Tips and techniques for sexually arousing women and making them orgasm
According to [URL]Jezebel.com[/URL], casual sex isn't that great for women. Because women don't get much pleasure out of it.
[URL]http://jezebel.com/how-can-we-make-casual-sex-better-for-women-1736110076[/URL]
This article says that men don't try much to please their women. And that's the reason why women aren't into casual sex as much as men are.
It's hard to say for sure, if this opinion is right or not. But it is a little surprising to see that even at a sex-website such as this, there is little or no discussion among guys about what works and what doesn't work in terms of sexually arousing women and making them orgasm. Some people would take this as circumstantial evidence which shows men's lack of care for women's pleasure and orgasm.
And to correct this situation, I'm starting this thread where guys can share their tips and experiences for sexually arousing women and making them orgasm. I think it's in the interest of guys to make casual sex more pleasant for women, so that women would want to do it more.
Rock with your cock, rather than pound
Dr. Patti Britton, PhD, clinical sexologist and co-founder of [URL]SexCoachU.com[/URL], says that you should rock with your cock, rather than pound, when you are having sex with your lady. Because this will make it more pleasant for her.
[URL]http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex-tips/orgasm-almanac-rock-her-world/slide/9[/URL]
I think what she means to say is that instead of plunging in an out of the lady's pussy in a straight line, you should go deep inside during your ride and then use your cock to move her pussy around, up and down and from side to side. The stretching and the moving of her pussy stimulates her clitoris and makes it very pleasant for her. If you make this rocking action rhythmic and repetitive, then it might be enough to make her orgasm.
I've tried a variation of this with a Thai lady. I took her pussy in the missionary position and then used my legs to bring her legs close together, with my cock still deep inside her pussy. Her pussy gripped my cock so tightly that I couldn't slide in and out of her anymore. When I moved my cock, then I moved her pussy, instead of sliding in or out. So, I just lay on top of her and rocked my hips to move her pussy with my cock in a rhythmic way. After a few minutes of this, she begged me to stop and give her a couple of minutes to rest. She said that she orgasmed, and she needed a short break.
She seemed to really like what I did with her. But the funny thing was, I had no idea that she orgasmed, until she told me. Apparently, women's orgasms aren't always violent and obvious. Or perhaps, she was trying to be lady-like, and she controlled her orgasmic reaction enough to hide it.
And I have to admit that my rocking sex-action was all for her pleasure and not for mine. My pleasure was mostly psychological. Because my cock was so firmly anchored inside her pussy that I was just jerking on her pussy with my cock, without moving in and out of her at all. I didn't feel much physical pleasure in this sex action. But after she asked me for a break and told me that she orgasmed, then I waited a couple of minutes, as she asked, and then I used my legs to spread her legs wide apart to get her into the traditional missionary position, and I nailed her pussy for my own pleasure the way guys usually do.
The lesson I've learned from this experience is that using your cock to rock the lady's pussy doesn't give much physical pleasure for the guy. It's almost like doing cunnilingus on the lady. The lady gets most of the physical pleasure. You do it for the lady and not for yourself. But once you make her orgasm, then you can give her a short break and nail her the traditional way for your own pleasure. It's okay to take turns at having pleasure, rather than try to make it simultaneous and not do a good job of it.
Stimulation, arousal and orgasm
A very cute, petite, sexy and verbal girl in Tijuana, named Zwannee, was coaching me how to arouse and give girls pleasures.
She prefers a tongue or a wet finger, gently caressing either sides of the clitoris, not directly on the clitoris, but on the sides. She said it really drives girls horny. A girl in Hollywood had problems getting orgasms, despite a couple drawers full of powered sex toys. She said when she's aroused, her clit would become too sensitive and painful to the touch. I was kissing her, alternately licking and sucking her nipples, and caressing the sides of her clit for half hour before she had her shuddering orgasms. She was embracing and kissing me, almost crying, thanking me endlessly. From then on, I would warm her up with foreplay and vaginal intercourse, then give her orgasms with my finger on her clit.
The G spot inside the vagina under the pelvic bone is allegedly a very erotic area, probably the main source of arousal and orgasms. A virgin girl friend would not let me penetrate, but asked me to apply pressure with the flat of my palm on her pelvic bone and shove it around. She got roaring wet and came every time. I would then lay my engorge dick on her pelvic bone and ride her that way.
With a pretty Mexican girl, I would suck on her nipples and insert my index finger deep into her vagina, gently caressing the textured area on the roof, allegedly the G spot. After 2 minutes, she would get very wet; her whole body would go limp; her eyes close shut, but her face would twitch and contort with pleasures.
Another Mexican girl, pretty like a movie star, would enjoy the treatment so much, she would be gasping, her eyes roll back all white, mouth gape open, head roll left and right. She would talk some of the sexiest things to me out loud. She's one of the best fucks in my life. I miss this sexy little girl so much.
Caucasian and Mexican / Spanish girls tend to be far more expressive in beds, making sex with them more satisfying compared to Asians, who are taught to hold back emotions and expressions, My experiences are empirical but my sex theories may be full of shit.
I apologize for deleting Beno69's post below
I accidentally clicked the delete link for Beno69's message, when my intention was to reply.
I didn't even realize that I could delete anybody's messages here.
I'll try to be more careful with my clicks in the future. Because this deletion happened without any warning or any request for confirmation.
Beno69 disagreed with me about what the G-Spot is. And I realize that many people still believe in its existence. But I find it hard to believe in something that contradicts the latest medical and scientific studies on this subject. Because science is usually right, especially when there are a number of studies saying the same thing and not just one study.
[url]http://www.salon.com/2014/09/16/the_truth_about_the_g_spot_why_its_time_to_put_this_sex_myth_to_bed_partner/[/url]
Doggy better than missionary for woman's pleasure
Barry Komisaruk, PhD, a behavioral neuroscientist at Rutgers University and author of The Science of Orgasm, says that the doggy position works better than the missionary position for pleasing women and making them orgasm.
[URL]http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex-tips/orgasm-almanac-rock-her-world/slide/9[/URL]
When the lady bends her hips, then this results in better contact between her clitoris and your cock. But the thing I really like about the doggy position is that you can easily reach with your hand between your lady's thighs and finger her clit, while you are nailing her pussy with your cock. As long as you have some lube on your hand, then you can make it very pleasant for the lady.
This might actually be a good way to prolong your sex with the lady, when she allows you only one cumshot with her. Because when you get close to cumming with her, then you can just stop and stay inside her with your cock, while you finger her clit. And then you can bang her some more, until it's time to take another break.
It's awkward to stop and just stay inside the lady with your cock, without doing anything. But if you are fingering your lady's clit every time you stop, then this isn't awkward at all. You are just pleasing the sexy girl. And you can last this way with her for a long time indeed, even when she allows you only one cumshot with her.
Delay while you play, and then bang her some more. That's the way to last, when your sex is hard-and-fast.
Some people would say that slowing with the lady and doing her nice and slow is the way to last for a long time with her. But this doesn't work well in practice for a lot of guys. Because your peak pleasure with the lady is when you are banging her hard-and-fast. And there is no way you can feel such pleasure with the lady, when you slow down with her. Slowing down with the lady often means that you don't get much pleasure with her. Which is no good for guys.
The ideal situation is when you bang your lady hard-and-fast and achieve your peak pleasure with her. Then you stop, before you pop, and you play with her clit to give yourself some time to recover. And then you bang the lady some more to achieve another peak pleasure with her. This way you can have many peak pleasures with your lady. Which is a lot better than slowing down with the lady and not feeling much pleasure with her at all.