attn Gladiator & Romanaya
Hi guys,
Re BJ : no problem, allways very very willing BBBJ!
Re Names: Sorry, I am no good with names, there is one called Oumie, not tall, nice one, no taboos whatsoever.
Man, I want to go back there soon !
Happy huntings
African life together & some advice.
And, what I just mentioned (in my previous post) about a life together with an African lady is still valid even if you're only there for one week. However long or short, everything is possible of course. But my recommendation for a good experience in Africa is to choose one lady you feel you have a connection with, and take at least one week together. That way you'll get a chance to dig deeper into african culture, to learn and experience more. The colonials, with old-fashioned humor, used to call this a walking dictionary. Oh well. But it's much more than that of course. For me it was the experience of a life time, the opening of doors I didn't know still existed on earth. So deeply satisfying for a man. Just arrange things, for both of you. Be clear and honest about the arrangement. And it will work.
The thing "we" have to learn about Africa, is that if we're honest about our intentions, everything is possible. Absolutely no need to lie or be tricky about anything. It's all there, it's all possible.
One thing is necesary to mention though, for people who might be visiting Afirca for the first time. Unfortunately there is a small percentage of people who can and will lie to you. A small percentage, but noticable, because of the special situation a visitor is in, asking questions on the street, etc. (better ask a shopkeeper!). More than in European countries or in North America, the responsability to use your human insight is entirely your own. That is something of a paradox, because my overall sentiment is that Africa is sweet. But it may be felt that if you're naive enough to fall for lies of dishonest people, it's your own fault. So yes, it is necesary to be somewhat on your guard in Africa, otherwise it might turn into a costly learning school. If you get around enough, you will surely be tested. And if you have any weaknesses and stay long enough, they will surely be found and exploited... I'm sorry to have to say that. Along with the sweetness there are also a lot of tricks people may play on you. Unfortunately perhaps, but it's part of the game. But not with all people. Some. But they are certainly there. Use of your common sense and human knowledge is more important then ever.
But still, If you're a fair and honest man, just BE fair and honest, just explain what it is you want, and it will come to you. If the person you're with cannot accomodate your "soul's desire", she or her friend will find somebody who can, everybody is connected in Africa, there's a whole network. If you connect with the right people, and you're open and friendly, they will be too... That's Africa for you! A long story, but it's a testimony of my love for this extraordinary and rewarding continent. It's worth it!