DJ,
I'm starting up my own record label. The plan is to only hire straight up G's, thugs and ex-cons fresh out of jail. I want all my artists to have maximum street-cred. We're gonna call our label...... "Criminal Recordz." :D
Rock
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DJ,
I'm starting up my own record label. The plan is to only hire straight up G's, thugs and ex-cons fresh out of jail. I want all my artists to have maximum street-cred. We're gonna call our label...... "Criminal Recordz." :D
Rock
[QUOTE=Rock Dog]DJ,
I'm starting up my own record label. The plan is to only hire straight up G's, thugs and ex-cons fresh out of jail. I want all my artists to have maximum street-cred. We're gonna call our label...... "Criminal Recordz." :D
Rock[/QUOTE]
Could do that...
Though my ghetto card has "questionable" stamped on it mainly because I don't visit the hood much and that's by design.
I live the very much urban, middle-class, suburban life style and don't "front" I am what I am. Some might even called it "white washing" but eh, it doesn't bother me.
But actually that might be more headache than its worth, running an urban record label. Have you seen the police blotter lately?
Bart -
We don't talk enough homie! lol
You know The Boondocks is returning in Dec?
We should have plenty of new quotables from the show just in time for Christmas...
Thanks for the tips on traveling. Its Air India I am taking. Cheapest price I could find. I used Yahoo travel.
I'm just trying to earn more spending cash.
Marak -
I only went over to the Romania board to learn more about the scene there, mainly caused by spending time with that Hungarain girl, as seen elsewhere on this board. I found that part of the thread and felt I should post.
All of the information I spit on there is easy to find on the net actually, though I knew it without it since I have about 20 records remixed by David Morales alone.
Oh one more thing Marak, your research hasn't gotten you far because I'm easily identified. Though DD and myself didn't see eye to eye, short of giving my exact location I can assure you that I am black and have been pulled over by Simi Valley PD for all the WRONG reasons.
I would give you a hint, but that's too easy.
What happened?
4 days gone by and not one single post?
Here's one for your consideration. My wife says she wants me to watch something on TV a couple of days ago. I figured that she had taped the last nights showing of Next Top Model.... so I said sure.
It was a total ambush! It was a taped episode of Tyra Banks talk show. There was this woman complaining about her husband.... who even I would agree, is totally addicted to porn. He has mags all over the place. Spends hours and hours looking at it on his computer. Then he usually goes out to the strip clubs in the evening.
Now I'm not stupid so I can see what's coming. Sure enough the wife starts up on how someone else's marriage is being affected by porn addiction. But here's the kicker..... I'm NOT having any kind of porn addiction! I threw out all my old movies at her request, when we got married. I never go out to those clubs (waste of time and money) and I haven't had any porn mags around since I was a teenager.
About the only thing I do is look at it on the computer a few times a week and even then it's when she's not around the house. What the fuck is it with women and porn? They just can't seem to tolerate it. And, I know I don't appreciate being bushwacked like that. Things had been going really well for the last couple of weeks, then this stupid goddamn topic comes up on Tyra.
It's always the same shit. The woman says there's a problem we need to work on. Of course, when she says "we", she really means me.
Long story short, I told her I wasn't anywhere even close to that guy they were showing on TV...... and if she can't put up with some of my bad habits once in a while that's just too fucking bad.
Comments?
Rock
[QUOTE=Rock Dog]What happened?
4 days gone by and not one single post?
Here's one for your consideration. My wife says she wants me to watch something on TV a couple of days ago. I figured that she had taped the last nights showing of Next Top Model.... so I said sure.
It was a total ambush! It was a taped episode of Tyra Banks talk show. There was this woman complaining about her husband. Who even I would agree, is totally addicted to porn. He has mags all over the place. Spends hours and hours looking at it on his computer. Then he usually goes out to the strip clubs in the evening.
Now I'm not stupid so I can see what's coming. Sure enough the wife starts up on how someone else's marriage is being affected by porn addiction. But here's the kicker..... I'm NOT having any kind of porn addiction! I threw out all my old movies at her request, when we got married. I never go out to those clubs (waste of time and money) and I haven't had any porn mags around since I was a teenager.
About the only thing I do is look at it on the computer a few times a week and even then it's when she's not around the house. What the fuck is it with women and porn? They just can't seem to tolerate it. And, I know I don't appreciate being bushwacked like that. Things had been going really well for the last couple of weeks, then this stupid goddamn topic comes up on Tyra.
It's always the same shit. The woman says there's a problem we need to work on. Of course, when she says "we", she really means me.
Long story short, I told her I wasn't anywhere even close to that guy they were showing on TV. And If she can't put up with some of my bad habits once in a while that's just too fucking bad.
Comments?
Rock[/QUOTE]Women believe that looking at porn = cheating on her. Even if that wasn't the case, women are insecure, hell, you're married to her, and she still feels insecure. My policy is "no oprah" or oprah-like. Because it ends up being aplologist crap for why women are victims. Why women go back to the men that beat them and their children. It ends up being the same, all the fault of men.
I think if "you AND your wife" were to be "working" on this. Her part would be, she would work out more often to be smoking hot looking, and she would study porn so she could deliver something more along what tickles your fantasies.
I work in an old female office (save for this rooster), and if men invented a double standard, women have perfected it. The go on about how women are oppressed in this country, and discriminated against. But I'm the only male in my office, and I'm not the boss by any stretch of the imagination, and I hear bigoted, anti-male drivel all the time.
Also, my co-workers all complain about their husbands/boyfriends. I do notice without an exception in my office, that the women all marry men that have less education than they do. Then complain about how stupid their husband/boyfriends are. So, does that mean smarter men avoid women like my co-workers, or does it mean that women like my co-workers only seek out men "stupider" than they, or does it mean only men like my co-workers's husbands/boyfriends are stupid enough to marry (in the first place) women like my co-workers?
My own opinion, is my co-workers' husbands aren't stupid, they are tradesmen, and managers (far from stupid). But they got suckered into getting married.
RD, to answer those who feel that we ***** aimlessly and constantly about the underhanded tactics and double standards employed by western-IZED women, I say "Look at RD's post". If the problem is not addressed, or if it's addressed ONCE and left to fester thinking that it's SOLVED, it'll come BACK and the same people asking the stupid question: "WHY do you keep beating a dead horse?" will say "Here's a problem that must be addressed". ADDRESS IT and KEEP ON TOP OF IT!
Sorry for the rant, my Northern brother, now here's my two cents: she sees it as her god-given RIGHT to change you, NOT seeing that SHE may have some idiosyncracies that may be a pain in the ass. You probably already know this, but mark my words, IF you change FOR HER, the demands for change will NEVER STOP. The MORE you change for her, the MORE her respect for you will ERODE. A relationship is about acceptance of your partner as a whole. SHE can't have it like a god-damned buffet where she can fucking pick and choose to her liking. IF the tables were turned and you demanded that SHE change, she'd accuse you of being a controlling, knuckle-dragging Neanderthal. However, when SHE does it, it's perceived (by man-hating, emasculating harpies) that she's trying to bring out the "best" in you. RD, STAND YOUR GROUND. Don't be inflexible, but on important issues such as the possibility of acquiescing due to the lack of a spine, STAND YOUR GROUND INSTEAD!
Your first mistake was agreeing to throw out the movies upon marriage. That set the tone & precedent. Stand your ground, bro. Tell her all men look; that's how we're programmed. Any guy who says he doesn't look at porn is a liar. As long as it doesn't interfere with your life, work, "real" sex life, etc., there's absolutely no harm in it. No compulsivity, no addiction, no problem. If she persists, give her a list of things she must change about herself. And if she's insecure about her looks vis a vis porn, tell her "So am I...I got over it...so can you. But it won't stop me from viewing porn. Please remember that when I do, it says nothing about how I see you. I'm not comparing."
Tyra = Young Skinny Oprah
Its not that we mind you looking at porn. If the truth be told we look as well.
What bothers us is the comparissons. Will he notice my fat ass. Will he notice my breasts have sagged. Will he notice I haven't made it to the hairdresser for 2 month and my regrowth is showing.
Its not the porn its our insecurity at not being viewed as attractive by our mate.
I know its ridiculous but thats what it really comes down to.
Its just a pity that women don't see porn for what it is. A wonderful sexual aid to enhance their sex lives.
Don't give up men, one day we will learn
as a woman posting, I had expected vilification from a female point of view, but you actually gave ME a point of view I had never experienced through posts. The insecurity you laid out in your post is experienced by MEN also. However, it's EASIER for a WOMAN to find a new partner than for a MAN to do the same if things go WRONG.
Because of your insight, I will give some forethought to viewing porn when in a relationship.
A rare "thank you" is extended.... welcome to the board
Whether or not women can get over their insecurities, or specifically, deal with porno more rationally is interesting, but not the important point. Translating her issues into asserting the right to demand changes in his behavior is the problem. That, and the sneaky way she went about it is the kind of thing that gives women the reputation of being manipulative, controlling beaches. I don't think they'll be getting past that any time soon.
Totally agree hardbag.
There is no point in trying to change your mate, either through sneaky manipulation or full frontal warfare. What attracts you in the start is still there and what annoyed you in the start is still there, its about wether you can work around each others bad points.
Hahahaha. I have to laugh, here am I the ultimate tart, dispensing my view on relationships. All my relationships are in time slots. Maybe that gives me an insight into them. Who knows.
As for the porn thing I have given this much thought and come up with the conculsion if you want to watch porn you need to train your women to like it as well. Perhaps starting off with some light porn (playboy channel) then slowly progress. It might work. Either that or start throwing a tantrum of your own that shes trying to change you.
Guys, and SaschaC,
Thanks to everyone for the variety of opinions offered up in the last day or so. Especially interesting was the insecurity concept offered up by a couple of posters.
That is definitely not the reason she doesn't like me watching porn. She actually has a way nicer body than most of the girls I see on the internet.
It's a purely religious thing. It's funny because I've know lots of other girls from various african countries who were indifferent to, or even enjoyed porno.
Once, I went out with a kenyan girl who actually watched the porn video on TV while I was fucking her from behind.
What bugs me is, she'll seek out others who share her opinion and use that as evidence that her position is right. If one of her friends doesn't offer up a "reinforcing opinion" I just fdon't hear about it. Case in point, her friend that works at the local MP (my wife doesn't know this). Her friend told me how she was asked how she felt about the whole porn issue. Se said it was better than having the guy go out and try and get it from other women. To which my wife told her..."wow, you are very open-minded". Coming from her, that's a very subtle criticism..... and of course I never heard THAT opinion, because it didn't back up her position.
The really funny thing is, porn isn't that big of a deal for me. How could it be, when I can go get the real thing at the MP anytime I want? Now if my wife ever wanted to complain about THAT....
Rock
Well Rock Dog
Sorry to say but you between a rock and hard place (excuse the pun).
If your wife has religious issues regarding porn it doesn't matter what you say or do. You have lost this battle. Sadly for you, your porn stash will have to stay hidden and your watching will have to be kept secret.
Rest assured you are not the only husband that suffers in silence. The only sad thing is that she doesn't realise that by being closed minded to these sexual aids she is actually driving you to experience sexual satisifaction elsewhere.
Long live the uptight wife, they keep me employed.
Good luck
So she's of a religious conservative bent? OK, in that case find all the porn that's in the bible. Of particular note is the rather humorous passage that describes two sisters vying for who can don the best disguise in order to trick dad into having sex with one or the other.
"Open-minded"...sheesh...that's a polite term for "liberal", which unfortunately has become a dirty word.
On occasion I do a Chinese friend from behind while we watch porn. It's always at her suggestion too.
Rock Dog's report depressed me, for two reasons. One is that this is another example of a woman feeling she has the right to control a man's sexuality and how he expresses it. The second is that this is another example of a man caving into a woman's unreasonable requests (ie. orders), thus encouraging her, and her like-minded friends, to behave like this even more.
Sinanju feels it is beneficial to go around in circles, going over the same old ground (and what have we found?), without developing a plan of action to remove such women and such thinking from our lives.
RD, if you knew she was religious BEFORE you married her, and you knew she was against porn BEFORE you married her, then the situation you find your self in right now is ENTIRELY your responsibility. You made your bed when you married her and now you are lying in it.
If she changed on you soon after the marriage and you accepted it, then same thing. It is your fault for having married her, either without knowing her well enough or believing that you could deal with her crap over the long term.
If you love her and want to stay married to her then stop complaining and accept your lot in life. The lot you chose. If you don't want to accept it, and you are falling out of love with her, then take action and divorce her. Stop complaining and create a more pleasant life for yourself.
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Long live the uptight wife, they keep me employed.
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If I had my druthers, you'd long be out of business because we men would have married women from other cultures that are less sex-phobic. We would get the sex we need from our wives and not substitutes.
There is a poster who is married to a woman from Colombia. He knows what I am talking about. He has no sex problems in his marriage, unlike his brother that he mentioned once.
We need to be looking overseas for wife material, not moping around.