Speaking as a stepfather...
I love my stepson as my own. After my marriage to his mother dissolved after 12 years I still regard him as my child (he is now 22). During the course of the marriage not one cent of support was tendered by his natural father; thankfully finances were not an issue for me. I never understood why ego plays such a large role. Any fool can impregnate a woman, being a father is a whole different story. I do not have any natural children by the way. Mom pulled the usual AW stunts during the marriage so of course I had to go. The divorce went as follows: go your merry way and don't worry about college. I hated to put it that way. The lads 21st birthday gift was a R/T ticket to Puerta Plata. There is nothing like understanding between a father and son!
Okay I didn't want to take up bandwith without adding something...
Okay, my mother felt she had to bring something to my attention earlier.
There's a front page story in the LA Times about how some guy got suckered by a Brasilian woman.
I don't have to read a front page news story about something I see on these very boards everyday on the Sao Palo and Rio forums. I mean the information is not new, its not recycled either as every story is different, but they all have at least 2 things in common -
1) A girl in Brazil is getting money from a knucklehead and about two or three other guys and to add insult to injury, she has a local boyfriend.
Meanwhile -
2) Said American, European or Canadian is upset about being an ATM and a sperm donor, especially after the girl in question gave him the best sex he's ever had in his life...
So he feels like he has to play the "bitterman" instead of blaming himself for the foolishness of his choices. He happens to know somebody who knows somebody else who's a columist for said MAJOR newspaper and there you have it in PRINT for all to see.
Meanwhile I have known about mail order bride scams since I first figured out what pussy was. The internet just makes it easier and faster to get scammed if your not careful.
But the point of this post was, I had to defend my planned trip to Europe (again) because she feels Im about to get dupped. I'd say and I said, that has a better chance of happening in EE, island nations such as Thailand and poor countries in South America (Brazil case in point...)
She has NO idea what the modern male such as myself has to deal with when dealing with American Women.
I don't know if I had said it before, but I actually got into an arguement with a woman I don't know from Adam about the fact that at the time I was 32 and still lived at home.
How about the time a girl was all hot to talk to me on the phone (met online) and once she found out I lived at home, promtly hung up on me.
Then my mother was in classic mode, "Why would you even tell them you live at home?"
Uh, its kinda unavoidable. AW lead boring lives in general and a change of scenery is good for them. So when they meet a new guy they want to check him and his dwelling out, so she can see what kinda guy he is (:read how much money does he have).
And on top of all of that, wouldn't I be the one thing AW loath the most -
A Liar?
If I lied from day one, the question becomes what else have I lied about and the budding relationship crumbles before I even get to feel her up.
I'll be the first to admit that looking overseas for a mate is foolishly expensive and will take up about years worth of time to straghten out, but I believe the end result will be that I'll be happier than a pig in slop...
I was able to find a local EE girl and I have covered that before. While she wasn't bothered about my living arrangement, it didn't work out for reasons I still don't quite understand and have stopped a long time ago trying to figure out why.
I don't know if I should put a personal out there saying I'm looking for a "non-American" woman in America, specifically in the LA area... I'll get a bunch of replies from Nigerian guys using some internet picture they found of some white girl in the hopes of "putting one over on me".
I mean some French girl (been here 4 years) sent me a wink, but she isn't and I don't find that many French women to be all that hot. She's cute, but that's about it and must have only seen my picture and not read where it says "I live at home"; but to be honest, that doesn't seem to bother European women and seems to be only a problem with American Women, even if they had to move back home themselves.
The Pot Calling The Kettle "Black"
Such is the perils of telling "conformist" about your plans of bypassing the "system" for better prospects...