather is getting warmer and days are getting "busier" at work. It's ALWAYS a good reason to bring up the "I've been so busy at work and hot these days that I prefer to just relax together in a cool place and talk for a while." excuse in order to get her into a LH. Works like a charm.
Good luck.
JpnDude
Cougar Cookie
05-14-12, 02:42
Question for the nampa vets. I usually wait for the second date to make my move unless it's a specific hookup situation or I'm getting great vibes from her. Anyway, what do you do if, after the first date, she says she wants to bring friends along, or says she has a friend who wants to meet you? I usually drop them as I figure if they're suggesting a friend gathering we're probably not interested in the same things. Anyone else have any other insights into this?I would just roll with it and see how the date pans out. I have been in this situation before. My best guess was that she (#1) was going to introduce her friend (#2) to me. Maybe #1 already had a boyfriend and could not fit me in her schedule, maybe she thought I was a good match for her girlfriend, maybe she was donating a charity shag to her girlfriend. We met in Starbucks. I was working #2 thinking she was the target, but was surprised when the date ended after one coffee. #2 was packed off pretty quickly. I walked #1 to the train station slightly confused and thinking it was game over. I had showered, shaved and dressed for a big night out. Not a latte at SB's! When we got near the taxi rank at the train station she pulled me close and told me she was horny and needed sex. TAXI!
Sometimes we males are too scientific in our approach. If you have the time. Just roll with it. But if your busy juggling a large stable then maybe I would forget about the "can I bring a friend along" types.
So I had more than just a bit of luck off craigslist. Ill report back when its all said and done for fear of it blowing up in my face. Otherwise my nampa game sucks arse.
Some of the more traditional gaijin bars have been dead of late. Theres one that is not a gaijin bar which I can recommend: AIR BAR in Tennoji is VERY popular with the young girls. Do a search as I don't think theres a website. Its right near JR TENNOJI station and its cheap as well. Hatguy
Great Muta
05-14-12, 21:02
I don't put up with girls bringing friends on our dates. I could care less about the girl's friends. I won't go if someone else is coming along.
A girl bringing a friend either means:
1. She's not interested in you and is trying to pass you off, which means this whole thing is a waste of time anyway since if you are not good enough for one girl, you won't be good enough for her friend. The girl isn't going to want to steal from her friend anyway.
2. She's too nervous or afraid to meet you which means you aren't getting anything except a chance to donate to some girls dinner.
There's millions of girls out there, no need to go through this. Lay down the law.
Azure Knight
05-15-12, 12:16
Thanks for the input gentlemen. I've had this come up a few times recently. First girl I did end up fucking, second girl on the date she suggested our next meet up be a group outing with a bunch of her friends. After the date ended I dropped her but lately she emailed me saying she wants me to spend the night at her place. Third girl I haven't dropped yet, avoided the friends thing and am just mailing her for now. I don't have a whole lot of time so I hate wasting it, but we'll see what happens.
Another question. Lets say you're on the second date, trying to up the physical interaction level, but not getting much of a response from her. How far do you push? I usually won't try for LH if I can't get making out at least, so if she's being fairly non-responsive to my advances then it's hard to go for a kiss.
Azure Knight
05-18-12, 23:29
Another question. Lets say you're on the second date, trying to up the physical interaction level, but not getting much of a response from her. How far do you push? I usually won't try for LH if I can't get making out at least, so if she's being fairly non-responsive to my advances then it's hard to go for a kiss.I just had a textbook second date yesterday, proceeding from izakaya to karaoke and then LH. It's nice to see the old methods still working wonderfully.
However, I really had to push to get there. She was receptive to my advances but didn't return them. So just a reminder to take the lead and push. If she isn't rejecting you keep pushing until you get to where you want to be.
BigManJapan
05-19-12, 04:43
I just had a textbook second date yesterday, proceeding from izakaya to karaoke and then LH. It's nice to see the old methods still working wonderfully.
However, I really had to push to get there. She was receptive to my advances but didn't return them. So just a reminder to take the lead and push. If she isn't rejecting you keep pushing until you get to where you want to be.Slam dunk man!
Well I spent last night in bed with a friend I have known for about 7 years and she's a virgin who's deathly afraid of sex, I'm slowly wearing her down though. Each time she gives a little more, I had her half naked this time and she'd briefly touch me but she's super coy. I'll crack this nut eventually. She's adorable, short black hair and slim with B cups that are nice handfuls! Cute typical office lady face.
This goes here because I got her in Osaka first. Presently Hatguy its in Seoul after meeting one girl off CL. She paid for my hotel here last night and fucked the crap out of my cock last night. Really nice tits but chubby. Doesn't matter to me at all. She said she would pay for my airfare but the cheapo deal I got with Peach just took my breath away so I don't give a shit. All in all such a success! Early morning BBBJ in the shower cim as icing on the cake! LOL.
BigManJapan
05-21-12, 06:55
This goes here because I got her in Osaka first. Presently Hatguy its in Seoul after meeting one girl off CL. She paid for my hotel here last night and fucked the crap out of my cock last night. Really nice tits but chubby. Doesn't matter to me at all. She said she would pay for my airfare but the cheapo deal I got with Peach just took my breath away so I don't give a shit. All in all such a success! Early morning BBBJ in the shower cim as icing on the cake! LOL.She sounds nice! I could use a slightly chubby girl right now! I've been releasing my stockpile of girls back into the wild. It fucking sucks because half of them think they are in love with me and it's hard to cut them loose. But I've gotten fucking tired of them and found new better fish. Got me an ex hipness delivery girl coming to visit me, I'm looking forward to that!
Went to hotel last night with my new regular favorite and had 3 pops with one CIM / swallow. She's got to be more sex crazed than any of us.
Here's an odd one that has me scratching my head. Last September I picked up a cute 20 something at a mall while I was on a break. A week later we went out for dinner and karaoke. The karaoke led to a make out session and everything seemed to be going pretty well. After a while I suggested we move on to some other place (a LH but I didn't say that directly). All of a sudden she started acting funny, said she had to go to the bathroom then bailed. I sent her a mail later that night but never got a response so I dropped it.
Queue Golden Week almost 9 months later I get an email from this same girl apologizing for bailing that night and that she would like to see me again. I'm just baffled that she would mail 9 months later. Only thing I can figure is she must of had a bf at the time of our first date and no longer does now. I don't know. She was cute so I'll give her one more go.
Cougar Cookie
05-22-12, 03:19
Here's an odd one that has me scratching my head. Last September I picked up a cute 20 something at a mall while I was on a break. A week later we went out for dinner and karaoke. The karaoke led to a make out session and everything seemed to be going pretty well. After a while I suggested we move on to some other place (a LH but I didn't say that directly). All of a sudden she started acting funny, said she had to go to the bathroom then bailed. I sent her a mail later that night but never got a response so I dropped it.
Queue Golden Week almost 9 months later I get an email from this same girl apologizing for bailing that night and that she would like to see me again. I'm just baffled that she would mail 9 months later. Only thing I can figure is she must of had a bf at the time of our first date and no longer does now. I don't know. She was cute so I'll give her one more go.Stop thinking and get ready to shag Flying. She has done her thinking and she is ready to get it on with you. Just pick up where you left off as if nothing strange happened. Don't discus the history, why she bailed, did she have a boyfriend etc etc. Keep the mood light, fun and positive. And don't leave it too late to move to the LH. Your already on 2nd or 3rd base. So make sure time restraints and train schedules don't stop the fun this time.
Gents,
Had a bit of success from craiglist here in Tokyo. The old friends with benefits catch line seems to have a good following here. Additionally just use the Man looking for woman view and the woman mid 30's are all on the proul. Guess the clock is ticking.
Meet this one girl in particular, bit of email chat pooled her to the Hub pub at Ebisu. 2 drinks in her and she was into it. Turned on by simple touching and hugging. She wanted to go that night, held back the urge but banged her the next day. She couldn't get enough of it, setting a record for me of 4 times in one over night stay.
Gents, I have now stopped seeing her but if you want the contact details message me.
Happy hunting.
Cougar Cookie
05-28-12, 02:24
Had a bit of success from craiglist here in Tokyo.Meet this one girl in particular, bit of email chat pooled her to the Hub pub at Ebisu. 2 drinks in her and she was into it. Turned on by simple touching and hugging. She wanted to go that night, held back the urge but banged her the next day. She couldn't get enough of it, setting a record for me of 4 times in one over night stay.Gents, I have now stopped seeing her but if you want the contact details message me.JR,
Followed your lead and am testing out CL for nampa in Tokyo. Seems to be hard work. Weeding out all the hookers, fakes and scams. I got a nibble yesterday from a university student. Not sure if she is real or not. She went silent on me after several emails. I will let you know if I convert on that one. I can't message you JR, but it would be good if you could post a basic profile of the girl you scored with, so if she nibbles on my hook I know if she is real and ready to be fried.
JR,
Followed your lead and am testing out CL for nampa in Tokyo. Seems to be hard work. Weeding out all the hookers, fakes and scams. I got a nibble yesterday from a university student. Not sure if she is real or not. She went silent on me after several emails. I will let you know if I convert on that one. I can't message you JR, but it would be good if you could post a basic profile of the girl you scored with, so if she nibbles on my hook I know if she is real and ready to be fried.Well, she's 36.
HR consultant. Works close to Shibuya.
Great smile.
Just touch her & she gets turned on.
From Osaka, been in Tokyo about 1 year.
BigManJapan
05-29-12, 13:12
JR,
Followed your lead and am testing out CL for nampa in Tokyo. Seems to be hard work. Weeding out all the hookers, fakes and scams. I got a nibble yesterday from a university student. Not sure if she is real or not. She went silent on me after several emails. I will let you know if I convert on that one. I can't message you JR, but it would be good if you could post a basic profile of the girl you scored with, so if she nibbles on my hook I know if she is real and ready to be fried.The university student could be a fun one! Keep us updated! Well after meeting the sex crazed girl I mentioned from CL in my earlier post I've been seeing her regularly, I seriously can't imagine how the hell I could go back to fucking any other girl. She's that damn good I haven't even looked at CL or answered any of my other fuck buddies emails. She can fuck for hours, wears very sexy lingerie with stockings and gives killer blowjobs CIM / swallow. It's like we we're born to fuck each other the way we go at it haha I hope this lasts because I'm on cloud nine! I have pics if you can send messages.
Cougar Cookie
05-30-12, 01:30
Thanks JR. She has not nibbled on my hook so far. I don't think so anyway.
Might have to bait a new hook for her. Not having any luck with CL so far.
Cougar Cookie
05-31-12, 01:56
Send me your details and I'll forward her number.
Best of luck.JR,
I don't think we can swap contact details here. Unless we are paid up members. I think my last post was moderated to exclude a reference to part of an email address. Not sure. Thanks for the offer anyway, although I don't think the phone number play works very well. Or at least a very small chance of success. I will see if I can get her to nibble on another CL ad. I will put an ad up today. If you spot the ad (should be easy) respond with forum handle and you can pass on her email and other contact details there.
BMJ. Sounds like you found heaven. Keep us posted on the field trip to the mobile fetish club. Looking forward to that review.
So. I've been off and on trying to hit up Craigslist and I've gotten nothing, and I don't know what I've been doing wrong. I've messaged women with a simple but polite message, based on what they wrote (yes I used personal messages and didn't spam mails to women) I include a picture of my self in the mail, and wait for a response. Nothing. I have put numerous ads on both casual and m4w being direct in the casual and being very normal in the m4w section. (using dating language "I'd love to meet you for a drink etc etc. .") but really I've got nothing. .
What am I doing wrong, What are you guys doing right? And How can I fix this to get the success you guys have gotten?
Stop thinking and get ready to shag Flying. She has done her thinking and she is ready to get it on with you.Apparently not! We had scheduled a date that should have been tonight. But yesterday she never responded to my last mail and didn't respond today either so I think she's flaked out again. Wonder if I'll get another random mail from her in 9 months.
Cougar Cookie
06-01-12, 06:20
CJ. Sounds like your doing the right stuff. I am new to CL and no expert, but it seems to me success is pretty random. Just keep baiting your hooks and throwing them out there. Realistically, we are talking about a relatively small pool of JPN women that : 1. Read CL personal ads; 2. Want a casual relationship (open-minded, liberal) with a foreigner and 3. Are normal (sane, average looking or better, shaggable). It is a bit like panning for gold in a dirty little creek. There is some gold there. But also a lot of fakes and scams (hookers, massage services, email address and photo harvesting, scams trying to drag you to other sites).
The only things that may help with your ads is to think about the day / time you post the ad, and the title of your ad. The title may be all they read, and maybe more people are looking on Thur-Sunday than Mon- Thursday.
Based on my limited use and limited success, I think CL is worth pursuing. But not something to invest too much time or effort on. I have only met one women so far, and expect her to mature into a FWB.
I got an email exchange going with a nice JPN nurse and had a date set up, but then she cancelled after talking to her friend who advised her to be careful because CL was full of homicidal maniacs, perverts and deviants. That highlights one of the challenges of using CL. Another challenge is that some JPN women are using "adult" sites like CL / AFF looking for husbands / serious BF's.
Currently I have several live email exchanges on-going. None of them seem very promising. Makes me wonder if some of the women are just bored, curious or thinking about a fling. But are not quite ready to take the plunge.
Gents,
This time had success from Metropolis classifieds, late 30's number, good body, speaks great english, loves beer & izakaya's and is very open to public displays of affection, evidence the other night in the standing bar and train on the way home.
In between I had seen about 6-8 girls before I found a pearl again.
Happy hunting.
The only things that may help with your ads is to think about the day / time you post the ad, and the title of your ad. The title may be all they read, and maybe more people are looking on Thur-Sunday than Mon- Thursday.
Based on my limited use and limited success, I think CL is worth pursuing. But not something to invest too much time or effort on. I have only met one women so far, and expect her to mature into a FWB.
I got an email exchange going with a nice JPN nurse and had a date set up, but then she cancelled after talking to her friend who advised her to be careful because CL was full of homicidal maniacs, perverts and deviants. That highlights one of the challenges of using CL. Another challenge is that some JPN women are using "adult" sites like CL / AFF looking for husbands / serious BF's.
Currently I have several live email exchanges on-going. None of them seem very promising. Makes me wonder if some of the women are just bored, curious or thinking about a fling. But are not quite ready to take the plunge.[/QUOTE]
Basementcello
06-10-12, 16:14
Hello gents,
I'm looking to get this thread fired up with some 'regular' Nampa advice and stories.
I've recently been trying my hand at Nampa around Tokyo now that I'm a single fellow once again to rather mixed results. I managed to pick up a girl in a Shibuya bar that a friend had brought along, but to say it was a difficult conquest would be a lie. The combination of alcohol and some upfront flirting whilst my friend took her girlfriend worked a charm and we were making out by the time we hit the second bar and then off to a hotel at the end of the night. Whilst picking up in bars is pretty straightforward, I have had less success in more sober settings.
On the way home after work, I usually stop at the same cafe in Shibuya to unwind and invariably have some beautiful but shallow girl sat next to me chain smoking, typing nonsense into her phone and applying her make-up. Sometimes, if I'm not looking too haggered I'll try a simple opener of asking for directions to some nearby place like a bar etc. Whilst I still need to hone my technique a bit more, has anyone got any good success stories / tactics for cafe or other public place openers?
BC
Basementcello
06-10-12, 16:29
Hello gents,
I'm looking to get this thread fired up with some 'regular' Nampa success stories / tactics.
I've recently been trying my hand at Nampa again now that I'm once again single with rather mixed results. I picked up a girl that my friend had invited to a bar last week but to say that it was difficult would be a lie. The usual combination of alcohol, some heavy upfront flirting and my friend taking her girlfriend worked a treat. As they say, divide and conquer. We were drunkenly making out by the second bar and then onto a love hotel before the night was out. I just wished the hangover was as easy to deal with. Whilst bar pickups / double dates are kind of straightforward, I have had less success with trying to chat to women in more sober settings.
On the way home from work, I usually stop to unwind in the same Shibuya cafe. I invariably get some beautiful, yet shallow Japanese girl sat next to me chain smoking, typing nonsense into her phone and re-applying her make up for the tenth time. If there's a chance, I usually try some 'safe' opener like pretending I don't know the area and asking directions to some small bar / shop etc. Whilst they are usually helpful / nice it rarely goes further.
Has anyone got any tried and tested openers they like to use for cafes and more public places?
BC
Cougar Cookie
06-11-12, 05:04
Good idea to refocus on traditional / classic nampa Basement.
I have basically given up on cafe nampa. But I still spend too much time in cafes just perving at girls walking by. I prefer to play the "percentages".10pm, Friday, pub, booze, is going to be much easier than 2pm in Starbucks on Sunday IMHO. Anybody found a cafe that is a nampa spot. Where JPN girls go hoping to meet foreigners?
I am interested to hear about Nampa locations / venues. What are the current "in" bars and pubs? It would be good if forum members could build a map of nampa "hits". My last nampa one nighter was in Ebisu. Pulled a girl out of What the Dickens. A good catch. She was not a regular. The regulars are a bit rough.
Any tips on this one? You meet a Japanese couple in a bar, sense the JPN girl is interested, you know she leaving with him. But would like to try and get something set up with her. I missed an opportunity like this last week. The Japanese girl kissed me on the cheek as they left. But I never had time to exchange contacts. Wish I had followed her to the loo on a toilet run and stashed my meishi in her tight jeans! How do you play this?
AussieGaigin
06-11-12, 11:27
Check in tourist mags like Metropolis for "International parties", usually held on Fri and Sat nights at various venues around TYO.
Some English conversation schools have coffee shops attached or have regular shops nearby where the students hang out after classes.
Both offer a source of eligible women.
I've also had luck with personal ads in Metropolis, but that was a few yaers ago when there were less other resources on line.
Basementcello
06-14-12, 13:14
Good idea to refocus on traditional / classic nampa Basement.
I have basically given up on cafe nampa. But I still spend too much time in cafes just perving at girls walking by. I prefer to play the "percentages".10pm, Friday, pub, booze, is going to be much easier than 2pm in Starbucks on Sunday IMHO. Anybody found a cafe that is a nampa spot. Where JPN girls go hoping to meet foreigners?Hey Cookie,
I agree that cafe nampa is a pretty difficult way to meet Japanese chicks. They aren't there for hooking up but are obviously there to meet friends, study or just relax. When Japanese chicks are in the Tokyo bars, it is a little more open.
As for which cafes to try, much depends on the cafe chain. Starbucks is the home to more internationally minded girls. I always see one or two girls studying English or even taking English lessons in my local starbucks. I think you would have at least a reasonable chance of seeing such a girl and making an approach. Another thing I've noticed is a lot of the female staff at Starbucks seem to take the job with the hope of making some foreign friends. One of my friends met his wife when she was working in a Starbucks in Tokyo. She was a university student and very hot and he could speak no Japanese but just made a play for her as she understood English and got a number. The Starbucks shops in all areas and suburbs of Tokyo can be considered places to drop into after work for hunting.
Excelsior / Dotour etc. Will attract more traditional and sometimes sluttier Japanese chicks because they allow smoking. The Dotour near me always has hot chicks in the smoking section.
I think some foreigners have cottoned onto this as I have seen some single male gaijin hanging around the bucks in Shibuya and the dotour in Shinjuku just looking at the girls and sometimes trying to strike up conversation with girls there.
Is this anyone here on the board?
BC
Last night myself and a mate went to the Hub in Osaka. The Hub is a chain of pubs. I ended up with the email of a very sexy 20 year old that is going to Aussie on working holiday. Tall and thin with decent tits. If I can get some more of that I certainly will. Anyway visitors and lurkers, hatguy says go to hub and have a blast. http://www.pub-hub.com/
Memories of that place. Can you still get to third base with thethe girls in thethe booths?
Last night myself and a mate went to the Hub in Osaka. The Hub is a chain of pubs. I ended up with the email of a very sexy 20 year old that is going to Aussie on working holiday. Tall and thin with decent tits. If I can get some more of that I certainly will. Anyway visitors and lurkers, hatguy says go to hub and have a blast.
http://www.pub-hub.com/
Last night myself and a mate went to the Hub in Osaka. The Hub is a chain of pubs. I ended up with the email of a very sexy 20 year old that is going to Aussie on working holiday. Tall and thin with decent tits. If I can get some more of that I certainly will. Anyway visitors and lurkers, hatguy says go to hub and have a blast.
http://www.pub-hub.com/I just looked at the link and realized it was for Pub Hub, not Show Pub Hip, a strip club that was (is?) Nearby.
AussieGaigin
06-15-12, 12:48
Last night myself and a mate went to the Hub in Osaka. The Hub is a chain of pubs. I ended up with the email of a very sexy 20 year old that is going to Aussie on working holiday. Tall and thin with decent tits. If I can get some more of that I certainly will. Anyway visitors and lurkers, hatguy says go to hub and have a blast.
http://www.pub-hub.com/If she needs any assistance when she gets down here, AG's speciality is looking after WH girls. 25 years of satisfied customers.
Last night myself and a mate went to the Hub in Osaka. The Hub is a chain of pubs. I ended up with the email of a very sexy 20 year old that is going to Aussie on working holiday. Tall and thin with decent tits. If I can get some more of that I certainly will. Anyway visitors and lurkers, hatguy says go to hub and have a blast.
http://www.pub-hub.com/Which Hub, mate? I often find myself close to the Chayamachi one in Umeda but haven't been in for a while.
HiyakeDome
07-02-12, 10:08
I have read a report about the tachinomiyas in Shimbashi. They are standing & drinking bars, even though often you are seated on caskets or other improvised chairs. I tries it out and it is really great. Atmosphere super chatty, and easy to meet girls. Best to go with a group of friends. I read this written by a Japanese guy. He also wrote te following: "girls that stand while drinking, easily role on their backs. The shorter the hair, the more they like adventures. The more different food they order, the more they like to try new things." I recommend the bars under the railway tracks.
Have Fun!
Hyd
I have read a report about the tachinomiyas in Shimbashi. They are standing & drinking bars, even though often you are seated on caskets or other improvised chairs. I tries it out and it is really great. Atmosphere super chatty, and easy to meet girls. Best to go with a group of friends. I read this written by a Japanese guy. He also wrote te following: "girls that stand while drinking, easily role on their backs. The shorter the hair, the more they like adventures. The more different food they order, the more they like to try new things." I recommend the bars under the railway tracks.
Have Fun!
HydJust remember that if these girls are with work colleagues they may not want to appear easy, in this area most people are out with colleagues. In this case its best to chat with them and slip them your e-mail / get theirs. This has worked for me on a few occasions. After a few mails have arranged a date and had several to love hotels on first date.
Just remember that if these girls are with work colleagues they may not want to appear easy, in this area most people are out with colleagues. In this case its best to chat with them and slip them your e-mail / get theirs. This has worked for me on a few occasions. After a few mails have arranged a date and had several to love hotels on first date.I was in Shinbashi the other night, but I could't find any true "standing bars" as it as the customers were mostly seated. This was even for the places that were under the tracks. If find it much easier to chat if its really standing (even if you're in a set place). Do you have specific shop recommendations or areas to check out?
I've also had a lot of luck at standing bars. Very easy to chat with strangers. I walk out with a new acquaintance every time. Talk to both the men and the women. Some of the guys I've met have been happy to take me to gokon or introduce cool chicks.
My current f-buddy is an OL who picked ME up at a standing bar.
Cougar Cookie
07-12-12, 12:56
I've also had a lot of luck at standing bars. Very easy to chat with strangers. I walk out with a new acquaintance every time. Talk to both the men and the women. Some of the guys I've met have been happy to take me to gokon or introduce cool chicks.
My current f-buddy is an OL who picked ME up at a standing bar.Any specific bars recommended? Or any particular neighborhoods to hunt in? (Shimbashi is interesting, but not really my scene. Too many hardcore salarymen)
Cougar Cookie
07-15-12, 03:46
I often find myself "free" on a Sunday evening. Not having much luck finding anywhere that is lively on a Sunday night. Does anybody have any favourite spots that work on Sunday nights?
BigManJapan
07-17-12, 07:28
Anywhere is good as long as you're not Black.Man I went to the beach and you know those beach party buildings the Japanese erect all along the beach? Well there was this black dude talking to chicks left and right and these were all 9s and 10s in bikinis he could speak some Japanese and looked well put together. Further down the beach I watched several groups of Japanese young guys nampaing their hearts out. They totally got shot down even ran away from by one group of like 7 fucking hotties in neon bikinis but these boys didn't give up and eventually after sending out several hunting parties, lured these babes in with beer and music LOL the ageless dance is it not? .
Ok I'm self confessed wimp to do street nampa but last night it fell into my lap. Girl walks past the other way on the street I say you're cute and within 5 mins I have her number. If its that easy. No more Mr Shy Hat!
ps. Young triariis banned! Thank you admin!
Ok I'm self confessed wimp to do street nampa but last night it fell into my lap. Girl walks past the other way on the street I say you're cute and within 5 mins I have her number. If its that easy. No more Mr Shy Hat!
Ps. Young triariis banned! Thank you admin!Good for you HatGuy. Hope it works out well for ya. Just one question, did tell her she was cute in Japanese or English?
I'll admit I haven't done street nampa in a very long time. And that girl turned out to be an unknown JAV actress. Yikes.
Good for you HatGuy. Hope it works out well for ya. Just one question, did tell her she was cute in Japanese or English?
I'll admit I haven't done street nampa in a very long time. And that girl turned out to be an unknown JAV actress. Yikes.Told her in Japanese. Did you screw the JAV actress? That would have been something!
Told her in Japanese. Did you screw the JAV actress? That would have been something!Yoku dekita ne! Gambatte HG!
I had just graduated from uni and spending my first summer in Japan (mid 90s). I was wearing a sports shirt, cap, shorts, sneakers, I wasn't cleanly shaved and I was sweating like a pig. I see her coming out of the station wearing designer outfit, brand name high heels shoes, all the bling she could carry and a cute parasol. I just walked up to her and said "hi!" in English, then told her that she was "byu-ti-furu" (beautiful). She thanked me in Japanese. I convinced her to go for coffee with my very basic Japanese and her non-existent English. What would be a usual 15-min conversation became 3 hours while we handed off a JPN-ENG dictionary I was carrying. I learned that she was 21 years old from Kyushu, living with her uncle in Tokyo while she worked, and really wanted to learn English.
She gave me her "meishi" after she told me that she was a model. It had the letters "AV MODEL" on it. Because of my ignorance, I thought it was "Audio-Visual", so I took it as meaning "TV spokesmodel". Anyway, I secured a second date and, me being the big spender (HAHA!) , took her to a curry house full of college kids. After another hard time trying to converse, I complained about the heat and invited her to "cool down" at my place nearby. I took her to my 6-tatami rented room, laid her on my futon and offered to massage her feet. She accepted hesitantly. One thing led to another and I "went around the bases". She had to leave after an hour for a "photo shoot" she said.
About a week later, I wanted to brag to my Japanese friend about my catch. I showed him her "meishi" and he yelled "AV MODEL!" I asked him what exactly that meant. He said "Adult-Video. Porno". I'm like "Whoa!" So he took me to Akihabara and we looked for her name. And found some videos with her pics on the cover. I was shocked as well as a little disgusted at first, to be honest. We rented some of them and it was definitely her. I didn't know how to react, but my friend started calling me "King" for being able to fuck a porn actress.
On our next date I asked her about it and after first denying she finally admitted it. I said it was all good and she had nothing to worry about. At the same time, I wasn't in the frame of mind to have any serious relationships with anyone when I first got to Japan. So I didn't care what she did for a living as long as I got some action at times. We saw each other perhaps twice a month, then I had a long overseas trip with no contact. When I got back to Japan, she was pissed off but fucked me anyway. We didn't meet again after that.
Standing on the platform waitin on the train. Young one right next to me just kept staring. Clock right in front of us, so I asked her in english what time it is. We started talking. She was 21. Very pretty has a boyfriend, american, in the states. Decided to go for it right then and there. Saw some love hotel signs as we pulled into a stop. I held her arm and told her lets get off here and go to a quiet place and get to know each other. She said ok. I walked her right to a love hotel. She was shocked and said its too soon. A couple sentences later we were in the hotel. She had small tits with big sexy nipples. The nicest legs and ass I have seen. We stayed in that hotel for 10 hours.
Yoku dekita ne! Gambatte HG!
I had just graduated from uni and spending my first summer in Japan (mid 90s). I was wearing a sports shirt, cap, shorts, sneakers, I wasn't cleanly shaved and I was sweating like a pig. I see her coming out of the station wearing designer outfit, brand name high heels shoes, all the bling she could carry and a cute parasol. I just walked up to her and said "hi!" in English, then told her that she was "byu-ti-furu" (beautiful). She thanked me in Japanese. I convinced her to go for coffee with my very basic Japanese and her non-existent English. What would be a usual 15-min conversation became 3 hours while we handed off a JPN-ENG dictionary I was carrying. I learned that she was 21 years old from Kyushu, living with her uncle in Tokyo while she worked, and really wanted to learn English.
She gave me her "meishi" after she told me that she was a model. It had the letters "AV MODEL" on it. Because of my ignorance, I thought it was "Audio-Visual", so I took it as meaning "TV spokesmodel". Anyway, I secured a second date and, me being the big spender (HAHA!) , took her to a curry house full of college kids. After another hard time trying to converse, I complained about the heat and invited her to "cool down" at my place nearby. I took her to my 6-tatami rented room, laid her on my futon and offered to massage her feet. She accepted hesitantly. One thing led to another and I "went around the bases". She had to leave after an hour for a "photo shoot" she said.
About a week later, I wanted to brag to my Japanese friend about my catch. I showed him her "meishi" and he yelled "AV MODEL!" I asked him what exactly that meant. He said "Adult-Video. Porno". I'm like "Whoa!" So he took me to Akihabara and we looked for her name. And found some videos with her pics on the cover. I was shocked as well as a little disgusted at first, to be honest. We rented some of them and it was definitely her. I didn't know how to react, but my friend started calling me "King" for being able to fuck a porn actress.
On our next date I asked her about it and after first denying she finally admitted it. I said it was all good and she had nothing to worry about. At the same time, I wasn't in the frame of mind to have any serious relationships with anyone when I first got to Japan. So I didn't care what she did for a living as long as I got some action at times. We saw each other perhaps twice a month, then I had a long overseas trip with no contact. When I got back to Japan, she was pissed off but fucked me anyway. We didn't meet again after that.Now thats a good fucking story or a fucking good story! Both work man! I would give my left nut to fuck one of those big titted girls in AV. I know everyone would like a go with one!
Well, tonight is Friday and I'm off to the local for a few beers. See ya man!
Great Muta
07-27-12, 15:16
I got two emails while I was on the japanese trains recently. One responded to me and the other gave me a fake email I think. I may not have been able to read her writing though to be honest.
I also had a couple of good chats with girls on trains, but when you are pressed for time and their stop comes up it's a little hard. I chatted with some MILF with cute be-cup tits and a kind of bbw type with nice tits.
Great Muta
07-27-12, 15:42
Now thats a good fucking story or a fucking good story! Both work man! I would give my left nut to fuck one of those big titted girls in AV. I know everyone would like a go with one!
Well, tonight is Friday and I'm off to the local for a few beers. See ya man!You don't need to. There's a whole list of stars on fuzokuav. Com It says the sex shop that each works at.
Hey guys, I'll be meeting a J-girl tonight from a Metropolis Personals ad I posted recently. This is how the basic contact went:
Me (My ad) : Looking to spend some time together and see what happens.
Her: I liked your ad and want to meet you.
Me: Sure, tell me more details about you and send a pic.
Her: I'm 30, single, no kids, like art, movies, etc. Live in vicinity of Tokyo. Never been with western guy before. Looking for serious relationship. Has no mobile phone. (sends a pic from last year, typical OL face and body type).
Me: Let's meet up for coffee one of these days. (I send my pics)
Her: You're cute. Let's have Japanese dinner next week on Tuesday.
Me: I can't meet Tuesday, how about Monday?
Her: Sure, but can I stay at your place? I have a job interview in Tokyo on Tuesday and need a place to stay. (My reaction: Wow!)
Me: Uhm, well, how about I get a room for us somewhere? (I can't host or spend the night out.)
Her: Sure, it's good. But be sure to buy condoms, I don't want unsafe sex. (My reaction: Damn!)
Me: I got a room in the area. Meet me at this time tonight. Are you sure this is for serious relationship?
Her: Yes, I want real. I look forward to seeing you.
Something about this girl is giving me a strange vibe. Am I being setup? Is this come kind of trap? Or am I just thinking too much and should enjoy the chance for a fun fling with a seemingly decent girl? I saw her FB and she seems rather. Dull. Whatever the case, the room is reserved and I'll be there tonight and report on it tomorrow. Wish me luck.
BigManJapan
07-30-12, 04:33
Hey guys, I'll be meeting a J-girl tonight from a Metropolis Personals ad I posted recently. This is how the basic contact went:
Me (My ad) : Looking to spend some time together and see what happens.
Her: I liked your ad and want to meet you.
Me: Sure, tell me more details about you and send a pic.
Her: I'm 30, single, no kids, like art, movies, etc. Live in vicinity of Tokyo. Never been with western guy before. Looking for serious relationship. Has no mobile phone. (sends a pic from last year, typical OL face and body type).
Me: Let's meet up for coffee one of these days. (I send my pics)
Her: You're cute. Let's have Japanese dinner next week on Tuesday.
Me: I can't meet Tuesday, how about Monday?
Her: Sure, but can I stay at your place? I have a job interview in Tokyo on Tuesday and need a place to stay. (My reaction: Wow!)
Me: Uhm, well, how about I get a room for us somewhere? (I can't host or spend the night out.)
Her: Sure, it's good. But be sure to buy condoms, I don't want unsafe sex. (My reaction: Damn!)
Me: I got a room in the area. Meet me at this time tonight. Are you sure this is for serious relationship?
Her: Yes, I want real. I look forward to seeing you.
Something about this girl is giving me a strange vibe. Am I being setup? Is this come kind of trap? Or am I just thinking too much and should enjoy the chance for a fun fling with a seemingly decent girl? I saw her FB and she seems rather. Dull. Whatever the case, the room is reserved and I'll be there tonight and report on it tomorrow. Wish me luck.Sounds real but she doesn't have a keitai? WTF is she really japanese? I thought they are born with a keitai in their hand. Looking forward to your report!
Sounds real but she doesn't have a keitai? WTF is she really japanese? I thought they are born with a keitai in their hand. Looking forward to your report!Yes BMJ, that was one of the reasons for the cautious vibe.
Anyway, I've met plenty of ladies from online via various websites and have had my good share of rendezvous through the years. And usually it's a case of ME starting the moves to get her into bed within the first two dates.
But this girl has so far thrown me a curve ball. Let's hope I hit it out of the park.
Hey guys, I'll be meeting a J-girl tonight from a Metropolis Personals ad I posted recently. This is how the basic contact went:
Me (My ad) : Looking to spend some time together and see what happens.
Her: I liked your ad and want to meet you.
Me: Sure, tell me more details about you and send a pic.
Her: I'm 30, single, no kids, like art, movies, etc. Live in vicinity of Tokyo. Never been with western guy before. Looking for serious relationship. Has no mobile phone. (sends a pic from last year, typical OL face and body type).
Me: Let's meet up for coffee one of these days. (I send my pics)
Her: You're cute. Let's have Japanese dinner next week on Tuesday.
Me: I can't meet Tuesday, how about Monday?
Her: Sure, but can I stay at your place? I have a job interview in Tokyo on Tuesday and need a place to stay. (My reaction: Wow!)
Me: Uhm, well, how about I get a room for us somewhere? (I can't host or spend the night out.)
Her: Sure, it's good. But be sure to buy condoms, I don't want unsafe sex. (My reaction: Damn!)
Me: I got a room in the area. Meet me at this time tonight. Are you sure this is for serious relationship?
Her: Yes, I want real. I look forward to seeing you.
Something about this girl is giving me a strange vibe. Am I being setup? Is this come kind of trap? Or am I just thinking too much and should enjoy the chance for a fun fling with a seemingly decent girl? I saw her FB and she seems rather. Dull. Whatever the case, the room is reserved and I'll be there tonight and report on it tomorrow. Wish me luck.If you were anywhere but Japan I'd probably say that sounds fishy. But since I know this kind of stuff happens in Japan, and since I've actually been in similar situations (and thought the exact same thing. Am I being set up?) I'd say it's probably no problem.
I was once nampa-ed by an office lady in a Dotour Cafe. Sat herself down, started chatting in her terrible English, and within 10 minutes was asking about love hotels for her first "Western experience." Thought it might be a scam, but let the little head do the thinking. An hour later I was balls deep in her pussy humping away. Went our separate ways and stayed in touch via email. Nothing special so didn't repeat.
At the end of the day you have to weigh your odds. The odds in Japan are that nothing bad is going to happen.
Of course you'll have to find out yourself. Good luck and look forward to report.
BigManJapan
07-30-12, 06:54
Yes BMJ, that was one of the reasons for the cautious vibe.
Anyway, I've met plenty of ladies from online via various websites and have had my good share of rendezvous through the years. And usually it's a case of ME starting the moves to get her into bed within the first two dates.
But this girl has so far thrown me a curve ball. Let's hope I hit it out of the park.I've had countless japanese chicks set up the first sexual encounter. Usually they don't come right out and say it but they ask if they can stay over for similar reasons yours used or ask if they can shower at my place after we go out which always ends in sex. I did have one one time asked me to meet her at a specific station just to say hi as she was supposedly in a big rush, I showed up and she kept mailing me she couldn't find me (it was a big station, but I was in an obvious place) she mailed all upset that she had to catch her train and let's try again tomorrow. I think it was someone fucking with me and she wasn't even there so I never mailed her back.
Yep, but not always a guarantee in my experience.
I had one plan such a thing "need to get to work early in the morning, it's closer to your hotel than my apartment." But after about 3 minutes of what I thought was soft sex, she said my cock was too big (it's not, not even close) and I was fucking her too hard (I wasn't going hard at all!). Then she just went to sleep, naked. That was the second time I had a problem like that. A previous girlfriend didn't fuck anyone for 6 years and was tight I literally could not get my cock in, no matter how much I lubed, fingered or licked her pussy!
Another I knew (though business contacts) for a few months from a previous trip asked to stay at my hotel when I returned, so I obliged. She showed up, after some kissing and touching said she was saving herself for marriage. Seriously. She felt bad about my hard on and gave me one hell of a lotion hand job while letting me grope her big rack though.
I've had countless japanese chicks set up the first sexual encounter. Usually they don't come right out and say it but they ask if they can stay over for similar reasons yours used or ask if they can shower at my place after we go out which always ends in sex. I did have one one time asked me to meet her at a specific station just to say hi as she was supposedly in a big rush, I showed up and she kept mailing me she couldn't find me (it was a big station, but I was in an obvious place) she mailed all upset that she had to catch her train and let's try again tomorrow. I think it was someone fucking with me and she wasn't even there so I never mailed her back.BMJ and RickRock, thanks for the comments.
As for me, I've been with ladies who have hinted and / or given signals, been very affectionate, flirtatious, etc. That lead to sex. But it's the first time I recall a situation where she actually said / wrote the words directly within a couple of emails before I even implied, hinted or said anything suggestive or even met. Hahaha.
My first "love hotel" encounter was with a 30-year-old sexy OL (I had just finished college). After meeting at a lounge and having two friendly dates together, we met in Shinagawa and she suggested going to Shibuya. I thought we're taking the train but she hailed a taxi and mentioned "Dogenzaka". In the taxi, I naively asked,"What's that?" And she just grabbed my hand, placed it on her lap and kissed me on the cheek.
Boy did I learn a lot that day! LOL! After doing the deed, she hesitantly opened up that she liked girls too and had a female "se-fure" (sex friend). Had my first "surii-pii" (3P = threesome) after a few more dates. Got to love Japan!
Cougar Cookie
07-30-12, 10:26
Hey guys, I'll be meeting a J-girl tonight from a Metropolis Personals ad I posted recently. This is how the basic contact went:
Me (My ad) : Looking to spend some time together and see what happens.
Her: I liked your ad and want to meet you.
Me: Sure, tell me more details about you and send a pic.
Her: I'm 30, single, no kids, like art, movies, etc. Live in vicinity of Tokyo. Never been with western guy before. Looking for serious relationship. Has no mobile phone. (sends a pic from last year, typical OL face and body type).
Me: Let's meet up for coffee one of these days. (I send my pics)
Her: You're cute. Let's have Japanese dinner next week on Tuesday.
Me: I can't meet Tuesday, how about Monday?
Her: Sure, but can I stay at your place? I have a job interview in Tokyo on Tuesday and need a place to stay. (My reaction: Wow!)
Me: Uhm, well, how about I get a room for us somewhere? (I can't host or spend the night out.)
Her: Sure, it's good. But be sure to buy condoms, I don't want unsafe sex. (My reaction: Damn!)
Me: I got a room in the area. Meet me at this time tonight. Are you sure this is for serious relationship?
Her: Yes, I want real. I look forward to seeing you.
Something about this girl is giving me a strange vibe. Am I being setup? Is this come kind of trap? Or am I just thinking too much and should enjoy the chance for a fun fling with a seemingly decent girl? I saw her FB and she seems rather. Dull. Whatever the case, the room is reserved and I'll be there tonight and report on it tomorrow. Wish me luck.Good Luck. Hope it goes well. Generally agree with most the comments below. I would be on guard but would go through with the plan.
This is JPN, so the worst that can happen is that she stands you up and your out of pocket for the hotel. The fact she referred you a FB page, probably means she is real, as opposed to some bored gaijin having fun with metropolis ads at your expense. The mobile phone issue, well maybe that is just a privacy issue. She doesn't want to give you the number / email?
But save all the detective work until the post-shag de-briefing. Stay focused on the shag!
Then there's the weird ones. One I met said she needed money but didn't want sex to get it. So I just asked her how she means to approach the situation. My next suggestion will be a BJ session. Naturally naked and for less money. Its weird tho. Give me money but I won't fuck you.
I was out in a bar with some friends and meet a girl, she said she was married but bored.
I gave her my meishi and she contacted me the next week and we meet up for drinks. After a few drinks things progressed to a hotel.
She had a fantastic body and really into it but she asked twice for me to do nama (bareback) which I refused to do. I think she will let me do her in the ass next time (today).
The thing I am being paranoid about is when I pulled the condom off she grabbed it out of my hand and I did not think anything of it at the time. I`m hoping she did not try to put my cum inside her. I don't think she did but will be flushing them today for sure.
Am I being paranoid?
Then there's the weird ones. One I met said she needed money but didn't want sex to get it. So I just asked her how she means to approach the situation. My next suggestion will be a BJ session. Naturally naked and for less money. Its weird tho. Give me money but I won't fuck you.Give me money but I won't fuck you. It sounds like she has been married before.
I was out in a bar with some friends and meet a girl, she said she was married but bored.
I gave her my meishi and she contacted me the next week and we meet up for drinks. After a few drinks things progressed to a hotel.
She had a fantastic body and really into it but she asked twice for me to do nama (bareback) which I refused to do. I think she will let me do her in the ass next time (today).
The thing I am being paranoid about is when I pulled the condom off she grabbed it out of my hand and I did not think anything of it at the time. I`m hoping she did not try to put my cum inside her. I don't think she did but will be flushing them today for sure.
Am I being paranoid?Hmm, I want to say "nah, it's all good" but there are some alarm bells ringing there I think. Chances of her getting preggers from the cum in the condom are pretty low too. I'm not always worried about getting the girl pregnant but more STDs, though I'm so freakin stupid that I've actually barebacked a hotel health girl a few times; yes, I am a retard.
Sounds like she's a keeper though so just keep your eye on her.
I was out in a bar with some friends and meet a girl, she said she was married but bored.Am I being paranoid?Maybe a bit.
I mean, what could happen if she did this? Does she have all your details?
Evan Stoner
08-03-12, 15:21
Does she have all your details?Short answer, yes.
Proceed with caution.
ES
BigManJapan
08-03-12, 15:36
I was out in a bar with some friends and meet a girl, she said she was married but bored.
I gave her my meishi and she contacted me the next week and we meet up for drinks. After a few drinks things progressed to a hotel.
She had a fantastic body and really into it but she asked twice for me to do nama (bareback) which I refused to do. I think she will let me do her in the ass next time (today).
The thing I am being paranoid about is when I pulled the condom off she grabbed it out of my hand and I did not think anything of it at the time. I`m hoping she did not try to put my cum inside her. I don't think she did but will be flushing them today for sure.
Am I being paranoid?Is she Fillipina?
Is she Fillipina?She is Japanese. All good, I think she is ok, had a full day of action and drinking with her.
She did not remember asking for bareback the last time as we had drank a lot.
Will post some pics later.
Short answer, yes. Proceed with caution.ESWell. Then indeed, proceed with caution, but the chances of her slipping condom content to get pregnant are not much. A psycho can look for a pregnancy from a stranger, then would just go BB. She tried, she failed. She could simply search for another "victim".
Nevertherless giving yoru own biz card to a stranger with te target of bedding her, well. Not wise.
Nevertherless giving yoru own biz card to a stranger with te target of bedding her, well. Not wise.THIS! My god, why on earth would you do that? There's plenty of places in the city you can have personal "meishi" made for you with only the information you want on it. Good find, but hope it doesn't come back to bite ya.
THIS! My god, why on earth would you do that? There's plenty of places in the city you can have personal "meishi" made for you with only the information you want on it. Good find, but hope it doesn't come back to bite ya.Yeap agree, but I think now she is OK, but I will be making a batch of personal meishi for future use. Yesterday I asked her why she requested nama but she said she did not remember (we had drank a lot of shochu)
Cougar Cookie
08-05-12, 14:55
One new addition to the stable let it "slip" that she likes a good spanking. Doesn't do much for me, but I will go through the motions and try and please her. I will just make it up as I go along, but does anybody with a black belt in spanking have any tips on spanking technique / style?
THIS! My god, why on earth would you do that? There's plenty of places in the city you can have personal "meishi" made for you with only the information you want on it. Good find, but hope it doesn't come back to bite ya.Do women look at you strangely when you give them a meishi with just a name and email on it? I'd probably put my Skype number on there instead of my real number or something.
BigManJapan
08-06-12, 03:32
One new addition to the stable let it "slip" that she likes a good spanking. Doesn't do much for me, but I will go through the motions and try and please her. I will just make it up as I go along, but does anybody with a black belt in spanking have any tips on spanking technique / style?Tie her up while you spank her, maybe use a necktie? Chicks love that.
One new addition to the stable let it "slip" that she likes a good spanking. Doesn't do much for me, but I will go through the motions and try and please her. I will just make it up as I go along, but does anybody with a black belt in spanking have any tips on spanking technique / style?Put her over your lap and spank away. This way you will be able to feel her squirm.
Cougar Cookie
08-14-12, 07:48
Thanks for the spanking tips. Worked a bit of amateur slapping into the routine during yesterday's session. Afterwards she showed me some pics of herself tied up dangling from the ceiling covered in red wax getting beaten with a "garden broom" by some disinterested oji-san who looked like a mad chemistry professor. Pretty sure my slapping can't compete with that.
Generally J-girls are great, but I have two moans: (I) they don't have enough stamina and (2) when they go cow-girl. Most of them (. And this is a sweeping generalization.) do not get much air, but instead lazily grind their clit into your pubic bone. I think some of the women's magazines need to run some stories on proper cow girl technique. Most of Japan has mastered the spiral BJ. Time for these mags to move onto new territory.
Generally J-girls are great, but I have two moans: (I) they don't have enough stamina and (2) when they go cow-girl. Most of them (. And this is a sweeping generalization.) do not get much air, but instead lazily grind their clit into your pubic bone.I have to agree with you about the second point about not getting much air / clit grinding but as long as she is not a big girl, you can lift her high enough.
Give me money but I won't fuck you. It sounds like she has been married before.It didn't work out with that one for obvious reasons. I'm in nampa training with the training wheels strapped on. LOL. Seriously, I'm useless at it. If drunk much better but sober. No way in hell. LOL.
Looks like some umeda bars might be ok for it so trying that route. Hatguy
Holy shit.
The spanking thing just happened for me. Over some drinks the girl I met on a certain classified forum admitted that she wanted it. Over the knee she went. Thus was after she gave me a really good BBBJ to cim. She gets off on it and wants more. Glad to oblige even if she lives fairly close to me.
After that I told her to have a shower and if she wanted a shower fuck to let me know. Two mins later. Fuck me! LOL. I got another shot off in there. Quite a relief since its been two weeks since Bangkok.
She's paranoid about the pics getting out so I can't post them out of respect but she has very nice big floppy boobs. And nice face too. I'm probably onto a good thing with her for the short term. She's horny and needs pleasuring. Sorry though, WILL NOT share details. Ever!
So, I've been gone from Japan for a while, and back home, I pretty much got accustomed to dating there. Anyway I'm back in Japan and I need to get my routine down all over again.
I'm pretty much meeting ladies from the web, like mixi, and metropolis or whatnot, and at events I get to go to etc. I was wondering if JPN dude (or anyone else) could kind of outline how he gets his ladies from the first date to the Lh.
I was thinkin, first date: coffee / dinner to see where she's at, if things go well, drinks somewhere and if she's keen, LH.
I have seen some people tlak abotu goin to karaeoke and making out with the girl there then go to the love hotel, but I really hate karaoke LOL, I don't even know the words to 99% of the songs that are there. Or even the title names LOL.
Anyway, if you guys could just kidna outline how to get from the coffee shop / restaurant -LH that would be great.
(BTW back home its easier, coffee shop- bar near my place- my house. But American chicks are easy like that though haha.)
So I have a new girl who will be up for a 3P with other girl, so was trying to find one on CL.
I got a reply to my post a few hours later saying "I'm interested in joining you for a 3P" with an attached pic of this blonde girl supposedly called Kathy spreading her fanny. The girl looked too professional to be real so to confirm my suspicions I used Google image search upload features and the same image was found on 6 full search pages all across the internet.
Not sure if its just someone trying to get e-mail addresses for spam or some bloke trying to get some of our intimate pics.
Anyone had similar happen to them with CL?
Background (skip if you like) :
I have been married to a j-woman for about five years, and we have a couple kids whom I love. I actually still get along fairly well with my wife, but sex is very rare. I am not looking to get divorced but instead continue the status quo while get some action on the side. While pink salons and hotel health are quite alright, they just don't do it for me personally compared to a regular girl / non-pro. Other info: I live in Kansai but am in Tokyo for business somewhat often (where I'd be trying this out).
Questions:
When trying to pick up girls at bars etc, should I say I'm single and use fake info or admit I'm married? I can see pros / cons to either. Should I focus on bored married women? I assume myself being married would be no matter to them. Any other general advice for going about something like this discreetly? (At least I do not have to worry about someone seeing me as I don't know many people in Tokyo).
Rather than bars / clubs, would I perhaps be better off putting a profile on a site like Japan Ichiban Friends, admitting I'm married, looking for some fun, and only sending a photo by request?
Thanks!
Cougar Cookie
09-16-12, 23:56
So I have a new girl who will be up for a 3P with other girl, so was trying to find one on CL.
I got a reply to my post a few hours later saying "I'm interested in joining you for a 3P" with an attached pic of this blonde girl supposedly called Kathy spreading her fanny. The girl looked too professional to be real so to confirm my suspicions I used Google image search upload features and the same image was found on 6 full search pages all across the internet.
Not sure if its just someone trying to get e-mail addresses for spam or some bloke trying to get some of our intimate pics.
Anyone had similar happen to them with CL?Tokyo. I haven't received that particular scam, but ones similar. I am generally suspicious of any replies from "western" women on CL. I think the main scam on CL is harvesting email addresses. Generally, the replies from "western women" have no relevance to the ad you post, or if the ads are posted by "western women" have very little detail and omit any info on location. I think the popular ad re a western women staying in a hotel in Tokyo for one night is a routine scam. Also look out for ads / replies by "Japanese women" that are written in perfect English including current slang and sex terminology, or are generally too OT on the sexy side for a JPN women.
On a separate CL note, I swapped emails and cam with JPN women yesterday. She writes a long ad focused on getting good oral service. Which Canadians don't do in her opinion. She sometimes uses a semi naked pic that really does get your tongue wagging. The photo looks authentic. The girl and background. The only catch is, it isn't her. Long story short. Only go there if your desperate. I would rather eat something randomly picked from a garbage bin in Shibuya.
Cougar Cookie
09-17-12, 00:11
Background (skip if you like) :
I have been married to a j-woman for about five years, and we have a couple kids whom I love. I actually still get along fairly well with my wife, but sex is very rare. I am not looking to get divorced but instead continue the status quo while get some action on the side. While pink salons and hotel health are quite alright, they just don't do it for me personally compared to a regular girl / non-pro. Other info: I live in Kansai but am in Tokyo for business somewhat often (where I'd be trying this out).
Questions:
When trying to pick up girls at bars etc, should I say I'm single and use fake info or admit I'm married? I can see pros / cons to either. Should I focus on bored married women? I assume myself being married would be no matter to them. Any other general advice for going about something like this discreetly? (At least I do not have to worry about someone seeing me as I don't know many people in Tokyo).
Rather than bars / clubs, would I perhaps be better off putting a profile on a site like Japan Ichiban Friends, admitting I'm married, looking for some fun, and only sending a photo by request?
Thanks!Nitr0
In the bar scene, I think you have to go with the "single" option to maximize your prospects.
I haven't used JIF. But generally my return on these sites has been very limited compared to the bar scene. Maybe you could run two profiles. One married / one single. Again, I think the "married" profile would not get you much action- relatively speaking. The "bored married Japanese lady looking for some gaijin cock on the side" pool is very small. If you are free to roam the bar scene. Then I think you would do better on that front. I think the internet is a better option for guys who have limited scope for getting out there.
Nitr0
In the bar scene, I think you have to go with the "single" option to maximize your prospects.
The "bored married Japanese lady looking for some gaijin cock on the side" pool is very small. If you are free to roam the bar scene. Then I think you would do better on that front.I've been married to a Japanese woman for 20 years and we have two great kids. I've had a lot of women tell me that I am very attractive and have a great body (I work out five days a week rotating between aerobics, strength training and swimming. I have the physique of an Olympic sprinter, and yes, I work hard at looking like I do). I prefer women closer to my age (mid-forties) and focus my efforts on those ladies, but I definitely won't turn down a hot younger chick. So why do I monger? Because I luv it and I don't have to deal with women telling me they are in love with me after I bang them a few times. For "normal" Japanese women I literally have to turn them down on almost a daily basis. Okay not daily, but at least a couple of times a week. I always tell them that I am married and that doesn't stop about 70% of them. In fact, most of those women say they prefer me because I am "forbidden fruit". I typically will say something along these lines,"Hey I'm looking to have a good time enjoying each other's company. If you want to have a good time with me then great, if not, it's no problem and I respect your decision." Try it, you'll be amazed at how often that line works on women. And I think that line works well because it is truthful and women sense my sincerity and honesty right away.
I work with a guy named Tim who is also married to a Japanese female. He always says he's single and that works well for him (initially). Once they find out he's married about 60% of the women he sleeps with get really pissed (as you can imagine). Still, his approach works as good as mine does. So it is my opinion that that you should use whatever method works for you when you're on the hunt. If telling Japanese women you're married doesn't work then perhaps you need to adjust your tactics. At the moment I have a 42 year old girlfriend who lives only a few blocks away from me here in Tokyo, a 31 year old girlfriend (who lives in Okinawa and travels to Tokyo about once every two months) and just last week I banged a 27 year old JP woman. All three of these women knew I was married before I finished shaking their hand on the day I met them.
Talk about incentive to work out! I joined the Konami sports gym near where I work. But lately just damn busy with 2 jobs. I compensate with push ups during work hours but as is the case in Japan. You are expected to be at your desk. If you arent a smoker you don't get to [CodeWord140] (http://isgprohibitedwords.info?CodeWord=CodeWord140) off down stairs every hour or so.
Anyway, since I started the gym I have been lucky with weight loss and there is some benefit from that. Have gotten a few chicks I normally wouldn't get. But unlike you, Taipan, I'm uncomfortable with chicks being near my residence. And I certainly would not tell them about my situation.
Do you have any luck picking up at the gym?
Hatguy
Cougar and Taipan, thanks a lot for the input.
Taipan, that's great to hear you have so much success despite saying you're married. I'll try it out, and as a long as the success rate is decent, I'll stick with that as I think it's the safer option. I didn't mention it in the first post, but one time before I consciously decided to get some on the side, I was out drinking and had a hot j-girl basically throw herself at me. I couldn't bring myself to turn her down, and my first reaction was to say that I was single. We had a great night at the love hotel, but I also made the drunk mistake of giving her my number when she asked. After she keptcalling, I had to let to her know I was in fact married. And she didn't take it very well. .
Also, when you say you have to turn girls down all the time, are you mostly talking about at bars, or other situations too? Quite often when I'm out clothes shopping or something, I'll have a girl go and on about how good looking I am, but even if she's hot I'll just say "no no" and chuckle. Should I be trying to get her mail? (In my single days, I was with more than dozen j-girls, but I always picked them up at bars / clubs or was introduced by my j-guy friends).
Cheers!
[QUOTE=Nitr0; 1328386]Cougar and Taipan, thanks a lot for the input.
Also, when you say you have to turn girls down all the time, are you mostly talking about at bars, or other situations too? Should I be trying to get her mail?
Hat G and Nitr0. I am fortunate to have a good sized gym and swimming pool in my housing complex. Having an exercise facility on site benefits me in three ways: 1) It doesn't cost me a thing in addition to what I pay for housing. 2) It's open to residents 24 hours a day so I can go whenever I want to for as long as I want to [I normally go in the morning at 4:00am and finish at 6:00 or 6:30am. I like to get my work out out of the way so I don't have to worry about it after work when I really want to be focused on other things. ] 3) When I go work out I am really there to work out and I don't get distracted by hot tail which might be there or come into the gym.
Speaking of which, I rarely go to bars, pubs, or izakaya's to meet chicks. I do meet them there on occasion, but those are not my prime pick-up locations. I might go to a bar on my own (and not work related) about once a month. Where I meet most ladies are at bookstores, coffee shops (Not so much Starbucks unless you're hunting for the under 35 or under 30 crowd) and grocery stores. Grocery stores and markets are my favorite pickup locations. Everyone has to eat and in most cases it's the women doing the shopping and not the boyfriends or husbands. And always, always, always carry business cards (either real ones or fake ones. The choice is yours) and a pen no matter where you go. If there is the slightest chance I will leave my housing complex I have my business cards and a pen in my pocket. If I meet a women without a card I ask her for her contact information and ask her to write it on my business card (never write in your own handwriting).
Just a couple of days ago I met a 38 year old married food inspector at the grocery store in MidTown and she lives an hour outside of Tokyo. So far we've exchanged a few e-mails and are setting up a lunch date for next week sometime (she's supposed to confirm today). She's definitely a looker and I'm hoping to knock it out the park with her. While at the grocery store I spotted her concentrating on studying the food so I tried a simple approach (in English). I said,"You seem to know what you're doing. I should seek your advice on my own fruits and vegetable purchases." She immediately responded in English and a few minutes later our business cards were exchanged with comments of getting together to "discuss shared interests".
Two things about my approach. 1) I always try picking up Japanese women in English first. They will either speak English or not. If they do speak English or at least limited English, I'll stick with English for a while to see how far I can take it. If they don't speak English I use my best Japanese to try and close the deal. 2) As I said before, I always let the ladies know I'm married up front. Specific to the food inspector, after my initial question to her I said,"My wife normally does the shopping but I want to contribute to our home as well so I'm here trying to get better at buying products." The food inspector immediately learned that I am married (and a sweet guy for helping out. Ha!) and she thinks I'm a really sincere and honest guy (which I am. A majority of the time).
Once I've set the hook on a woman then it's time to reel her in. My first choice is to suggest meeting for coffee or a drink with an emphasis on meeting for coffee / tea. Coffee is easy to do almost any day and you can escape or she can escape if the signals are not right. Women know this and over 95% of the women I invite for coffee accept and show up. My first comment at the coffee shop is to thank them for giving me some of their time. Typically, I'll say something like,"Hey, I know you're taking a chance (in more ways than one) meeting me here so I really appreciate it. I want you to have a good time so if at any moment you are not enjoying yourself please let me know." When you say this, be sincere or at least fake it really well. And yes, I always pay for the coffee at the end. It's the least I can do since I'm going to probably end up banging her at some point.
On a final note I'll say this. No matter how hot she is, I have a personal strict policy of not banging any chicks in my office environment, housing complex or general neighborhood. There's always another hot chick out there worth banging. My only exception ever is my 42 year old regular FB who lives a couple of blocks away from me. Banging a neighborhood woman was a fluke since we met in Shinjuku initially and started banging in love hotels in that area shortly after our initial meet. A month into banging her we both discoverd we live just a couple of blocks away from each other. Once we were on a path of mutual satisfaction she said (not me),"Why don't we just continue pleasing each other?" I figured, what the hell, she's married as well so why not? That's been going on for over a year now and seems to have worked out. Still, I'm cautious with her and we only bang in love hotels away from our neighborhood.
Cougar Cookie
09-20-12, 09:34
[QUOTE=Taipan68; 1328721]
[QUOTE=Nitr0; 1328386]Just a couple of days ago I met a 38 year old married food inspector at the grocery store in MidTown and she lives an hour outside of Tokyo. So far we've exchanged a few e-mails and are setting up a lunch date for next week sometime (she's supposed to confirm today). She's definitely a looker and I'm hoping to knock it out the park with her. While at the grocery store I spotted her concentrating on studying the food so I tried a simple approach (in English). I said,"You seem to know what you're doing. I should seek your advice on my own fruits and vegetable purchases." She immediately responded in English and a few minutes later our business cards were exchanged with comments of getting together to "discuss shared interests".
Seems Preece could be getting busier!
What cafe chains do the oldies go to. If SB's is for the 30-something J-girls? I assumed the classic JPN coffee shops were full of oba-sans rather than your target audience of 40-something women.
What cafe chains do the oldies go to. If SB's is for the 30-something J-girls? I assumed the classic JPN coffee shops were full of oba-sans rather than your target audience of 40-something women.Other than Tulley's I've found the 40-something women prefer to go to non-chain cafe's or to cafe's that are attached to or are part of bookstores (Tsutaya for example). I haven't figured out what keeps them (mostly) away from StarBucks. And it's not a question I'm concerned about asking either. Perhaps they prefer traditional coffee shops instead of the "sterile" look and feel of SB?
[QUOTE=Nitr0; 1328386]Hat G and Nitr0.Taipan, thanks so much for your detailed and very informative post.
I think I might try just the same strategy in Osaka when my kids get a bit older and I hopefully have somewhat more freedom.
For now, I think I will stick with bars (since this provides for at least the chance of getting some that night) during my Tokyo business trips.
I asked my original question right before such a trip (which I'm now back from) , and I ended up meeting a cute dental hygienist in a bar in Shibuya. Indeed, she was totally fine that I was married and still wanted to "have some fun together." We exchanged mail addresses and meet for drinks the next night, but meeting her while I was sober, I realized that while she was cute she gave off a really weird vibe. I decided it was better not to mess with that and excused myself as soon as I politely could. Hopefully will have better luck next time.
One more question:
Do you have your ring on when you're meeting these girls, or do you keep it off and try to bring up that you're married at an opportune time like with the food inspector?
[quote=taipan68; 1328721]i ended up meeting a cute dental hygienist in a bar in shibuya. i realized that while she was cute she gave off a really weird vibe. i decided it was better not to mess with that and excused myself.
question:
do you have your ring on when you're meeting these girls, or do you keep it off and try to bring up that you're married at an opportune time like with the food inspector?the way i see it, tokyo has a plethora of willing women who want to meet men. finding them isn't hard; finding the "keepers" is what is sometimes tough to do. once i get a bad vibe from a woman i immediately bail no matter whether i have banged her yet or not. there's always another target.
right after i got married over 20 years ago, i tried out for the philadelphia eagles. during the second week of tryouts i broke my left hand and busted up my fingers pretty badly. the doctors wanted to cut off my ring and i wouldn't let 'them. instead, i went through some extremely painful skin peeling and shaving to get that ring off. i haven't worn it since. my mizzuz says it's okay that i don't wear my wedding ring on my hand since i went though so much pain to remove it and preserve the ring. and if you look around you'll note that most married jp guys don't wear their wedding ring anyway.
occasionally i wear it around my neck which always leads to questions that i readily answer. for me, being honest about my marital status seems to work. i tried the "cover up tactic" a few times and it didn't pan out well for me so i chose to abandon that technique. again, i say use what works for you. i'm mostly banging married japanese women or jp girls with steady boyfriends. in fact, i routinely blow off single women. it's my experience that single women want to spend a lot of time holding hands and going out on dates. if i want to do that i'll do it with my wife.
Hi,
Can someone explain to me the right way to use Happymail? I have been sending mail to a few ladies but I don't get it. One girl says she wants to be email friends before meeting.
Another lady send me an "ii ne" and then I emailed her but she sends me very short messages like "konbanwa" and "oyasumi".
What are these girls looking for? Do they want to have a long courtship by email? Should I send very frequent messages to them?
I don't know how to play this game.
Lost For Words
09-26-12, 06:46
Hi,
Can someone explain to me the right way to use Happymail? I have been sending mail to a few ladies but I don't get it. One girl says she wants to be email friends before meeting.
Another lady send me an "ii ne" and then I emailed her but she sends me very short messages like "konbanwa" and "oyasumi".
What are these girls looking for? Do they want to have a long courtship by email? Should I send very frequent messages to them?
I don't know how to play this game.It depends on how you're contacting the girls. If you're searching through profiles and finding potential girls and contacting them through there, then yeah you should expect that the girl will want to exchange a few mails before meeting you somewhere. If she's only writing back with very short messages (ie, one word or so) then she's not interested. At least that's been my experience.
If you're using the adult board and under the "right now" category or something, you just email the girl saying you want to meet and asking her what her terms are (jou-ken oshiete kudasai). She'll usually come back with 20000 excluding hotel and (depending on the girl) it's very easy to counter back with 15000 excluding hotel.
I try to get the girls to be as specific as possible on meeting location. Setting a time and place and having an idea of what clothes they are wearing. A lot of Happymail is just BS to get you to use your points. So if the girl keeps mailing only one question emails and seems to be just stringing me along, I just stop writing her back. It's free for the girls, so they can just write as many mails as they want without concern.
The other option is to, of course, take it offline to either phone or some free mail service. The girl will usually have a place she wants to meet and she'll ask you to write when you get there. 5 or 10 minutes later she'll show up, so you can write her 5 or so minutes before you get there if you don't want to wait. See who she is by the clothing that she mentioned and then if you don't like how she looks when she approaches you just say you don't speak Japanese and walk away.
ToBeDetermined
09-29-12, 18:21
Lost For Words,
Thank you very much for the guide!
Just wonder that how good one's Japanese should be to get girls out through happymail. May English work if I run out of words from my broken Japanese tongue, please?
Or do the girls care about Japanese proficiency much, please?
Thanks a lot in advance!
It depends on how you're contacting the girls. If you're searching through profiles and finding potential girls and contacting them through there, then yeah you should expect that the girl will want to exchange a few mails before meeting you somewhere. If she's only writing back with very short messages (ie, one word or so) then she's not interested. At least that's been my experience.
If you're using the adult board and under the "right now" category or something, you just email the girl saying you want to meet and asking her what her terms are (jou-ken oshiete kudasai). She'll usually come back with 20000 excluding hotel and (depending on the girl) it's very easy to counter back with 15000 excluding hotel.
I try to get the girls to be as specific as possible on meeting location. Setting a time and place and having an idea of what clothes they are wearing. A lot of Happymail is just BS to get you to use your points. So if the girl keeps mailing only one question emails and seems to be just stringing me along, I just stop writing her back. It's free for the girls, so they can just write as many mails as they want without concern.
The other option is to, of course, take it offline to either phone or some free mail service. The girl will usually have a place she wants to meet and she'll ask you to write when you get there. 5 or 10 minutes later she'll show up, so you can write her 5 or so minutes before you get there if you don't want to wait. See who she is by the clothing that she mentioned and then if you don't like how she looks when she approaches you just say you don't speak Japanese and walk away.
Lost For Words
10-02-12, 07:41
Lost For Words,
Thank you very much for the guide!
Just wonder that how good one's Japanese should be to get girls out through happymail. May English work if I run out of words from my broken Japanese tongue, please?
Or do the girls care about Japanese proficiency much, please?
Thanks a lot in advance!I've never used English on the site, but my guess is it won't work well. My experience is that the girls on the site are there just to make some quick money. They're alright spending an hour with a random guy for 20000, but if it's much more trouble than that they're not interested. When I first started using the site, somewhere in the conversation I would mention that I'm a foreigner and ask if that was alright. Nearly all of the conversations stopped at that point, actually. A very few said it was fine, but most were obviously not okay with it. So now I don't mention that I'm a foreigner and just stick with short mails so they don't figure out. I've found that that works a lot better because once you get to the point of meeting the girl she's already invested her time and less likely to say no, and she knows that she can at least communicate with you well enough to meet so language shouldn't be a problem. Moreover, I think it gives you the upper hand to not mention that you're a foreigner because if you see the girl and she's not to your liking and she approaches you, you can always say that you don't speak Japanese (in English, of course) and leave. She'll just figure she had the wrong guy.
But to answer your question, I think most of the girls do care about Japanese proficiency in the sense that they're just normal girls wanting to make a quick buck without any hassle so they want to be able to communicate easily with the other person.
ToBeDetermined
10-03-12, 08:55
Bro, thanks a lot for your priceless guide. You also suggested a Chinese walk-in place in the Tokyo part which I enjoyed so much last week. Again, I really appreciate your help.
Like you said, I tried to be honest at the beginning by telling I am a gaijin, no luck at all. Tried to mock up a nikkeijin since I am half-Asian, still no luck.
Finally, I did what you suggested and. Work like a charm. You rule! Haha. I really enjoy it now. More options and easier to deal. The only problem is, Japanese is a must, which I already felt the difficulty. But lucky enough, my listening and reading are very efficient.
One tip for others, try to mail a girl who has photos and price her based on her photo. If the photo is real, you don't have to waste your train fare.
I've never used English on the site, but my guess is it won't work well. My experience is that the girls on the site are there just to make some quick money. They're alright spending an hour with a random guy for 20000, but if it's much more trouble than that they're not interested. When I first started using the site, somewhere in the conversation I would mention that I'm a foreigner and ask if that was alright. Nearly all of the conversations stopped at that point, actually. A very few said it was fine, but most were obviously not okay with it. So now I don't mention that I'm a foreigner and just stick with short mails so they don't figure out. I've found that that works a lot better because once you get to the point of meeting the girl she's already invested her time and less likely to say no, and she knows that she can at least communicate with you well enough to meet so language shouldn't be a problem. Moreover, I think it gives you the upper hand to not mention that you're a foreigner because if you see the girl and she's not to your liking and she approaches you, you can always say that you don't speak Japanese (in English, of course) and leave. She'll just figure she had the wrong guy.
But to answer your question, I think most of the girls do care about Japanese proficiency in the sense that they're just normal girls wanting to make a quick buck without any hassle so they want to be able to communicate easily with the other person.
So I have a few really slow burners.
One is in Nagoya. Sent me a pic of herself and cute enough. Invited me up there for a romp in the sack. See how that goes. Another one I just met last week and am supposed to be going out this weekend. In no rush with this one. Her friend said that she would fuck me 2nd date but lets see. Tall chick with decent body. Only spoke in English. I don't feel the need to rush it despite wanting her clothes off. Rare for me! And theres one other which I am undecided about. Had originally thought to leave it with her but she has her charms.
Now all I got to do is find the large titted one that likes to shag 3 or 4 times in a meeting! WE ALL NEED THIS ONE! LOL
PluckyPorn
10-17-12, 23:06
I'd like to try meeting people using Happymail, which seems to be the most popular pick up site in Japan.
However I don't have a Japanese phone. Is it possible to register without a Japanese phone address?
I'd like to try meeting people using Happymail, which seems to be the most popular pick up site in Japan.
However I don't have a Japanese phone. Is it possible to register without a Japanese phone address?No. You may, however, ask a friend to register for you using his email address.
Met this one a while back on metropolis classifieds. We were going at it for about 1 1/2 years. She is real hot in bed but a psycho, so I cut her loose. Not sure if you can see the link/
http://video.fc2.com/en/a/content/20121019pwCPbeBq/
She is probably still roaming around the classifieds. Her real age now is 42 and she is born in September. If any of you guys can find hr on metroplis she is a good fuck not to be missed. Her porn name is mari akikawa, real name is mizue. She also worked for asian mystique for a while, several years ago.
I have been a member of Worldfriends and JapanCupid for four years and of OKCupid for one year, looking for Japanese wives for casual dating; I am married myself. I browsed the profiles, sent smiles / interests, and shortly before a trip to Japan I paid for a one-month membership in order to be able to write emails.
JC did not lead any further. I had some email contacts, but met only one divorced woman. She was looking for a new husband, and since I had made clear that I was looking for friends only, she kept a distance. We only went on wonderful sightseeing tours. After my visit to her town we exchanged emails from time to time. Since we met I have been in Japan twice without visiting her.
OKCupid is totally free and allows you to write emails. But the selection is very limited. I contacted one married lady and met her in person twice. She only wants to talk to me as a friend, not bf.
On Worldfriends I had great many contacts, met a few ladies in person once or twice without getting closer. But I found a few real friends as well:
The first lady is a very good friend, but not my gf. I visit her whenever I am in Japan and we usually spent one day together on sightseeing. She visited my home in Europe and became friend to my wife as well.
I met the second lady twice, she is flirtatious, but hesitant, so she refused to travel with me and stay at the same room. But we are getting closer, holding hands like teenage couples, having a lot of fun on sightseeing and in restaurants and bars. So far we haven't gone beyond one kiss on our cheek. Maybe we will travel together when we meet her next time.
The third lady is married, but she has a boyfriend and regularly dates other men. We spent one day together, went sightseeing, had expensive lunch, and went to a love hotel. Sex was exciting until she asked me to take off the condom. I refused. This risky business totally turned me off. I won't see her again.
I met the fourth lady just once over coffee and cake. She will seek divorce in a few years. We are exchanging emails once per week. No idea how this relationship will develop.
Lady no. 5 asked me to travel together on a weekend trip before we even had met in person. This weekend was like a honeymoon. We met several times thereafter and went to love hotels. We are in love and will meet again when I am in Japan. She became my gf. Unbelievable. Morally unexceptable. Dangerous (she wants to live with me, but respects my situation). So happy.
After the first year of using these dating sites I was very frustrated because I spent a lot of time and didn't have any success. But today I am very satisfied with Worldfriends. I was mainly searching for married women, but my friends are mostly divorced or separated.
I have been a member of Worldfriends and JapanCupid for four years and of OKCupid for one year, looking for Japanese wives for casual dating; I am married myself. I browsed the profiles, sent smiles / interests, and shortly before a trip to Japan I paid for a one-month membership in order to be able to write emails.
JC did not lead any further. I had some email contacts, but met only one divorced woman. She was looking for a new husband, and since I had made clear that I was looking for friends only, she kept a distance. We only went on wonderful sightseeing tours. After my visit to her town we exchanged emails from time to time. Since we met I have been in Japan twice without visiting her.
OKCupid is totally free and allows you to write emails. But the selection is very limited. I contacted one married lady and met her in person twice. She only wants to talk to me as a friend, not bf.
On Worldfriends I had great many contacts, met a few ladies in person once or twice without getting closer. But I found a few real friends as well:
The first lady is a very good friend, but not my gf. I visit her whenever I am in Japan and we usually spent one day together on sightseeing. She visited my home in Europe and became friend to my wife as well.
I met the second lady twice, she is flirtatious, but hesitant, so she refused to travel with me and stay at the same room. But we are getting closer, holding hands like teenage couples, having a lot of fun on sightseeing and in restaurants and bars. So far we haven't gone beyond one kiss on our cheek. Maybe we will travel together when we meet her next time.
The third lady is married, but she has a boyfriend and regularly dates other men. We spent one day together, went sightseeing, had expensive lunch, and went to a love hotel. Sex was exciting until she asked me to take off the condom. I refused. This risky business totally turned me off. I won't see her again.
I met the fourth lady just once over coffee and cake. She will seek divorce in a few years. We are exchanging emails once per week. No idea how this relationship will develop.
Lady no. 5 asked me to travel together on a weekend trip before we even had met in person. This weekend was like a honeymoon. We met several times thereafter and went to love hotels. We are in love and will meet again when I am in Japan. She became my gf. Unbelievable. Morally unexceptable. Dangerous (she wants to live with me, but respects my situation). So happy.
After the first year of using these dating sites I was very frustrated because I spent a lot of time and didn't have any success. But today I am very satisfied with Worldfriends. I was mainly searching for married women, but my friends are mostly divorced or separated.For the sites that you mentioned, is getting a paid membership worth it? And what are the only things you can do with a basic / free account? Thanks in advance for your reply.
i've been a member of an ex-pat community, internations, for several years now. for those who don't know, the mantra of internations says,"internations provides a unique platform for expatriates to network and interact within a cosmopolitan community geared towards the special needs of expatriates." ha, what bs! i've simply used internations to get laid when i don't feel like otherwise hunting women on the streets, cafe's or stores. and it works extremely well. the best part of internations? over 98% of the women are single, successful business women who aren't getting banged on a regular basis and that's what they want. (of course there are those looking for a ring as well.) internations is totally free (although members can pay for a higher membership category. i haven't done that) and there are members from around the world. internations has some of the hottest women i've laid (and laid eyes on). the website is.
www.internations.org
two weeks ago my good friend "mark" and i went to a "meeting event" held here in tokyo at biervana bar in akasaka (the events are always at a bar somewhere). early in the evening we met two ladies, yuko and yuko. one yuko is 42 years old and works as a translator, and the other yuko is 40 and works as a human resources (hr) director. twenty minutes into some steady drinking of gin tonics, the translator said she had to go to the ladies room. i said me too, and we walked together. once in the bathroom area, i offered to take her into the men's room and she agreed. five minutes later i was getting a sweet bbbj from the translaor. she didn't want to have fs there because that stall was nasty, and i didn't blame her for saying no at that moment. i said let's get out of here and get a lh and she agreed again.
back in the bar area i told mark i was leaving and he said don't do it. when i said why not he said,"this yuko is very interested in you and wants to talk privately with you." at that point the translator wanted another drink and mark offered to go to the counter with her leaving the hr lady with me. i chatted with the hr gal and she said she needed to [CodeWord134] (http://isgprohibitedwords.info?CodeWord=CodeWord134). really? could it be? unfortunately, not that evening. the translator came back from the bar with mark and said that the men's room wasn't clean. the hr girl said how would you know? the translator explains in general details what transpired there and hr yuko says she's interested in seeing what i taste like too. bingo!
another twenty minutes and several more gin tonics go by and the translator gets totally crocked. at that point i decide to back off on the lh issue with her since i prefer sober fs sessions. the next day i meet the translator at a lh and bang her like an african drum. last week i got an e-mail from hr yuko and i have plans to meet her on thursday.
as far as i know, internations has a group in every major city in the world. if you need some (normally) classy, well-educated, horny as phuq poon, get yourself to an internations event. good luck!
i've been a member of an ex-pat community, internations, for several years now. for those who don't know, the mantra of internations says,"internations provides a unique platform for expatriates to network and interact within a cosmopolitan community geared towards the special needs of expatriates." ha, what bs! i've simply used internations to get laid when i don't feel like otherwise hunting women on the streets, cafe's or stores. and it works extremely well. the best part of internations? over 98% of the women are single, successful business women who aren't getting banged on a regular basis and that's what they want. (of course there are those looking for a ring as well.) internations is totally free (although members can pay for a higher membership category. i haven't done that) and there are members from around the world. internations has some of the hottest women i've laid (and laid eyes on). the website is.
www.internations.org
two weeks ago my good friend "mark" and i went to a "meeting event" held here in tokyo at biervana bar in akasaka (the events are always at a bar somewhere). early in the evening we met two ladies, yuko and yuko. one yuko is 42 years old and works as a translator, and the other yuko is 40 and works as a human resources (hr) director. twenty minutes into some steady drinking of gin tonics, the translator said she had to go to the ladies room. i said me too, and we walked together. once in the bathroom area, i offered to take her into the men's room and she agreed. five minutes later i was getting a sweet bbbj from the translaor. she didn't want to have fs there because that stall was nasty, and i didn't blame her for saying no at that moment. i said let's get out of here and get a lh and she agreed again.
back in the bar area i told mark i was leaving and he said don't do it. when i said why not he said,"this yuko is very interested in you and wants to talk privately with you." at that point the translator wanted another drink and mark offered to go to the counter with her leaving the hr lady with me. i chatted with the hr gal and she said she needed to [CodeWord134] (http://isgprohibitedwords.info?CodeWord=CodeWord134). really? could it be? unfortunately, not that evening. the translator came back from the bar with mark and said that the men's room wasn't clean. the hr girl said how would you know? the translator explains in general details what transpired there and hr yuko says she's interested in seeing what i taste like too. bingo!
another twenty minutes and several more gin tonics go by and the translator gets totally crocked. at that point i decide to back off on the lh issue with her since i prefer sober fs sessions. the next day i meet the translator at a lh and bang her like an african drum. last week i got an e-mail from hr yuko and i have plans to meet her on thursday.
as far as i know, internations has a group in every major city in the world. if you need some (normally) classy, well-educated, horny as phuq poon, get yourself to an internations event. good luck!thanks for this great resource. got to sign-up now.
PluckyPorn
10-23-12, 18:09
I have been a member of Worldfriends and JapanCupid for four years and of OKCupid for one year, looking for Japanese wives for casual dating; I am married myself. I browsed the profiles, sent smiles / interests, and shortly before a trip to Japan I paid for a one-month membership in order to be able to write emails.
JC did not lead any further. I had some email contacts, but met only one divorced woman. She was looking for a new husband, and since I had made clear that I was looking for friends only, she kept a distance. We only went on wonderful sightseeing tours. After my visit to her town we exchanged emails from time to time. Since we met I have been in Japan twice without visiting her.
OKCupid is totally free and allows you to write emails. But the selection is very limited. I contacted one married lady and met her in person twice. She only wants to talk to me as a friend, not bf.
On Worldfriends I had great many contacts, met a few ladies in person once or twice without getting closer. But I found a few real friends as well:
The first lady is a very good friend, but not my gf. I visit her whenever I am in Japan and we usually spent one day together on sightseeing. She visited my home in Europe and became friend to my wife as well.
I met the second lady twice, she is flirtatious, but hesitant, so she refused to travel with me and stay at the same room. But we are getting closer, holding hands like teenage couples, having a lot of fun on sightseeing and in restaurants and bars. So far we haven't gone beyond one kiss on our cheek. Maybe we will travel together when we meet her next time.
The third lady is married, but she has a boyfriend and regularly dates other men. We spent one day together, went sightseeing, had expensive lunch, and went to a love hotel. Sex was exciting until she asked me to take off the condom. I refused. This risky business totally turned me off. I won't see her again.
I met the fourth lady just once over coffee and cake. She will seek divorce in a few years. We are exchanging emails once per week. No idea how this relationship will develop.
Lady no. 5 asked me to travel together on a weekend trip before we even had met in person. This weekend was like a honeymoon. We met several times thereafter and went to love hotels. We are in love and will meet again when I am in Japan. She became my gf. Unbelievable. Morally unexceptable. Dangerous (she wants to live with me, but respects my situation). So happy.
After the first year of using these dating sites I was very frustrated because I spent a lot of time and didn't have any success. But today I am very satisfied with Worldfriends. I was mainly searching for married women, but my friends are mostly divorced or separated.So you prefer worldfriends / japandatingsite over japancupid? It does seem that japancupid has more members though. What's your thoughts on soulmates japan
Thanks for this great resource. Got to sign-up now.Gents I would be remiss if I didn't say a few additional words about the website, Internations. Mea Culpa for not providing this piece of information earlier but, Internations is a real professional networking group so yes, people enroll in the website using their real names and at events they frequently exchange real business cards. And here's an important piece of information, people get to know each other through various contacts. Bang one chick and there is a chance the "other" chick you've been eyeing will say no to you because you banged her "friend". I've said in other posts that I'm always on the up and up about my marriage and employment status. If using your real identity is problematic, consider carefully how much you want to participate.
I was in Shinbashi the other night, but I could't find any true "standing bars" as it as the customers were mostly seated. This was even for the places that were under the tracks. If find it much easier to chat if its really standing (even if you're in a set place). Do you have specific shop recommendations or areas to check out?
Gents I would be remiss if I didn't say a few additional words about the website, Internations. Mea Culpa for not providing this piece of information earlier but, Internations is a real professional networking group so yes, people enroll in the website using their real names and at events they frequently exchange real business cards. And here's an important piece of information, people get to know each other through various contacts. Bang one chick and there is a chance the "other" chick you've been eyeing will say no to you because you banged her "friend". I've said in other posts that I'm always on the up and up about my marriage and employment status. If using your real identity is problematic, consider carefully how much you want to participate.Just tried signing up. They want quite a lot of personal information from you and there is waiting period while someone evaluates your application. You even have to write a blurb on why you want to join. My guess is they will take any foreigners that can string a sentence together and is over a minimum age for males. Of course, I'm sure they will take any lady that applies.
Cougar Cookie
10-24-12, 14:20
Taipan,
1. Do these events draw a crowd?
2. What are the "demographics"? (plenty of JPN women?)
Cheers,
CC
For the sites that you mentioned, is getting a paid membership worth it? And what are the only things you can do with a basic / free account? Thanks in advance for your reply.As for me, I got a paid one-month membership on Worldfriends twice and it was definitely worth it. This was the only way to write messages and I got some very ice contacts. After the initial contact I usually changed to writing emails using my (anonymous) email account. This year Worldfriends had a promotion and offered me a free weekend membership. This weekend allowed me to meet new friends without paying at all.
I had little success on JapanCupid when I payed once for a month. I don't think I would pay again.
The free memberships on WF and JC only allow you to browse member profiles, use the search machine and send smiles / interests. You can't send emails unless you or the lady has a paid membership. When you have received many smiles / interests it is time to get a paid membership.
OKCupid is free, I. E. You can write messages for free.
There is one more free site,
www.pof.com
(Plenty of Fish). On this site there are very few Japanese ladies who are interested in casual dating and many more who look for a marriage partner.
So you prefer worldfriends / japandatingsite over japancupid? It does seem that japancupid has more members though. What's your thoughts on soulmates japanYes, from my own experience (looking for dating partners, not for marriage) Worldfriends worked out better. I don't know Soulmates Japan.
Taipan,
1. Do these events draw a crowd?
2. What are the "demographics"? (plenty of JPN women?)
Cheers,
CCThe last Internations event I went to had 130 people show up. Eighty were women and 50 were men. Forty minutes into the event that evening approximately 30 of those guys (for whatever reason) decided to depart. So an hour into the event, we remaining guys were greatly outnumbered and smiling profusely. By my estimates, at least 60 of those ladies were Japanese women and the others were non-Japanese. I can't speak for other cities in Japan but other Internations events I've attended in Tokyo always drew at least 100+ folks and mostly those attendees were women.
The last Internations event I went to had 130 people show up. Eighty were women and 50 were men. Forty minutes into the event that evening approximately 30 of those guys (for whatever reason) decided to depart. So an hour into the event, we remaining guys were greatly outnumbered and smiling profusely. By my estimates, at least 60 of those ladies were Japanese women and the others were non-Japanese. I can't speak for other cities in Japan but other Internations events I've attended in Tokyo always drew at least 100+ folks and mostly those attendees were women.I was a accepted as a member and saw some pictures from the last event as well as the members that attended. There is an event next week. Just from looking at the pictures, I would say that generally the guys that do well at these kinds of parties will do well. Personally, I'm not that good at nampa, but I'll give this a shot. Just to stress, this is a legitimate club where you will use your real name. I noticed a few people from my company were members as well.
I will be at the party too. Is it a long ways from LOST island?
I will be at the party too. Is it a long ways from LOST island?Hahaha, well there is a magic door. Wish we still had the sub.
As for me, I got a paid one-month membership on Worldfriends twice and it was definitely worth it. This was the only way to write messages and I got some very ice contacts. After the initial contact I usually changed to writing emails using my (anonymous) email account. This year Worldfriends had a promotion and offered me a free weekend membership. This weekend allowed me to meet new friends without paying at all.
I had little success on JapanCupid when I payed once for a month. I don't think I would pay again.
The free memberships on WF and JC only allow you to browse member profiles, use the search machine and send smiles / interests. You can't send emails unless you or the lady has a paid membership. When you have received many smiles / interests it is time to get a paid membership.
OKCupid is free, I. E. You can write messages for free.
There is one more free site,
www.pof.com
(Plenty of Fish). On this site there are very few Japanese ladies who are interested in casual dating and many more who look for a marriage partner.Thanks for answering my questions Hunter. I have signed-up for Japan Cupid, World Friends and OK Cupid. I will probably upgrade to a paid membership once I try to move to Tokyo next year. I have seen a girl there who has profiles in all 3 websites as well. I'm a little skeptical about some profiles being fake, usually having pictures that are looking to good, I have no doubt that there are also real ones over there. I guess it's just a little difficult telling the real ones from the fakes. In your opinion Hunter, how do you differentiate the real ones from the fake?
I've also heard about POF, from back in the States so I will also check that out. Thanks again.
Cougar Cookie
10-26-12, 03:32
The last Internations event I went to had 130 people show up. Eighty were women and 50 were men. Forty minutes into the event that evening approximately 30 of those guys (for whatever reason) decided to depart. So an hour into the event, we remaining guys were greatly outnumbered and smiling profusely. By my estimates, at least 60 of those ladies were Japanese women and the others were non-Japanese. I can't speak for other cities in Japan but other Internations events I've attended in Tokyo always drew at least 100+ folks and mostly those attendees were women.Thanks Taipan.
What is the dress code for these events? (Not so easy to judge in this post dotcom / coolbiz world). Is it suits or more grungy east village?
And more precisely, what works best for nampa at these events in your opinion? Dress up or dress down?
CC
With all the guys here looking to attend the get to gether. The male ratio will go way up. Then the guy running the deal will wonder what the hell is going on here with all the guys LOL
Thanks Taipan.
What is the dress code for these events? (Not so easy to judge in this post dotcom / coolbiz world). Is it suits or more grungy east village?
And more precisely, what works best for nampa at these events in your opinion? Dress up or dress down?
CCIf you join the site, under events, you can see pictures of the prior events. That should tell you everything you need to know. Seems like pretty varied bunch.
If you join the site, under events, you can see pictures of the prior events. That should tell you everything you need to know. Seems like pretty varied bunch.I agree, the attire worn at Internations events varies from person-to-person. Typically, an Internations event is held during a regular workweek and I normally just hang at my office for a short period then go to the event straight from work. So I'm normally dressed in a suit since I have a regular 9 to 5 desk job. Also, I make a concerted effort to either "inadvertently" turn my face or outright avoid the one or two folks who snap the official event photos. It's not that I am trying to hide, I just really don't like to take photos because I prefer professional shots of myself and not amateurish pics.
Backtobasics
10-26-12, 09:29
With all the guys here looking to attend the get to gether. The male ratio will go way up. Then the guy running the deal will wonder what the hell is going on here with all the guys LOLLOL. The number of men who suddenly joind the event shot up as soon is the info was posted here! At least now we can see what everyone looks like.
I wonder if there ought be some kind of lottery, to decide who attends which events? .
Last night I had drinks with one of the ladies I met at the last Internations event that I attended. We had good chemistry and I'm confident she wants to (eventually) go to a LH but she hesitated when I made the suggestion. Her response was a typical female reply. I. E,"Yes, one day real soon I will let you bang me like an African drum but not today because it's our first date." Okay, I've experienced that before, so I'll give her a second to pause and decide before I opt to move on.
An interesting thing occurred after we parted ways though. As I was making my way back home I decided to stop at a "nearby" convenience store, and I ran into a Chinese girl I once banged about 4 months ago. She works at a MP and told me she missed seeing me there. Right after the last (and only) time I banged her she told me she really wanted to learn English and for every one hour of English I would teach her she would give me one hour of FS. This time was no different. She again asked me to give her English lessons, starting next week, and insisted she would "pay" me with some hearty BBFS if I wanted it. Since I blew off her offer the first time I figured it must be destiny, so I decided not to ignore her request this time around. I told her she had a deal and we should get together on Monday of next week to "discuss the terms" of our agreement.
She seemed really happy with my agreement so at that moment, I chose to push the limit. I asked her if any other MP ladies she knew also wanted a "language exchange" deal and she said she would make some discreet inquiries (obviously she doesn't want to [CodeWord140] (http://isgprohibitedwords.info?CodeWord=CodeWord140) off "management" by giving out freebies). Once I have more information (good or bad) I'll be sure to post it here.
Cool Taipan. Very cool. Tonight is Halloween all. Go to bars. You'll see some great costumes (very revealing). Its the last throes of summer before the tedious sweaters and boring clothes start in earnest. I'm going to enjoy while I can.
I guess it's just a little difficult telling the real ones from the fakes. In your opinion Hunter, how do you differentiate the real ones from the fake?As I looked for married women I did not experience fakes. At Worldfriends profile photos are mandatory, but some ladies (me too) use fake photos to protect their privacy.
LOL. The number of men who suddenly joind the event shot up as soon is the info was posted here! At least now we can see what everyone looks like.
I wonder if there ought be some kind of lottery, to decide who attends which events? .I went last night. It was a nice party with an atmosphere that made it easy to chat wih many different folks. However, as expected, I had no where near the outcome of Taipan68. How did everyone else make out?
It ended up about 50 50 ratio but at the start of the night almost all men. With some women keeping to themselves in the back or around other Jp guys.
It was ok, but just did not score at all but I think I had a chance with a not so pretty girl.
Taipan had it correct that they are in their late 30 and 40s.
I may give it a try next month
It ended up about 50 50 ratio but at the start of the night almost all men. With some women keeping to themselves in the back or around other Jp guys.
It was ok, but just did not score at all but I think I had a chance with a not so pretty girl.
Taipan had it correct that they are in their late 30 and 40s.
I may give it a try next monthYea, Taipan68 did well, but I suspect he does well in any venue. I will take it for what it is. A nice party with a chance to score. I did like that some girls got progressively sloppier as the night went on.
Cougar Cookie
11-02-12, 08:36
Yea, Taipan68 did well, but I suspect he does well in any venue. I will take it for what it is. A nice party with a chance to score. I did like that some girls got progressively sloppier as the night went on.I wasn't there but watched some action on the webcams from the Dickens. Didn't look like many people turned up. Maybe that was just the cam positioning. I did see one girl who appeared to be on her own, standing by the big table near the stage. She was getting some attention. Maybe some of you guys went in for a shot there? She looked like she was worth a shot. The music sucked!
Backtobasics
11-02-12, 08:44
Yea, Taipan68 did well, but I suspect he does well in any venue. I will take it for what it is. A nice party with a chance to score. I did like that some girls got progressively sloppier as the night went on.Sadly I never made it, but I appreciate the master of nampa for letting us know about it. And I echo the sentiment that he could he could score in any situation.
Something always holds me back. I think it's a perverse inner battle between what I want to do, and what I consider 'right'. I lose more times than I win, but I know I am only fooling myself with bullshit.
Sadly I never made it, but I appreciate the master of nampa for letting us know about it. And I echo the sentiment that he could he could score in any situation.
Something always holds me back. I think it's a perverse inner battle between what I want to do, and what I consider 'right'. I lose more times than I win, but I know I am only fooling myself with bullshit.Gents, thank you for the complimentary words. I will admit that I do extremely well when I'm on the prowl (and many times when I'm not on the prowl, like today, at StarBucks with the new girl who works at my regular coffee joint, when she agreed to meet me on Tuesday morning in Shibuya next to the LH's, but I digress.)
Every man who knows me will tell you that I absolutely have no problems sharing poon amongst my brethren. I will toss a chica to a buddy at the drop of a dime because I know there is always more to be had. If anything, I am not stingy with the ladies.
Having said that I attribute my success to two things, of which I am going to share with you right now. Both points are equally important!
1) Do what you can to get into shape. Don't go crazy at the gym starting now; just try exercising from time to time. Granted there are plenty of men who like large or 'natural' ladies. Hell, I'm one of them (I like slim, in-shape women as well). But it doesn't mean the ladies like you looking like an out of shape bum! So get off your buttocks and do a handful of pushups every day and in 3 months you may notice you're being hit on or succeeding more as you chat up the ladies. You don't have to look like Schwarzenegger, but every little bit you do is more than what that other guy isn't doing. How many pushups (in addition to working out regularly) do I do? I try to do 300 pushups THROUGHOUT THE DAY four or five times a week, so a total of 1200 – 1500 pushups per week depending on how I feel.
Pushups can be done easily. I do 100 in the morning before breakfast. 100 before I eat lunch and 100 in the evening before dinner. And it only takes about 10 or 12 minutes to do 100 pushups. I do 25, then I take a 2 minute break. Then I do 25 and take a 2 or 3 minute break, etc. In 10 or 12 minutes, you're done with 100 pushups.
Don't start your new pushup routine by doing what I do. Set yourself a goal for 100 total pushups in a day, and after a few weeks you'll be regularly banging out more pushups and hopefully more poon.
2) In 1998 I was in a bookstore and stumbled across a book that changed the quality and quantity of chicas I bang. The book is titled: How to Succeed with Women, written by Ron Louis and David Copeland. If you don't know how to pick up chicks, you don't know what to say, or you don't do well snagging the ladies, get yourself a copy of this book, or one like it, and fuggin' read it cover to cover! This book worked for me, it might work for you. It is, of course, written by Americans, but I have found the techniques work on women around the world. Six months ago I gave my copy of that book to my five foot ten inch tall 13 year old son. A couple of nights ago, on Halloween, he brought home two 15 year old girls from his jr high girls volleyball team and two 14 year old girls from the girls track team. Needless to say his mom was PO'd when she caught him upstairs with one of the 14year olds who had her top off. I was told by my wife to punish him severely. Behind closed doors I asked him how he managed to convince the girls to do what they did. He said, 'Dad, I tried following the ideas in the book you gave me. '
So there you have it. My "secret" is out. If you have questions I'm happy to answer them.
ToBeDetermined
11-02-12, 17:36
Just want to express my gratitude, senpai.
Gents, thank you for the complimentary words. I will admit that I do extremely well when I'm on the prowl (and many times when I'm not on the prowl, like today, at StarBucks with the new girl who works at my regular coffee joint, when she agreed to meet me on Tuesday morning in Shibuya next to the LH's, but I digress.)
Every man who knows me will tell you that I absolutely have no problems sharing poon amongst my brethren. I will toss a chica to a buddy at the drop of a dime because I know there is always more to be had. If anything, I am not stingy with the ladies.
Having said that I attribute my success to two things, of which I am going to share with you right now. Both points are equally important!
1) Do what you can to get into shape. Don't go crazy at the gym starting now; just try exercising from time to time. Granted there are plenty of men who like large or 'natural' ladies. Hell, I'm one of them (I like slim, in-shape women as well). But it doesn't mean the ladies like you looking like an out of shape bum! So get off your buttocks and do a handful of pushups every day and in 3 months you may notice you're being hit on or succeeding more as you chat up the ladies. You don't have to look like Schwarzenegger, but every little bit you do is more than what that other guy isn't doing. How many pushups (in addition to working out regularly) do I do? I try to do 300 pushups THROUGHOUT THE DAY four or five times a week, so a total of 1200 – 1500 pushups per week depending on how I feel.
Pushups can be done easily. I do 100 in the morning before breakfast. 100 before I eat lunch and 100 in the evening before dinner. And it only takes about 10 or 12 minutes to do 100 pushups. I do 25, then I take a 2 minute break. Then I do 25 and take a 2 or 3 minute break, etc. In 10 or 12 minutes, you're done with 100 pushups.
Don't start your new pushup routine by doing what I do. Set yourself a goal for 100 total pushups in a day, and after a few weeks you'll be regularly banging out more pushups and hopefully more poon.
2) In 1998 I was in a bookstore and stumbled across a book that changed the quality and quantity of chicas I bang. The book is titled: How to Succeed with Women, written by Ron Louis and David Copeland. If you don't know how to pick up chicks, you don't know what to say, or you don't do well snagging the ladies, get yourself a copy of this book, or one like it, and fuggin' read it cover to cover! This book worked for me, it might work for you. It is, of course, written by Americans, but I have found the techniques work on women around the world. Six months ago I gave my copy of that book to my five foot ten inch tall 13 year old son. A couple of nights ago, on Halloween, he brought home two 15 year old girls from his jr high girls volleyball team and two 14 year old girls from the girls track team. Needless to say his mom was PO'd when she caught him upstairs with one of the 14year olds who had her top off. I was told by my wife to punish him severely. Behind closed doors I asked him how he managed to convince the girls to do what they did. He said, 'Dad, I tried following the ideas in the book you gave me. '
So there you have it. My "secret" is out. If you have questions I'm happy to answer them.
Cougar Cookie
11-02-12, 23:35
Don't start your new pushup routine by doing what I do. Set yourself a goal for 100 total pushups in a day, and after a few weeks you'll be regularly banging out more pushups and hopefully more poon. So there you have it. My "secret" is out. If you have questions I'm happy to answer them.[/QUOTE]
Starting my pushup rountine today! It would make a good documentary. Pushup rountine / poon conversion trial in Tokyo over six months.
Dead right about push ups. Six months ago I started doing them during work hours. Girls notice. I also go to the gym when I can.
Picked up at a Halloween event on wed. Meeting her for an afternoon fuck festival soon. Older girl but exceptional body. She maintains that she is not sexy but Ill be the judge thanks! LOL.
Otherwise nothing much to report. Keep up the search guys. She is out there!
Don't start your new pushup routine by doing what I do. Set yourself a goal for 100 total pushups in a day, and after a few weeks you'll be regularly banging out more pushups and hopefully more poon. So there you have it. My "secret" is out. If you have questions I'm happy to answer them.
Just to add a pushup tip. Alternate your pushup sets (15-25 pushups in a set) with your hands on the floor at different widths, eg shoulder width, nipple width. 4-5 inches apart, etc. Doing this will work different muscles, eg pecs, shoulders, biceps and triceps. You'll end up with a much more evenly muscular upper torso. And the babes will definitely notice!
Manta Ray
Just to add a pushup tip. Alternate your pushup sets (15-25 pushups in a set) with your hands on the floor at different widths, eg shoulder width, nipple width. 4-5 inches apart, etc. Doing this will work different muscles, eg pecs, shoulders, biceps and triceps. You'll end up with a much more evenly muscular upper torso. And the babes will definitely notice!
Manta RayAlternating hand placement is exactly how I do my pushups. The first 100 my hands are in close by my side. The second 100 my hands are spaced comfortably apart. My final set of 100, my hands are wide apart (beyond shoulder length).
But on to something more important. For the first time I think I may have scored right in front of my mizzuz. We went out to dinner the other night and there was no one in the restaurant that we went to. The waitress was young and hot and we both chatted with her during our food order session. When the waitress brought our drinks she asked were we married. I joked that the woman I was dining with would never marry me because she didn't love me. My wife joked and said,"Yeah, he's just a guy I've been hanging with until someone good comes along." I then asked the waitress could I date her instead because I didn't see a future with the woman at my table. The waitress said she was eager to be with someone because she hadn't dated anyone in a year or so. I then said,"When this woman isn't looking please slip me your number and we'll get together." When the food arrived 10 minutes later there was a small slip of paper under my plate that contained a cellular number. I don't think the mizzuz even noticed. Booyow!
AussieGaigin
11-04-12, 11:32
A few years ago I was in a Shizuoka city for a Local Government goodwill visit. I had visited a number of cities on this tour and was getting loaded down with souvenirs, so needed an extra suitcase to pack them in. One of the senior OLs in the City office was delegated to take me to a local shop to buy something. While I was looking around the shop, the OL was chatting to the sales girl. After we left the shop, the OL burst out laughing, telling me the girl was trying to find out if I was available. I asked the OL if we could go back so I could buy something else, but she wouldn't play ball.
But waitresses seem to be good targets for nampa. Going into the same restaurant two days running often gets them hooked.
A few years ago I was in a Shizuoka city for a Local Government goodwill visit. I had visited a number of cities on this tour and was getting loaded down with souvenirs, so needed an extra suitcase to pack them in. One of the senior OLs in the City office was delegated to take me to a local shop to buy something. While I was looking around the shop, the OL was chatting to the sales girl. After we left the shop, the OL burst out laughing, telling me the girl was trying to find out if I was available. I asked the OL if we could go back so I could buy something else, but she wouldn't play ball.
But waitresses seem to be good targets for nampa. Going into the same restaurant two days running often gets them hooked.I hate when that happens. The OL obviously knew what time it was, but didn't let you have at it. She should have at least made a move on you herself since she knew you were down for a little fun. But from just what you describe, she was the typical OL, if I can't have it, no one else will and we will all be miserablt together. So much for the "Wa" way of life here in Japan.
I registered on Japan Cupid one month before I went to Japan this time. Hunter20 wrote that he had no success at JC, but for me it's been very successful. During my two week stay I dated three girls (actually four, but I ran away from the fourth one,"I need to help my friend who lost his passport") and got laid with all of them.
First date was with a 29 years old girl. This went down like classic dating. Made out in a park on the second date, and we spent two nights together. Great sex and I will meet her again next time I go to Tokyo.
Second girl was a 19 year old. She almost didn't speak any English. This was a super awkward date since my Japanese is not very good either. We barley spoke during our coffee session, and I did most of the talking since she was so shy. Afterwards we took a walk and "accidentally" ended up outside my hotel. She was very sceptic about following me up to my hotel room, but eventually she agreed. Even though talking didn't work so well, we still managed to have sex. She was very into it and the only thing she actually said was "Mo ikkai","One more time". We met four days later where we went straight to sex.
Third girl was a 22 year old university student. She studied English, but communication was still a little hard since her vocabulary was not very good. We had lunch and also ended up outside my hotel. Just like the second girl, she was very sceptical about following me up to my hotel. At the hotel I tried to kiss her, but she did not want to be a "****" (she used the word *****, but I think she meant ****). I explained how the one-night-stand culture works in Europe and that girls can sleep with guys on the first date without being a ****. She said she had not had sex for a while, and after some talking she agreed but clearly stated that "this is wrong, but ok, for this time". She was very wet and really into it. Great sex. She emailed me afterwards and thanked me for a great afternoon. We both want to meed again.
I'm currently having contact with three other girls on JC, so there will be more dates. All these girls that I met sent me an interest or a mail first. I never got any success so far where I initialize the contact. Just write a good presentation, upload a picture and wait for the girls to contact you. I'm in my mid 20's and quite good looking.
JC doesn't really work in Osaka too well. You have to be lucky in bars and bookshops etc. Halloween gets my vote for the hot girl factor. I wish I could be passed around between horny girls that are friends! That would be awesome. Some day maybe!
I have been working worldfriends these past 10 days or so.
I am 53 and very average looking. And I have 4 maybe five women (one Phil lady) going at this time that say they want to meet up with me but keep dragging it along."Yes lets meet" and I get no proposal on when and where and feelings like I am a threat to them when I am anything but. So far have not met any of them for even coffee yet but I am going to wait them out and see what happens&12290; But here is the deal, they are all in late 40s to early 50s so that really makes me feel like a loser even though I speak read and write Jp better than most on this website.
I can't really lie about the fact I am married or can I? Can anyone instruct me on better wording? Or Just bad luck?
I feel that Daigaijin was successful due to looks (all power to you brother) because if they cannot speak english, can they read his profile and understand? I do not think the 19 year old she had cannot.
AussieGaigin
11-06-12, 10:40
I hate when that happens. The OL obviously knew what time it was, but didn't let you have at it. She should have at least made a move on you herself since she knew you were down for a little fun. But from just what you describe, she was the typical OL, if I can't have it, no one else will and we will all be miserablt together. So much for the "Wa" way of life here in Japan.Unfortunately I was part of a group delegation travelling around, so could not have really taken advantage of either of them, without a bit more time to plan things. The OL was a definite MILF, but I think someone else in the group had been there previously, so I was out of the running.
But I did manage to score another lady in another city, where a local "friendship group" volunteered to escort us around on some local sightseeing tour. We had been allocated home stays with members of the group, I got a couple with two young kids. The kids were sent off to relatives for the night so I could get their room. I'd managed to chat up one girl, who actually spent time in Sydney a few years previously not far from where I live. She came and picked me up after dinner to drive me around the local sights. We ended up partaking in some outdoor "äctivities" at a nice quiet location as she didn't suggest finding a LH (probably none in the area). She them dropped me back to the house, but there was no one at home. Next morning the husband was very upset that I hadn't invited the girl to stay the night (something I would not normally suggest in a stranger's home).
I've had lots of strange encounters with J girls in situations I could never have dreamed up on my own. Just got to love J girls.
AussieGaigin
11-07-12, 05:54
I never got to be aware of this group down here in Australia during my "nampa active" period. 10 or more years ago now.
But we did have a couple of clubs here in Sydney designed to foster business and social contacts between Aussies and Japanese. Regular meetings and functions were always a good source of women for the picking.
I had a couple of middle aged J businesswomen as clients. While we didn't mix business with pleasure directly, they were quite happy to let me loose with their staff. Mainly working holiday visa girls who needed training in local business customs and language. Most of this was done outside of normal work hours, of course.
Well gents I've got good news, bad news, worse news, and potential good news (for someone). I met with the Chinese chica today for what I hoped to be our first session of language exchange for sex. The good news. All started out extremely well. As soon as we met she said,"Want to go to a cafe and practice English or back to my place?" Smiles for me! So, off to her place we go. Thirty seconds in the door I'm stripping naked and reaching for my condom. She looks at me funny and then essentially jumps on my dick. For twenty minutes this chica rode me like the Lone Ranger trying to get to the next town and save the sheriff. When I finally said let's switch she told me to bang her doggie style because she loved getting f*ed from behind. Also, she said she hoped I wasn't too disgusted but would I mind sticking my thumb in her azz as I banged her. More smiles!
Now comes the bad news. An hour later I'm zipping up ('because I got to get back to the office) so I inquire about her friends and whether they were looking for a similar "agreement". She says she doesn't want to ask her colleagues since she's afraid someone might eventually inform "management" that she's giving away the product for free. Then came the worse news. I asked why she looked at me strangely when I put on the condom. She said she really wants to have a baby no matter what. DANGER, DANGER, DANGER! Well that, ended the deal for me. Finally the potential good news. If anyone wants her, I'm happy to pass her along. Recipient beware.
I get the feeling that most women are between 20 and 35 there. I just chatted with a girl on Skype. She asked me about how many girls I met from the site, and then I asked her the same question, she said that she usually never receives answers to her mails.
She wrote "When I rarely receive message. Even if I answer, I don't get answer back".
This time she wrote the first email and she is very eager to meet me. Her looks are 6/10, typical Japanese girl. 29 years old.
ToBeDetermined
11-07-12, 16:02
Taipan68, thank you for your reports. Sounds much fun.
Not interested in the particular girl you mentioned but may I ask you where is the MP she works, please? I want to give that place a try.
Thanks a lot in advance.
Well gents I've got good news, bad news, worse news, and potential good news (for someone). I met with the Chinese chica today for what I hoped to be our first session of language exchange for sex. The good news. All started out extremely well. As soon as we met she said,"Want to go to a cafe and practice English or back to my place?" Smiles for me! So, off to her place we go. Thirty seconds in the door I'm stripping naked and reaching for my condom. She looks at me funny and then essentially jumps on my dick. For twenty minutes this chica rode me like the Lone Ranger trying to get to the next town and save the sheriff. When I finally said let's switch she told me to bang her doggie style because she loved getting f*ed from behind. Also, she said she hoped I wasn't too disgusted but would I mind sticking my thumb in her azz as I banged her. More smiles!
Now comes the bad news. An hour later I'm zipping up ('because I got to get back to the office) so I inquire about her friends and whether they were looking for a similar "agreement". She says she doesn't want to ask her colleagues since she's afraid someone might eventually inform "management" that she's giving away the product for free. Then came the worse news. I asked why she looked at me strangely when I put on the condom. She said she really wants to have a baby no matter what. DANGER, DANGER, DANGER! Well that, ended the deal for me. Finally the potential good news. If anyone wants her, I'm happy to pass her along. Recipient beware.
AussieGaigin
11-08-12, 00:13
Well gents I've got good news, bad news, worse news, and potential good news (for someone). I met with the Chinese chica today for what I hoped to be our first session of language exchange for sex. The good news. All started out extremely well. As soon as we met she said,"Want to go to a cafe and practice English or back to my place?" Smiles for me! So, off to her place we go. Thirty seconds in the door I'm stripping naked and reaching for my condom. She looks at me funny and then essentially jumps on my dick. For twenty minutes this chica rode me like the Lone Ranger trying to get to the next town and save the sheriff. When I finally said let's switch she told me to bang her doggie style because she loved getting f*ed from behind. Also, she said she hoped I wasn't too disgusted but would I mind sticking my thumb in her azz as I banged her. More smiles!
Now comes the bad news. An hour later I'm zipping up ('because I got to get back to the office) so I inquire about her friends and whether they were looking for a similar "agreement". She says she doesn't want to ask her colleagues since she's afraid someone might eventually inform "management" that she's giving away the product for free. Then came the worse news. I asked why she looked at me strangely when I put on the condom. She said she really wants to have a baby no matter what. DANGER, DANGER, DANGER! Well that, ended the deal for me. Finally the potential good news. If anyone wants her, I'm happy to pass her along. Recipient beware.Did you keep your side of the deal and give her the English lesson? LOL
Cougar Cookie
11-08-12, 03:53
Then came the worse news. I asked why she looked at me strangely when I put on the condom. She said she really wants to have a baby no matter what. DANGER, DANGER, DANGER! Well that, ended the deal for me.Where are you guys buying your condoms?
I can't use mail order or stock pile condoms for obvious reasons. Looking for a convenient shop that sells foreign condoms. I have noticed that the foreign condom makers, like Durex, seem to have given up on the Japanese market. Very hard to track down condoms that fit properly. Used to get them at the conbini or Donki. The standard Japanese ones are like putting a rubber band on your pecker. I tried the Japanese "black" "big boy" ones. They are like an airport wind sock. Handy if your a Nigerian porn star that injects steroids directly into his pecker and uses the penis pump 12 hours a day but otherwise pretty useless. Unless your out of bin liners.
Taipan68, thank you for your reports. Sounds much fun.
Not interested in the particular girl you mentioned but may I ask you where is the MP she works, please? I want to give that place a try.
Thanks a lot in advance.Here is a link to the Chinese MP:
https://maps.google.com/maps/ms?msa=0&msid=207021708836
072530213. 0004cdf7a8f1b51493812&hl=en&ie=UTF8&ll=35. 672877.
139. 738144&spn=0. 001283. 0.001725&t=m&z=19&vpsrc=6&iwloc=0004cdf7adf73395bbb30.
(Sorry I tried to hyperlink it but it didn't turn out correctly. Copy the three links into a document and then remove the spaces to see the actual location on Google maps. So after the number "6" in the first line the "0" should be next to it with no spaces and there should be no spaces between (dots). Also there is no (dot) at the end of the link so remove the (dot) after the last zero of the third line. The building is the blue mark on the map and the entrance is in the alleyway. Google maps will not allow you to "walk" down that alley. There is a small outside facing elevator that you can take up to the third floor. Once you get out on the third floor you can only go in one direction because the stairs are blocked. You will see a very large door after stepping off of the elevator. That's the place.)
FYI, I asked her about the services of the MP. She said,"We don't really do massages unless someone really wants one." She clearly stated it was a place for FS. I asked what the cost was and she said minimum of 10, 000 yen but they try to get at least 15, 000 yen. She said "management" says no one gets it for less than 10, 000 yen (ever). If the shop can get 15, 000 through negotiation then great. So typically they ask for more than 15, 000 yen as at start. [Special note, any amount over 15, 000 yen stays with the girl and the 15K goes to the business with the girl getting her cut later. ] I inquired what the slowest days are for getting a 10K yen deal. She said, actually it could be any day other than a Japanese payday (when they see more business). If a guy goes in the shop with only 10K yen and can prove it by emptying his pockets and clearly showing he has no more moola then they will probably give him the service and pretend he's getting a special deal. I asked about the amount of time and how many pops and she said most guys can finish within 30 minutes so most guys depart after that. BUT (and here is where she wasn't so clear because I was fingering her again) I think she was saying the payment is for one hour (Don't quote me on that part though)!
Where are you guys buying your condoms?
I can't use mail order or stock pile condoms for obvious reasons. Looking for a convenient shop that sells foreign condoms. I have noticed that the foreign condom makers, like Durex, seem to have given up on the Japanese market. Very hard to track down condoms that fit properly. Used to get them at the conbini or Donki. The standard Japanese ones are like putting a rubber band on your pecker. I tried the Japanese "black" "big boy" ones. They are like an airport wind sock. Handy if your a Nigerian porn star that injects steroids directly into his pecker and uses the penis pump 12 hours a day but otherwise pretty useless. Unless your out of bin liners.Fortunately for me, a friend of mine has access to the bases and gets me boxes of "jimmy's" from there. I stockpile them in "sealed" boxes in my office. Since I have a private office no one (that I'm aware of) opens those boxes but me.
Here is a link to the Chinese MP:
https://maps.google.com/maps/ms?msa=0&msid=207021708836
072530213. 0004cdf7a8f1b51493812&hl=en&ie=UTF8&ll=35. 672877.
139. 738144&spn=0. 001283. 0.001725&t=m&z=19&vpsrc=6&iwloc=0004cdf7adf73395bbb30.
Sorry I tried to hyperlink it but it didn't turn out correctly.Google has an auto-shortener, y'know :). Click on the 'link' button, then click on the 'short URL'. For this shop, it's:
http://goo.gl/maps/xXysK
I don't have the building number, but the block number is Akasaka 2-13 on the same block as the 7-11 next to Route 413.
I just read some of your old posts, good stuff. I've trying to improve my skills lately, meeting women isn't a problem; I just don't know how to close the deal.
If you got a spare chica, throw one my way will you?
ToBeDetermined
11-08-12, 17:14
Here is a link to the Chinese MP:
https://maps.google.com/maps/ms?msa=0&msid=207021708836
072530213. 0004cdf7a8f1b51493812&hl=en&ie=UTF8&ll=35. 672877.
139. 738144&spn=0. 001283. 0.001725&t=m&z=19&vpsrc=6&iwloc=0004cdf7adf73395bbb30.
(Sorry I tried to hyperlink it but it didn't turn out correctly. Copy the three links into a document and then remove the spaces to see the actual location on Google maps. So after the number "6" in the first line the "0" should be next to it with no spaces and there should be no spaces between (dots). Also there is no (dot) at the end of the link so remove the (dot) after the last zero of the third line. The building is the blue mark on the map and the entrance is in the alleyway. Google maps will not allow you to "walk" down that alley. There is a small outside facing elevator that you can take up to the third floor. Once you get out on the third floor you can only go in one direction because the stairs are blocked. You will see a very large door after stepping off of the elevator. That's the place.)
FYI, I asked her about the services of the MP. She said,"We don't really do massages unless someone really wants one." She clearly stated it was a place for FS. I asked what the cost was and she said minimum of 10, 000 yen but they try to get at least 15, 000 yen. She said "management" says no one gets it for less than 10, 000 yen (ever). If the shop can get 15, 000 through negotiation then great. So typically they ask for more than 15, 000 yen as at start. [Special note, any amount over 15, 000 yen stays with the girl and the 15K goes to the business with the girl getting her cut later. ] I inquired what the slowest days are for getting a 10K yen deal. She said, actually it could be any day other than a Japanese payday (when they see more business). If a guy goes in the shop with only 10K yen and can prove it by emptying his pockets and clearly showing he has no more moola then they will probably give him the service and pretend he's getting a special deal. I asked about the amount of time and how many pops and she said most guys can finish within 30 minutes so most guys depart after that. BUT (and here is where she wasn't so clear because I was fingering her again) I think she was saying the payment is for one hour (Don't quote me on that part though)!Taipan68, thank you so much for your detailed guide on this CMP. Since my Chinese is very passable (I am half-Chinese) , I will try to test how far I could negotiate at this place. Will report to the Tokyo forum after my visit.
BTW, The book you recommended is such a great text, After reading 2 chapters, I think I already felt some difference. I really appreciate your selflessness.
Google has an auto-shortener, why'know. Click on the 'link' button, then click on the 'short URL'. For this shop, it's:
http://goo.gl/maps/xXysK
I don't have the building number, but the block number is Akasaka 2-13 on the same block as the 7-11 next to Route 413.Meiji, thanks for the add-ups, very handy. I also want to express my gratitude to you since I gained much experience from your reports not only here but also at TAG.
Where are you guys buying your condoms?
I can't use mail order or stock pile condoms for obvious reasons. Looking for a convenient shop that sells foreign condoms. I have noticed that the foreign condom makers, like Durex, seem to have given up on the Japanese market. Very hard to track down condoms that fit properly. Used to get them at the conbini or Donki. The standard Japanese ones are like putting a rubber band on your pecker. I tried the Japanese "black" "big boy" ones. They are like an airport wind sock. Handy if your a Nigerian porn star that injects steroids directly into his pecker and uses the penis pump 12 hours a day but otherwise pretty useless. Unless your out of bin liners.Have a look at Condomania: http://condomania.jp/hpgen/HPB/entries/2.html. That's the Harajuku store, they're also in Odaiba and Kobe. Haven't been there in a while, but they should have some foreign brands.
Gents,
There seems to be strong interest in the Chinese MP girl so I'm just tossing her out there for grabs. Everyone gets the same info. Attached are a couple of her photos that I snapped. If you read the MP location that I listed previously, you know where her business is located. She's normally walking around that block but I think the best bet to catch her is either in front of the 7-11 just around the corner from her building or (as you exit her building) at the end of the right-hand side of the alley of her building (I. E. Next to the tobacco store). She goes by the name of Haru (Spring) , but I've heard her friends call her Nana as well. When you find her on the street tell her you don't want any of the other girls and that you want her. Haru normally doesn't do FS, but she will most likely give you (the first time around) a HJ with a happy ending. Her clit is small but sensitive. Find it and rub it quickly and she'll get horny real quick, and most likely be ready to ride you.
On a final note, I should add that when I met her yesterday I had intended to say sayonara without a romp. But her first sentence to me was,"I want to learn how to give better BJ's." Before our session I had given her (in my mind) a 6. 5 for BJ skills. After my instructions I can clearly say she's now at least an 8. 0 and should be primed to reach 9. 0 or more in the very near future. She's good at almost deepthroating but can't quite get it all the way in. A little more instructions should place her BJ skills at the top-notch level.
Gents,
There seems to be strong interest in the Chinese MP girl so I'm just tossing her out there for grabs. Everyone gets the same info. Attached are a couple of her photos that I snapped. If you read the MP location that I listed previously, you know where her business is located. She's normally walking around that block but I think the best bet to catch her is either in front of the 7-11 just around the corner from her building or (as you exit her building) at the end of the right-hand side of the alley of her building (I. E. Next to the tobacco store). She goes by the name of Haru (Spring) , but I've heard her friends call her Nana as well. When you find her on the street tell her you don't want any of the other girls and that you want her. Haru normally doesn't do FS, but she will most likely give you (the first time around) a HJ with a happy ending. Her clit is small but sensitive. Find it and rub it quickly and she'll get horny real quick, and most likely be ready to ride you.
On a final note, I should add that when I met her yesterday I had intended to say sayonara without a romp. But her first sentence to me was,"I want to learn how to give better BJ's." Before our session I had given her (in my mind) a 6. 5 for BJ skills. After my instructions I can clearly say she's now at least an 8. 0 and should be primed to reach 9. 0 or more in the very near future. She's good at almost deepthroating but can't quite get it all the way in. A little more instructions should place her BJ skills at the top-notch level.I forgot to mention, Haru normally starts working at 9:00 pm and finishes sometime in the early morning hours (4:30 or 5:00 am) or when the last customer leaves. She works Mon. Sat and always has Sunday off work.
I forgot to mention, Haru normally starts working at 9:00 pm and finishes sometime in the early morning hours (4:30 or 5:00 am) or when the last customer leaves. She works Mon. Sat and always has Sunday off work.She works Monday through Saturday [not sure why that dash I placed earlier turned into a (dot) ].
Moscow Man
11-21-12, 13:19
Hi All,
I've got a new friend who enjoys being tied up, likes to wear handcuffs, etc. Not really my thing but I do have a passing interest. So far, all of the love hotels that I have visited have been pretty conventional. Pretty swank but pretty standard. I thought it would be fun to take to one of the "themed" love hotels that everyone seems to have heard about but few have actually been in one. Any information is greatly appreciated.
Many Thanks,
MM
Moscow Man
11-21-12, 13:23
Where are you guys buying your condoms?
I can't use mail order or stock pile condoms for obvious reasons. Looking for a convenient shop that sells foreign condoms. I have noticed that the foreign condom makers, like Durex, seem to have given up on the Japanese market. Very hard to track down condoms that fit properly. Used to get them at the conbini or Donki. The standard Japanese ones are like putting a rubber band on your pecker. I tried the Japanese "black" "big boy" ones. They are like an airport wind sock. Handy if your a Nigerian porn star that injects steroids directly into his pecker and uses the penis pump 12 hours a day but otherwise pretty useless. Unless your out of bin liners.As you walk from Shinjuku Station to Kabuki-cho, there are some sex shops that have quite a large selection of condoms. I usually buy mine there. As I don't like pain with my sex, I avoid Japanese condoms.
MM
Cougar Cookie
11-22-12, 02:55
As you walk from Shinjuku Station to Kabuki-cho, there are some sex shops that have quite a large selection of condoms. I usually buy mine there. As I don't like pain with my sex, I avoid Japanese condoms.
MMThanks for the responses re condoms. Looks like sex shops in the love hotel districts are the best option.
Does anyone have any intel on the "in" nampa bars in Tokyo? I have been hanging out in Ebisu lately and haven't scored any action or spotted many chicks that were out looking for it. Any ideas? Shibuya? Roppongi? Anywhere?
BlueBalls2012
11-22-12, 03:16
Well gents I've got good news, bad news, worse news, and potential good news (for someone). I met with the Chinese chica today for what I hoped to be our first session of language exchange for sex. The good news. All started out extremely well. As soon as we met she said,"Want to go to a cafe and practice English or back to my place?" Smiles for me! So, off to her place we go. Thirty seconds in the door I'm stripping naked and reaching for my condom. She looks at me funny and then essentially jumps on my dick. For twenty minutes this chica rode me like the Lone Ranger trying to get to the next town and save the sheriff. When I finally said let's switch she told me to bang her doggie style because she loved getting f*ed from behind. Also, she said she hoped I wasn't too disgusted but would I mind sticking my thumb in her azz as I banged her. More smiles!
Now comes the bad news. An hour later I'm zipping up ('because I got to get back to the office) so I inquire about her friends and whether they were looking for a similar "agreement". She says she doesn't want to ask her colleagues since she's afraid someone might eventually inform "management" that she's giving away the product for free. Then came the worse news. I asked why she looked at me strangely when I put on the condom. She said she really wants to have a baby no matter what. DANGER, DANGER, DANGER! Well that, ended the deal for me. Finally the potential good news. If anyone wants her, I'm happy to pass her along. Recipient beware.To Taipan68: How might I be able to contact this charming woman?
Thanks!
BigManJapan
11-22-12, 05:13
Hi All,
I've got a new friend who enjoys being tied up, likes to wear handcuffs, etc. Not really my thing but I do have a passing interest. So far, all of the love hotels that I have visited have been pretty conventional. Pretty swank but pretty standard. I thought it would be fun to take to one of the "themed" love hotels that everyone seems to have heard about but few have actually been in one. Any information is greatly appreciated.
Many Thanks,
MMI second this request MM, I have been looking for an SM equipped LH as well. My girlfriend is very much into it. Not really looking for a dark dungeon per se but something equipped with some fun equipment for bondage etc. Please pass along any info you find.
Cougar Cookie
11-22-12, 05:36
I second this request MM, I have been looking for an SM equipped LH as well. My girlfriend is very much into it. Not really looking for a dark dungeon per se but something equipped with some fun equipment for bondage etc. Please pass along any info you find.This place behind the Russian Embassy looks an interesting option.
http://www.hotelalphain.com/
To Taipan68: How might I be able to contact this charming woman?
Thanks!See the post by,"ToBeDetermined" for details on how to locate this woman. FYI, she's been e-mailing and calling me like crazy. I get about 8 e-mails a day from her. I say again, you bang her well and she'll be hooked. You have been warned (again).
Moscow Man
11-22-12, 11:21
This place behind the Russian Embassy looks an interesting option.
http://www.hotelalphain.com/This place seems to fit the bill. I got to say some of those rooms look genuinely frighting. Like something Dr. Lector would come up with.
Thanks for the input.
MM
Cougar Cookie
11-22-12, 13:25
I dress down. Casual jeans and T-shirt / polo. A pretty grungy look. I am starting to think that in Japan that creates the wrong impression. Although I am happy to accommodate a 20+ JPN nurse / kindergarten teacher with a father complex, my target chick is 35+. They seem to focus on the suited types. I am pretty sure that I have more style and more moolah than most of these suits. I am just very low profile and never splash cash. I am considering splurging on a suit. My question. What color suit works for J-chicks? I get the impression corporate Japan is boring black / grey. But is that the color that works with J-chicks? Advice and experience much appreciated.
Advice and experience much appreciated.I too am quite sure you have more style than most of the suits. But then again nobody cares what me and you think, it is the chicks who decide.
I wear the most boring outfit you can imagine, black suit, white shirt, blue necktie, black socks and black shoes. And it works.
The last one told me "you looked like someone to whom money comes easily". And I do not splash my cash either, no fancy moves here.
The thing is that especially the 35+ crowd know this stuff: they will spot right on if your suit is a good one or from Aoki. It does not have to be handmade but a good quality brand name.
The good thing for me is that I wear the same stuff every day at work so I do not need to get the suit just for the girls. Though I probably would if needed.
BigManJapan
11-23-12, 04:56
I too am quite sure you have more style than most of the suits. But then again nobody cares what me and you think, it is the chicks who decide.
I wear the most boring outfit you can imagine, black suit, white shirt, blue necktie, black socks and black shoes. And it works.
The last one told me "you looked like someone to whom money comes easily". And I do not splash my cash either, no fancy moves here.
The thing is that especially the 35+ crowd know this stuff: they will spot right on if your suit is a good one or from Aoki. It does not have to be handmade but a good quality brand name.
The good thing for me is that I wear the same stuff every day at work so I do not need to get the suit just for the girls. Though I probably would if needed.Totally agree geezer! I used to dress in designer jeans and polos, etc. When I changed my style it became even easier to get the jchicks. I'd start with a decent black suit and a good pair of black dress shoes. For the love of god get ones that are pointed but not like elf shoes. Shoes that look like Beaver or platypus feet are OUT. A charcoal pinstripe suit with a solid color shirt and a nice tie complete the look. Cuff links, collar pin, tie bar and a pocket square that matches your shirt can make you stand above the rest of the black suits. It's cold now, why not sport a nice black felt fedora. Every time I wear mine the ladies love it. Dressing nicely will get you laid faster and easier.
AussieGaigin
11-23-12, 13:11
You don't have to go to Tokyo, or even Japan, for successful nampa. I have been practicing the art here in Sydney Australia for around 30 years, ever since I got a job in the tourism industry that delivered an endless source of "victims". I've had several trips to Japan in that era as well, also with great success, of course.
Although I'm out of the game now and getting on a bit age wise, I still haven't lost my touch it seems. Last weekend I was on an assignment in Melbourne. On the Sunday morning I was down at the main railway station to catch an early train. Stopped off at a cafe to get a coffee, and sat down near to a cute asian chick. She smiled so started a conversation "where are you from?"."Japan" (she didn't look Japanese)."which part?"."Gifu, do you know it?"."öf course, I have been there a couple of times" (which I had, and could describe a couple of landmarks). A bit more digging into her being in Melbourne ("arrived last week, working holiday for 6 months") and her activities for the day ("meeting some friends"). As I had to leave to catch my train, I suggested meeting for a coffee later in the evening ("sorry, I will be busy") , so just gave her my meishi and invited her to contact me if she came to Sydney.
About 6 pm she rings me and asks if the coffee is still on offer. Of course, so off to meet her at the same place. I suggest she might like to try some Aussie beer, which she does, and after a couple she is happy to come back to my hotel for a while. Well, all night actually, most enjoyable. She left the next morning, and I had to fly back to Sydney, but with a promise to look me up if she comes here.
Just love J-girls
I've seen a lot of helpful posts about the importance of being nicely dressed and in particular, getting nice shoes. I've never been much into fashion, but the prospect of scoring a woman is good motivation. I am 39 and targeting women in their 30s. I wear tailored Hanabishi suits to work, dark blue and charcoal with pinstripes. I suspect the shirts I wear are not very fashionable. Most of them are white with stripes. I've always had a hard time getting shoes in Japan (size 30). If anyone has advice on where to buy shoes and shirts I would appreciate it.
BigManJapan
11-30-12, 02:39
Possibly the striped shirts with the pinstriped suit isn't the way to go?
Maybe a solid color shirt? Have you tried a light pink shirt with a white collar and a navy tie? The tie could be navy and pink stripe too, just make sure the stripes are pretty wide to offset the pinstripes.
Jgirls love a pink shirt on a guy!
Just throwing out ideas!
(Edit: for shoes you can shop all kinds of places online, maybe overstock.com or something like that? Sometimes you can find good deals on Allen Edmonds shoes, etc.)
For big shoes, you just have to check out this place in Gotanda ("Big Shoes for Big Men") , visible from the JR platform:
http://www.hikari-shoes.co.jp/zenglishB081002.htm
Here is a google maps link:
http://goo.gl/maps/oSTzd
(it's the shop at "A")
I'm a 27. 5, so can usually find anything I need in Japan, though sometimes also order from the US as well. If you do import shoes, watch out for the amazingly high import duty on genuine leather products.
Cheers
Possibly the striped shirts with the pinstriped suit isn't the way to go?
Maybe a solid color shirt? Have you tried a light pink shirt with a white collar and a navy tie? The tie could be navy and pink stripe too, just make sure the stripes are pretty wide to offset the pinstripes.
Jgirls love a pink shirt on a guy!
Just throwing out ideas!
(Edit: for shoes you can shop all kinds of places online, maybe overstock. Com or something like that? Sometimes you can find good deals on Allen Edmonds shoes, etc.) Thanks BigManJapan.
I'll try it!
For big shoes, you just have to check out this place in Gotanda ("Big Shoes for Big Men") , visible from the JR platform:
http://www.hikari-shoes.co.jp/zenglishB081002.htm
Here is a google maps link:
http://goo.gl/maps/oSTzd
(it's the shop at "A")
I'm a 27. 5, so can usually find anything I need in Japan, though sometimes also order from the US as well. If you do import shoes, watch out for the amazingly high import duty on genuine leather products.
CheersThis is perfect! Thanks!
I've seen some advice on getting in shape in this forum, and thought I'd throw this out there. If any of you guys are looking to get in shape, I recommend Tim Ferris's book Four-Hour Body. I've gone from 23% bodyfat to 14, and quit my gym membership. I eat better now, and walking to the station every day is all the cardio I need. I don't need to waste time on a treadmill. I used to spend 10, 000 a month on gym fees, and another 1000 yen a month on the shoe locker rental. Ridiculous. Saving all that for mongering now.
The main points in a nutshell:
You can get trim by diet alone, without any exercise. Successful dieters eat the same things over and over. 6 days a week, eat beans (instead of carbs) , green vegetables (spinach, broccoli, cabbage, or my favorite, kimchi) , and protein (eggs or meat). Eat as much as you want, no need to count calories. 1 day a week (any 24-hour period) , eat whatever you want, as much as you want. It's simple, and it works. Make sure and eat plenty of beans or you will feel very hungry. Also make sure to eat something within 30 min of waking up in the morning. I get my beans (frozen edamame) from Big-A. It's 200 yen for 500 grams, and they are all ready to eat. I also get onsen tamago (soft-boiled eggs) and kimchi there. I'm not much of a cook, and convenience is important to me. My free day actually starts Friday night (and rolls through Saturday night). That way I can eat out with friends or family. The toughest thing about this diet is eating out, since nearly everything is going to have rice, noodles, or bread. You'll just have to be creative.
Make sure to get the diet down first, as that is most important (and the hardest thing to do). Then you can add the exercise component. Ferris recommends kettlebell swings. I was very skeptical about some exercise I had never heard of, using equipment that I'd never seen before, but it works the whole body. I exercise maybe 10-15 minutes a week at home and I can see the results. I bought a 20 kg kettlebell off Amazon for about 7000 yen, less than one month of my old gym membership. I can do about 60 swings continuously now, and that's all I do. 2 or 3 times a week.
Those are the main points. You can get his book or check out his website. www.fourhourbody.com (free) for more details.
Cougar Cookie
12-08-12, 03:46
Thanks for all the all fashion tips. Dropped a bomb on some threads. And crashed and burned on my first outing. Checked out Roppongi. Midtown / R Hills area. Not that much going on. Not much desirable pussy on offer. The scene seems to be very different from 5 years ago. Am I going to the right places? Heartland, R2, Oak Room. Any other places worth a look?
Some additional tips re lazy exercise / diet. My 1 hour body:
1. Eat spicy food.
2. Nuts, avocado, prunes, coffee.
3. Don't over dress in winter. If your cold your burning fat.
4. Wank more. Burns calories, builds important muscle tissue, and creates the optical illusion that your twanger is much bigger than it should be for a guy your size. Builds width. Which women enjoy more than length.
5. Bang out a crap a day
EuroSlacker
01-06-13, 21:41
Depends on who you're going for.
Older corporate type women that go for business guys (think armani, boss etc.) or those that are looking for adventures because their life is dull and go for the japanese playboy host club types you see kabukicho (you can dress like them to some extend).
The key is always dressing in something that fits neatly, is clean and stylish enough. Ill fitting, dirty or used looking clothes are a no-go for most japanese.
Nautica2501
01-14-13, 10:35
Gents do you have any details on Nozawa or Hakuba?
Going sking this week and fire fest.
Thanks
AussieGaigin
01-15-13, 08:30
Nautica.
You can nampa J girls anywhere. Just go there and have fun.
Gents,
For those of you intending on attending the Thursday Internations event at the "What the Dickens" pub, be on the lookout for two Japanese ladies who have stated they will attend. They are both named Yuko and are friends. The shorter Yuko likes gin tonics and can get "really friendly" after she's had a few drinks. The taller Yuko is looking for a more "permanent" thing, but from what she's told me, it's been a while since she's had a physical relationship with a man (I. E. She hasn't been laid in quite some time). In either case, good luck to whomever happens to take the plunge with either lady. FYI, the shorter Yuko is one heck of a great lay.
Gents,
For those of you intending on attending the Thursday Internations event at the "What the Dickens" pub, be on the lookout for two Japanese ladies who have stated they will attend.Unfortunately I can't take up your advice but I have been there on two occasions having dinner with friends when those events were on, it was painful to watch. People staring at their shoes and drinks, or talking to people while looking past them in case someone else better turned up.
ETA: actually it wasn't the Dickens, it was another place.
I have been there on two occasions having dinner with friends when those events were on, it was painful to watch. People staring at their shoes and drinks, or talking to people while looking past them in case someone else better turned up.Very true. Upon arrival, I've seen that very situation myself. Actually, I like seeing that scenario when I get to a place like that. I take full advantage of the situation by being confident when I speak to people (both the men and women). Trust me, the ladies notice the confidence (not cockiness) and several women I slept with told me it was the "alpha dog" image I projected that made them give in. That approach has never failed me. My advice, don't be the shrinking violet, be the blooming rose and all of the ladies will want to have you.
Very true. Upon arrival, I've seen that very situation myself. Actually, I like seeing that scenario when I get to a place like that. I take full advantage of the situation by being confident when I speak to people (both the men and women). Trust me, the ladies notice the confidence (not cockiness) and several women I slept with told me it was the "alpha dog" image I projected that made them give in. That approach has never failed me. My advice, don't be the shrinking violet, be the blooming rose and all of the ladies will want to have you.Did you go? I went and spoke with several ladies but no score. I think that I saw one of the Yuko girls (maybe the pretty taller one?) and remarked to her that I bet she had a friend named Yuko, too. She laughed and said, yea, it's a common name. She said her friend was sick and couldn't come. I couldn't really talk to her, cause there was another dude stuck to her like glue! He just wouldn't shut up. Don't think it was you (hopefully).
Cougar Cookie
01-26-13, 03:00
Did you go? I went and spoke with several ladies but no score. I think that I saw one of the Yuko girls (maybe the pretty taller one?) and remarked to her that I bet she had a friend named Yuko, too. She laughed and said, yea, it's a common name. She said her friend was sick and couldn't come. I couldn't really talk to her, cause there was another dude stuck to her like glue! He just wouldn't shut up. Don't think it was you (hopefully).How would you rate nampa prospects at an event like this, relative to a normal Friday night at the pub or one of these "international friendship" parties?
Generally, what was the crowd like. Quantity and quality of women? Aoyama babes or Ibaraki gruffalos?
Did you go? I went and spoke with several ladies but no score. I think that I saw one of the Yuko girls (maybe the pretty taller one?) and remarked to her that I bet she had a friend named Yuko, too. She laughed and said, yea, it's a common name. She said her friend was sick and couldn't come. I couldn't really talk to her, cause there was another dude stuck to her like glue! He just wouldn't shut up. Don't think it was you (hopefully).I didn't go. Trying to work on a new JP wife I met weeks ago. She's been a tough nut to crack and I really want to bang her something fierce. So far, she and I have been to second base (twice in a Karaoke box) and 3rd base once in the back of a very dark pub. She's feeling guilty about cheating on her husband (who, from what it sounds like, is getting his on the side already).
Did the Yuko you met mention what type of work she was in? If she did tell you, and she said "human resources", that's one of the Yuko's. FYI I forgot to mention there is an African guy that likes to go to the Internations event most of the time. His first name is Sam and I had brief chat's with him on a couple of occasions at the Internations events. I now avoid him like the plague. The guy is clueless and will tell the women all of your information. I once bumped into him on the streets in Shibuya when I was with a woman that I had been banging for a while. He started telling the woman I was quite the ladies man and he always sees me with different women. Lucky for me she already knew that and she was okay being just a regular FB of mine. If I wasn't in a rush to get her to a LH I would spent a minute punching him in the mouth.
How would you rate nampa prospects at an event like this, relative to a normal Friday night at the pub or one of these "international friendship" parties?
Generally, what was the crowd like. Quantity and quality of women? Aoyama babes or Ibaraki gruffalos?It' been my personal experience that Nampa is doable in most locations in Japan and the Internations events are no different. I believe the Internations events are drawing in a specific type of crowd. Mainly business people or university students. If you're looking for the young Shibuya type or the Roppongi Gas Panic type of girl (aged 20-25) I don't think you'll see them at the Internations functions. Nevertheless, the chicas that attend those functions appear to me to want the same things as any woman you can pick up at a coffee shop or grocery store may want. Some want a good banging and others want a LTR.
Cougar Cookie
01-26-13, 07:07
It' been my personal experience that Nampa is doable in most locations in Japan and the Internations events are no different. I believe the Internations events are drawing in a specific type of crowd. Mainly business people or university students. If you're looking for the young Shibuya type or the Roppongi Gas Panic type of girl (aged 20-25) I don't think you'll see them at the Internations functions. Nevertheless, the chicas that attend those functions appear to me to want the same things as any woman you can pick up at a coffee shop or grocery store may want. Some want a good banging and others want a LTR.Sounds like you found at least one decent woman that needed and got a good banging. The World needs more of those. Is your Yuko the one in the red sweater on her profile pic?
I haven't tried an Internations party yet, but it sounds like it is worth a go. Thanks for sharing the info and the leads on Yuko. Hopefully others reading this forum and hunting Yuko down will respect that your info was shared in trust and confidence, and won't say or do anything to make Yuko and friends sus or uncomfortable.
Is your Yuko the one in the red sweater on her profile pic?
Thanks for sharing the info and the leads on Yuko. Hopefully others reading this forum and hunting Yuko down will respect that your info was shared in trust and confidence, and won't say or do anything to make Yuko and friends sus or uncomfortable.The Yuko in the red sweater on her profile pic is "tall" Yuko. I had lunch with her one time but that's all. If you check out "tall" Yuko's profile you will see one of her contacts listed is "short" Yuko. It was short Yuko who I banged like an African drum.
A few months back, prior to me getting sick before the holidays, I met a JP woman at Starbucks at Shibuya crossing. She's a 40 why / o single never been married type. She says she ONLY wants to sleep with married men. She repeatedly made that point quite clear and even asked to see a family photo from me. I finally closed the deal with her last Thursday, and man, what a freak! I e-mailed her on Wednesday and she recommended we meet in Gotanda at the Uniqlo on Thursday. I agreed. Having never been to that Uniqlo and not knowing where it was located I spent my lunch time on Wednesday playing scout (see my post in the Tokyo forum for more on my Gotanda experience there). We met at the appointed time and went straight to a LH. I was blown away when she got naked. 5 foot 4 inches / 120 pounds / perfect T&A. Says she works out 4 or 5 times a week.
In any case, she DOES IT ALL. When I mentioned banging her in the azz she said,"Only if I can suck you clean afterward." One hundred percent, she is an ATM gal. I asked could I take pictures and she said,"Pictures, movies, whatever, as long as we get to fuck." We banged for about three straight hours. She sucked me, rode me, tossed my salad, you name it. I plan on banging her for another three months or so, then I'll cut her loose. Please do not ask for her contact info until then. I've been told by my boss that I'll be taking over our office in the middle east (yep, kind of a promotion with much more moola but a crappy location) so I definitely will be giving her up when I depart Japan. Until then, I plan on making the best of this one.
Lurkingdog
02-17-13, 08:02
A few months back, prior to me getting sick before the holidays, I met a JP woman at Starbucks at Shibuya crossing. She's a 40 why / o single never been married type. She says she ONLY wants to sleep with married men. She repeatedly made that point quite clear and even asked to see a family photo from me. I finally closed the deal with her last Thursday, and man, what a freak! I e-mailed her on Wednesday and she recommended we meet in Gotanda at the Uniqlo on Thursday. I agreed. Having never been to that Uniqlo and not knowing where it was located I spent my lunch time on Wednesday playing scout (see my post in the Tokyo forum for more on my Gotanda experience there). We met at the appointed time and went straight to a LH. I was blown away when she got naked. 5 foot 4 inches / 120 pounds / perfect T&A. Says she works out 4 or 5 times a week.
In any case, she DOES IT ALL. When I mentioned banging her in the azz she said,"Only if I can suck you clean afterward." One hundred percent, she is an ATM gal. I asked could I take pictures and she said,"Pictures, movies, whatever, as long as we get to fuck." We banged for about three straight hours. She sucked me, rode me, tossed my salad, you name it. I plan on banging her for another three months or so, then I'll cut her loose. Please do not ask for her contact info until then. I've been told by my boss that I'll be taking over our office in the middle east (yep, kind of a promotion with much more moola but a crappy location) so I definitely will be giving her up when I depart Japan. Until then, I plan on making the best of this one.Taipan- good for you! Did you meet her through a dating site or did you just meet her in line with your Mocha Latte?
LD
Taipan- good for you! Did you meet her through a dating site or did you just meet her in line with your Mocha Latte?
LDMet her as I was getting a Frappucino. She was in line in front of me. When she received her order, I asked her (in English) what she got, because it looked good. As she started to speak I received my drink and asked would she like to share a table since the place looked to be busy.
Lurkingdog
02-17-13, 15:37
Met her as I was getting a Frappucino. She was in line in front of me. When she received her order, I asked her (in English) what she got, because it looked good. As she started to speak I received my drink and asked would she like to share a table since the place looked to be busy.Again. Good for you. I guess I need to hang out at Starbucks more often!
LD
Tokyo Knight
03-04-13, 23:57
I've been a long time lurker on the forums, mostly on the P4P side. Recently decided to try my hand at the nampa thing. Before I go into detail just wanted to thank all the contributors to this nampa thread as there was a lot of good advice on here. On to my story.
Due to the crappy economy in JP I decided to get a second job teaching English. One day the school I was teaching at decided to throw an International Party at one of their branches. They needed some staff to talk to the JP guests so I decided to join. Usually when I attend these types of social functions I usually go dressed in my clubbing gear; jeans and a relatively nice button up shirt. On this occasion though I didn't have time to go home and change so went directly to the event in my suit. I am glad I did as it helped me to stand out from the crowd. Most of the guys there were younger including the other male staff. Now, while we are not supposed to hand out private ino to the students I guess the rules don't strictly apply during the international party events. I saw one of the younger staff making his way around getting the contact info of many of the girls during the whole event. As for me, I was enjoying myself talking to the girls and other guests. As a staff member we usually have to go around make sure everyone is having fun and talk to guests. So there I was doing my "job" talking to everyone and getting them drinks I if they needed it and showing them around the place; when this one girl cute has heck and dressed rather nicely finally made her way to my circle.
While chatting her up and not ignoring the rest of the people in my conversation circle I noticed she started to get really friendly with me as the night went on. She started touching me more and hanging on to my arm. I stayed cool and just set the pace for my chat circle, even inviting other guys into the conversation. I basically tried to play the Alpha male role. I guessed it worked pretty good as towards the end of the night the girl was following me around. This worked to my favor as she eventually asked for my contact info. But it doesn't end there, another girl in the same circle also asked me for my info. I end upwith the cute girls info that I was eyeing all night and a younger girl's info. While the young guy earlier on was obviously hunting and being more aggressive at getting contact info I got two girls to voluntarily give me theirs.
Through out the night I dropped her a couple of text messages. After the event I met up with her and we had another drink. We were getting a little physical, so much so that some of the other patrons were looking at us. I wish I had more time but because I had to catch the last train I could not close the deal that night.
I texted her a couple of times after that night, and I was able to setup an afternoon lunch date with her on Saturday.
So as some of the more accomplished members here have suggested a nice suit and an alpha male personality goes a long way. I definitely stood out from many of the younger crowd there because of my suit. But hey it worked and I have no complaints.
Now my question to some of the more accomplished members on here is how do I transition from lunch to an LH?
-Apologies for the long story
Evan Stoner
03-05-13, 17:02
I would like to point out just how demoralizing it can be to spot a hot woman on the street and move in for the kill, only to detect those white ear buds and that mask.
Difficulty level immediately doubles.
I mean come on ladies, nampa is already tough enough. I'm up for a challenge but cut us poor bastards a break.
ES.
*NPD: [N]ampa [P]revention [D]evice aka iPods and surgical masks.
AussieGaigin
03-06-13, 02:55
Now my question to some of the more accomplished members on here is how do I transition from lunch to an LH?
-Apologies for the long storyGreat story, you have passed Nampa 101 with honours.
For Nampa 102:
Make sure you arrange the lunch date somewhere close to hotels, like around Shibuya.
(A few years ago when I organised some meets on line with girls, they often suggested to meet up there, I never realised the connection back in those days).
After the meal, suggest going for a walk and head in that general direction. It often helps to scout around in advance and find something you would like to go and see that involves (innocently) passing hotels, and suggest a visit. Nature will take its course from there.
Good luck.
I texted her a couple of times after that night, and I was able to setup an afternoon lunch date with her on Saturday.
Now my question to some of the more accomplished members on here is how do I transition from lunch to an LH?Don't think for a moment that I'm an accomplished member (well other than paying for it!) but, I've just read the book Succeeding with Women recommended by Taipan68 (?) and trying out it the advice there. They recommend:
+ first date is a scouting date (?) , at a safe place like afternoon cafe. You have fun chatting, set a time limit, and cut it off at 1 hour or so. Under no circumstance try to get physical. You entertain her, find out what she is like, and most importantly find out what she likes so you can set up the.
+ second date is the seduction date, romantic and lots of flirting, light contact, and open for sex that night.
Maybe you could skip that first date.
One mistake I made recently on the seduction date was not being in a place where we could touch easily, first was dinner, then a cafe. We had a great time but at both places we were sitting opposite each other with a table between. Get her to some sort of bar, or lounge, karaoke place where you can casually touch. Even a counter style restaurant yakitori or ramen where you are seated next to each other. A hand on her forearm, lean against her shoulder, touch her thigh. Keep it friendly and romantic. Touch and release. Show her something like photos on a your camera, smart phone, the menu, a magazine etc, so she can lean against you and look at it. By the sound of it she'll be climbing all over you after a bit of that. Make sure you know where the love hotels are! Good luck!
AussieGaigin
03-06-13, 11:50
Maybe you could skip that first date.Very few J girls seem to have read that book.
If you don't start the seduction bit on the first date, you may not get invited for a second.
T N seems to have covered the touchy, feely phase already, nothing more needed. Just be dominant and lead the girl where you want to go, don't ask her.
Very few J girls seem to have read that book.
If you don't start the seduction bit on the first date, you may not get invited for a second.
T N seems to have covered the touchy, feely phase already, nothing more needed. Just be dominant and lead the girl where you want to go, don't ask her.You seem to want to be argumentative rather than advance the topic so I'll just suggest you read the book.
AussieGaigin
03-06-13, 16:34
Not intending to be argumentative, sorry if it came across that way. Just passing on observations from some 30 years of chasing and catching J girls.
There's been a few recent exchanges from JapanG, AussieG, TokyoN, etc regarding pickup techniques and doing some pre-work. I can not emphasize enough how important my scouting work has served me. If you're on the prowl or making headway, you have to be prepared as much as you can for all contingencies.
Is this chica I'm with ready to go to a LH? Then I need to know where the LH's are and how quickest to get there. I need to know what the price ranges are and what are the average rest or stay timing options. Where's the closest drug store; convenience store; liquor store; sex shop (she really wants to play and likes to use toys) ; park (she only wants to chat playfully and it's a nice day out) etc. BTW, if a chica says to me she would like to sit or stroll through a park, catch a movie, or otherwise indicate she's not ready to go to a LH, I'll normally counter with a proposal to go to a karaoke box. Many times JP ladies will go for that and it gives you another opportunity to be with them privately.
I believe being prepared has saved me a lot of time, frustration, and led to me having more FS from women I've nampa'd.
About once every 5 or 6 weeks or so I'll spend a couple of hours walking around a specific area. I'll target one location such as Shibuya, Shinjuku, Hiroo, Gotanda, Ebisu, etc and look to see what's available in the way of my requirements or what I think a woman may suggest or want. I actually spend a couple of hours there when I'm scouting. I want to know where cafe's are located, what's the average price of a snack or meal and if any of the food tastes good. So yes, I sample some food as well so I can make suggestions on where and where not to eat. I stay focused. Scouting time is not my time to try and pick up that hot looking chica I see across the street (well maybe sometimes it is). I'm scouting for a purpose; this is going to be one of my playgrounds so I need to know my way around even if I have to sometimes fake it in front of the girl (as if it was my first time there).
Ultimately I want to demonstrate to the lady that I can make decisions and choices without hesitation. In other words,"Hey lady, I'm an alpha male and you WANT me to bang you."
Cougar Cookie
03-07-13, 13:33
how do I transition from lunch to an LH?Sounds like a LH session is a real probability. Unless she has to work, or has another appointment planned or she is having her period. Try and establish her schedule asap during lunch.
Just keep playing it cool. Projecting (acting out) the confident alpha male image. Don't threat over the transition issue or communicate to her that your horny and desperate. If she picks up from where you left off, keeps touching you or kisses you, and is dressed for Saturday night rather than Saturday lunch, then just her let her know you plan to eat her for dessert.
Have a Plan B lined up in case you crash and burn. As soon as you wave goodbye to this girl, you can then execute Plan B and Saturday afternoon won't be a complete blowout.
Meguro and Ebisu are good spots for LH dates. Not sleazy. Compact bar and restaurant areas with train station and LH's close by. Avoids the sleaze image that some women may have of Shibuya or Shinjuku.
Azure Knight
03-10-13, 02:43
As has been said, scouting work is crucial. Dates with Japanese girls / women depend on how well you can make and follow a script. If she's meeting you she's interested in you on some level. So just put down your gameplan and she'll follow your lead most of the time. There are always exceptions, of course.
So how do you transition from your lunch cafe / dinner restaurant or izakaya to a LH? There are two methods IMHO. The first is the cold run. Just go straight from where you meet up to the LH. This approach is more challenging but definitely do-able. It's crucial though that you build up some physical tension while there. So if possible try not to sit directly across from each other. Counter seating is great, or if you're at a cafe at least try to get a seat next to her instead of across. Across can be done, but again it's a challenge. Be friendly, flirty, playful. Don't be too aggressive but don't be shy either. Start touching her lightly, playfully, and if she doesn't object then gradually up the ante. In a public venue you're not going to get super touchy-feely, but usually if you can get extended touches / hand resting on a body part of hers for more than a few seconds, you're on the road to success. You can also steer the conversation in that direction. Make a joke about how everyone stares at you in the onsens or something. Lots of girls know what's up and if you give them the cue they'll run with it. I've had a few girls respond to the onsen thing with "Well, I'm curious myself about how big you are." I tell them I wouldn't mind showing them in person, and we're off to the LH.
As has been said, you'll want to plan the date near the LH area. No more than 10 minutes walk on foot. Try to avoid taking a taxi and definitely don't ride the train, as it's a major buzzkill. When you take her don't say you're going to a LH, just say "Let's go" and lead her there. For a first time you may get some resistance as you get there "Eh? What are we going to do here?" Just play it cool. Say you want to just hang out somewhere quiet. You don't even have to do anything. If she's going in with you she's probably DTF but sometimes she has to show you she's not that easy. Once you're inside all bets are off.
The second method is to use a transition area. Most J girls / women don't like PDA. And going straight to a LH with no sort of physical teasing beforehand can be too abrupt of a transition. So you go to a place with a degree of privacy but without the stigma of a LH. For example, karaoke, internet cafe, a restaurant with private seating, etc. Maybe you know some nice scenic spot where no one goes. Scope these places out beforehand. You can take her and there's no pretext of you trying to get in her pants. Example. "Hey, you want to watch this movie? I can access it from my Hulu account in a net cafe." Something like that. Once you're there you can start the physical escalation and push it beyond where you could in a public setting. If you can get to making out with light petting you're almost guaranteed a trip to the LH. Again don't say where you're going. Just stop and say "We should go" and lead her to one. She'll follow.
Meguro and Ebisu are good spots for LH dates. Not sleazy. Compact bar and restaurant areas with train station and LH's close by. Avoids the sleaze image that some women may have of Shibuya or Shinjuku.Excellent idea, thanks. I was surprised to discover LHs at Ebisu one day, but I didn't join the dots.
Cougar Cookie
03-10-13, 11:43
Excellent idea, thanks. I was surprised to discover LHs at Ebisu one day, but I didn't join the dots.There are also some LH's tucked away in Roppongi that could come in handy if your fishing in that pond. One place is close to Roppongi Hills. There is also an S&M themed placed by the Russian Embassy if your lucky enough to catch a weird fish. I like using the Shibuya and Shinjuku LH's for established FWB's. They tend to be cheaper and some are very comfortable. Almost like a holiday.
AussieGaigin
03-11-13, 01:31
During my most active nampa period of late 1980s to mid 1990s, there were a large number of books published on Japanese sexuality and the sex industry. Some of these covered the underlying social and moral attitudes towards sexual behaviour (excellent grounding for working your way into successful nampa) , some were dictionaries which explained the most appropriate terms to use in specific circumstances; knowledge of these phrases certainly scored points when chatting up girls.
Others covered the mizu shobai industry and its history, others were more specific guides to localities like Tokyo.
Are such books still readily available, obviously with more up to date specific information?
Haven't written an update here in a while, I thought I'd share a little.
A few notes before I start: I use mostly Tagged and Japan Cupid. I go for the "serious relationship" angle when looking for ladies. Age range is 18-45. Her marital status or nationality doesn't matter. They are mostly Japanese and the rest Filipinas.
There are currently about 10 girls I am "dating". By that I mean that I can call them just about anytime for a nice time in bed. This game is either feast or famine for me. There are times when I am busy or out of cash, or they are busy or on their period.
I'm in the middle of a rush right now, meeting with 3 girls just last week alone and possible 5 other girls in the next week and a half. The ladies below are "not" part of the ten I mentioned above.
FYI, I don't meet up with ladies who live / work around the US military bases or Roppongi. Don't ask why, thats just me. LOL!
Last week:
ChibaChubby (40s). Filipina from Tagged. Hadn't been touched in 5 years, according to her. I'm her first western guy. Met for lunch and an afternoon of fucking. Cute face, a little extra meat but not fat. Loves to have her natural mounds sucked, enjoyed the mustache ride, and gave me a fantastic rim job. Damn!
Couple days later:
ChibaBaby (Under 20). Filipina from Japan Cupid. Third date, first fuck. Within ten minutes of entering the LH, she was going down on my "junior". Seeing her baby face sucking on my schlong was such a turn-on that I came quickly. FUCK! I went over to shower and came back to bed. She had me hard again in no time. It was fun teaching her positions other than missionary.
Two days after that:
RedsGirl (30s). Filipina from Tagged. Again hasn't been with a man for about 6 years. She's using me as her blossoming into a new life after divorce. No problem with me. Says she wants to fulfill many fantasies. And she chose me to help her out. LOL! I told her "you're the boss" today since she was on her period. Well she fed me, bathed me, massaged me, gave me a longggggg blow job and rim job that had me begging for mercy. Damn I still get goosebumps remembering that.
This past weekend:
SweetGal (40s). Filipina from Tagged. No action for ten years, divorced. Nice slender body, former model as a teen. Pretty face. Met for lunch then karaoke. Made out like crazy. Has already promised to meet up for "special fun" on our next date.
This coming weekend I'm going out of town. On my way, I'll stop just outside Tokyo and meet:
Chairman (30s). Filipina from Tagged. Pub worker I'm meeting for third time and said she'd visit my hotel room for a few hours after work. Has a tight body, sexy as hell face and loves the lingerie. Yummy!
The next morning, I'll pack up and go to my next destination in Central Japan to meet:
BustyBaby (30s). Filipina from Japan Cupid. Been "dating" her for a year and a half. Pampers me like crazy and let's me play with her marvelous mammaries. Beautiful girl who has been #1 in sales at her night club for 10 years. She loves to be on top and always swallows. Yikes!
After a night of fun, I'll check out and say goodbye to meet another friend:
Dancer (30s). Post-op "new half" Filipina from Tagged. Gives a killer body and prostate massage and wonderful blow job. This "girl" will literally kiss me from head to toe and everywhere in between. I feel like a fucken king around her. And say what you want about plastic surgery and hormone treatment, but she looks absolutely fabulous!
Return to Tokyo and the next day meet:
PetsLover (40s). Filipina from Tagged. Another who hasn't been with anyone in over 5 years and never with a westerner. Former teen model who keeps in shape and loves to dress up. I've already hinted at her that we're going to "play" but she is acting innocent and naive and is asking about a dinner date. LOL!
The following day I'll meet SweetGal (from above) for our first sweet rendezvous.
I seriously need to take a break. Dunno if my junior can take it (as well as my wallet). And there are still 10-15 others who are waiting to "hook" up that I haven't met yet. What a problem to have. This is so easy. Good luck guys.
Cougar Cookie
03-14-13, 03:35
Haven't written an update here in a while, I thought I'd share a little.
A few notes before I start: I use mostly Tagged and Japan Cupid. I go for the "serious relationship" angle when looking for ladies. Age range is 18-45. Her marital status or nationality doesn't matter. They are mostly Japanese and the rest Filipinas.
I seriously need to take a break. Dunno if my junior can take it (as well as my wallet). And there are still 10-15 others who are waiting to "hook" up that I haven't met yet. What a problem to have. This is so easy. Good luck guys.JD,
Which is more productive, Tagged or Japan Cupid? Can you pick up chicks with a free account, or do you need to pay for membership to score?
The Flipper scene in Tokyo is very different to Hong Kong and Singapore. Do you have any intel on where Flippers party in Tokyo? Any Flipper discos or Sunday "Tea" dances like in HK and Singapore? See what intel you pump from your babes.
Cheers,
CC
JD,
Which is more productive, Tagged or Japan Cupid? Can you pick up chicks with a free account, or do you need to pay for membership to score?
The Flipper scene in Tokyo is very different to Hong Kong and Singapore. Do you have any intel on where Flippers party in Tokyo? Any Flipper discos or Sunday "Tea" dances like in HK and Singapore? See what intel you pump from your babes.
Cheers,
CCHey CC, well Tagged is free and it really is like shooting fish in a barrel. Many a time have I gotten a girl's number after 2-3 emails and met within a week or two. I take it easy and am not so aggressive. I don't talk sex or give too many compliments based on their photos. I've never spent more than 2000yen on a first date. And not over 5000yen on a second (4500yen of that is for the love hotel). So Tagged really is a godsend for getting pussy with little effort and cash. Most female members listed as being in Japan are Filipinas.
As for Japan Cupid, I paid for a 3-month membership and just saturate the site with emails to the best looking profiles in the Kanto area. 2000yen a month is a small price to pay for access to more women. Also, many women on there think you are cheap if they don't see you're at least a GOLD member. Also, the majority of women listed as being in Japan are in fact Japanese. There are a few Filipinas here. So you may have to work a little bit more to hook up.
Where do the "Flippers" (nice one) party? Most of the standard night club areas such as Roppongi, Shibuya and Shinjuku. You'll find some spots just outside central Tokyo such as Kinshicho, Kamata and Kawaguchi usually near Filipino restaurants and discos. And since the Filipinas love the servicemen, you can find them clubbing / working around the US bases by Yokosuka, Atsugi, Sagamihara and Fussa.
Just spent the day with a Japanese girl I met on tagged. Spent two evenings chatting, then she asked to meet me in Tokyo. She lives in Nagano so came quite a ways. Had a picnic in the park, then a couple beers and next to Karaoke with a bit of making out. After leaving the karaoke place she actually suggested the love hotel. Because of her last train we only had about an hour. All I can say is red thong and perfectly shaved pussy, was in heaven. Not sure if she does this frequently, but have no complaints. Wish there had been time for another round or two. Will definately meet again.
She told me that was the first time to use the site, but already deleted it because she was getting messages from a bunch of perverts. Was actually hoping to pull a Phillapina, but think this turned out much better without the potential drama.
Hiya, just an update on my adventures recently:
Chairman (30s). Filipina from Tagged. Snack (nightclub) worker in Kanagawa. She is actually in her mid 20s. Got my business hotel room nearby around midnight. Waited for her work to end and came to my room. She brought a bottle of champagne and some beer for me. Had my way with her all night. She was a tattoo model in years past and they looked sexy on her even though I usually get turned off by them. She loved my famous "lip massage" and oral. It was great fun but I was a zombie the next morning for lack of sleep. Total cost in yen: 7500 (transport and hotel)
And off to the Chubu area to meet BustyBaby (30s). Filipina from Japan Cupid. After napping in the Shinkansen and in the next hotel, she arrived in my room early evening for a nice GFE. Had a great makeout session followed by a long BJ and tittyfuck which ended with a great facial. She gobbed all my baby juice up. She brought some homemade adobo and caldereta for dinner. Damn that was good. Spent the rest of the night watching videos and fucking. Had a good long sleep and woke up the next morning to her nobbing on my cock again. Oh what a life. Total: 15000yen (transport and hotel)
She left early the next morning to pick up her kid from the sitter's while I stayed in bed until check out. I went to the apartment of Dancer (30s). Post-op "new half" Filipina from Tagged. Brought her some flowers and a box of chocolates (kissing ass for White Day) on the way. I was greeted by this 180cm goddess. She looks much for feminine and girly than most natural women. Long wavy hair, lovely post-op breasts, beautifully smooth skin and legs up to heaven. I got my shower, head to toe massage and mind-blowing blow job. By the end of that session, she had to get ready for work at a popular local "newhalf" club and I made my way to the Shinkansen to return to Tokyo. Total: 15000yen (transport and gifts)
On Tuesday, I was supposed to meet PetsLover (40s). Filipina from Tagged. However, the (female dog) cancelled and we "broke up". NEXT!
The following day I met SweetGal (from above) for our first sweet rendezvous. She kept her promise and wore a nice red negligee. Got my usual LH in Kabukicho. As soon as the door closed she gave be a big hug and deep kiss. I took her to the bed and started making out. Within minutes, she was reaching for my crotch. After unzipping me and stroking me for a bit, she started riding me. She wanted it badly and I can feel her twitch and scream out profanities in Tagalog as she was having orgasms. It's pretty funny. After a nice bath together and another round, we ended for the night and said goodbye. Total: 4500 (hotel and drinks)
Well, that's it for now. I'm going out of the country for a bit after next week. However, I have two ladies already lined up. On Saturday, BigSis, a 27-year-old Filipina I've been chasing for a year. And a few days later, RedsGirl once again for some fun ass play.
Cougar Cookie
03-22-13, 06:44
Signed up for Tagged, but not getting anywhere fast. Seems to be full of real Flippers and fake JPN or other Asians. I had a chat going with one "chick" who was trying to get me to be her partner at a Tokyo swing party but first I had to visit a porn site and register so she knew I was "safe". Pretty sure I was chatting to some fat guy in California rather than some JPN babe. So I am pretty suspicious of any profile that has pics of hot girls or makes any reference to swing parties or any chicks that seem to be into that "Pets" scam.
JD, how do you play TAG? Do you wink or go straight to message? Or do you sit quietly waiting for the Flippers to pounce? Do you play the "single" guy looking for "serious relationship". I assume most of these Flippers are married if they over 25, even if they say they are single, its complicated or open relationship.
I assume most of these Flippers are married if they over 25, even if they say they are single, its complicated or open relationship.In my experience many of the Philipina girls who are in Tagged and who really are in Japan are either divorced from their Japanese husband with a kid or married but bored out of their mind with a hubby that is working all the time.
I am consentrating on the latter group as I have no dreams of playing a dad or supporting a kid that is not mine.
Most of these ladies are there for romance and sex as they are not getting any at home so they are not too hard to please. Though I am still yet to find a keeper, but keeping on looking.
Backtobasics
03-24-13, 03:54
Very off-topic, but this article made me smile, and raise my eyebrows a few times.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2297928/Dating-games-Men-think-time-lucky--women-wont-consider-sleeping-fifth.html
Damn. Gentleman I have just discovered BADOO, the smartphone app for meeting local people. Yeah yeah I know I'm late in the game as I had heard about it before but never installed it, much less use it. I just got a new mobile last week and thought, what the heck, let's check it out. Within 15 minutes I was chatting up with a sexy cutie non-Asian who was staying just 20 minutes from where I was in Shinjuku. We ended up meeting the next day and already have plans for physical play next time she is in town.
I did a little searching last night and found a hottie 25-year-old from north Tokyo. Left a message and she replied this morning. Within 10 messages exchanged, I already have her number and date planned next week. This BADOO thing makes online flirting so freaken easy, and best of all. Its FREE! Oh yeah!
PS: I've had some PM's and messages regarding getting girls from Tagged. I'll try to do a write up soon. See ya then.
Lurkingdog
04-01-13, 09:14
I'm not sure if this belongs here or on the Tokyo Board but I thought I'd share. I had been frequenting Baan Manee, a Thai massage place in Tokyo which has a great oil massage and a satisfying happy ending. One of the last girls I had, Momo, was especially friendly at the last meeting and so I gently inquired if she might see me on her free time. She agreed and it took a few days to arrange but I met her at the train station and we went to my apartment. I fulled expected P4P with her but she didn't want to have sex, do oral or anything. I was a little disappointed but she did want to cuddle in bed and so we did that for a couple of hours and she gave me two incredibly satisfying HR. Then she got up and left to go to her work. A very satisfying morning.
Cougar Cookie
04-01-13, 12:32
I'm not sure if this belongs here or on the Tokyo Board but I thought I'd share. I had been frequenting Baan Manee, a Thai massage place in Tokyo which has a great oil massage and a satisfying happy ending. One of the last girls I had, Momo, was especially friendly at the last meeting and so I gently inquired if she might see me on her free time. She agreed and it took a few days to arrange but I met her at the train station and we went to my apartment. I fulled expected P4P with her but she didn't want to have sex, do oral or anything. I was a little disappointed but she did want to cuddle in bed and so we did that for a couple of hours and she gave me two incredibly satisfying HR. Then she got up and left to go to her work. A very satisfying morning.That is interesting. I wonder what she is up to? No sex seems a little odd. Did she think that was the first date? Or was she just curious to see your place? And to confirm there wasn't a Ms. Lurking Dog in the picture? Your next massage session should be interesting.
AussieGaigin
04-02-13, 12:26
That is interesting. I wonder what she is up to? No sex seems a little odd. Did she think that was the first date? Or was she just curious to see your place? And to confirm there wasn't a Ms. Lurking Dog in the picture? Your next massage session should be interesting.A SHE or a HE?
Lurkingdog
04-10-13, 02:57
A SHE or a HE?Definitely a SHE. I did get to feel up the goods a little during the cuddle. Thanks for asking, though.
LD
An interesting video on lonely women in Japan. Damn, they need a bar for these women to go, I mean bit more sophisticated than Roppongi.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cllO4KcdwLc
--Popper
Really Now
04-23-13, 19:51
Been searching for Love Hotels that have "high" western style beds, just to make the sex positions more fun. Let me know here or shoot a PM if you stumble into a room with one!
Hi there,
8pm already here. Wondering if anyone wants to hit Roppongi a little later. I'm guessing chances are better of picking up the locals if we each have a wingman.
PM me if interested
RunJumpSwim
06-14-13, 08:43
Been trying my luck online with Nampa, been lucky with messages. OKcupid is a desert, I only managed to arrange one meeting and the girl was a cute J-girl but really skittish. A few other dating sites have been successful for getting messages back though. Mostly J-girls wanting to practice English. Have two meetings tomorrow, one has a slight chance I think for LH. Going just for drinks then walk around a bit, taking advice from previous posts and going to "stumble" upon a LH and push to give it a try. We flirted a bit beforehand, if I can get her at least be a little touchy its a win in my book. I'll report back with results if anyone is still reading this thread!
My Japanese is pretty good so I can communicate, and once they figure that out they really let their guard down. (With J-girls thats always the hardest). I'm too nervous to randomly talk to them in English unless I'm at a club or something. Anyone have tips for getting past the friend barrier? A few girls with boyfriends have been interested in meeting but then say its strictly non-romantic date (why use dating sites then! Ugh).
Another frustration has been older wommen, I'm really young (early 20's) but have a thing for MILFs so I've been trolling around but usually when we get to the stage to meet its always "you're just too young for me." No idea how to counter that.
Couple questions for the married guys doing nampa. First, at what point do you let the girl know you're married, and second, do you have a second cell phone, or have you had success keeping all contact through email? Many thanks.
Been trying my luck online with Nampa, been lucky with messages. OKcupid is a desert, I only managed to arrange one meeting and the girl was a cute J-girl but really skittish. A few other dating sites have been successful for getting messages back though. Mostly J-girls wanting to practice English. Have two meetings tomorrow, one has a slight chance I think for LH. Going just for drinks then walk around a bit, taking advice from previous posts and going to "stumble" upon a LH and push to give it a try. We flirted a bit beforehand, if I can get her at least be a little touchy its a win in my book. I'll report back with results if anyone is still reading this thread!
My Japanese is pretty good so I can communicate, and once they figure that out they really let their guard down. (With J-girls thats always the hardest). I'm too nervous to randomly talk to them in English unless I'm at a club or something. Anyone have tips for getting past the friend barrier? A few girls with boyfriends have been interested in meeting but then say its strictly non-romantic date (why use dating sites then! Ugh).
Another frustration has been older wommen, I'm really young (early 20's) but have a thing for MILFs so I've been trolling around but usually when we get to the stage to meet its always "you're just too young for me." No idea how to counter that.Any updates on how your 2 meetings went?
For milfs, a lot of bars (HUB) are usually good spots to get some of the older audience. For younger ones, Starbucks is usually a good place but be prepared to be a bit bold as the younger ones tend to travel in packs.
RunJumpSwim
06-17-13, 04:07
Any updates on how your 2 meetings went?
For milfs, a lot of bars (HUB) are usually good spots to get some of the older audience. For younger ones, Starbucks is usually a good place but be prepared to be a bit bold as the younger ones tend to travel in packs.Kind of boring so I wasn't in a rush to post. First one got rescheduled to this week. I met the other one, we flirted for a bit and that was about as far as it got, she doesn't drink either. She wanted to practice some English too but we spoke Japanese the whole night. I've got her contact info at least so I'm going to push a little more on the next date. I set up a date with a girl in her mid 30's this weekend too and we're going out for drinks, hoping I get her to loosen up a bit and see where it leads. Practice makes perfect I suppose, its a whole different game than the states. I've got a dozen LINE IDs now and the more I talk with them the closer I can push for a meet up. Throwing a bunch of darts on the map at this point.
Is there a day of the week and time that's good to hit up HUB for older women? Do you think going in solo would be fine too?
Cougar Cookie
06-18-13, 01:29
Couple questions for the married guys doing nampa. First, at what point do you let the girl know you're married, and second, do you have a second cell phone, or have you had success keeping all contact through email? Many thanks.1. I am usually upfront on the married question. I miss out on some sex as a result, but the upside is I have a pool of FWB that know the score and genuinely like sex as a hobby / sport, rather than as a means to securing a BF or a hubby.
2. I don't have a second cell phone. That may raise questions. I try not to divulge my cell phone number, and try to communicate just by email. Not so convenient. But generally works if the plan is fixed in stone. Meet me at 6pm at exit B3. I haven't had to do it, but you could set a deadline. Games off, if one of us is not there by 6. 20pm. If you have a smart FWB that you trust and have a LTR, then you can consider giving her your number, with the proviso that she only sms you in response to your sms. So when you leave home, you can sms her and say. I am on the way will be there a 6. 10 pm, and she knows it is safe to call. But only disclose your number to someone who is someone you can trust, is smart, sensible and sees you as simply a monthly orgasm. (This answer assumes you don't have a smartphone with wifi access. Email only would be the way to go if you did)
I have a pool of FWB that know the score and genuinely like sex as a hobby / sport.Much obliged, CC. Good for you, and good to know they're out there!
Couple questions for the married guys doing nampa. First, at what point do you let the girl know you're married, and second, do you have a second cell phone, or have you had success keeping all contact through email? Many thanks.I only managed to score with tagged. On my profile it is a clear "married status" so whoever accepts my "friendship request and chat afterwards; knows the story from the start. I had a filipina a few weeks ago. Couple of hours of chat, then got a date. Thirty minutes in a pub a beer and a bite later. We moved on. 3 hours of sport. Total damage about 6k. The day later she turned funny. End of story.
On my profile it is a clear "married status" so whoever accepts my "friendship request and chat afterwards; knows the story from the start.Thanks Taratata.
RunJumpSwim
07-02-13, 12:55
After a few more weeks dates that I set up when I made up my last post are finally starting to pay off. I even managed to get a freshly graduated girl who lives on the outskirts of Tokyo to come and split the bill at a love hotel. The only thing I've noticed with J-girls is I can never outright ask for the hotel, every time its been on the walk back to the station.
I met a few older women too, one Chinese girl who looks easily early 30's but says she's 41 and very good when it comes to BJ. I can't believe Asians, I wish I aged like that!
Azure Knight
07-03-13, 01:41
tokyo peeps. any recommendations for a good dinner / lh plan in shibuya? for dinner i'm looking for a place that's kinda intimate. private seating, or at least somewhere where we could be seated side by side. lh anywhere that's reasonably close to the dinner venue and reasonably cheap. i don't know the shibuya area at all so any recommendations would be very much appreciated.
OsakaMonster
07-08-13, 06:36
A few questions for married guys using Tagged or just going to bars:
I understood that you guys are upfront placing the "married" status in Tagged. What about your picture? I have been trying Tagged without including my picture for 2 weeks and no luck at all! Including your picture in tagged wouldn't increase the chances of your missus or some friend of hers finding out?
Another question is about bars: Let's say you go to a bar. Probably you remove your wedding band before entering the place, but what if she asks "do you have a girlfriend?". How upfront are you guys and how far is it taking you? I have been trying to say that I am single, but then they ask for my phone number or phone mail, and I just don't know what to do.
I really wonder what pictures you guys are using in Tagged or in JapanCupid.
A few questions for married guys using Tagged or just going to bars:
I understood that you guys are upfront placing the "married" status in Tagged. What about your picture? I have been trying Tagged without including my picture for 2 weeks and no luck at all! Including your picture in tagged wouldn't increase the chances of your missus or some friend of hers finding out?
Another question is about bars: Let's say you go to a bar. Probably you remove your wedding band before entering the place, but what if she asks "do you have a girlfriend?". How upfront are you guys and how far is it taking you? I have been trying to say that I am single, but then they ask for my phone number or phone mail, and I just don't know what to do.
I really wonder what pictures you guys are using in Tagged or in JapanCupid.On Tagged, use your real photo. Make sure it's a pic of YOU in JAPAN. Women on Tagged have been getting wise to the schemes of scammers from England / USA (Really: Malaysia) posting fake pics of white men. Just let the girls know you really are in Japan. If they ask for more pics, see LINE below.
Also, I write relationship status as "single" always. Be the first one to ask about marital status. If she says,"never married" or "widowed", just say "divorced with child". If she says "married" or "separated" then answer the same as her. Always say you have a kid (even if you don't). And say that you see your kid often and fully support him / her / them. Women love a kind and responsible man and are more likely to "trust" you. And it will give you an excuse to get out of any situation in case things turn ugly with the girl. Oh, and have some pics with you and a child together.
If you remove your band but still have a band mark / tan line on your finger, say that you had recently divorced and have just started to not wear it any more. If they ask about a girlfriend, tell them you had a recent breakup (within a few months) and you just joined tagged because a friend suggested it to start meeting people again.
LINE by NAVER: If possible, download this app as almost all girls on Tagged that I've talked to are using it. Instead of giving out phone numbers, you can text and call each other and send pics as well. There is also VIBER which a lot of these girls have but I prefer LINE.
As for me, I've been laying low on Tagged lately. Lots of fake profiles now and female scammers on that site. JapanCupid is a bit better and larger selection of Japanese ladies as opposed to the Filipinas on Tagged.
OsakaMonster
07-09-13, 06:40
Jpn Dude, thanks for the reply. Really appreciated!
So you really put your picture, huh? The same thing for JapanCupid? Aren't you afraid that someday your missus will say "my girlfriend found you on JapanCupid!"
I have a JapanCupid account but I was afraid of paying the 3500 yen because it sounded like scam to me. All those girls on that homepage really exist or they are dudes on a different country? Are they interested in having the casual sex thing or they are looking for the prince in the shinning armor?
If this thing is really good, I might try one month of JapanCupid with my picture there to try and make as many contacts as possible, and then stop paying. Japanese of Filipina. As long as they are not fat and ugly, all the same to me.
Cougar Cookie
07-09-13, 08:36
A few questions for married guys using Tagged or just going to bars:
I understood that you guys are upfront placing the "married" status in Tagged. What about your picture? I have been trying Tagged without including my picture for 2 weeks and no luck at all! Including your picture in tagged wouldn't increase the chances of your missus or some friend of hers finding out?
Another question is about bars: Let's say you go to a bar. Probably you remove your wedding band before entering the place, but what if she asks "do you have a girlfriend?". How upfront are you guys and how far is it taking you? I have been trying to say that I am single, but then they ask for my phone number or phone mail, and I just don't know what to do.
I really wonder what pictures you guys are using in Tagged or in JapanCupid.1. IMHO Tagged and JapanCupid are a waste of time. Japanese girls looking for a casual relationship are not visiting these English language dating sites in great numbers. It is a very low percentage game.
2. If you continue using them, then your prospects of getting laid will increase if you tell a pack of lies and post your photo. But what is the fun in that? And do you want your wife or friends / family to see your pic? I never put my pic up on the internet.
3. I think the best strategy, is to disclose that your married, looking for a married woman in the same situation as you, no pic, fake name, email communication only. And then, don't waste too much time fishing online. It is not an effective use of your time. You will deal with plenty of fakes and flakes. I have tested these sites for over two years.
4. Re bars, I never wear a wedding ring anywhere. But if someone asks me, then I tell them I am married. If they don't ask, then I don't tell. My targets are married women who are looking for something on the side, or single women looking for immediate one night stands or FWBs. Single women looking for a BF, hubby or relationship are just too complicated and not worth the effort or lies or the risks. I don't subscribe to the typical gaijin strategy of collecting numbers and shagging them next week.
5. IMHO bars represent a better return on your time investment. Normal well adjusted JPN chicks go to "gaijin bars" on Friday and Saturday nights looking to for a gaijin BF or sex with a gaijin. The rules of the game are much more simple than internet dating. Many of those chicks will be looking for BF / Husbands, but not all of them, and those of the ones you have to seek out. If your a regular at certain bars, other regular chicks will get to know you and get interested in your personality, and feel a greater level of trust and respect. Makes it easier to remove panties down the track when a girl has an itch that needs to be scratched, and her rules, values and morals are suspended for several hours.
1. IMHO Tagged and JapanCupid are a waste of time. Japanese girls looking for a casual relationship are not visiting these English language dating sites in great numbers. It is a very low percentage game.
2. If you continue using them, then your prospects of getting laid will increase if you tell a pack of lies and post your photo. But what is the fun in that? And do you want your wife or friends / family to see your pic? I never put my pic up on the internet.
3. I think the best strategy, is to disclose that your married, looking for a married woman in the same situation as you, no pic, fake name, email communication only. And then, don't waste too much time fishing online. It is not an effective use of your time. You will deal with plenty of fakes and flakes. I have tested these sites for over two years.
4. Re bars, I never wear a wedding ring anywhere. But if someone asks me, then I tell them I am married. If they don't ask, then I don't tell. My targets are married women who are looking for something on the side, or single women looking for immediate one night stands or FWBs. Single women looking for a BF, hubby or relationship are just too complicated and not worth the effort or lies or the risks. I don't subscribe to the typical gaijin strategy of collecting numbers and shagging them next week.
5. IMHO bars represent a better return on your time investment. Normal well adjusted JPN chicks go to "gaijin bars" on Friday and Saturday nights looking to for a gaijin BF or sex with a gaijin. The rules of the game are much more simple than internet dating. Many of those chicks will be looking for BF / Husbands, but not all of them, and those of the ones you have to seek out. If your a regular at certain bars, other regular chicks will get to know you and get interested in your personality, and feel a greater level of trust and respect. Makes it easier to remove panties down the track when a girl has an itch that needs to be scratched, and her rules, values and morals are suspended for several hours.To each their own. Online dating has its pluses and minuses just like any other way of getting girls. Hanging out in gaijin bars isn't for everyone.
OsakaMonster
07-10-13, 02:31
Cougar cookie and Jpn Dude, thank you for the insights.
I believe I would go with Cougarcookie opinion. So far I have been having better luck on bars than online. My problem on the face-to-face talk has been about how to approach:
Do you guys approach in english and switch to japanese, just Japanese or just English? As I said before, my Japanese game is really weak.
Do you guys go solo or with a wingman? I have been having a great deal of trouble approaching groups of ladies (which is 95% of the cases. I have never seen a girl alone in the bar, only in movies!)
Some girls come up with some crazy idea of saying "I'm thirsty and I wanted a drink" thinking that I would pay a beer for her in the beginning of the talk. No way I am paying drinks for girls I just met. After a 15 minutes talk, maybe. What about you guys?
Thanks for all the information! You guys are helping me upgrade my software!
Cougar Cookie
07-12-13, 07:35
Cougar cookie and Jpn Dude, thank you for the insights.
I believe I would go with Cougarcookie opinion. So far I have been having better luck on bars than online. My problem on the face-to-face talk has been about how to approach:
Do you guys approach in english and switch to japanese, just Japanese or just English? As I said before, my Japanese game is really weak.
Do you guys go solo or with a wingman? I have been having a great deal of trouble approaching groups of ladies (which is 95% of the cases. I have never seen a girl alone in the bar, only in movies!)
Some girls come up with some crazy idea of saying "I'm thirsty and I wanted a drink" thinking that I would pay a beer for her in the beginning of the talk. No way I am paying drinks for girls I just met. After a 15 minutes talk, maybe. What about you guys?
Thanks for all the information! You guys are helping me upgrade my software!Here is my 2 cents worth. But read with the caveat that I am no stud or pick up artist.
I am not saying give up on the online dating. I use online dating and score. Just protect your identity and don't waste too much time sitting at your computer. Be the "fish" rather the "fisherman". Just check in once a week to see if anyone has tried to hook you.
Re bars: I don't think you can be to scientific or analytical about picking up chicks. You have just got to keep putting yourself out there, and try to put yourself in the right place at the right time. Your age, personality, nationality, ethnic background and language skills will all be relevant to your approach and importantly where you go hunting. Unless your a stud that is irrestable to women, try and think about the women that want to shag you, rather the women you want to shag. Then figure out where these women will go to hunt you down, and when they will be going there.
Solo or wingman, it doesn't really matter to me. Certainly in terms of having fun in the bar and meeting girls, it easier when you have a wingman. But I shag more when I go solo. Maybe because I am more focused and reading the bar, and maybe it is because I like to "work" in private. My JPN is limited, so I communicate in English. And the girls that are "hunting" me expect to speak English. Avoid any chicks that ask for drinks or expect you to pay for drinks. Don't hesitate to buy a girl a drink though if she seems real and genuine, and is not looking to sponge off you.
Re approaching groups, try these small standing bars where you don't have to really approach anyone. Conversations start naturally with the people next to you. Approaching two girls can work, if one or both are hunting sex. Not all girlfriends are cock blockers. I approached two girls in a pub several months ago. One very cute and fit, the other cute and chubby. My assessment was that the chubby chick should be my target. They were close to leaving the bar and moving onto Roppongi, then all of a sudden the chubby chick decided to call it a night. The slim girl and I then went to another bar and then to a love hotel. Clearly, those chicks had a plan to get laid and the chubby chick was doing her friend a favor. They had made their pact before leaving home. The key in approaching a girl or a group, is to quickly sus out if they are up for a shag and have any interest in you. Are you their target?
Hope some of this helps. But just relax, have fun and understand that going home alone is part of the game. Everyone crashes and burns regularly.
i recently had two wtf moments with ladies i've met online.
first is the doh! moment. on japancupid earlier this year i met a 40-year-old filipina and had a few fun encounters until she started to get serious. i decided to quietly drift away and move on to greener pastures. i began using skout in may and just recently met a cute, genki filipina in her early 20s. after a playful date, she started inviting me over to her pad and we've been having fun ever since. until last week when she texted me with,"did you fuck my mother?" then she sent me a picture of her mama. doh! let's just say it's time to move on again. lol!
next, the yikes moment was with a japanese gal in her mid 40s from japancupid. she's a "big boned", busty girl with a nice ass and a homely but cute face. we had a karaoke date and she gave me a nice blow job and titty-fuck. i later started doing some house visits until the contact dried up. well, last week i was perusing a japanese porn site and who do i see? that same girl doing "juku" videos! i just sat their speechless. did some checking up on her and she has at least 20-30 clips out there. yikes!
AussieGaigin
08-22-13, 12:55
I recently had two WTF moments with ladies I've met online.
First is the DOH! Moment. On JapanCupid earlier this year I met a 40-year-old Filipina and had a few fun encounters until she started to get serious. I decided to quietly drift away and move on to greener pastures. I began using Skout in May and just recently met a cute, genki Filipina in her early 20s. After a playful date, she started inviting me over to her pad and we've been having fun ever since. Until last week when she texted me with,"Did you fuck my mother?" Then she sent me a picture of her mama. DOH! Let's just say it's time to move on again. LOL!Maybe they could line you up for a double?
Could anyone recommend me hotels (preferably 2-3 stars) that are near these night life locations?
Let's say you get to hook up with a local in the clubs / pubs, a 15 minute taxi ride back to your hotel would probably kill the mood. How do you guys do it?
Does anyone know of good hotels around clubs / pubs? The last thing I want to have after getting a girl from the club is to take a taxi back to my hotel which would have already destroyed the mood by the time we reach back.
AussieGaigin
09-04-13, 03:01
Could anyone recommend me hotels (preferably 2-3 stars) that are near these night life locations?
Let's say you get to hook up with a local in the clubs / pubs, a 15 minute taxi ride back to your hotel would probably kill the mood. How do you guys do it?What a useless question when you don't specify what areas / clubs you are talking about.
Why don't you just do a bit of scouting around the selected area before you start out.
Anyway, if you can't "entertain" a girl in the back of a cab for 15 minutes, what hope have you got for the rest of the evening?
Bro, why the hate? I'm just asking a question and there's no need for hostility towards it.
Why I'm asking this is because I have not been to Japan before, only tried the flirting scene in Malaysia and Thailand.
What a useless question when you don't specify what areas / clubs you are talking about.
Why don't you just do a bit of scouting around the selected area before you start out.
Anyway, if you can't "entertain" a girl in the back of a cab for 15 minutes, what hope have you got for the rest of the evening?
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