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I have never fucked anyone in the ass as of yet. However, I plan to be in DR in about a month and hopful that streak will end. But, my Question is how do you get a women ( ie.. wife, serious gf, someone special) to try it, and make it enjoyable at the same time.
STUNT
Stunt,
With a PRO, you simply ask and pay her more!
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With a wife or girlfriend, the keys are:
1). Extreme female sexual excitement - Don't do or say anything until she is very turned on. During anal sex, always play with her clit at the same time - or make sure she is doing it.
2). Lots of lube and saliva. Eat her first and test the waters by licking her ass. From your tongue, move to a finger. Most women who like oral sex love a finger in their ass while you lick the clit.
3). Tell her how hot and incredible she is - encouragement. Don't make it seem like you're "taking" something, but that she's "giving" you something - a beautiful gift. Attitude is VERY important.
4) Finally, once you've positioned the head at the back door, let her push back onto you. Go slow. Let her do the work at her own pace. The hardest part is when the head (widest part) is stretching her anus. Talk to her at this point with words of encouragement and lust. It helps to distract her during this vital moment during which she might bail. Once in, stop and let her ass adjust to what is inside. All the while you are touching her clit and talking a little.
Make sure you do it RIGHT the first time. The toughest thing is trying to convince a woman to do it again if it was painful or unpleasant the first time. Often, she bails-out as you try to get the head in and then tells you she never wants to try THAT again.
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Also, make sure that you thank her and tell her how exciting the whole act was, no matter what happens. Women love to excite and please their man, so even if the experience was a little iffy she will be happy she has "given you the ultimate".
Good Luck, P
Thanks P I shall use that. I am still a young buck (23). We need some pointers from some of you'll. If you are ever in Orlando lets hook up I know a couple of place we could go.
Later,
Stunt
Headhunter2000-
I plan to hook up with him. I will be staying at the Palace so I hope I run into him. Bro, I know you live in O-town, we need to hook up. On top of that I am looking for a buddy to go to DR with.
Holla and let me know what's up
Later,
Stunt
Hey Prokofiev, I couldn't have explained it better. This usually works 99.999% of the time. Hey stunt, once the gal experiences this feeling (anal), plus, if she enjoys it...she will be a regular customer, guaranteed. Another tool you can use, is...watch a porn flick that you both can watch and enjoy, one that has all the stuff you wanna try, like anal, and once you do what Prokofiev says, it's all gravy from there. In summary, alcohol, porn flick, and eat her out = Anal, baby!
I keep a sexual diary that lists the girls performance, looks, satisfaction and type of sexual act, position, etc. So far I've racked up over 450 entries [girls], mostly paid for sex obviously. I've asked over 200 of the girls to try anal sex and in which the majority flat out said no way. However, about 50 of the girls agreed to give it a try and in which about half backed out on first attempt. So, successful anal sex was performed on about 25 of the girls [penetration to the hilt with ejaculation].
I've lately found out, a usually succesful way to do it to a girl anally who says no way from the start is to take a shower with her, and all soaped up in the shower, insert a finger up her butt.. she may protest, but reassure her "hey, its only my finger". Stick it in and out and move it around.. let her get used to the idea of something in her ass. After the shower, THEN ask her to try it with a dick instead of a finger. Chances are you'll succeed.
But go slow.. if pain is an issue, stop, stimulate her butt again with your finger, then insert 2 fingers to get her used to something thicker, and then give it a go.. slow is the key word, esp. on her 1st attempt. Good luck!
Oh, I forgot! Use plenty of lube! KY is pretty good.
Last saturday, I saw two girls on fulton st area (brooklynn, NY) One one them was really outstanding: black & thick body, no wide shoulder or big bust, small waist, big round & high ass, no fat. She was really conscious on how good she was and even try to make contact. But unfortunately i wasn't alone. She wasn't a SW but definitely a low income girl whom i really would like to anally bang
Proko,
Was passing through and noticed your post. Just wanted to say, that was fantastic. Excellent advice. Especially the part about having to get it right the first time...I know heaps of women who will never try anal again because the first time was so painful. Usually because the guys went at it too hard and fast, or didn't turn her on enough first. Anyway, excellent post! :) (Mind you...none of it would work on me. Noooooo way! Not even the offer of more money!! LOL)
RN,
No offense, but YES it would work on you. You simply need the right situation with the right person. Actually, it's something you can look forward to for the future. A new frontier . . .
Peace, -P
Errrr sorry Proko...been there, done that. Right guy, right atmosphere, right amount of stimulation, right amount of alcohol in my system...even the right size for beginners! Aside from the ridiculous amounts of pain...the whole idea just turns me right off! I have tried and tried over the years (and believe me...there is a lot of money to be made as a hooker if you do Greek, so I had motivation), but I just can NOT do it. The mere thought of anal sex is enough to turn me off completely, and no matter how carefully it was done, it still hurt like hell. I have no desire to ever do it again.
Mind you, I still think your advice on how to treat a first-timer was excellent...but it honestly WOULDN'T work on this 'lil chicky-babe. :)
Face it, RN: You didn't just reply to that post out of Random Chance. You didn't check out the 'Anal Connisuers' section by accident.
You've had bad experiences hon- but for you to be posting here SOMETHING about the idea of having some lucky guy in your backdoor obviously turns you on. (And we'll respect you next time you post, darling. You can count on that) ;)
RN, I recall reading a couple of interviews on the subject from porn actresses, many of whom said precisely the same things as you have, including the turnoff thing. Many of them talked about the pain they had starting out, and also very much about how the ability to have anal impacted their earnings. (It's been quite a while since I read these, so I can't give you citations, unfortunately.)
The most useful information I recall was that the ones who found it very painful said they went though a process of "training" themselves with butt plugs of increasing size, just wearing them for several days while they because used to them. One also said the trick was to "drown in lube."
As far as the turnon factor -- the one actress I recall talking about that said that anal sex was a fetish like any other, and that once you get pleasure from a fetish the brain tends to follow.
LOL Warpig! Yeah ok, you caught me out. I am really a total backdoor fiend who's just dying to be reamed by some great big stud, and I was hanging out in here especially to find me a lucky winner. :) heh heh
Joe,
I totally agree with the idea that anal sex is a fetish. Yes, it's a common one, but it's still not "standard practice" so it makes sense to me that not everyone would be into it. I know most men who like anal will continue to say that I will like it if I get it "right"...but how can they be so sure? The fact is, it totally turns me OFF. The entire idea of ANYTHING being near that area turns me off.
There are many, many fetishes out there that have the same effect on people. Some people like to be whipped until they bleed...some men come in and ask you to burn their balls with cigarettes...some want you to defacate in their mouth!!! Some people are turned on by sex with children, sex with animals or sex with people of the same gender. For many people these things are the "norm"...but many other people are sickened by the idea and would NEVER try it, no matter how often they were told it feels good. To me, anal sex is the same. I have also had male partners who are turned off by the idea of anal sex as well.
I have no desire to ever "train" myself to enjoy it, because even if the pain went away, I feel I would still never be psychologically aroused by the idea. (And to tell the truth, I don't think the pain will ever go away, because most of it is probably psychological). I just don't want anything in my backside...and anyway, I have perfectly good bits at the front to use that don't like to be left out !!! LOL
. I think we've discovered something here . . . What started out as an aversion to pain is now just a negative psychological reaction to a "fetish"- which is usually the case. But to compare anal sex to cigarette torture or sex with minors is a bit much. Do you feel the same about oral sex? If not, why not? It's about as natural as anal sex and believe me, both are quite popular in the bedroom, with both boys AND girls.
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How can I be so sure you will like it? I can't. But I have heard your story before and have overcome all these objections and more. Anal sex became not only possible, but enjoyable and eventually indispensible to ALL of these ladies. I have no ax to grind here. Anal sex no longer "turns me on" or is the end-all sex act that it was when I was 17. Too much water under that bridge. I have had 3 long term relationships (5,14 and 15 Yrs)where each woman preferred anal over vaginal penetration. I was just doing my duty. And yes, I have heard from many a woman that her husband or former boyfriend was not interested in her backdoor, much to her disappointment.
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As an observation, in my experience anal sex is rarely appreciated by women under 25 yo, becomes acceptable 25-30 and is often important at 30-65+. For many women over the age of 50, anal penetration is often easier and more comfortable than vaginal penetration. And yes, Prokofiev has experienced this first hand with several women 50 to 65. I didn't just read it somewhere. Another important point is the manner in which the woman usually comes. Some women respond to clitoral stimulation only, others deep vaginal penetration only and others to both (and some never do, although I haven't experienced this!!!). Those women who absolutely need deep vaginal stimulation can have a problem with anal because it does not hit the right spot to get her attention and playing with her clit doesn't help matters. Also many studies have shown that higher levels of education/inteligence go hand in hand with more anal sex (sorry RN). This might confirm the fetish/mind theory. Certainly the IDEA that anal = dirty makes it a potent source of forbidden fruit for many men and women. Especially women.
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So boys and girls , let's not fight about this. Different strokes for different folks. But I can't help but be impressed with the number of women I've known who start out hating the idea and wind up telling me that their GREATEST orgasms involve anal sex! . . And let's not forget about dildos and vibrators. A small vibrator bringing up the rear during "normal" intercourse can be quite a thrill for both parties.
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Experiment and enjoy. Life is too short for anything else . . .
Peace -P