the flip side of limited responsibility
[QUOTE=Sxmperson101]Anyway, I don't know if I can do this shit anymore, at least not in this regard. I can still go and find a random chica and fuck her when I need to get a nut off, but I don't think I can do the thing anymore where you stick with 1 chica and do the stuff like Zing does, to get a GFE, etc.
[/QUOTE]When you pay a girl to have sex with you, you don't have to worry about being turned down, you don't have to worry about her pleasure (if you don't want to), and primarily you don't have to deal with the complications that can always develop after sex, especially repeated sex (expectations, responsibilities, committments that later turn out to be ill-advised, etc.).
The flip side of that bargain is that she has sex with anyone who has $40, she will usually tell you exactly what you want to hear (even if it isn't precisely truthful), you can never be 100% certain that she is enjoying the sex at all, and you can't easily develop a true romantic relationship with her.
There is a strong element of fantasy - the girl pretends to love you and to want you, and you pretend to be her boyfriend (which may help her deal with her job).
Natalia knew that you were living in a fantasy - that is why when you discovered her planning an all-night gang bang, she was desperate to make you understand, to re-instate the fantasy. but first and foremost, she is in SXM to do a job, and to make as much money as possible for something that she thinks is important.
When I have a good time with a girl, I thank her for coming to St Maarten, for putting up with men who are sometimes rough, smelly and possibly dangerous. Enduring all of that, so that she can be here to make me happy. That lets her know that I understand and accept her job, that I am not living in a total fantasy, but that I think she is special and worthwhile and wouldn't mind a little fantasy.
When I am interested in being friends with one of the girls, which I started to think about after about 6 months of this mongering experience, I came to the conclusion that I should aim for small accomplishments. For example, taking her for a walk on the beach or the boardwalk during her free time, no multa, no sex, just shared experiences. Not aiming for a free TLN.
Perhaps I am lucky in that my personal circumstances eliminate most possibiliies for TLN - if I had 15 hours straight with a chica I might lose track of the reality of the situation.
-zing
Its a bit different for me--
You see,when I start out on a mongering expedition I am going gangbusters. By the end of the trip, it is not much fun for me not because I have developed any real feelings for these girls, but because of a kind of self loathing that I begin to feel about a week in. I don't do TLN with these girls and absolutely make sure that I don't develop an attachment to them. I do this because I am a believer that these girls are here for the buck, and so why get entangled. But this detachment probably contributes to how disgusted I get with myself after about a week of mongering.
Of course, that disgust is not nearly enough to keep me from participating, which what I did the past two weeks. I frequented Carolinas and Seamans. I stopped into Casa Blanca once, and looked repeatedly for Defiance but could not find it in the dark.
I wholeheartedly agree with the quality at Carolinas. Probably the hottest girl there in my estimation was tall Vanessa. Beautiful face--about 5'10'', slim--HOT. I went with her a total of three times. She has a kid, and there is absolutely no sign of it on her body. Not the greatest kisser, but she had what I consider to be one of those shallow glove pussies. The kind that just hug your stuff, and you definitely hit bottom--not at all common for me! She was a bit manipulative, but I just couldn't get enough of the body.. Also had a threesome with Carolina and Laura--roommates. Laura was the only one of the troop that did bbbj unsolicited, and even allowed cim. So don't kiss her. Also went with Tatiana--very short, cute face, nice girl. Childbirth was a little less kind to her. And I think a girl named Paulina. Super pretty face, perky little nose, big fake boobs. Decent performer.
One thing I did notice with every single one of these girls is they make a beeline straight for your nipples. Is this a brothel trick, or do all the Colombian girls do this?
I spent a bit of time in Seamans as well. Most memorable was a little blond girl from Trinidad. I started talking Spanish to her and she looked at me like I was retarded and told me she speaks English. My bad. She has the oriental tats down her right arm. I think they say 'High Maintenance.' She was aware of the nipple sucking propensity of her colleagues, and actually wiped mine clean in case one of her friends had got to them before she could. Dainty. She was singing 70's mellow rock to me in somewhat broken english the entire time she rode me. It was pretty hot.
I also had a nice time with Marcella--really a good performer who understood the importance of a good dramatic showing while giving a cbj. Valentina was another very pretty Colombian.
I think comparing Seamans to Carolinas is a push, but Carolinas was a little more upbeat.
Anyways, it was a fine trip. Not necessarily a mongering destination as rife with possibility as Rio, but it holds its own. I will be back.