parternship between equals
GE, that is some good stuff. What you have put into practice are things I'm just figuring out...better late than never.
Society, and Mom, told (tells) us to be nice guys. Western sociey/govt tells us and regulates us to be equal. All, good advice and good law, but we aren't equal and a real woman doesn't want a wimpy, girly boy who will do everything she wants. Not a Filipina, and not a Westerner. "Girly boy"....you gotta love Arnold, Governor of California.
Be fair, be generous, be a communicator, be romantic, but most important of all .. be a strong man. I could go on and on here....but the lurking lechers won't get it, and you young Brad Pitts are getting by on your looks alone.
If you need personal advice and direction send $100 to X.ripoff.com and I will tell you all the secrets of romance in the West or in PI or in East Asia.
Better late than never...
Sure Xman, but I'm older than you and I only figured all of this stuff out about 2 years ago, so I'm no genius.
I was at a party last night with about 20 people. Two other friends of mine--an Australian of about my age with a gorgeous girlfriend about the age of my lady, a 72 or 73 year old Australian guy and his 42 year old wife--and I were the only guys there with young, Filipinas. The other guys, all in their 50's-60's schlepped along their very large, very white wives. I don't know if I've ever had so many vituperative glances from so many women in so short a time. You could just see how pissed off they were. I just smiled. Some of them were barely polite to me, and they ignored the Filipinas like they were invisible.
In a way, I feel sorry for these women, who cannot possibly compete, and who would get the hell out of there if they could, but they know that if they left their husbands and went home, it would take the husbands less than a day to rustle up some sweet young things. These ladies really are between a rock and a hard place, but I feel sorriest for the husbands, who look miserable, and for the most part, are miserable. I should know. I've talked to enough of them.
Every time I go to one of these affairs I'm reminded again, of the enormity of the difference, for a foreign guy, between SE Asia and home. Vive la difference!
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GE
Schelping and Good Show GE
Sort of dragging along their BIG wives somewhat embarrassedly.To put things in perspective,I am in my late 30 s and my chinese lady is in her mid 20 s.So we would not stand out as a couple.GE I love the way you described that party.Sleek Filipina Gazelles along with Western Walruses.Cheers.