'Codependency' - please read upon on 'Wikipedia'
[quote=amavida;1570769]if you feel a hole in your life and think importing an alimony recipient will fix this, think again.
if you really, really, really must go down this route then listen to this advice.
1) just don't.
2) still determined to? spend some money on a good therapist to deal with your own issues to get your head 'straight' before having to deal with another's peculiarities.[/quote]a 'hole in your life' - that's the correct word. how do you fill it?
therefore 'point 2' is an important issue to deal with, regardless if you wish to fill this 'hole' with 'fulfillment in love' in your home country or with a ltr anywhere abroad.
i went through all of this 'at home' and it costs me 50 % of my 50 years of savings plus the therapy costs. please don't think, it does not affect you. you only will find out afterwards. but then you might be broke: mentally, physically, financially!
thanks to some unknown angel and and a good shrink, who protected me. i was able to recover and save the other 50 % of my savings. so please beware and learn this lessons down to the last point!