Once a Biter Always a Biter
[QUOTE=Hatguy; 1189547]My current Filippina GF has an annoying habit of biting when we are kissing. I have told her lots of times that I don't like it. Any similar experiences guys? Or is it her stupid habit only?
To flesh this out a bit: we are dfk and she starts doing it. Sure. Maybe she doesn't like kissing. I wish she would just tell me rather than doing the biting thing. I like her but it is starting to really [url=http://isgprohibitedwords.info?CodeWord=CodeWord140][CodeWord140][/url] me off.[/QUOTE]Hey, Hatguy;
I have experienced two Chinese gf and at least one Filipina gf that were biters. No matter how much I told them to stop biting, they would not. It's just what they did when they were sexually turned on, so asking them to stop biting is the same as asking them not to get turned on. In all cases I got tired of the discomfort and the tell-tale bite marks, the latter not being good for the next girl to see, or worse yet if your wife of fulltime gf sees the marks and starts to ask questions.
Long story short, once a biter always a biter.
Raz
Spatial oblivion vs. Western "efficiency"
[QUOTE=Devils 1;1192724]Once we hit the ground floor they kind of sleepwalked to the front door of the bldg, side by side so I couldn't walk around them. Once they reached the front door they all stopped in front of it, shoulder to shoulder, dropped their bags and started looking for something. It created it a huge backlog of people both outside and inside the door. I walked right next to them and said excuse me in a loud voice, they all looked up startled like they couldn't believe there was any one else on the planet who needed to use the front door.[/QUOTE]When I'm at my most frustrated with these behaviors I just characterize them as a sort of spatial oblivion. It's like they're unaware of anybody else's reasonable movement needs. Obviously the same phenomenon gets acted out on the streets of Metro Manila every day. All of the idiotic lane changes, lane straddling, and cutting each other off on EDSA and elsewhere end up creating a continuous expanding and contracting accordion effect that slows everybody down in the long run. And of course they compound the problem with endless and pointless blasts of their vehicle horns.
But I think that Filipinos are simply accustomed to tighter spatial orientation as compared especially to Americans, Canadians, and Australians, as we take for granted the luxury of being able to stretch out. Filipinos accept the crowded circumstances as an unavoidable consequence of living in the densely populated Metro Manila area. Obviously there's also some inexplicable political / cultural aspect to the problem, however, since some densely populated East Asian countries seem to have created much more orderly traffic systems-although their human-to-human spacing and movement patterns in shopping malls, train stations and the like are not unlike the Philippines.
Speaking from the American experience, however, it could be argued that our "don't fence me in" mentality has led to an equally idiotic problem with "urban sprawl." We've become so dependent on private automobiles that we end up with stores, malls, and eateries spread out all over hell's half acre. As fossil fuels become increasing scarce and costly-and contribute inexorably to global climate change-we are going to be facing major headaches in trying to build mass transportation systems and replace our sprawled out commercial infrastructure.
I had an interesting conversation yesterday with a young American woman who had just returned to grad school after three months in rural Nicaragua. She said she'd had to leave home an hour and a half early to drive to class, although she lived only about two miles from campus. The problems: traffic and parking congestion, inconvenient public transportation, and big classes packed into limited space and having to start and finish right on time in order to accommodate classes on either side that need the same classroom space. She found herself wanting to return immediately to Nicaragua, where she lived a much simpler life, simpler diet, no eating out and rare shopping trips, travel by foot or bus to the few places she needed to get to, and getting things done on a leisurely daily schedule. Others might not agree with her priorities, but her experience does beg the question of the relative merits of an efficiency- and instrumentally-focused Western lifestyle versus the laid back Philippine (and especially Philippine provincial) lifestyle.
BTW, the sleepwalking characterization may be right on. I have seen so many Filipinos sleeping on buses and in the LRT that I have surmised that many of them are seriously sleep-deprived.