Color me Victim of being... Well overconfident..
Not that you have all missed me, but I have spent the last month PLUS with this local Hungrian girl.
To cut a LONG story short, we finally met, I hit it, tagged it good in fact. But then the morning came, I left and 2nd doubts crept in...
From that moment I was DONE. She claims no chemical reaction in her to me. Okay, but she didn't mind the fact I "dinned at the Y" for at least 30 mins straight. Lack of regular sex shorten my master "stroke" to about 10 mins, which I thought might have screwed up her thinking. She asures me it had no effect, I don't buy it, but whatever.
Spent the next evening together, fondling and such. Got kicked out around Midnight. We both had to work early.
Well she pretty much said to me "in not so many words" that there is no spark and might not ever will be one. Wants to remain friends and that is fine with me, I suppose.
So what did I loose in that amount of time?
I won't get into all the details, I'll feel even more foolish than I already do.
I COULD have visted a certain German woman this month as was planned. Of course that might have limited my mongering to nill, but I would be in Europe and fuckin and that's what was important.
Now I have pushed that back to Sept/Oct when prices go back down, and frankly after spending some time in the New England area with about 5' of snow and visiting Canada during that same time, its actually not that bad, though I can't see myself LIVING in it. I would consider going even later in the year if it ment saving some dead presidents.
This has nothing to do with American women I guess, and this was about as far from the typical American woman as a European woman gets, which was very refreshing.
Though I failed this mission, I am on the right track. My destiny lies with a European woman. From where I don't know, but I can't see myself in any kind of a long term deal with an American woman. Expections are way too rare bothering with searching.
Its increasingly hard to find a childless woman here or in Europe.
But not impossible...
What kills is that she was local (10 mins away) and now I'm back to searching around the free world again. That is likely the most disapointing fact that it didn't work out.
Moral to this story -
Do not wait 5 weeks to meet a girl in person for the first time, especially if she lives in your AREA!
I wasted 5 weeks when it could have been maybe 1 week under normal conditions. Why did we wait so long? She wanted an answer on her legal status here. She is NOT an American citizen, even though she married one for papers. She sent out papers for her final Green Card before she can try for citizenship. She got an answer this past Saturday and I got the greenlight.
So there you have it, the only thing I can take from this is that a proper boy scout is always prepared... I had another waiting in the wings, though not an "import" but a "domestic" model, but she lives in UTAH!
Ive prolly traveled for pussy for more miles and hours than I care to mention.
The saga of being a nice guy continues...
The Force has TWO sides, young Padawan...
The letter is expressed from ONE SIDE of the relationship. It says that the husband left her side to seek sexual gratification elsewhere. It does not say WHY. No details of the relationship are made known other than opinion. While I am NOT defending the husband, here's a POSSIBLE scenario...
wifey may have paid SO MUCH attention to the kids during the span of the relationship that she may have neglected hubby and not thought of it for a second because she was being "Mommy" and dumped her role as "wife". It DOES happen (I've seen it on Oprah! LOL). NATURALLY hubby is gonna be resentful and seek attention elsewhere. He has no legal recourse if wifey does this. What is he supposed to do? Tough it out, jerk off and be HAPPY at this farce of a family life? Sure, you should raise your kids with the proper amount of attention and love, but to do so at the detriment of your spouse (with whom your PRIMARY RELATIONSHIP should be) is a recipe for disaster. If she thinks that he's gonna wait around for the kids to turn 18 and be sexless for the entire time simply because she wants to dote on her kids, then she's OBVIOUSLY on crack. Does she think that he's gonna stand for this? No man with a backbone WILL. I think that this scenario is entirely plausible and is one she will not admit to.
Think about this, young padawans....
Mr. DJ don't play that song!
[QUOTE=DJ FourMoney] I also met a Hungrian girl that has been in the US 6 years and TOTALLY uneffected by the typical thinking of American women, which she finds stupid and almost funny. Totally refreshing. What's even better she lives less than 5 mins from where I'm posting this...
I'm not going to put my eggs in one basket and she has some "green card" issues she needs to take care before anything serious happens between us. So currently the phyical part of the relationship is on hold, but you should see the SMS she sends me 4-5 times a day. She's gunna crack and when she does, I'll be there to catch her, but I will still go to Europe and enjoy myself, just to confirm she is worth and honestly I know its been only a few days, I can say she is 100% worth it....[/QUOTE]
DJFourMoney:
Do you think that we preach about the pitfalls of becoming involved with American and Americanized women because we have nothing better to do? It seems that all of the warnings and admonishments are futile; guys keep repeating the same behavior that gets them burned.
Let us see, this Hungarian woman lived in the United States for 6 years but you thought that she was “totally unaffected by the typical thinking of American women”. DJ, if you really believed that, I have a nice lobster farm in Central Georgia that I would like to sell you. Don’t worry, I’ll give you a good price and all of the lobsters have been de-clawed to spare you those nasty pinches.
So here you go, smitten with this totally Un-Americanized immigrant who has been residing in the US for 6 years; you cancel your mongering trip to Europe while this self professed visa hunter puts you on hold to finish securing a permanent green card from her sponsor; you dine on her [url=http://isgprohibitedwords.info?CodeWord=CodeWord140][CodeWord140][/url] flaps for a half hour and then she tells your efforts didn’t have the slightest effect upon her. Then she tells you that you can be friends. Well, DJ pardon my honesty, but that sounds terribly American to me. You got played in a really bad way.
I remember that my last words to you regarding this woman were to “fuck and flee”. Instead, you chose to be Mr. Nice Guy and you finished last. Is that any surprise? How were you going to excite her when you did what every other sucker does by trying very hard to please her? You were too nice and sensitive making excuses for your performance; wasting your time licking her [url=http://isgprohibitedwords.info?CodeWord=CodeWord140][CodeWord140][/url] hole. What you should have done was cut your 10 minute master stroke to a vicious 5 minute beast fuck, preferably anal, then after blowing your load suddenly remember a prior engagement; pull up your pants and rush out the door. I guarantee that you would have had quite an effect on her and left her with more of an impression than submissively licking her **** for a half hour.
Perhaps, you think that the regulars in this thread are a little too radical for your liking. Maybe, deep down inside you believe that we’re just a bunch of bitter bastards; that is perfectly okay but do yourself a favor and visit the Medellin section on the Colombia thread. You will find that guys who don’t post here also have some very revealing views and experiences with foreign women who end up in the United States.
A question for everyone / anyone..
I have made 2 trips to Thailand for vacation within the last 12 months. People within my workplace know I am single and whenever I say I have come back from Thailand they will either come out directly and pry into my sex life over there, or do so in an indirect manner, basically I feel its clear that they are viewing me as a "sex tourist". I even heard that a single women in the office (who is typically fussy and expects to meet a Brad Pitt even though her clock is ticking - she is 36 y.o. and very average looking) commented to another about me being a sex tourist and I have to travel half way around the world to get some sex.
Now I know for sure within myself I have no problems or issues about myself paying for sex. Yet for some strange reason people talking behind my back like in the above example annoys me a little, even though I know it should not. I was wondering if others on this board experience similar snide remarks or reactions from American women when telling them you have been to Thailand or another country renowned for sex tourists. Does it bother you? I sometimes consider maybe I should say I am going somewhere else on holiday, I just get sick of people obsessed with my sex life just because I am single and frequent such locations. I never would for instance ask a married person in the office how many times a week are you having sex, so I sort of expect not to have to share any intimate relationship details I maybe having on my trips.
My longer term goal is that when I am around 42 y.o. I believe I shall have enough to retire an spend around 4 months of the year across Asia and the rest in Australia, I do not have ambitions to have kids or get married or be in a relationship during my time in Australia. Effectively I have given up dating westernised women for the whole host of reasons that are often discussed here. Yet in the meantime it is driving me mad with friends, family, work colleagues who do not seem to want to accept the fact I want to spend my life different to them, i.e. they are continually trying to set me up on dates despite me saying I am not interested, they are gobsmacked when I say I have no interest in having kids, and think I am a lunatic for not buying a home yet ( I don't want to live in one place all the time and prefer to trade the stockmarket).
Does anyone experience similar fustrations from American women who look down on men such as me who have chosen to give up on them? I think they are shocked that I can lead a very happy life without them.