The 10 basic rules that could take you from being 'that guy' to 'his guy'.
The 10 basic rules that could take you from being 'that guy' to 'his guy'.
1. Leave the man jewelry at home. Men like Kodja don't like to be out-scented or accessorized.
2. Be Honest
Do tell someone if you are not interested in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don't want to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible way you can.
3. Be Creative
Men like Kodja like men who think outside the box. So spice up that profile of yours. Put in a funny quirk about yourself or a quote from your favorite relative. No novels, please. They want to get some idea who you are, not read 'War and Peace.' Once you've set your date, be sure to make a plan. Take it up a notch up from coffee. Some good date ideas are a picnic in the park, a day at a local art fair, or a sporting event.
4. Humor is Hot
Though the number-one thing a guy like Kodja desires in a guy is a sense of humor, they're not looking for Josh, Jokester. Men like Kodja want someone light-hearted whom they can enjoy being around. A man who can laugh at himself is very sexy, so don't take yourself so seriously. And please please do not quote Seinfeld. They know that it's your favorite show, but if they want to re-visit the "Contest" episode, they'll buy the DVD.
5. Dress to Impress
Guys like Kodja put an effort into getting ready for you. You should do the same. You don't have to look like you stepped off the runways of Milan, but be aware of what's in style. Acid-washed jeans are never a good idea unless you're a drummer in a hair metal band. The sock less thing may have worked for Don Johnson, but times have changed. Finally, leave the Drakkar and man jewelry at home. Men like Kodja don't like to be out-scented or accessorized.
6. Have Game
Be confident, make eye contact. A man who looks at the ground shows insecurity. Keep the conversation about yourself to a minimum. Ask questions about your date. Be complimentary, but don't overdo it. Conversation topics like "How many dates I've had this week" or "How I spent five grand on my new plasma TV" are not attractive. Don't flirt with the waiter. If you have a wandering eye and they catch you in the act, it's best to fake a seizure.
7. Mind Your Manners
Please be on time and if you're going to be late, just call. Open the car door for him. Pull his seat out. Turn your cell phone off. If you are meeting him somewhere, offer to pay for his valet. If you are driving him home, walk him to the door. Most importantly, if it's your first date, GRAB THE CHECK. Most men like Kodja today will offer to pay, but they are just testing you. Make sure you get an A+.
8. Be Interesting
Never be too available. Being available every night of the week and at the end of every whimsical phone call or possible rendezvous means you are making yourself uninteresting and a possible doormat. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting.
9. No Eager Beavers
They're looking for a man, not a stalker. Court the guy, be attentive, but try not to overstay your welcome. There is nothing worse than the man who won't go away. It's like getting up at the curtain of a bad musical, only to find out there are three more acts left.
10. People love Enigma
Don't give away too much about yourself at the start. People love enigma and mystery. Revealing to your new date your inner most secrets on date number two will quickly ruin everything. A small bit at a time people.