Marriage/PI...... A Few Thoughts
Marriage is an archaic institution IMHO. Financially binding yourself to someone in this day and age of 50% divorce rates make me cringe. If you like someone stay with them. When you don’t like them anymore you can leave without a taking an emotional or financial hit. Filipinas don’t like shacking up (a co-habitat, sexual relationship but not married) though they like to get married only to show you off as a trophy and to prove that they can lock someone down. They feel this elevates their social status (I guess in their culture it does). But as Yella Man said there is no need.
Not all Filipinas are just after the green card
They are not all the same. I'm 49 and married my wife 5 years ago when she was 20. I brought her here on a fiancee visa. She got her green card, then got her US citizenship about a year ago.
We still make love about 6-7 times a week, and my wife initiates sex more than half the time. She takes great delight in waking me up in the middle of the night, or early morning, by sitting on my face and smothering me with her pussy. I was married twice before to American women, and always thought that it was natural for a woman to moan and complain about having sex. My current wife is, without a doubt, a dream come true. She's funny, intelligent, affectionate, very open minded sexually, and has a libido that won't quit.
I know I am biased, but my wife is an extremely attractive Filipina, and she gets hit on constantly. She is a very hard worker and now has a really good job. We have agreed that she can send $200 each month to her family, which comes out of her salary, so I think that's reasonable.
Of course, no marriage is 100 percent perfect. She still gets mad if she thinks I am ogling another woman, or if my ex-wife calls to talk about my kids. But I have never had reason to doubt her loyalty.
I think I lucked out because I took the time to really get to know my wife before we were married. I took 3 trips to the Philippines to spend time with her, and she came home with me to the US on my third trip.
I hope no one sees this post as a criticism of mongering. I've done my share of mongering before I finally found the right lady, and I still enjoy this site to sort of re-live my mongering days. But, for me, random sex without emotion gets a bit old and boring.
[QUOTE=Jambo]I can't say it all here yet. Am sending a girl home after less than 6 months of marriage. She is is lovely and gave it a good try. I became a jerk--and with a pretty girl there is always some other guy she can chat up who seems perfect to her, and that's just what she did. Things may suck at home, but I won't tolerate infidelity. I am looking at spending $1,100 to submit the adjustment of status (AOS), and most certainly have her walk on my as soon as she has a green card. Or spend about that much and send her home. Its a no-brainer for me. I am just upset about all the time lost and money spent. And screwing with her life as well.
Lesson learned for the girls: wait until the green card is in hand before you stop putting out.
My lesson learned: stop looking at pretty, popular girls to marry, at least until I become really rich. Look for older girls, and ones who have proven themselves by being hired in the PI. I did have a prenup, and most of my assets in a corporation, so I was never worried much. Even better, she left here and moved in with a friend. If you know US divorce, getting the girl to move out is kind of a slam dunk--you can't be forced out of your home, and will prob keep what is in there. Be we aren't even going there--she will sign a no fault and get on a plane. She has no green card.[/QUOTE]
Islam v Non-Violence Movement.
One created concept of Islam and the other created the non-violence movement against the Bristish.
Each divorced the other to start a quasi-seperate states of India and Pakistan.
As far as sex goes they sure have a huge population.
[QUOTE=Lustforthrust]Islam is what happened.
When witches were burnt in Europe, Indians were sculpturing erotica on their temples.[/QUOTE]
Binding responsibility 24/7
That is work few are able to do - binding responsibility 24/7.
[QUOTE=Warbucks]Marriage is an archaic institution IMHO. Financially binding yourself to someone in this day and age of 50% divorce rates make me cringe. If you like someone stay with them. When you don’t like them anymore you can leave without a taking an emotional or financial hit. Filipinas don’t like shacking up (a co-habitat, sexual relationship but not married) though they like to get married only to show you off as a trophy and to prove that they can lock someone down. They feel this elevates their social status (I guess in their culture it does). But as Yella Man said there is no need.[/QUOTE]