How to make happy an angry Russian woman?
Guys, a lady with a had a "friends relationship" is now very angry with me because I told a Russian guy about it, and she told me she founds is very irritating, she no longers call me dear or say to me tender words, or expression of affection and even worst whe ignores me now. Any recommendation to improve her mood is welcome? I was not her sponsor neither and she is not a pro, she was a "close friend" and is a normal girl. The only thing I did was commenting this Russian guy about our relationship and I never ever have imagine that she could become so angry for that.
The hazards of complacency
Just back from a week long trip to Russia, I have had to exercise a degree of self-criticism. Perhaps others have experienced the same.
The last months have been good to me on the freebie front. So much so in fact, that I have allowed my skillz to deteriorate. Laziness might be a better word.
I have noticed a trend among my recent encounters, both with regular gfs and with new contacts, that reminds me of a simple fact:
We can never become complacent.
When a system of success yields results, it is easy to rely more on the system rather than the persons involved. It is easy to rely on carrying out certain tactical maneuvers rather than allowing the moment, and the passion, to take it's course.
And moreover, it is easy to allow oneself to slip back into the cultural behavior patterns one grew up with, in my case American/European.
In the past week, the following deficiencies come to mind:
1) focus on the girl. Talk about her, ask her questions, figure out who she is. Women need to be treated as individuals and not cattle, even if they do know you have other women.
2) women are not your friends. Once they become your friends, they're not your lovers.
3) sex is secondary to women. Focus first of romance, kissing, atmosphere. The sex will come... and will be better if you do your homework first.
4) opening yourself emotionally to women and can be very positive. However the line between opening yourself and appearing weak is easily crossed. Once crossed, it's a long road back.
5) it is important to be good. It is just as important to be "bad", exciting. Kindness and generosity as previously mentioned are important... just as much so is the occasional "no" and the occasional conflict.
6) women, despite their cultural similarities, are individuals. Adjust accordingly.
7) sometimes sex is just sex. There is no need to blur the boundaries if she doesn't want to.
8) show, not tell. She'll notice without you telling her.
9) almost any woman can be replaced. Sometimes it is better to just let things end. Charity does nobody a favor.
10) scoring new freebies is work. If you don't take pride and passion to work, you need a new job.
Masculinity, Russian style!
Absolutely, you'd be regarded as a лох, a guy they disrespect and use for their purposes. In Russia, the man is supposed to be in charge, rather than tell her stories about his emotional state.
For those who speak Russian, go to the Smotri website, watch a girl's broadcast and see how the guys in the chat there talk to the women, and what women are willing to accept. It will open your eyes. But those who speak Russian well enough to understand probably already know :)
[QUOTE=Doctor_Skank]If you feel you've got great chemistry with a girl, it can seem very natural to open up to her. It seems almost automatic however that you show your inner side, you'll reveal some weaknesses. Some girls are more "forgiving" of this or even value and appreciate it, particularly European women and most American/Anglo women as well. You open too much or too often with a Russian girl however, she'll start being uncomfortable with something she's been groomed to disrespect. It's a trap. That's truly been my experience. I'm not saying you can't push the boundaries, you can. Girls like issues of soul and heart. They adore sweet words at the appropriate time... actually they absolutely eat it up. But you can't show her outright weakness, lack of conviction or lack of mission. They despise uncertainty. [/QUOTE]