The "B" word and other uses for the tongue
I recently wrote a regular girlfriend that she was something like "super, wonderful, beautiful, loving, sexy, beautiful, passionate, fun, adventurous and wild." Moments later I got back a big mail that 'no one had ever told her such words and she was crying with joy'.
Huh?
I was a bit surprised, as she is the kind of girl I'd expect gets compliments all the time. At the same time, I have often heard from girls that Russian men are terrible about making compliments, preferring to "not spoil" their girls. I am certain there is some cultural value to what they are saying long-term, but it does open the door for us free-tongued foreigners.
Nonetheless, going too early with the "you are beautiful" could come off cheap and slimy.
What are your guys thoughts on using the "b" word, and subsequent compliments?
1) when should it be used?
2) what immediate effect does it have? (positive and negative)
3) what long-term effects can it have? (positive and negative)
Of course I realise there is no standard recipe for everything, but it is worth some thought and discussion in my opinion, as it does get us thinking about what they're thinking and feeling.
Thoughts fellas?
Call the authorities directly
grapelli,
just call the us embassy in moscow and ask what the requirements are in these cases.for example maybe they need documents from your side she never told you about.