SM,
ROFLMAO! That was funny as hell, but also very, very true! This is good advice for dealing with non-P4P encounters as well.
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SM,
ROFLMAO! That was funny as hell, but also very, very true! This is good advice for dealing with non-P4P encounters as well.
GoodEnough[quote]Maybe I have lived outside of the States for too long, and have thus forgotten what it's like, but the general tone of these posts reinforces the decision to stay outside for an even longer period of time.[/quote]I know what you mean. A friend put it me, after I exclaimed how much the US had changed in the years since I left... "are you sure it was not [i]you[/i] who changed?"
Something to think about.
Cheers,
Sporadic
Leaving aside any OTHER issues, I am shocked when I come back to the USA at how many truly OBESE people there are here now. Both sexes, but it seems more women than men. You don't see this much obesity ALMOST anywhere else in the world. When did it become acceptable in the USA to be 50-100 lbs overweight?????
Chuponalgas,
According to my records, the obesity acceptance act was passed during the Clinton administration... I think it was some staffer named Lewinsky who finally persuaded the President to sign the bill. ;)
I saw a segment of 20/20 and it featured a book authored by a woman (and helped along by MEN) that "decodes" a guy's behavior if he doesn't call her. Excuse me but what about a "fair and balanced" program here? What about airing a segment about the female baracudas who act as deceitful sponges for the sole purpose of separating a guy from his hard earned resources? Then again, I can sooner expect Dubya to wear drag and lead the Gay Pride parade down 5th Ave in NY while lip synching Cher songs.
Chuponalgas
I think it became aceptable when some idiot started the BBW thing. It's amazing bubba, they celebrate their obesity demanding that people find them attractive. "SHUDDER" I'm in BsAs in three days!
Here in los angeles, I find it difficult to meet girls. Everything's so separated by the highway/road system. Everything is spread out, and everyone's isolated in their cars. Plus I don't see all the beautiful women that are supposed to be here. I just finished college, probably will go to grad school next year, but everyone on campus is in a hurry. I get no flirting signals, only very rarely. I could pay a professional, but I dont want to. There's also a lot of segregation in the US in many different regards, making expanding one's social circle difficult. I've heard of people hooking up in bars / clubs / parties, but I have yet to experience that myself. No, I'm not ugly or short, just short on cash. I'm pleased with my outer self, but I'm not feeling very confident due to my lack of scoring. Dude, it can't be that hard, everyone gets laid except me. My problem is, I don't know WHERE SPECIFICALLY to meet HOT girls.
Do I really need to go abroad just to get laid? It seems like such a drastic thing to do. Sure, I could have a short fling while on vacation, but if it's as good overseas as everyone on this forum says, how does one live / work abroad? I've heard so many good things about Sweden. I'd like to visit, but money is short.
I'd appreciate your advice!
I'm gonna regret asking this question, but here goes...
Give me a wish list, guys. Describe your perfect woman for me. Tell me exactly what you're looking for - not what you're NOT looking for, but what you really WANT in a woman. Be honest and realistic, too. I know you'd all love to do Angelina Jolie - hell, SO WOULD I!!! - but you're not likely to run into her in the laundromat. If you could meet your future wife/girlfriend in your local supermarket tomorrow, what would she be like?
***(added a half hour later) And no cheating! Put it on the board, not in my message box! You two know who you are ;)
RN,
Does not exist IMHO. If they were to cater to my every need, fantasy, want and desire they would not have much room left over for a personality.
I found mine many years ago. Perfect? Far from it. But then again, so am I. Can I compensate for things I find less than ideal? Yes, most of the time.
Of course, I along with many others around here seem to be more than willing to describe perfection as: "RN." ;)
Cheers,
Sporadic
I remember watching an episode of Star Trek:Voyager where Seven of Nine wished someone a happy birthday and that the guest of homor received ALL her wishes except ONE: for the purpose of constantly pursuing perfection.
Yes, there IS no such creature. If she DID exist, the novelty would soon wear off. That's why if she were less than perfect, she could strive for that goal, even thogh she could never attain it. The journey itself would be the source of enjoyment rather than arriving at the destination.
At the extreme risk of giving RN a Zeppelin-sized head, she fills several of the criteria I listed in a PM to her. Of course I didn't tell HER that.
Damn you, RN, I didn't see the sentence: "No cheating", so, I'll step up to the plate and lay it on the line.
Doll, I KNOW yer gonna trap some guys with their own words when they answer, THAT'S why I'm gonna give you a REALISTIC answer that even YOU have to agree with.
MY perfect woman:
to list superficial features (Yes, I admit that they are SUPERFICIAL features) if I had my pick, in order of preference - redhead, brunette, black hair then blonde
a NORMAL body type. By that, I mean if she has a few pounds to lose (NOT OBESE!) I'm not gonna penalize her for that, because I'd give her incentives to lose it instead of criticizing her. If she had small breasts, that'd be OK UNLESS they were SO SMALL that they would resemble an 11 year old boy. I need SOMETHING to play with and I think even YOU have to agree with THAT. I'm not really a big fan of the Jennifer Lopez type of ass, but if my perfect woman had one, so be it. I'd take it as an added bonus that I wasn't lookig for, but would accept with gratitude.
She HAS to have a sexy attitude. THAT will go a LONG WAY toward keeping me on a short leash. For example, I'd like it if I were watching a football game and she took the remote out of my hand, sat on my lap facing me and straddling me, looked dead into my eyes and said in a sexy no-nonsense voice: "I want you to lick my pussy". What's three missed hours of a football game compared to THAT? It would also help if she were open to experimentation. I licked chocolate syrup off my ex's breasts, but the next woman I'm with, I wanna lick chocolate syrup or Dom Perrignon out of her pussy.
She HAS to be giving. I don't mean she gives ALL and I TAKE ALL. I mean that she has to occasionally do things for me just because she likes to make me happy just as *I* would do the same for HER.
She HAS to have a sense of humor. I wouldn't subject her to the same humor that I engage in with my best friend (a woman) but she has to be able to laugh.
This is a short list, Doll, but I think that even YOU, a seasoned pro, has to agree with this list....
When describing my perfect woman I realize that looks really don't have anything to do with it. Of course I want her to be physically attractive but there is no single must have. I have been with beautiful women with large breasts, small breasts, skinny, 30 pounds overweight, all different hair colors and styles. I found them all gorgeous in their own way. Katherine Zeta Jones and Kate Hudson would both work although they look completely different. She doesn't have to be beautiful (okay looking would work) as long as she has a sexy attitude.
I think the most important attribute is attitude, much like Sinanju Master said. I also like an assertive gal who isn't afraid to initiate sex. I would love to have her come in the room while I'm watching the game and straddle my face with her pussy and ask me to lick it. Also someone who is into experiementation and trying new things.
I also like feminine women. There is a time and a place for everything of course, but if I'm taking a women out to dinner I like her to be wearing a skirt, heels, and a nice blouse with some sex lingerie underneath. Nice hairdo, painted finger and toe nails, earrings. Nice perfume. You guys know when one of those young gals walks past you in a restaurant or something and they just smell so fresh and nice? I like that.
Good personality and sense of humor. Sure.
Non-smoker, light drinker, and treats you nice -- just like I would be treating her. That would be my perfect woman. A five, six, or a seven could definately fall into that category. In fact, maybe even preferable to a 10 because I'd hate to see every guy we walked past drooling over her.
Civ2000
Well said so far, guys.
I haven't got a perfect body type as attitude is more important than specific physical issues. (I think if you monger for a while you either get locked in on a particular type or are open to most anything. I'm the latter.) I don't care in the least about race, ethnicity, coloring, breast size, age, etc. other than how it might add something interesting to the equation. Yes, a non-smoker. Yes, absolutely, as Sinanju Master said, a sense of humor is crucial. Not only should I be able to make her laugh, easily and often, but she should also make me laugh. I prefer someone with a sense and ability to express their own sensuality, but that also has a wide range, and I'm open to repeated persuasions and manifestations.
My idea woman is someone with a brain that works every bit as well or preferably even better than mine. I prefer someone whose brain and personality works somewhat differently than mine does, who challenges me to look at things in ways I'd not otherwise consider. (Preferably over and over and when I'm not expecting it and may even at times find it annoying, as long as annoying's not the default mode and as long as she understands when I get the point and/or when I'm incapable of absorbing more.) I like someone with a talent I don't have but can manage to understand. The more of that talent the better. The more that talent befuddles me and forces me to incorporate it into my considerations the better.
Most importantly she has to have heart, real heart. Not someone who's going to be spending half their time sniping about this or that person, but someone who's going to hear the same stuff and have empathy. I don't want disguised niceness or fake interest -- I want someone who really gives a damn about other people's lives, interests, problems, triumphs, and mine as well. I've met far too many who pretend all that while really listening to a little song in their head, and it's their own theme song, with lyrics that say, "You're an idiot, you're a fool, when can we talk about me, me, me?" No thank you -- sooner or later the real song comes out, and that's the kind of thing you have to live with day in and day out. I need someone whose core values are similar, though not necessarily completely the same, as my own.
I want someone who is a challenge, who challenges me, who I'll need to take a lifetime to figure out, but who I understand innately. My ideal woman is simultaneously independent and able to do any damn thing she pleases by herself and also needs and values me for support, assistance, to talk to, and because my take on things helps her with her own. I like someone who is complicated, but who has the ability to be simple when needed. My ideal woman is also someone who is comfortable with change.
Finally, my ideal woman is someone who understands economy of scale, who doesn't believe in burning down the restaurant because the waiter forgot the bread, who doesn't believe in burning the relationship to ash because three weeks ago I forgot to put the toilet lid down, but who, when something really does matter, really cares and will go all the way. I don't mind a temper, as long as it's coupled with the ability to forgive and to go back to the same state as before things flared up once things are worked through.
So, basically, passion for life, passion for me, passion for others, passion for herself, in mutable, flexible, and ever-variegated amounts.
Well, I can cross myself straight off Joe's list, by the looks of it - but I might still be in with a chance with a couple of others. :p
Just kidding. Keep it coming, fellas. There's been some really great comments made so far and I don't think any of them have been too unrealistic, either.
I've been so caught up in what I DON'T want for the past few years, that I didn't even realise (until a very wise friend of mine called me chicken-shit and made me take a long, hard look at myself ;) ) that I have no idea what I DO want. How can I go out and search for happiness when I have no idea what it looks like?
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Leaving aside any OTHER issues, I am shocked when I come back to the USA at how many truly OBESE people there are here now. Both sexes, but it seems more women than men. You don't see this much obesity ALMOST anywhere else in the world. When did it become acceptable in the USA to be 50-100 lbs overweight?????
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Chuponalgas,
The esoteric teacher Gurdjieff had a theory that repressed sexuality often manifests as obesity. I am not aware of scientific evidence, but it seems to me common sense that repressing one appetite could result in over-indulgence in another.
Tea Boy