JoeZop, absolutely it does seem that...
..the divorce equation should shift toward a more even and equitable distribution of assets. But, isn't it true that the wife gets the house in 9 out of 10 cases and custody of the kids, too? American family court will presume that the man has neither the desire nor the ability to care for his offspring by himself, unless he can under burden of proof prove otherwise. Kind of like guilty until proven innocent?
Yes, both husband and wife may toil equally to build a home and a family, but if in the end, the woman takes possession of all that really matters, where does that leave the man?
What works for me Milkster
I'm involved with a wonderful Portena and as Smut Villian says you can indeed be yourself. However their are crucial differences between Latina's and American Women. They really, really no shit about it want you to be a strong alpha male. They will look to you for leadership and to take care of them. Regarding major desicions they enjoy having a say but are most comfortable if you make the desicion. Most of the men there treat them as children and think they have nothing to contribute, if you show them more respect and love they will pay it back 10 fold. However and I have found this to be important, they will test you to guage the size of you heuvos. Do not be afraid to lay down the law, never be afraid to say "No this won't work", forcefully if nessicary. If they discover that your afraid or intimidated by them forget it, it's over. I'm not advocating any kind of violance, when I say forcefully I'm talking about excersizing your power by will not violantly.
The responsibilty I think comes in making desicions not based on what's best for you but what's best for both of you. Treat them well, bring them gifts, tell them how much you love her if you do, in general the idea of "giving themselves compleatly" has more value there. Personally knowing the woman I refer to has taught me more about being a "man" than anything else I've ever experianced.
This information while not true in 100% of the cases I've experianced has proved to be so in over 90%. It's not everybody's cup of tea but I sure like it.
Oh yes and my girl has this delightful way of using sex to manipulate me, it's not a power struggle as we are used to here but rather a ratcheting up of enthusiasm when I've made her really happy.
I'm in agreement with RN as far as the job. It doesn't matter where she works, if she's attractive she's going to be hit on. Personally I get a kick out of it when other men desire the woman I'm with because she's shagging me and not them.
Enjoy
A dissenting point of view
Headonist you don't say where this lady is from. If she is American and hasn't been raised in a cave by a pack of wolves than I say run like the wind my friend, run as you have never run before. I've been married twice to local talent and I can honestly say I will never again so much as date an American woman.
I don't disagree with totaly with Joe and Domino. There is something pathetic about 70 year old men propped up on V or C nailing 20 year old women. However; the ones I've talked to could give a fuck less what anybody thinks of their mongering, they thank god for the advanced pharmacuticle industry and grab another chica.
Personally, after a half a million visits to BsAs I found a really sweet woman not in the life. I've never in my life been treated by a woman as I am by her. If you found a nice Dyve, or Chica or whatever they call them in the orient I would suggest looking at the relationship. But with an American, no way. I really think it comes down to an issue of socialization. In most parts of the world the son's in a family are treated as Prince's and the daughters are expected to serve the family. Here they get treated as Daddy's little girl and they grow up with an expectation of entitlement, their needs and desires are what is important to them.
On this forum and in countless other places the experiance is the same. Sweet, sweet, sweet until they pop a few kids, their girlfriends start telling them what a looser you are for not being C level at some fortune 500 company, then file for divorce and turn you into a paycheck.
So there you have it, my dos centavos.
Daddy