Toxic Trophy Wife Syndrome
I read this and thought well you know just thought about it, glad that you managed to make the break from this toxic shock. Need to get back to the days that men were men instead of this doing all for their wives. There is a limit and it is a game, if you play by thier rules and up the game every once in a while you can keep em in their place.
I had a lucky escape but now I'm with someone who I can deal with and manage to play the game she knows where she stands in the grand scheme of things and keeping that and making it work is what it is about. Don't let them hen peck you. Pick away at them as they pick away at you. I'm sure that you can think on ways to make think twice about doing ya over.
Working out how they tick and then keeping it on a short leash works. As I said I don't get what I want or I'm unhappy then I sure as hell make it miserable for her but I keep it in the confines of the game and make sure that she can't get back at me or cite me for anything wrong.
Just make sure that you keep enought of your life seperate that she can't mess up and you will be laughing. As long as she knows that she don't control you 100% then she will be kept keen. Make like you like her but your not going to stay with her if she don't keep her end of the deal.
Goes to bed and you have to look after the kids yeah right thats the mark to make as much god damn noise as you can and you make a mess where you can to annoy the hell out of her. She will soon learn thats not a viable game plan, it hurts her more than you! Just make sure that she knows where she stands.
Toxic Waste. You dispose of this in a proper and safe manner!