Unrealistic and Uncontrollable
[QUOTE=Bango Cheito; 1134047]Tall is also generally an advantage anywhere, but me I'm 6'3" (191cm) and a lot of girls here are like 150cm (5ft) and even under. That much of a height difference scares the fuck out of them sometimes, they literally get scared of disappearing under you in missionary.
Being fat is a BIG BIG BIG faux pas here in Colombia socially. People on other forums have made note of the fact that women who apply for jobs here have to attach photos with their resume. MEN HAVE TO DO THAT TOO! This is almost like ancient Greece, being fat is like an unforgivable sin here. Women practically kill themselves to look as good as possible, and THEY EXPECT MEN TO DO THE SAME. And the more you go down the social ladder the MORE intense the body-culture is, not the other way around. For that matter gold-digging is incredibly looked down upon in Colombian culture. Most North Americans come here to bottom-feed and so are blissfully unaware of this. They have no idea what a reject from society the girl they are hanging with is, and how their dealings with her represent the OPPOSITE of accepted standards of behavior in Colombian culture.
Every millimeter of stomach that I lose here means more opportunities with women, and the ones that do come around for me treat me better as well. I have now almost 3500 people on my Facebook account and 90% are female. I can put an ugly-looking profile pic up, and connect all day on chat, and nobody will say boo to me. I put a sexy-looking profile pic, and I can connect and guaranteed within an hour some girl I don't know is either adding me as a friend or chatting me up.
The other thing is dress. Especially if you're not in perfect shape, you need to wear clothes that hide it. I have a bad habit of going around dressed like the typical denizen of the Bronx where I used to live, where the ethic is jsut throw on whatever is most comfortable. That dries up pussy like you would not believe, especially here. BUT I personally think you can get away with wearing sports clothes if you get your body in perfect shape. Otherwise you need to find clothes that give the illusion of you being in the best shape possible. The other thing is that at least here in Bogota, guys with lots of hair go over better than in other places (head hair NOT body hair!).
As for the age difference, it depends on the girl. I've had girls pushing 30 who think I'm too old for them, and others who are 17 who don't give a fuck, or even PREFER older guys. It's not a universal thing at all. [/QUOTE]People can't control their height nor their looks. In any case, the kind of panty snapping good lucks you refer to is relatively rare. If one is blessed to look like Matthew McCounough, Ricky Martin, or Tom Brady great. But not many of us on that board are in this category thus we must focus on what we can control.
Besides, being a dandy is difficult to do when broke. Once a man hits 30 that movie star physique requires no less than two hours a day in the gym five days a week (and not lollygagging around the gym but one hour of weights with another 30-60 minutes of HIT cardio) AND, perhaps most importantly, a diet of friggin chicken breasts and leaves with no beer.
I guess being good looking and broke is being better than being ugly and broke but being cute is not as important as other qualities are for a man.
Yes, in Colombia the girls spend all their money on looks so they can be attractive to a rich man so he will give them shit. They only have their looks to offer as they can't advance themselves through their own gumption. The poor do not control their own destiny.
RE Bottomfeeders: You are correct. Sex tourists and many other expats do fuck with lower rungs of society and many of them don't even realize it. But so what? Most of these men are thilled to stick their dick into any pussy and are quite content to screw a pretty illiterate 20 yo barrio girl. Such transactions seem to fulfill everyone's needs.
I look at the SOBs at Scott's bar at Nana and can't believe they are happy with long term relationships with bar girls.
Whatever though.
Live and Let live.