If those sanctimonious right wing pricks....
.....again fall for the wedge issue of gay marriage and keep a bunch of self serving scumbags in power, I am going on a killing spree. I'm hoping for the current administration to leave office in handcuffs after power changes in the house and senate this November.
I was also MADE into what I am, looking out only for my interests in the dating arena, by YEARS of being USED, by American bitches ("Thank you for X you're a great FRIEND"). I used to be a sweet little puppydog, willing to give gladly without receiprocation.
What do I WANT in a woman-in no particular order:
1. MAINTAINED physical attractiveness-"she let herself go after the wedding" is actually a cliche' now.
2 Perform the function of "handling" me-regulate my mood, regulate my diet, remember birthdays....basically take care of the little things so I can handle the big stuff like making a living (American girls toss their baby to the husband as he walks in the door from work, so she can run off to go shopping or have coffee with her girlfriends). Keep my wardrobe under control, and the house a reasonably pleasant environment.
3 Produce a child or two for me....act as primary caregiver to that child, don't dump that responsibility off on some mook who runs a day care so you can go do some little nothing of a job and claim to be a financial contributor with a full share of decision making power.
4 Maintain a REASONABLE level of materialist desire. I like nice things too, but know that they won't make you happy, and expect you also to know the same thing (within reason). I don't give a fuck if Mrs. Jones down the street got a new SUV.....when I get 3 million in the bank, we can retire to a tropical island where you definitely won't need one..
5. Give me sex when I want it. Don't use sex as a weapon to get what you want.
6. Be faithful.
7. Recognize that I am steering the ship, and abide by my decisions. Yes, your input is important, and I should give your opinion strong consideration, but the final decision is MINE. If you really want to be in charge, FINE, but then I get a life of light housework, daytime TV (I cringe at the thought), and playing with the kids......you can handle a 90 minute commute on top of ten hours a day of,my idiot boss, sociopathic co-workers, and corporate stupidity.
8. Don't USE me, CHOOSE me....Don't make me, the responsible hard working "nice guy" your backup plan for a nice life after you have failed to snag a rock star, pro athlete, rich guy, male model, or failed to "change" that dramatic loser. Again the metaphor....how would you feel if someone threw a big party, didn't invite you, and then offered you some leftover food and drinks if you would help them clean up afterwards
B9k
There actually IS some good advice .....
...to AW in this:
"Many women toss out great prospects because they aren’t swept off their feet instantly. Remember that men who sweep you off your feet right away might be a little too practiced in the art. You’ve got to wonder who else he’s swept away that week. Look for substance. I went out with several men multiple times whom I didn’t feel terribly attracted to initially but liked for one reason or another. It was good discipline. I fell in love with my husband by getting to know him gradually (although, after our first date, I did catch myself telling friends that I might marry him). "
This paraphrases something I have said on this board repeatedly to AW-STOP THROWING YOURSELF AT the 20% of guys who are (again a variant of the litany) smooth, slick, dramatic, pretty, (born, or at least early achiever of) weathy, high profile (pro athletes and rock stars) etc, ad nauseum....what you look like to them is tommorow nights fuck , NOT the future Mrs. Pretty boy, Rich Guy etc.
Further commentary:
"Just over four years ago, I signed onto Match.com with the intention of finding my husband. Six months and more than 100 dates later, I did. (As you might have surmised if you just did the math, I was between jobs at the time and had a lot of free time on my hands.) Given the sheer number of dates I experienced, out of necessity......."
Translation-it got too difficult for me to make a living as an "independent woman" so I decided to find a guy to foot the bills for me. However, I wil still retain all rights and privleges of a financially independent entity. Typical.
"Step 3: Don’t get physical until you’re sure he’s The One
Whoa! This is a counter-cultural message! You’d never hear the characters on Sex and The City acting this way (if they did, of course, there wouldn’t be a show). But I figured that the fastest way to find your mate online is by dating a lot of people. The only way to date many people simultaneously and not lose your mind is by not getting physical with anyone. That’s because having sex, I learned, floods your system with a neurotransmitter called oxytocin, which bonds you to that person whether you like it or not. But by not bonding prematurely, your head stays clear. Incredibly, I didn’t even kiss anyone (yes, I was tempted). If asked, I would tell a date that I was holding off on anything physical until I knew I was in a committed relationship—one leading to marriage. I don’t know if saying this scared anyone off. If it did, then that was a good thing! "
Hmmmm...this is interesting in a couple of respects. I like to see a slam on the "Sex in the City" school of thought, which is "go right ahead and jump anything that your pussy aches for", regardless of the prospective consequences.......also, an assertion that (disguised in medical jargon) IT ISN'T GOOD TO MAKE DECISIONS EXCLUSIVELY ON THE BASIS OF FEELINGS.
"Step 4: Date at least three people at a time
“Dating one person is over-focus. Two is either-or. And three is balance,” says psychologist Pat Allen, author of Getting To I Do. That way, if a seeming prospect suddenly disappears, which happened to me several times, you won’t feel as crushed knowing you’ve got several new dates lined up. Because you aren’t getting physically involved with anyone, your dates will be much more accepting of your seeing other people should the subject arise. If it does, you can honestly say, “I plan to continue dating several people until I find the right one and am ready to commit.” Stick to it. When dating online, especially, finding a mate is a numbers game. By dating several men at once, I met more men more quickly and, being able to compare them to each other, I felt more sure I’d met the right guy when I did. "
I actually don't have a problem with this as long as the girl drops the other two, after choosing one. This is preferabe to the prototypical arangement where a girl has one "chosen", with at least three replacements (maintained with flirting, and possiby other activities up to and including sex) cooling their heels on her back burner in the event that number 1 doesn't work out for her.
OK, that's all that I have....I couild probably be justifyably accused of holding a belief system, and then looking for evidence to suppot it, but....
B9k