Maybe we're not so different after all
[QUOTE=Rubber Nursey]I remember, many years ago, gathering all my strength to tell a longish-term sexual parter that I wanted to end it, only to have him shrug and sneer and tell me we didn't "have something" to end... and basically that I was a silly little girl for thinking it was anything more than just sex. He later apologised and admitted it was just a self-defence mechanism, but it really hurt at the time and it influenced the way I dealt with breakups for a long time after.
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Funny enough, I had a girlfriend here in Moscow do the exact same thing to me just a few months ago. Big difference is that I got no apology, just insistence (with a lot of resistance from me) that we stay friends. As it's turned out, she's tried to milk whatever she can from me - dinners, drinks, male attention, emotional support, status - without offering anything but her "friendship" in return. I'm beginning to think like Skank on this one... it's difficult if not impossible to stay friends with a former lover. Best to part ways and never look back.
BTW, really nice to see a female perspective in this forum! :)