My spinner is she for real or just working. Aka mexican pen pal
Well back in Tijuana after my "Mexican penpal" AKA fake GF begged me to come back for a week since I was last there in Feb. She promised she would take the week off for me (liar) but of course the week before I came stated that "Sorry I have to make money and have to work all week". Before coming to San Diego I have to think of ways to kill time in the USA since I won't be having the vacation for a week IN Tijuana with chica as previously thought. So I buy game 6 tickets to the nba playoffs in LA (if LA doesn't lose game 5)
Monday- get into San Diego, get rental car and drive to San Ysidro hotel. Check in and watch NBA game. Lakers lose (so no playoff game for me)
Initial plan was to meet spinner / chica at her work at 3am, but she calls me at 10pm saying she didn't go to work as her nephew was spending time with her. Asked me if I wanted to come over to her place. I smile inside and say yes, lets meet at Mcdonalds near border around 11pm.
Stupid me, feeling giddy and thinking maybe I have a chance, get lost walking to border from hotel, and realize at the border that I forgot my passport at the hotel. Good thing I remembered, or else I would be in a lot of sh*T especially since I am not american. Luckily, I call chica, tell her I am dumb and she agrees to meet me at midnight.
Eventually find passport back at hotel, and walk back to border and wait for her at mcdonalds'. Finally see her and her sleeping nephew and we go back to her place. Nephew, her and me all share her bed, so no action tonight:P Just some tongue action and the nephew seems jealous.
Tues- wake up and realize I have no idea WTF the kid is saying as I don't understand no spanish I wash up and we all go for breakfast in some restaurant near the coast. Food is ok and ends up being $20 for all 3 of us. Music in the restaurant is really loud. THen the rest of the day is spent following chica, her nephew and an older lady around Sears, while she looks for shirts and toys to buy for the boy. I play dumb as there is no Fking way I am paying for those presents. She ends up shelling out like 2500 pesos for some stupid electric car for the boy. He is estactic. Then we finally dump the nephew back at his house so we can be alone.
We go back to her place, and start making out in her bed, DFK CLothes come off, and we go miss, then cowgirl and scissors and then release outside. I am hesistant making love with her since I don't have a cover, but she assures me that she has "my heart" and I am her "mi amor". She then calls one of her "regulars" and it is awkward as it sounds exactlly what she's says when she calls me.
We shower together and clean up. Her place is quite nice, with 2 tvs. 1 nice flatscreen tv in her bedroom that some previous cliente bought her from Christmas 2 years ago. AFter talking to her more, I realize that she was lying when she said she had only been working 4 months (instead of the actual fact of 6 years at AB) and that all her prior boyfriends were just previous clientes. She hints that if I wasn't married then she would consider me as her bf, and says she hates sharing men (I think. What the hell do you do at work then?)
Anyway we end out ending delivery italian food that her taxi driver brings, along with some extra groceries (the taxi man asks me for $50US. Ouch). That night we end up talking for a little bit but I can't remember if we did anything else.
Wed- wake up. Chica tells me she is waiting for men to come fix her fridge. After they finally come, we eat leftovers and then back to more lovingmaking. I ask her if she wants to have kids, but she says not right now. I end up doing the deed inside, and she says she doesn't want to go to work. But realizes a couple of her "regulars" have already made plans with her later that evening. I realize that this relationship, or whatever it is is Fcuked up but hey I guess she needs to make a living. I tell her I plan to go back to Diego and we make plans to meet up at 4am after she is done work.
That night I go back to diego, go the the coach outlet and pick out a purse for her, since I stayed at her place. Cross back the border at 130am and first hit HK when I talk to a ferrari girl but don't go arriva. I cross over to Adelita by 3am. But no sign of my chica.
I text her at 4am and she finally calls me, saying she has been in the VIP all night and very busy, and very drunk. She tells me that one dude wanted to pay her 1K to go on vacation with her, but she declined as she knew I was waiting for her. After a few drinks I tell her I want to go take a trip, and she says it's ok but wants like 1K if she doesn't work Friday / sat and sun. She says that if she didn't have to support her parents and sibs in central america, then it wouldn't be as big a deal.
I suck it up and say fine, lets go for trip. And she is ecstatic.
Thurs- it is 6am at adelita. I am dead tired, and she is hung over. She calls a cab, we go back to her place and pick up clothes and take the cab to ensensada. Fare is 100.
Go to the resort and book 2 days. $250.
Finally reach room and sleep / but not before getting some breakfast $30 (I was like WTF. $30)
Sex / nap / sex / nap and then walk on the beach. It is damn cold as I think there is a hurricane along the west coast making the temperatures a lot lower. We have mexican sushi for dinner ($80) and retreat back to the room, where we watch nice mexican music videos, and she argues over the fact that I have a wife and she doesn't trust me. I get mad, call the operator and try to see if I can cancel the next night, because no way I am paying for an extra night if biatch is upset and still have to give her $$$
Fri- we end up making up and stay the 2nd day. More sleeping and fcuking.
Sat- we go back to Tijuana; she wants to go back to work, but we ending up sleeping together and spend the entire evening watching movies in her bedroom.
Sun- a quickie before I head back to the border and back to my hotel in san diego and fly back up north. I end up giving the chica the rest of my money (500us) but I don't think she carried too much. She tells me that previously a month ago she wanted to go out with a white boy but didn't like him, and is why she seemed distant on the phone.
Now that I am back home, with my own family, own career. Me and chica still keep contact via email (the reason she is named penpal)
Questions:
1) What kind of relationship is this? Is she real when she says her heart is lost and crazy for me or am I just stupid. I guess I never really paid for sex, although paid for everything else.
2) She asks me to move to San Diego so we can meet more often but no way I want to move because my job is pretty good. She says she feels bad for my wife and kids, but still wants me?
3) Should I just stop communicating with her and just look for her again if I go back to Tijuana next time? (she has no papers to go to US for now)
She should be selling used cars!
[QUOTE=SeanBig; 1287782]I text her at 4am and she finally calls me, saying she has been in the VIP all night and very busy, and very drunk. She tells me that one dude wanted to pay her 1K to go on vacation with her, but she declined as she knew I was waiting for her. After a few drinks I tell her I want to go take a trip, and she says it's ok but wants like 1K if she doesn't work Friday / sat and sun. She says that if she didn't have to support her parents and sibs in central america, then it wouldn't be as big a deal.
I suck it up and say fine, lets go for trip. And she is ecstatic.[/QUOTE]SeanBig – I am not going to get down on you too much but there is something that I think I need to point out to you. The quote above where she told you that someone offered her 1k to take a trip is a sales / negotiation tactic used by every salesman, hooker, and stripper in the world. Regardless of whether the offer was real or not, by telling you that she 1) Set her price level for the weekend. 2) built a sense of urgency in you to take her before someone else did, and 3) set her expectations of what you needed to do to get her time (go on a trip).
The proper response to her telling you this would have been to say:
'Honey you are defiantly worth 1k for a weekend trip and I know that you need the money. This is more than I was planning on spending so maybe you should take the other gentleman up on his offer. Since you will be busy I will just go home early and spend time with my family. '
That reply tells her. 1) that you will not be spending that kind of cash on her without bruising her ego. 2) it also serves to tell her that you are willing to walk away if you think she is being to demanding, and 3) that you have other options also.
Once you caved in to her demands I can guarantee you that she lost a lot of respect for you. You gave her all the leverage in the negotiations at that point. What is my point you may ask, my point is that at the time you caved in you destroyed your chance of having a relationship with this woman. You built the expectation that you will do what she wants and when you don't from now on this will cause problems between you. Every time you do not do what she wants she will make you miserable until she gets it. Once you lose the respect of a woman (working girl or not) the relationship is over and you need to say good bye.
The previous posters were correct, time to say goodbye and move on.