Getting laid in China (seems hard)
I have been coming to China for a long time (7 years now) for business.
I live in a small city near Guangzhou.
I hate to complain about the cheap pussy in China, but it seems so hard to get laid consistently these days near any major city. Hookers want too much money for lousy service and non-working girls are very particular about the guys they screw. Blame it on China getting rich and also too much competition from other foreigners and also Chinese men with few women available to be had for all.
Finding a wife is very similar, very difficult, a passport is not enough to woo one. I'd never thought I would say it, money is not enough to get laid in major cities in China.
China has some real pussy supply problems.
Re: Getting laid in China (seems hard)
On P4P, I agree with Ace, the bigger the city, the worse it gets, quality vs. price. Beijing is a case in point. Smaller cities vary, and it takes time to find the places that suit you.
Regarding non-pro, I might agree with Exile's comment about "connections," assuming he means that it's difficult if you just show up in a new city as a random stranger. I think the availability of freebies is directly proportional to one's perceived status and stability (as judged from your job, your apartment, your connections, etc.). Lately, as a lone drifter, I scarcely find freebies. Earlier, as a teacher in a well-known university, I did OK. An expat in a foreign company will do even better. Also -- casual affairs may be difficult unless you're willing to try older gals (or so I've found).
There are so many factors. Race, age, and other physical attributes could matter, depending on the girl. I've been turned down for P4P just because I'm a foreigner, but in other cases it has worked in my favor.
I don't know if the above helps. I, too, would like it if I could find freebies whenever I want, like some guys on this forum, and I don't know their situation (status, social connections, or what age/looks of gals they're getting), so I just thought I'd add another perspective based on my own "mixed" results. Good luck, and YMMV.
Re: Race and wealth are the big issue in China
[QUOTE=Bill Lee]Pretty much that sums it up in China and need I add, in the U.S. as well.
Of course, being a pretty boy anywhere helps alot too.
Chinese men outside Asia are not exactly top of the food chain either for freebies with other gals of different race. Welcome to the club. What comes around goes around. [/QUOTE]
A Chinese guy posted in the Brazil section, saying he was doing OK there because they thought he was Japanese, and they like Japanese for some reason (because they make all the consumer electronics products or something). So sometimes Asian guys outside of Asia find an edge (or maybe he's just "tai shuai").
Within China, I'd agree that rich Chinese (including, maybe even especially, overseas Chinese) are the top of the food chain. White guys seem to benefit from some "sexual mystique," to some extent like black guys in the U.S. Aside from that, the main thing is status (money, job, connections, etc.). Looks count for something, but I just saw a really dorky white guy walking out of a restaurant with a hot looking Chinese chick, so who knows.
As for the U.S., I found that having a good work situation didn't translate into being popular with the girls. That connection seems to be stronger in China.