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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Prokofiev
[i]If I can have a short, Chinese girlfriend why can't you?? . . . What are you looking for? Unhappiness? This is what Miller2K was trying to tell you. You are surrounded by every shape, type and race of woman in this world. Yet you focus on the negative, both about yourself and about women. This attitude will turn chicks away fast . . . and you will blame it on your height or race . . . never realizing it was your lack of confidence and negative attitude that was the real problem.[/i][/QUOTE]
Ever read the book, Make Every Girl Want You: How to Have Sex with Hot Girls (Without Even Dating Them!)? It points out, through numerous testimonials, that the difference between the 'friend' and the 'lover' is self-confidence. Not being an arrogant ass, but just being someone who is comfortable with himself and knows what he wants. I can say from personal experience (I've asked women that I was involved with) that women are much more attracted to the confidence than physical characteristics.
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You will someday move from NYC and soon realize, "What the fuck was I thinking?" [/i][/QUOTE]
I gotta disagree. I lived in NY for a couple years. Nothing to do with the women, but my only thought is "What the fuck was I thinking when I moved there?" Of course, I grew up and lived in Southern California for most of my life. So, the weather and attitude shock was always an issue for me.
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Lenin
[i]Just what I am not understand how you a being women going to give us
ideas against women or if you will then until which limit?
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I'm not a long standing member, so I don't have a history with RN. But, from what I've read of her posts, they are thoughtful and contain good info/ideas. Good info and ideas should always be welcome, regardless the gender of origin. Maybe you're too caught up with the 'war'?. Is it so hard to believe that a woman might want to share her opinions and ideas with men simply because she feels it might do some good?
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Purple,
The weather and life-style are personal tastes. But the number and variety of women there can't be denied. I have spent a lot of time in both LA and NYC and I much prefer the NYC vibe. To me the LA style woman is as phoney as a $3 bill. And I hate the car culture thing. But it depends on your taste. And if you can't find someone in EITHER place, you're not trying very hard.
DH,
First you complain that I misquote you, then you spend time finding posts to prove me right!!!
Having studied Spanish and taught English both here in the US and briefly in Mexico I can tell you it's a good way to meet people (women) but a shitty way to make a buck. In Mexico you won't even make the minimum wage (US). I need to work 10 to 15 hours there to equal what I can do here in 1 hour. Better to save up what you need and go without trying to work. A few hours wouldn't be bad, but some schools want 20 to 40 hours/ week and often with split shifts. Despite needing some kind of work permit, many schools just do it or like Miller you can free lance. The rules are seldom enforced unless you [url=http://isgprohibitedwords.info?CodeWord=CodeWord140][CodeWord140][/url] someone off. But my advice remains . . . earn it here and spend it there . . . God Bless America.
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Prokofiev,
I was just being a smart ass about why not to like NY.
I definitely agree that there was an abundance of women there--all sizes, shapes and ethnicities. Hell, there're probably more available women in a square mile of NY or L.A than there are people in both of the Dakotas :-)
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Yes, I forget what the American/Ecuadorean guy said he was making, like $600 a month for full-time. The Argentinean guy said he paid his guys 15-20 pesos an hour. But, he said there was no minimum commitment. He basically brokers tutors. He has a place where he does some group stuff at night and then he sends tutors to people's homes. It wouldn't sustain someone; it would only supplement their income.
Make it here, spend it there, but make a little there too. Fuck George Bush.
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DH,
For some perspective, here in the US my school pays English teachers $10/hr. No benefits, no sick leave no paid vacation. You work 4 hours/day= 20 hours/wk= $200/wk for about 48 weeks. So you make between $9 and $10k/year less tax and SS. It's only part-time but it eats up 5-6 hours each day.
In Guadalajara, I have a friend who works full-time. The school pays her $5/hr for 8hr/day but she has to spend almost 10 hours each day at school. Siesta/lunch is 2 hours+. So it works out to ALL day 8am-8pm for about 10k/year. And it would not be that easy to get a job like that. Typical teacher wage in Mexico is $4-$6/hour. No time for women. No time for drinking. No vale la pena.
But not speaking perfect Spanish makes no difference. They want the classes 100% English . . . and the biggest problem is pronunciation, so native English teachers are important.
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This guy in BA sends you to people's houses for 2 hour sessions. He pays cab fare but not travel time. I think he said the evening classes were 2 hours as well. He said he could get the paper work to make working down there legal, "if that matters to you," although I am not sure how (bribe, most likely?). That Guadalajara stuff sounds bad until you realize most people in Mexico work 6 ten hour days. Teaching is easier than working. Trust me. $5/hr in Mexico is not bad but $5 an hour in Argentina right now is better.
The 100% English thing is OK for teaching beginning levels. One of the problems I am having in getting my Spanish past the B level is finding a teacher who can speak good enough English to teach nuances, especially as far as answering questions. I would assume the same holds true for Spanish speakers trying to perfect their English. I wonder if someone who is truly fluent in both might be able to make a LITTLE bit more in some cases, especially privately. But 15-20 Arg. pesos an hour translated into what we know is important to me is about 12 quarts of Brahma so that is not that much of a waste of time. But like I said, it should be looked at as "extra" money.
I'm gonna spend three weeks, four hours a day, five days a week studying Spanish in Puerto Vallarta before I go back to BA this summer. After six more weeks there, I'm gonna take another 300 level college Spanish grammar course in the US in the fall. Hopefully that'll get me to B+/A- level. But I did a phone interview Monday with the department head at Universidad San Francisco de Quito and he seems to think my Spanish is good enough right now to teach business English in Spanish. I disagree but he is the one doing the hiring. Probably not too many native English speakers with master's degrees in business are willing to go down there. Even at $1,000 a month which is what he is offering, I could monger in Quito and save a few hundred a month. It's not bust ass hours, either. They have an agreement with some apartment buildings down there: $150 a month for a one bedroom and $200 for a two bedroom. That is a whole thing with a work visa, and since the work visa is six months and the semester is only four months, it gives a little flexibility. They let you rent the apartment for the whole six months.
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Lenin,
I have never tried to trivialise the problems that these guys have with women. I have just tried to explain to them that a) women have those problems too, and b) there's no point just sitting here whining about it, without doing something constructive. Now fair enough, lots of guys in this section have told me that I shouldn't be contributing because I'm neither a man, nor an American woman. But what happened when I stopped posting? There was just a never-ending cycle of "women are fat, women want rich men, women don't understand us" bullshit going on. Personally I get the feeling that I should be here, just to generate proper debate! I don't care if everyone's opinion is the opposite to mine - at least it turns the b*tch session into a discussion.
What you said in your post - about the "war" between men and women (in which men are being killed, no less), that men who agree with me have a "matriachal brain" and that the way I critiqued Alex puts me on the "woman's side of the barricade" - says a hell of a lot about why you have no success with American women. I am not the enemy here. I love men and would dearly love to see men and women relating to each other properly - for my sake as well as yours. What you are talking about only drives a bigger wedge between the sexes. What we need to do is find common ground. Now maybe I'm not American, but I AM a woman. I am also a much more tolerant woman that the ones you are talking about. So if your suggestions do not fly with ME, they are unlikely to fly with American women, are they?
I am not going to give you "ideas against women". I believe you need to learn to work WITH women, just as American women obviously need to learn to work with you. And you can feel free to criticise me any time you want. I don't need adoration and compliments. But if you ARE going to criticise me - make sure it's because I said something stupid, NOT just because I'm a woman.
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by RN
[i]Proko...I just had to say that was an awesome post. That - the fact that many of the men in this section seem to want American women to be (again) stripped of all their rights - is something that really gets my back up. They seem to want a woman who has no brains and no mind of her own, who worships the ground he walks on and does what she's told for fear of being hit upside the head![/i][/QUOTE]
Again, speaking for myself, my partner absolutely has to have brains and a mind of her own. Of course, I want her to worship the ground I walk on. When I fall for a woman, I put her on a pedestal and treat her like a goddess. Should she do any less if she's in love with me?
I broke up with a Japanese girl once because she was too dependent. In the last e-mail she ever sent, she asked me to get back with her by saying, "I promise to be independent [i]for you[/i]". I don't think she ever got the point of independence. Forget trying to explain interdependence.
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Personally, I do not see what women having legal rights and workers rights has to do with the lack of sex anyway! Are you guys really saying that you can't go out and get laid, just in case you end up getting married, getting divorced and giving her half the house??? Is the fact that your CEO is a woman really cutting your chances of picking up a chick in a bar?[/i][/QUOTE]
Actually, it does have an effect. Unfortunately, the rights have translated into ridiculous and vicious 'sexual harassment' claims. I find it difficult to get laid in the work place because, telling a woman that she looks good in her mini-skirt and low cut blouse might end up with me getting fired, sued into bankruptcy and publicly labeled as a miscreant.
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in fact, I would think that women brought up in an age of self-empowerment and selfishness would be MORE likely to be out looking for casual sex.
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Yep. I tend to find casual sex much more easily amongst college educated women with a lot of self-confidence than with high school drop-outs who are endoctrinated in some restrictive religion. Maybe that's just because of my circle of acquaintances though.
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Oh - and I blame your Government's irresponsibility on the Church. [/i][/QUOTE]
Religion has been fucking up the world for a long time. I don't think that it's just our government that sufferes :-)
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Lenin -
I've enjoyed many of your posts. As a foreign man that grew up in a patriarchal culture with a very different economic situation, and has spent the last ten years experiencing the North American culture, I think you have a unique perspective to share with the forum. I think your positions and opinions often conflict with some basic politically correct assumptions that many Western females and males accept.
Some of your opening commments on this forum had to do with the "unbalance" you see in the North American culture regarding the interaction between males and females. When I read some of the reactions from other posters to you (particularly RN), it seems that the fundamental issue is not being addressed for you.
The concept of "equality" in the North American culture seems to be what you have an issue with. You seem to see it as being responsible for many of the problems between men and women on this northern part of the continent, and also for much of the unhappiness in male/female relations.
I know there are many females in the professions in Russia, and if I am not wrong, I believe the majority of doctors are female. This "balance" regarding personal relations between the sexes that seems to exist much more in Russia than N. America apparently does not stand in the way of females being able to pursue equality in the workplace.
Please let me know of your opinion on my perceptions.
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[b]Rules for Women[/b]
We always hear "the rules" from the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side. These are our rules! Please note ... these are all numbered "1" ON PURPOSE!
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us bitching about you leaving it down.
1. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect present yet again!
1. Sometimes we are not thinking about you. Live with it.
1. Sunday = sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Don't cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married women always cut their hair, and by then you're stuck with her.
1 . Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!
1. We don't remember dates. Mark birthdays and anniversaries on a calendar. Remind us frequently beforehand.
1. Most guys own three pairs of shoes - tops. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
1. Check your oil! Please.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us. We refuse answer.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
1. Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway; it's genetic.
1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did not need directions, and neither do we.
1. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out. Get over it. And quit whining to your girlfriends.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
1. We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. Foreign films are best left to foreigners. (Unless it's Bruce Lee or some war flick where it doesn't really matter what the hell they're saying anyway.)
1. It is neither in your best interest or ours to take the quiz together. No, it doesn't matter which quiz.
1. BEER is as exciting for us as handbags are for you.
1. I am in shape. ROUND is a shape.
1. Thank you for reading this; Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight. But did you know we really don't mind that? It's like camping.
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That's some funny shit! I think my favorite is number 1.
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Hi RN,
I'm looking for a place to emigrate when I retire this summer and have been monitoring many possible places on this board for ideas.
Basically, I'm looking for a place that is warm, English speaking, has a good exchange rate and tons of sultry SW's to keep me company. I was looking at the NY Times on Sunday and noticed that the exchange rate between the American and Aussie dollar was 1.65 in favor of the Yanks. So, I've been thinking a lot about Oz as a possibility if not for emigrating but a place to spend several months at a time. I've "read" that Perth and Northern Australia can be very warm and tropical. Is this true? You also have the right language and a super exchange rate at the current time. So far, Oz seems to meet 3 out my 4 criteria.
Now, in your opinion does Perth or any other city have enough SW's to keep a cute Yank occupied? I know that Perth isn't Rio but is there enough action there to make it worthwhile? Would you recommend any other city or area in Oz? I've read some good things about Freemantle for example. Basically, I'd really appreciate your opinions in regard to my "quest."
By the way, nice going on your political initiatives there. "Keep your on the prize" as we used to say in the 60's.
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Paddy, read my past posts on this subject. Australia has one of the most restrictive immigration policies in the world. They only want young people, AND they have a limit on how many 90 day visas you can have in X period of time. I looked into both Australia and New Zealand and the conclusion I came to was dismal to say the least.
Suggest you learn Spanish. Now if you want someplace that welcomes retirees and meets all your criteria EXCEPT plenty of sultry SWs, I suggest you check out Malta. They welcome retirees. If Malta gets into the EU (I believe they are slated for the next round of expansion), you could maybe bring a mistress in from some other European country like maybe Spain, if you could afford that.
The women in Malta are very ugly (specifically, very bad skin and a lot of chubbies). Everything else there is very nice, especially the food and the weather, and it is quite cheap. Americans are a novelty there. Also, the food in Australia and New Zealand is very bland and unimaginative, in my opinion as a former professional cook. They do drive on the wrong side of the road in all three of these countries.
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Great article in the Onion parody newspaper online. Sums up very well about the repression of sex and how Europe is much more cool about these things....
http://www.theonion.com/onion3908/why_cant_we_live.html