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04-02-16 03:43 #3195
Posts: 632Originally Posted by BrainDrain [View Original Post]
I've been to many bars and bar fined many girls that once I gotten to know them have told me they are in a current relationship with a foreigner and have WU support every 2 weeks.
Like BT Barnum said in his famous line " there's a sucker born every minute".
Cheers.
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04-01-16 10:42 #3194
Posts: 461Wait for awhile
If anyone's thinking about a romantic getaway to Samal, you may want to postpone for awhile. If you haven't heard, the island has been without power (hence running water) for three weeks now. A ship must have drug up the cables.
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03-25-16 16:07 #3193
Posts: 461Money Honey
Originally Posted by Cbea20 [View Original Post]Originally Posted by Barba [View Original Post]
There must be a balance between being generous, but not over paying for something that's not worth it. Living within our means, but still helping others. Random acts of kindness, but not being foolish with our hard earned money.
Do you not give the kid on the street a few pesos because it only encourages begging, and he'll probably just buy candy or a smoke? Or do you do it anyway, thinking it will make his life a tiny bit better for a minute? A friend of mine tipped the waiter $300 USD because he used to a bartender and liked the tips. But he's in debt in his business and his house.
I give each of my girls about the equivalent of what they'd make working a basic job. One of them has no food or money, so I give her small bits of cash, and she does whatever she wants with it. One already has a roof over her head and food. So I get her stuff that she would otherwise never buy if the money just landed in her lap. So she's probably the only one in her barangay getting lightning speed 4G (11 mbs), while I can't even stream a fucking video. I could get the pussy for cheaper, but I feel like I'd be sex shoplifting, as the late D33 used to put it. So that's my balance. I sacrifice a little but it's still win win.
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03-24-16 12:04 #3192
Posts: 1233Thanks, Soapy, Poly and DG (sound like the characters of a bad criminal series LOL. Like Hunter and Dee Dee Mcall). It always gives me hope when sharing and caring is chosen before the capitalistic greed grinder. Not the least when I can do such a choice myself.
Caring for our karma feels naturally good, and we do not have to argue so much about that way with ourselves. No life long capitalistic training or arguing on ISG needed for that instant feeling of doing the right thing. So probably the right way for us all to walk, in the long run. We can not bring anything where we are going, but our deeds lives on, and it feels good to do some good sometimes.
Many times I think the cynicism when it comes to giving girls money comes from a feeling of poverty. Of not having enough. Or getting enough. We sometimes read statements from grown up and proud men that trick young girls to have sex with them to save a dollar. Or to imagine they are still young and handsome. We have probably all visited that swamp of ego at some point. The false feeling of "not having or getting enough" is unfortunately prevalent in humans. This feeling is a bit like Sarimner (English incorrect spelling due to demand for not using non English letters), the pig / goat of Valhalla. Even if we kill it in the afternoon by clinging on to a few pennies or doing something "smart", it will be there the next day when we wake up again. Unless we choose to change our minds and see what we actually have been blessed with. Bodhidharma really nailed it IMHO:
"The ignorant mind, with its infinite afflictions, passions, and evils, is rooted in the three poisons. Greed, anger, and delusion."
I sound like one of those religious / ultra socialistic know it all guys now, but I swear I am not. Just a normal guy that is trying to reprogram his mindset from what he was brainwashed to want for, to something more realistic and holistic.
Soapy, I am back in April again. I come every third or forth month, since almost ten years. I know I will meet some of my ISG buddies there, and will always be glad to meet new mates if anyone is around.
All the best!
Barba
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03-24-16 05:01 #3191
Posts: 1562Originally Posted by Barba [View Original Post]
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03-23-16 23:25 #3190
Posts: 317So true, my friend
Well said, Barba. When I think of the joy, pleasure, and memorable experiences I have had with these girls around the world, I am a very rich man. And to be stingy with any of them is truly unforgivable for me. But, to each his own.
I love this, "It is all in our heads, right?" Good to remember everywhere in life.
Originally Posted by Barba [View Original Post]
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03-23-16 22:08 #3189
Posts: 3261Originally Posted by Barba [View Original Post]
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03-23-16 15:27 #3188
Posts: 1233Or you can just share some of your money and let the girl do whatever she wants with it. It is all in our heads, right? The feeling of not accomplishing anything for not having done something "productive", is just an opinion.
I remember when the girlfriend of my friend resigned from her little shit hole selling ice cream. She wanted to spend more time with family and friends. Now how great is that? She is still alive by the way. Asking men for money. Hustling.
I have sponsored several "girlfriends" to an education over the year, and in all cases it amounted to just about nothing. The second latest, miss Teen Big Tit, ditched all ambitions and became the second wife to a Muslim teacher. The last in the line just doped out of school to do nothing.
It has been like this with all of them, but during the ride they where happy and I felt like I made a change. This is one of those occasion where the intention matters more than the outcome, to me.
I give money because it makes me feel good. Like I am sharing what I was fortunate to get in life. I was lucky in the birth lottery. My country is among the ones having a ball grip on the third world. So a minute of my time amounts to a day of others. There is no real logical reason for this inequality on a personal level.
So I learned to no harbor any opinions about how my donation are spent. What is happiness?
Karma is now.
Barba
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03-23-16 14:26 #3187
Posts: 232In my humble opinion, there are at least two lessons here. (1) Every pretty girl already has a boyfriend. Ok, never mind "pretty". At best, she is "in between" BFs. The girls who disappear, who get pregnant--keep this rule in mind. You are not the only man in her world.
(2) In most cases, there's no point in giving money, except as payment of course. You can give a filipina any amount, and in three days it will be gone, with nothing to show for it. Not even a sack of rice in the kitchen. And she won't know what became of it. Very likely, others have "borrowed" it from her. Maybe the boyfriend. If you really care, go the extra mile. Do the shopping. Make sure the groceries get home. Take her to the clinic, talk with the doctor, fill the prescription yourself. Mother in the hospital? Go visit, find out the truth of the situation. Money for tuition? Go to the bank and get a manager's check, made out to the school. (Your name will not appear on it.).
Originally Posted by GoodEnough [View Original Post]Originally Posted by Sam14 [View Original Post]
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03-23-16 02:08 #3186
Posts: 695Originally Posted by RedKilt [View Original Post]
I was, of course, aware of the previous exchange with regards to the use of walking as an euphemism for SW.
Anyway, the reason for my comment was that I merely wanted to add that pinaywalks is now a paysite that wants your money (and details).
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03-23-16 01:35 #3185
Posts: 4050Originally Posted by SergeantRay [View Original Post]
To paraphrase James Hamilton-Patterson, despair has persisted for so long that it's become part of the cultural genome.
GE.
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03-23-16 01:12 #3184
Posts: 110Originally Posted by Dg8787 [View Original Post]
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03-23-16 01:05 #3183
Posts: 3230Originally Posted by PuteNut [View Original Post]
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03-23-16 00:21 #3182
Posts: 186There's a Reason Why They're Poor
Sam 14,
Very moving account. As you point out, sometimes money helps but often it's either irrelevant or just another day in Failureville, only this time with a free fish.
One foolish ex-pat set up a girl with free rent for the year and enough money for expenses. But she couldn't stop hooking, and was bringing customers back to the room he had paid for. This last summer she was an emaciated husk--I hear it was TB, and she looked like she was near death. What was tragic was that it didn't have to be like that.
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03-22-16 23:00 #3181
Posts: 1191Originally Posted by Sam14 [View Original Post]
Going through my mind was all of the stories that I've heard from the girls too. Unfortunately there is only so much we can do.
I've thought of supporting one or two girls myself. There are so many things that come up that makes it difficult. I know that giving them one off payments, they just payback their loans or do the major expense. Two days later they are no better off.
An ongoing payment over an extended period might help but I don't think they have the needed financial skills to budget. There are barriers to this. Mainly the cost of small international transfers. I could give a girl P50k now, but it would be wasted. Much better to give P4k per month or even better P1k per week
Happy hunting.
BD.