I posted this in another thread but I wanted to discuss it here
I had a little pressure for people telling me to look in the USA and quit going abroad for women. I like making decisions based on facts and numbers, and I really did not have them until I read this book: [URL]https://*******.com/y294szrc[/URL].
The Book of Numbers: Analyzing the ROI on the Pursuit of Women.
So basically in this book, the first part was looking at wife material so he excluded the obese, single moms, women with herpes, huge debt, financial irresponsible women ETC. He totals it up and he got 2% or one in 50 women.
Then he asked what were the chances that a woman would go out with an average Joe with an average income. Are you ready? It was one in 200 or 0. 5%.
And even if you got that women to go out with you and you were married, your odds are 4 X greater of getting a divorce than being in a happy marriage. Happy marriages are one in 8 but really what we think of as ideal marriages are really closer to 2% or one in 50.
The average guy over his life time will spend $260,000 in the pursuit of, maintenance of, and disposal of women. The author correctly points out had those same guys put the money in the market they would have $10 million.
This is my point: So why is marriage being rammed down our throats? Because it is the most common way by far for women to achieve wealth. In fact, if you look at all the emotional hurt as the author points out, you really are working your whole life for a woman.
The author linked to another book I found interesting called the unplugged Alpha, the no bullshit guide to winning with women. [URL]https://*******.com/y49m4p22[/URL].
This guy has a you tube channel and much of the same ideas are found there that was in the book: [URL]https://www.youtube.com/c/EntrepreneursInCars/featured[/URL].
I have learned a lot from his book and the videos. What he says though and it is backed up by studies is that 80% of the women only will swipe right on only the top 20% of guys.
For people going abroad, this video is important, [URL]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDx_zJAPshs[/URL] it shows what hypergamy is, a woman will always look to swing up. It is in their nature. He looks at a hot woman dating an overweight guy and predicts they will break up based on the Instagram page. She is taking more pictures of herself and fewer and fewer of him. The point with us is that if you think that sweet foreigner is going to stay sweet if she is in America for a while, you are kidding yourself.
I am going to expand on this post though. There is a lot to here. I like the phrase "Chase excellence not women" but I do not like the phrase "Do the work. " because it sounds like men have not been doing anything.
There were things I did not like about both books. In book one, the guy says that should men should not get discouraged and seek out a mistress. Instead he should date loads and loads of women and then he ups his chances for a good union. Uh why? Given the horrific failure rate with marriage, why would you want to keep with that model? Maybe men should take a page from women and look at surrogates if they want to have children and a family. You pick a woman's eggs and not all the drama that goes with it. Pay other people to raise your kid. In many cases, it is a shitload cheaper than a wife, and the kids are 100% yours. Hell, I think kids would thrive in a climate where there is no mommy-daddy drama.
In the second book and follow up videos, the author says if a guy is not a 8 in terms of looks or wealth, he should work up to being an 8 because he is going to get hurt. At least he says it is okay to "spin plates" and see multiple women before finding a girlfriend.
For the longest time I have wondered why attractive men think they own attractive women and why the American media studios emphasize it and this is it. The problem with it is that there is nothing about character, personality, and maybe a little about being a provider. I read this and it really is saying that ALL women are shallow working girls.
So sure you should pursue excellence. You should try to get into shape but it is not a zero sum game. Time at the mall picking out clothes is time you could be earning money. So for the guy who says I am going to put money into clothes so I look great, I laugh and say, "And I am going to put money into women and do better than you. " Paying for clothes is an illusion that the woman is with you for you and not your money.
There is a show called the hotter half on Netflix which measures the percentage of women who would date a guy, and I have never seen a guy move from a low score into the top 20%. I have seen a guy move looks wise from a 6 to an 8 or 2 to a 5 but a 2 to a 10? Never.
On the other hand, I think if you do the work money wise it is much more likely to pay off.
I think a much better strategy is for American guys to go to a country where they are at least 8's financially? What do you all think?
For me, I felt like I had to justify being happier with multiple SBs rather than a wife or GF. Now after looking at all this, I realize I am not missing anything.