I need advice, help me veterans LOL also do casas / strips allow foreignwomen?
OK, so I am in a slight predicament, it is all my fault tho I did set myself up for failure fuck it sucks LOL. OK so first off, me and A close friend of mine we were planning to go to Bogota for a get away right now in February, but both of us have girlfriends here in the US, my relationship with my Girlfriend is totally different than his, he is very cunning / deceiving and what not, his girlfriend does not suspect or is aware of his mongering intentions when he leaves the country, luckily he uses the "visiting family" excuse since he is from Colombia (I am Hispanic too but I am not from Colombia) so he can go and do whatever, well with my current Girlfriend And I are very open and honest, I am the cutthroat honest motherfucker who says things how it is and tries not to sugarcoat the truth, and actually there is no need to she is very sexually open minded plus she is bisexual, we have already had threesomes here in the states with other women since she also has a sexual need for women but says she could never be romantically or emotionally in love with one LOL its all a sexual thing for her she still trusts me and what not, of course if you all ever been in that situation you all know that when you do a threesome with a significant other you cannot put so much feeling or desire on the third partner as to not hurt her feelings or cause jealousy, so it is definitely a lot different then a threesome you might have with two random hookers or swingers. OK so since me and my girlfriend have this kind of relationship I told her straight up the whole deal and that me and my friend had planned this since before we hooked up, I told her that and everything and as to why my friend is going and that we cannot tell his Girlfriend and bla bla and I knew this was coming but she said she wants to go too! LOL that she loves Latin woman and that she would fucking love to do putitours with me, go to swinger clubs go and travel and meet people and go to a different country etc etc all happy with the idea (BTW she is an American girlfriend, typical blond blue eyes pale gringa LOL but she has an Achilles heel that she loves pussy as much as she loves my dick LOL, works perfect for me) The idea of her going with me actually turns me on, having my cake and eating at the same time, as well as taking someone over there who I care for and would love to spend time with not just in the sexual sense but also in traveling and what not. So that worked out well with her, but that does not sit well with my close friend, when I told him about it he got on my fucking case, saying that if I brought my Girlfriend it will ruin the whole fucking trip, that I better not spend more time with her than with him, that this was supposed to be a bro trip, so like he was acting like a jealous girlfriend I actually laughed at the fact that he got that way and he got pissed, so like now there is this resentment going on prior to our trip, I feel like honestly he is jealous at the fact that I can have a girlfriend who is willing to go with me and do shit like that with me and in his situation he has to lie deceive and what not and does not have that for him, so I feel his resentment now, I hope he changes plus honestly I do owe him for a favor in the past, but if worst comes to it and he can't understand I will refund my ticket since I already purchased them and no fucking trip to Bogota, I am not going to put one over the other I don't care if I lose my money I told him I will reimburse his ticket and shit if we cannot work this out.
Now with that being said, assuming all goes well, and I take my bisexual girlfriend over there to Bogota, I was thinking are regular civilian women even allow to go to the casas and the strip joints? I mean here in the states women can go to strip clubs and have a drink and get a lap dance, but now that I think about it all the times I have been to Colombia I have never seen actual women customers in the brothels, I assume its probably because of machismo, so like my question for the veterans is can I take my gringa girlfriend to lets say Fiebre atunes casas in el chapinero etc etc LOL? And if yes do you think that there will be respect for her I mean I don't want dudes approaching her asking "cuanto cobra" and what not since she is not a working girl and she is there as my partner, plus how would that work assuming I take her and she picked a girl for me and her to fuck? Is there an upcharge, or most likely we would have to pay for 2 services for per session since is me and her, and would a lot of working girls be open about that LOL? Swing clubs I know we could do ok, even tho we have not done such a thing yet and I don't want to share her I kindly want to do swing club just so she can have another woman and also for the voyeurism, she and I enjoy being watched getting fucked, but again I don't want to share her so I am reluctant with swinger clubs. So yeah that's it basically, also do you all believe my close friend has the right to feel the way he feels? I mean yeah I probably would spend some extra time with her but he should compromise I think idk that's what I feel, but lets see hopefully I can still go next month all good, friend is happy girlfriend is happy and I am happy, and my friends girlfriend all clueless LOL.
Nothing resolved yet, second guessing my decision
It has been already 5 days since I spilled the beans about the situation, and it seems that is not resolving, basically like Shadow said, my friend is very paranoid and does not trust my girl, and as a matter of fact I am second guessing and thinking it through if I actually made the right decision with telling her the whole story, but I felt like I had to because she told me she had desires of traveling there anyways even before mentioning the perverted intentions of the trip (his GF on the other hand is not too interested and has a lot more to do here, her career school etc etc) And I was thinking too maybe its not going to end well, first off yes I have had a couple of threesomes with my partner here, and honestly they have not been the best threesomes I have had, even tho in my first post I sounded like it was the greatest thing ever, I remember the 1st one was with a lesbian friend she had, she actually was in love with my GF, but my GF did not reciprocate the feelings and she would join us and actually deal with me just to be with her, very super mechanical sex with that lesbian girl and she honestly hates and envies the living hell out of me, so those occasions were super awkward and uncomfortable (my GF was tired of how jealous and possessive she was trying to be so she told her to get the hell out of our lives LOL) then it happen again with another friend of her's, she was bisexual, but her lesbianism was stronger than her heteronism, unlike my GF who is more hetero than lesbian but still has a lesbian desire, with her it was a thing where my GF made the rules, I could only act according the way my GF wanted, if she did not feel comfortable or if she felt her friend was being to flirtatious with me she would stop it or make it mechanical, my GF is selfish now that I think about it and honestly I can see her get mad the moment a Working girl over there might focus more attention to me than her, and unfortunately with the rules me and her set up for the relationship I don't have much to say (rules are my my girlfriend cannot have sex with another man at all, she agreed then Rule 2# is that I obviously cannot be with another girl by myself, nor without her knowledge. I can only fuck another girl in the condition that we can share it and it has to be of her choosing and she decides and controls how the sexual situation goes).
Like I reiterated, I see a problem as to where this will go, she knows no Spanish for shit, so she cannot communicate with the chicas thus will not be able to control the sexual situation to her liking, and with that said there are more chances the chicas will focus more on me than the non Spanish speaking gringa and it will cause my GF to be super jealous and go crazy, especially since my GF likes to smoke weed and drink and obviously she will smoke a shit load while over there since its cheap so I am afraid she might act psycho in a situation gone bad, at the end of the day she might sexually liberal but she still a woman and they are unfortunately complicate creatures, even with this honest and cutthroat relationship me and her have, then of course it goes the situation where I can't be for sure she would not tell my friend GF about the situation, which again I regret telling my GF because now I am not sure what the future holds, maybe one day my GF and my friend fight and my GF acts like a * and retaliates by snitching, BTW my GF and his GF have no sort of communication nor are they close friends, they know each other but honestly my friend GR is not to fond of my GF and they don't talk at all, two totally different women, my friends girl is a very brazen, independent self righteous bitchy woman, but very clever and ingenious, the kind of woman you would want as a daughter minus the part that she is with a lying cheating boyfriend, my girlfriend is more of a one day at a time girlfriend, a lot more calm and mellow and liberal, smokes pot and drinks often and is not as formal / mature nor as clever or independent than my friend GF.
Let see how this plays out, I believe now with close analyzation I probably fucked up by being honest, even tho my relationship with her is all based on honesty but I did not meant to jeopardize my friends relationship nor have him be collateral damage, I think there could be a chance that there will be no Colombia trip and kind of let it go, or we could go because I honestly do desire other women even with the rules and stipulations my GF puts but again now the concern goes with how safe is my friend secret with my GF. I want to believe she won't say shit but like you all said when it comes to women you can never know. Again it helps that they have no sort of friendship nor relationship so my GF has no pity nor empathy to their situation, she knows she don't like her nor me so I think low key my GF is gloating and happy at the fact that she knows she is being cheated on. Again I just hope in some future if me and her don't work out she will not use the trip to blackmail my friend.