TOP 10 Resasons for getting married
[QUOTE=Yogin]Well said, GF.
Look at this drivel written by a feminized AM. [url]http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-reasons-to-get-married.html[/url]
Top Ten Reasons For Men to Marry. Bunch of anecdotal wishful thinking.[/QUOTE]
I disagree.
Most of the reasons here are pretty solid.
10. Married makes you live longer.
- well documented fact. Assuming you WANT to live longer!
(old joke - it only seems longer, for married men)
9. Marriage increases your earning power.
- I don't buy this exactly as stated. I don't know that it increases your personal earning power, but a marriage as an economic unit is likely to increase your overall wealth (adjusted for children and divorce). However, some expenses, like housing, are likely to be much higher, because single people have much more modest requirements/expectations.
8. Marriage gives you a platform to continue your bloodline.
- my quibble here is with its placement. This should be #1 or #2. Marriage is by far the best model for raising a family, although obviously this is also possible in common-law relationships, divorce and single situations. But looking at all the work and challenges in raising kids, a stable marriage is by far the best model.
7. Marriage prevents you from dying alone.
- works for guys at least. A factor if considering a late-life split up. Obviously many more women end up dying alone because they outlive us.
6. Marriage makes you more attractive.
- their arguement here is that many women find married men attractive. I think what they mean is that many women like the stability and commitment implied by a married man. But this isn't going to help you make out with them - you are already taken! And being a cheater negates any of the aforementioned attractive qualities. Best option - divorced with kids, where the divorce was not your fault. Better still - be a widower (a la Tom Hanks in "Sleepless in Seattle")!
5. Marriage brings financial benefits.
- was true, not so much now that many benefits are equally available to common-law couples, depending on your jurisdiction.
4. Marriage means more sex.
- yes, true for most. Even in the low points of my marriage I was getting more sex than most guys here, who are getting laid mostly when they travel. And now I get it 2 or 3 times a week, 52 weeks a year. A lot less than I want, but a lot more than most single mongers.
3. Marriage means better sex.
- I don't know about this one. I understand their argument about knowing each other's hot spots, but there is also a huge chance of getting into a rut and not trying new things, or even things you used to do when you were younger or newly married. Plus of coures you are not fucking nubile young beauties, but some woman who is almost as old and flawed as you are!
2. Married people are happier.
- probably. There are lots of upsides, but some downers - especially loss of freedom.
1. Marriage makes you a better man.
- this one is pretty dubious and certainly is not the #1 benefit. Their agrument is that your little helpmeet in life will push you to do better and be better. Maybe. But just as likely you are going to have to play it safe in other areas of life (business, sports, recreation, artistic expression) where a single person can please themselves. And of course there are many men who get bored or oppressed by their marriage and fall into a rut.
Overall, the best combination is marriage for the bread and butter issues (including regular sex) and mongering for adventure, excitement and experimental sex!!