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Hutsori
05-08-16, 19:39
Does "RTFF" cause you to panic?

Are you suffering from a PTSD because someone oppressively talked over your question?

Have you cancelled your Philippine holiday because uncertainly and doubt entered your mind, darkened your soul, and left you even more oppressed than you previously were?

Fear not friend, this is a safe space for you where a diverse group from an inclusive, tolerant community will soothe away your anxieties in a respectful, diverse, and inclusive kind of way.

Trigger warning. Rules (by which the privileged oppress the marginalised).

1) No question in compliance with ISG's rules is off limits.

2) Senior members are preferred. Yes marginalised regular member, no matter how much we detest the entrenched hierarchy of privilege, we have to face the reality that oppression hasn't been defeated yet.

3) There's no guarantee your question will be answered. Nevertheless, we cherish your voice and your right to be heard. You and your questions are celebrated.

4) If you're from a historically under represented group, please say so in your comment so we can take extra care to not talk over you.

5) If you answer a question, "RTFF" and its derivatives such as "use search" are strictly forbidden. Intolerance shall not be tolerated. Comments containing these, or dog whistles, shall be edited or deleted.

Dg8787
05-20-16, 04:53
Need someone to start it. Here we go!

Hello, I am coming to Philippines and need to know how to find some girls?

Hutsori
05-21-16, 04:11
Need someone to start it. Here we go!

Hello, I am coming to Philippines and need to know how to find some girls?Welcome, friend!

You may visit bars and nightclubs. I think you will enjoy Amazonia in Manila.

You may enjoy mall wandering and seducing the women. Many people go to the malls in Makati, and in Manila Harrison Plaza and Robinsons are good for the wandering. For best success go to a mall where few foreigners go such as Isetaan Department Store or Gateway Mall in Quezon City.

You may engage in conversation with women in public transport, such as a jeep, bus, and MRT.

You may use social media too.

Enjoy!

Da Monger
07-13-16, 04:40
Hustori. Thanks for the safe space. Please consider this as part venting, part question. I am not new to mongering. Been to CR and Medellin few times and also to FKK. I wanted something different for this trip and thought of heading over to Philippines, so started RTFF to decide if manila or AC is a good fit for me. However, after 100 pages of reading, half the posts are general bickering or how AC has gone downhill or why Thailand is better. Granted this is expected and I have seen this with CR vs DR vs Medellin as well but nothing to this level.

I really don't feel like I have got a good handle of the situation. And I guess the only way to find out is me heading down there to find out myself. Any advice on how to increase my chances of having a good time? I really enjoy the GFE types but don't have the time to hit the bars and play the long game either. Any pool of talent that I can tap into that will help me with the GFE types? Planning to be there from July 23-28.

also i am Indian - just putting it out there in case my ethnicity can affect my experiences or possibly help with my decision.

Hutsori
07-13-16, 08:42
I wanted something different for this trip and thought of heading over to Philippines, so started RTFF to decide if manila or AC is a good fit for me. However, after 100 pages of reading, half the posts are general bickering or how AC has gone downhill or why Thailand is better. Granted this is expected and I have seen this with CR vs DR vs Medellin as well but nothing to this level.
Welcome, friend!

Yes, AC arouses passions in more ways than one.

I'm mixed about the place. Girls listlessly dancing on stage, most of them are average looking, yada yada. It's strength is it's easy. You don't have to put in much work other than getting out bed and leaving your hotel. The same is true for Pattaya and the red light districts in Bangkok and elsewhere in the country. The amount of time you spend in bars comes down to your pickiness and decisiveness.

When a person asks for a recommendation between the Pattaya and AC, I recommend the former. More girls, better food, a nicer environment, etc. Thai girls are more expensive than AC, but there are better deals to be had with very cheap accommodation in Pattaya. You don't mention a budget, so I presume money isn't a concern. I prefer the Philippines because of the dating sites, but I recognise blokes coming for a week may not have the motivation to spend time dealing with that.


I really don't feel like I have got a good handle of the situation. And I guess the only way to find out is me heading down there to find out myself. Yes, absolutely true.


Any advice on how to increase my chances of having a good time? I really enjoy the GFE types but don't have the time to hit the bars and play the long game either. Any pool of talent that I can tap into that will help me with the GFE types? Planning to be there from July 23-28.I appears to me that you've defined "good time" as a "GFE". The Philippines wins that one. Now, a GFE is less likely with a bar girl than a regular girl. Night after night working at a bar with all types of fellas looking to shoot their loads in your face will wear on anyone, even the happiest knob gobbler; even you don't want to spend a lot of time in the bars. I don't know how you define "long game", but working the dating sites, where one has the best chance at GFE, takes time and effort. I meet a lot of girls who are happy to come to my place after a few messages, and other girls take more time, up to weeks of conversation, before they decide to come over for a shag. Each girl is an individual with her own wants, bias, etc. For me, the most important thing is for the girl to know at the start I'm looking for a FWB situation; this reduces time wastage a lot.


also i am Indian - just putting it out there in case my ethnicity can affect my experiences or possibly help with my decision.In AC the top dogs are the Koreans, and this is even true at LA Cafe in Manila. But plenty of fellas of all races visit and find partners. Certainly being attractive helps, but being friendly, fun, and a good conversationalist count too. A lot of girls are turned off by rude, arrogant guys. Girls with fewer options have to put up with more to get paid. Attractive women on dating sites and in bars have plenty of fellas huffing and puffing after them, so they have their options; they may even have an overseas sponsor or two sending money each month. If normal women anywhere you visit aren't repelled by you and keen to escape, then you're doing OK.

Da Monger
07-13-16, 19:26
In AC the top dogs are the Koreans, and this is even true at LA Cafe in Manila. But plenty of fellas of all races visit and find partners. Certainly being attractive helps, but being friendly, fun, and a good conversationalist count too. A lot of girls are turned off by rude, arrogant guys. Girls with fewer options have to put up with more to get paid. Attractive women on dating sites and in bars have plenty of fellas huffing and puffing after them, so they have their options; they may even have an overseas sponsor or two sending money each month. If normal women anywhere you visit aren't repelled by you and keen to escape, then you're doing OK.Thank you. That helps. Money is part of the consideration not the only one and I am happy to pay as long as there is value. Sorry if I did not make it clear, I have my heart set on Philippines, its just a matter of Manila vs AC. I will sign up for PL and look around.

RustyIsReady
07-31-16, 00:03
What are your thoughts on finding girls in Duma? I have read that board and it seems one person says it is great and the other not good. So just checking?

Hutsori
07-31-16, 13:35
What are your thoughts on finding girls in Duma? I have read that board and it seems one person says it is great and the other not good. So just checking?My visit there was a few years ago, so this is a stale experience. Being a small city it isn't a great as Manila. I visited a male expat friend living there, and through him and his girls met a few women. I met a few girls on DIA and other sites, too. There's one bar and a few shanties near the port, and no reason to see those again. Most of the expats I saw there are older fellas, so if you're young that'll differentiate you from the group.

The major difference between Duma and Manila is anonymity, or at least the perception of it. Girls can move around more freely in the big city. In a small city, where I reckon most the people are locals, the girl is walking around people who see her day after day, and moving out of the areas where she's at most of the time it's more likely she'll bump into those who know her. It's a more constraining society, where creating the distance were a girl doesn't feel eyes following her is more difficult to achieve. Remember, you leave. She has to deal with it day after day. Duma has a uni, but here again it's a small community, and girls have morals codes to deal with as well any gossip from fellow students. It's not a pick up scene.

Amavida
08-02-16, 04:45
Thank you. That helps. Money is part of the consideration not the only one and I am happy to pay as long as there is value. Sorry if I did not make it clear, I have my heart set on Philippines, its just a matter of Manila vs AC. I will sign up for PL and look around.Hi DM, sorry for barging into your conversation. Just wanted to throw in a couple of thoughts. If you're coming for 5 days then book yourself into a top shelf Hotel in Makati & work the dating sites (let them know you are in Makati). If you get bored you can always do an overnight run to AC to check out the bars there but Manila has arguably the highest number of available women of all kinds in my opinion & some touristy stuff to do also. Manila has bars if you hit a dry run. "Friday's" bar on Burgos street has always been good to me for outrageous (PAID) cavorting. Cebu is another very nice option being near beaches and generally less yuck than big dirty crowded Manila. Cebu Bars are pricey & more Korean focused. Overall for a first time I'd recommend book into a swanky hotel in Makati & work your way through the conga line of Dating site girls who show up. Bring Viagra.

AV.

Sky Ryder
08-02-16, 05:55
At least this way, if you don't want to put up with questions you feel require a RTFF reply, you don't have to read the questions. Good idea!