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[DocInHeat]

Seriously, re-reading the taxi post, it still isn't that obvious to me that the focus was on the time difference.

Seriously, how was I supposed to know that guy was an exaggerator. And yes, I did have a list of to-do places, but just happened to stop at DN while walking to another place.

Seriously, I have a decent track record in my posts and don't post too much nonsense-though I concede that these were at the low end of quality.

Seriously, you are concerned with a post 6 mths back, seriously you read his post and you interpreted it as him being concerned with a 7 k difference rather than him commenting that the price of taxi hasn't changed in 5 yrs.

Seriously you didn't read a few reports rather just read one post from a poster who has a reputation of exaggerating and thus didn't get the service you expected then came here to vent.

Seriously you would ask about places to get a BJ massage when a mere few posts before yours someone posted a report where he got a BJ in a massage. Seriously some guys nowadays. Seriously.

[MutantChicken]

Seriously? You are concerned about 7 k (30 cents) difference? Not sure about Vietnamese taxis, but everywhere else the price is a combination of distance and time, and so it'll cost more if there was more traffic.

Seriously, you are concerned with a post 6 mths back, seriously you read his post and you interpreted it as him being concerned with a 7 k difference rather than him commenting that the price of taxi hasn't changed in 5 yrs.

Seriously you didn't read a few reports rather just read one post from a poster who has a reputation of exaggerating and thus didn't get the service you expected then came here to vent.

Seriously you would ask about places to get a BJ massage when a mere few posts before yours someone posted a report where he got a BJ in a massage. Seriously some guys nowadays. Seriously.

[DocInHeat]

Seriously? You are concerned about 7 k (30 cents) difference? Not sure about Vietnamese taxis, but everywhere else the price is a combination of distance and time, and so it'll cost more if there was more traffic.

Five years ago, I stayed at Hoang Hai Long Hotel just in front of New World Saigon Hotel. The place is walking distance from Bui Vien. Taxi from airport to hotel was 170 k and from hotel to airport I paid 163 k. Strange the rate more or less the same at 160 k.

[Ryouko]

When I move them to Skype we just continue to chat and then start to exchange pictures. They love to show pictures of themselves. They will eventually want get a look at you and ask you to a video message in Skype.

How long does it take for you to get to this point of video chats? Two weeks? A month?

Also, how do you get them to show pictures of themselves? What's your conversational strategy there?

I just sent a picture I took of my commute and got decent responses. I think sending pictures of my daily life is a decent strategy.

[Amanut]

Bleble is correct. I use Asiandating.com. This time I went on the site too soon and several lost interest but the ones I have contacted recently are excited to meet me. I have found that unlike Filipinas, Vietnamese women take quite awhile to warm up and start chats other than Hi Hello,. I talk general stuff with them which is time consuming, but seems to work in the long run. I never talk about sex until they raise the subject. I find that they will raise the subject by innuendo but don't expect graphic conversations and you shouldn't push it. Most eventually say that they do not like using the dating programs and suggest a move to to a chat program. My program of choice is Skype. As Bleble said, most do not speak English well and are actually typing in a translate program when they are sending messages. Often they can read and write English, but have very limited ability to actually speak so find it uncomfortable. They tend to prefer reverting to typing. Be thankful for that or you will end up with a headache trying to follow and understand what they are saying.

When I move them to Skype we just continue to chat and then start to exchange pictures. They love to show pictures of themselves. They will eventually want get a look at you and ask you to a video message in Skype. They will likely be shy to speak, but tell them up front you don't mind, and you can use Google Translate together later. If their English speaking is limited, the video chats will likely be short but you get to see each other and then revert to typing. Just use it as a chance to joke with them about your video call as they will likely be self conscious and uncomfortable. If I feel we are making progress, I ask them "what would you like like to do together if we meet"? The response is generally "meet for coffee and walk and talk and maybe share a meal together". My response is always ok, you are so short and we will look funny together but it will be fun to walk and talk together using google. Let them see the humor in it so they know you do not have high expectations.

Expecting them to jump into bed with you on a first meeting is unlikely, however I have had some suggest it. Often, I tell them I am going to a hotel or place far enough away that it requires I stay overnight. You would be surprised how many say "I wish I could come to that place" or suggest an alternate place for me to visit. That is your opportunity to say "we can talk about it sometime if you wish". Again, no need to be graphic. If they are agreeing to come and stay with you, you will be rewarded.

I tend to move around quite a bit in Vietnam. I will be traveling from Saigon to Hanoi by planes, trains and automobiles. But if I am staying in one city for awhile I always use the out that I will be going to Cambodia to meet and visit my foreign daughter who is also visiting Cambodia. If they question it, blow $20.00 and buy a bus ticket to show them. Problem solved. I am using this excuse on my trip next week. I use it with every woman I meet just so I have an easy escape. I have told the first two ladies I am meeting that we can only meet for one night as I have to leave for Cambodia the next day. The third will replace the first two the next day, then traveling with me to Pho Quok the next day for two days. Thank you Bonita Signature Hotel that was recommended to me in a previous thread. I'm hoping for the Bonita Signature trifecta. The second one is a bit of a head scratcher for me. She is gorgeous and has sent me many pictures that look like they are staged. Since we have started to chat on Skype, the name has changed and the pictures have been toned down. I have seen her on video chat and she matches the pictures, but there is something with her that is odd. I'll arrange get a separate hotel with a safe to store for my cash, wallet, and passport until I can figure out what her game is.

Finally ask them for their phone number. I have never been refused. I tell them that I will not be on the dating sites or Skype while I am traveling. That gives me some privacy, and of course if you don't answer it simply means that you are still away in Cambodia and can't be reached in Cambodia with a Vietnamese SIM card. I always keep Skype on invisible.

That's my M.O. with appropriate modifications to suit the situation.

[Bleble]

Hey all,

I've been trying to use Vietnam Cupid to line up dates for a trip to Vietnam (for a serious relationship, actually). I'm having an excruciatingly difficult time.

I think they cannot understand you when you speak to them. A lot of time they can read English but cannot verbally communicate because of your accent. They study it wrong for so many years so cannot understand you.

In addition, vnmese girls are often more conservative so it will be difficult to score on the first date. If you score, most likely she is a WG. Good luck.

[Ryouko]

Hey all,

I've been trying to use Vietnam Cupid to line up dates for a trip to Vietnam (for a serious relationship, actually). I'm having an excruciatingly difficult time. Was just wondering if anybody has advice.

I'm trying to get video calls with the girls first. I really don't want to fly to Vietnam without having actually talked to the girls. Also I think if we've had a few video chats it's much more likely to fuck on the first date. Is this the correct strategy?

The problem is that the communication always goes like this:

1) I try to find a topic to talk about. Like ask about their hometown, what they like to do, etc.

Failure State 1: Girl responds with stuff like: "Don't understand. " "Yes. " "Hi. " "Ha. " It's clear the girl can't communicate in English.

2) Some of the girls can actually speak English. We talk and I try to arrange a video conversation. Sometimes I try the first chat; sometimes I try later (but usually the girl becomes steadily less responsive after the first chat).

Failure State 2: Girl says she's too shy and is afraid of talking in English with me. Refuses to do video. I'm like, why the fuck are you on Vietnam Cupid then.

3) Girl reluctantly agrees to video chat or does not respond.

Failure State 3: On arranged time, girl flakes out.

4) I try to text several days later, regardless of whether which failure state we arrived at.

Failure State 4: Girl gradually stops responding to texts.

So what am I doing wrong?

Should I give up on video calls? I really don't want to do that; flying to Vietnam to meet a girl for the first time and then find out we don't like each other sounds like the biggest waste of time and money possible.

What conversation topics should I bring up? I really have no idea what to say after a few days pass. I'm trying to take pictures of my very boring American life and show them to the girls. Maybe that will help.

How do you guys pipeline dates when you arrive in the country?

[Buksida1]

I have had good success with Wechat. People nearby. The girls will contact you. Also Tagged has been great but it takes patience and time to set up the trust needed to score.

Good day,

I will be going to HCMC soon for a few days.

And I'm looking for a female companion who can accompany me for a few days and also be my tour guide.

Anyone knows any contacts or where to find girls who provide such services?

[BeefSteak]

Good day,

I will be going to HCMC soon for a few days.

And I'm looking for a female companion who can accompany me for a few days and also be my tour guide.

Anyone knows any contacts or where to find girls who provide such services?

[Mushuu09]

Very smart move Bleble!! VietnamCupid is NOT all that is it advertised!

Second that! VC works, but it takes a lot of effort, time, and money, therefore not all that great. I had a few dates off of VC and closed on two. I started talking to them maybe 6 months before I got to VN. Only on the 2nd date I had success, but I was only in HCM for a short time. If you could stay in the same place for maybe a week, VC could work. But with the options of internet girls, and PI and Thailand around the corner, I don't think its worth the investment.

Now if there was a way to search for more promiscuous girls on VC then it would be better. But there just too many and the majority are ultra conservative. One girl I did get back to my room, she was so tight I couldn't penetrate.

[Mushuu09]

As I end my 1 week stay in HCMC I thought I will let my fellow mongers know what I rate this city for mongering and my experiences.
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Take care folks.

G.

Hey Gunner,

Besides, the mongers that live there, it looks like you won this round. I was in VN a few months ago, and the social network game was bad. Luckily I had set up some dates via vietcupid but those took months of chatting, and took like 2 dates before anything could happen. How was your successful wechat profile like to win so many accolades? May I also inquire about your ethnicity? How were you able to talk to them? Anyways, your trip seems like a success story, and I would like to know how to plan better for my next trip.

PI and Thailand are fun and easy, but the girls in VN are just smoking hot but want so much more.

[BeirutGuy]

Guys,

I am coming for a solo trip to Vietnam for a week in the third week of May. Can someone please help me with some girl friendly hotels in Hanoi & Ho Chi Minh City Please.

[Manfield04]

Five years ago, I stayed at Hoang Hai Long Hotel just in front of New World Saigon Hotel. The place is walking distance from Bui Vien. Taxi from airport to hotel was 170 k and from hotel to airport I paid 163 k. Strange the rate more or less the same at 160 k.

I found a place to schedule a taxi from district 1 to the airport, at a cost of 160.

[Fun Luvr]

I found a place to schedule a taxi from district 1 to the airport, at a cost of 160. The address is 40/14 Bùi Viện. That is an alley that goes from Bùi Viện street to the street that borders the park and the underground shopping area, toward the end of Bùi Viện past the Crazy Buffalo. It's a place that has rooms for rent. A very nice lady operates everything, rooms and taxi. You prepay her and she gives you a voucher to give to the driver. The driver was at my hotel a few minutes prior to the scheduled time, and a very good ride to the airport.

[FlAdventurer]

I have been on a 5 week tour of SEA, and had stayed at The Rex with friends and had to be careful with monger I got to due to my buddy's wife. They are now gone and I am on my own tonight before heading home.

Your information is valuable and I thank you for showing the way and sharing your intel.