Try to find a real woman?
As a resident and intelligent man you know that's not possible especially at the cost.
But what is the definition of a real woman anyway? Several answers exist since every man has it own requirements.
If some will prefer a sex machine that can cook and stay at home.
Then, you are in the mombasa is perfect place just bring cash flow and you will have a wife or a girl. Try to find them at villages or neighborhoods such as kikambala, majengo or bamburi. (bamburi has stunning ladies but you need to make an effort to get their and walk at the main road shopping etc.)
If you want a healthy balance between sex and intelligent, I mean a girl that has many areas of interest as much as European girl.
Then sorry but not in mombasa. In fact most of my resident friends in mtwapa are admitting that while they can talk 24/7 with their kenyan friends they completely silence with a white boyfriend. In Nairobi the situation is better, I was lucky to meet a brilliant lady but she was the only one with this talent that I have found in my 15 years visiting and living in kenya.
If you look for a partner for business and also some fun. Then you will have fun but you can trust anyone for business both man and ladies. Stories are to many.
Knowing the limitation is as much as important as knowing the advantages and its true for any country. One more thing who is living in a hotel anyway? Short time visitors?
The experts are always rent an apartment which can be rented per month or even a week basis. Most folks just don't know where to find thus apartments but the monthly price for a nice two bedroom fully furnished is around 11, 000. Just buy the high density "heavy duty" mattress (from bob mill) its only 7000ksh much better for wild action then the soft-one you get.
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Limpopo - Luo Music and Dance group
If you like to see something different and like to be on a classier side, you maybe like to take your girlfriend to a live concert of the Limpopo music and dance group. They sing in Luo language. t's often about love and relationships (I was told ;). They played at the Mamba Club on my visit last year and I've also seen them in Nairobi in the New Deepwest Resort. And mostly you would be the only westerner there. Visitors are of all ages and relations - couples, friends, male and female singles.
The music is great even if you don't understand. There are always some tribal dancers on stage and I loved the impressing show of the dwarf. He's the secret star of the show. It's also funny to see Kenyan's behaviour on concerts as the dancefloor empties completely when there is no music, even if it's for only 30 secondes till the next song [no affront!].
If you see an ad out there make a visit! I only had my mobile with me, so the pictures are not of great quality.
Live music & Entertainment
If you want to hear something else than the same music, played in all bars & clubs there are some opportunities to hear live bands playing ( & dancing of course..).
On sunday afternoons you can go to either the far South- & North -ends of Bamburi Beach.
On the North end, near the (in)famous caves there is Ya'mas Beach Club, run by a Greek guy. On sunday they have a live band playing starting from 16.00h.
They serve good food as well.
At the same time on sunday afternoons the BANGU starts at the Campers Haven / Jamboree Club at he far South side of Bamburi Beach, next to the Pub(l)ic Beach. They exclusively play Rumba style Swahili music & sometimes Giriama music. This place is actually Miraa chewers Paradise, so the atmosphere is quite laid back. You will find hardly any Muzungus here. They serve nice Mishikakis.
The Bangu goes on much longer than the band at Ya'mas ( until 22.00h).
On Thursday night a live band plays at Bob's Bar, Next to Nyali Nakumatt along the highway. Good , not-expensive food also available ( mixed grill !).
On Fridays a live band plays at the Kahama Hotel. It's a pity that there is not much space inside there & the dance floor is very small.
All these live bands consist of very talented & experienced musicians who can play a wide variety of styles, from Jazz & Rock classics to very danceable African music.
The musicians of the different bands also like to visit each other's concerts & give guest performances.
If you don't have company yet & you want to pick up a girl the best places would be the beach around Ya'mas & the Public beach.
Accomodation at Club RIO & Kenda's / fuel shortage
Some additional info about Club Rio.
They also offer accomodation inside the same building, prices starting from 900 Ksh per night.
The rooms are self contained, so they have a toilet & shower as well as a fan.
However they are very basic, very small and have not much fresh air.
Actually they don't have windows to the outside, only to an inside corridor, a but like a prison setup.
One could imagine the noise in the night there, when all the rooms are in use.
All in all it would be OK to do your thing there with a girl you just picked up in the club, but it wouldn't be a nice place to wake up in the morning, let alone a place to spend the day.
It was announced in Kenda's in the centre of Mtwapa that they now charge 1000 Ksh per room / night. These rooms are small, but larger than at Rio's, they have a more pleasant setup, with a window and a TV. A lot of noise though in the night, as they are just above the club.
I heard that these days (16 August) there are frequent fuel shortages in Mombasa, that combined with increasing fuel prices makes the Matatus sometimes double their prices.
Comments arising from recent posts
"And in my opinion, if you are looking for beautiful, young Kenyan girls, go to where normal Kenyan girls are and you will find a beautiful, young, well-educated, very smart girl who would never take your money. She wants a boyfriend or to get married or to learn something about having sex from somebody who has been around the world. Sell yourself as classy and you will have no problem. Buy drinks, buy food, then take her out a few times to some nice places" (Kichuna2).
Much appreciation to Kichuna2 for his thoughtful ramblings, I wish more of us would write in this way! Dont worry about the length of the text guys, we all have differing interests and can easily skim-read to get to the juicest bits, either about where to find the gorgeous girls, or the best decor, or mongering advice in general.
However i would just point out that the gals themselves act differently according to whether a man is a Kenyan or a white.
For example, Kichuna2 says that one can wine and dine a classy Kenyan lady and in the end she will sleep with you and not ask for any money, but this wouldnt happen for a white, the ladies still ask for huge amounts of money and if you offer them a token 1k or even 2k for "taxi home" they will ridicule you no end and start to say you are treating them like a prostitute. They were expecting big money, gifts of expensive mobile phones, and even to be rented nice apartments etc etc, in fact such ladies are to be very much avoided!! Men want "no-strings-attached" fun and thats why they end up picking up a less-classy girl, instead of spending hours and hours with a classy girl, wining and dining her, and then, from experience what often happens, is that after eating and getting drunk, the girl will pretend to be called by her gal-pals to a location she knows you wont want to go to, either these poxy discos where they play only music young ladies love, or .... any way of getting away from you after she has eaten your money and time for some hours!!
For a white who is a visitor or who lives in Kenya most of the time, my advice is to look for a lady who is neither a pro nor a gold-digger. When chatting with her initially, find out what kind of day-job she does, and why she is there where you are. Its hard sometimes coz even the pros will give you bullshit answers, but, try to read between the lines, and you may strike gold! Many working Nairobi ladies go to Mombasa for their holidays, and are open to having fun at nights as well as daytime fun. Also, of the local gals in Mombasa, not all are out for big-money. I would ask the girl quite early on, when she asks if you would like her company, ask her what she would expect from you. Dont mention MONEY, let her do that herself. Others would just say to have fun and some drinks at your expense. But being ladies, they will always want to keep you guessing as to whether or not you will get some action..it's pot luck! If its two gals together, it may be worth the extra drinks and encourage them to stick together.. you may end up sleeping with both of them as a threesome. Being friends they trust each other more, so, maybe they would be happy to give you oral sex together (ie not afraid of licking the other's saliva on the dick) or even let you keep on the same condom for both... its a pain to have to keep changing condoms every time one wants to penetrate the other... it ruins the flow of the threesome action. Once I did that and in the morning I picked up 10 condoms from the floor.. i had fcked each gal 5 times but they hadnt partaken fully together...each took her turn. (Not a proper threesome!). But at least neither of them asked for cash.
Lets keep these fora (forums) alive and full of personal insights and experience. Regarding mobile internet access, I use Zain unlimited, its 3k a month, using a phone as modem. You can buy a USB modem from them but they say its slower than using a decent phone like my Nokia N70. But beware when roaming to Tz or Ug, they will clobber you with roaming charges. Just spent a week in Tz using the same Zain connection with my laptop and they whacked 4k onto my bill! If I had known that in advance I would have just used cyber cafes in Tz, which are very cheap. The Zain connection while roaming was much slower than when in Kenya.