Amateurs

[OCcoach]

Regarding AFF:

If you are a "Chubby Chaser" it is a gold mine. I have met several overweight singles, single-moms, recently divorced women that love to hook up for sex. There are a lot of hot chicks posting, but they get hundreds of emails, if your lucky, you might find one.

[Lyzate]

I have been trying Lavalife and so far no go. It has only been about three weeks but I will let you all know if I find anything.

[My Alias]

The only free singles site I can find these days is Book of Matches, http://www.bookofmatches.com/. All of the other singles sites allow free profiles, but no contact without paying $10-$20 a month for a subscription. Book of Matches is totally free. The only problems are it's not a sex site (so use taste, guys) and there's not a huge selection of women on it yet because the site's fairly new. I've made direct contact with several women on the site, and I've been contacted by several.

[Latin Walker]

Guys, I have tried www.lavalife.com and for only a month of messaging and emailing for $19.99, I've hooked up with 6 women that still contact me through my personal email to get together for casual encounters.

The site is really well done once you know how to use it. A bunch of women have great profiles up on there.

Up here in Vancouver, at any time there can be 60-100 women online ready to chat with you... AND thats's in the intimate section.

Have fun..

LW

[Lew Archer]

Hoodas & jlft,

Thanks for the feedback. I guess that I'll try craigslist (I have answered a few ads and received feedback on one, but never hooked up with the woman -- did not receive pic either) and see what happens. I'll give feedback to the forum.

The only frustrating (and sometimes humorous) thing is these women's requirements: [i.e. Black woman looking for ONLY white or light-skinned hispanic male, born east of the Mississippi, between 5-8 and 5-10 1/2, living between 90-96st in Manhattan (preferably west side - west of Columbus Ave), making over 100K (but not a slave to career), not married (but not looking to see her regularly), but must be available per her whimsical schedule as she is in school/travels/hangs with other people, cool, hip. good looking, and by the way can he pay her rent/tuition/psychiatrist costs -- and MUST send his pic before she may bless him with a response and/or picture]

Any other personals sites (besides AOL basic personals which sucks) that are free? Any other success/horror stories out there?

[jlft]

I tried aff and I had reall good luck. I met this woman in my area that was ok with my being married and I got to spend some time with her. There is alot of fake ads on there but most are easy to spot. Hint: Fake ads seem to always have pics that seem too good to be true. I usualy go with ads that have no pics. You can also try looking up their user name on yahoo. Most women use the same user name so they do not forget.

[hoodas]

Lew, I have used the craigslist site and have had both successes and failures. Whenever I post an ad in the casual encounters section, I never get any responses. However when I post in the regular dating section, I have gotten plenty of responses. Only thing is it is tougher to score with women who may be looking for more than just getting it on. I have however scored with good looking women from that site.

Never tried AFF. I did have success with the yahoo personals back when it was completely free, but they have a similar payment structure to AFF now.

[Lew Archer]

I have searched the Adult Friendfinder site, and while there appears to be a lot of good looking and horny women at the site, I am sort of against paying large amounts of money per month just to access a site with no guarantees.

However, there has been a lot of buzz for craigslist.org

The site is supposedly the hip site to meet women for dating, or even "casual encounters". There is also an erotic section where ads are placed. Reviews have been mixed on the site, I for one would like to hear people's experience with this site and others.

[Warpig2000]

On the Chicago Thread there was an inquiry on Adult Friend Finder which I thought would be pertinant here:

1) Does anyone really have luck looking there ?

2) Are the ads real or Fake ?

3) Are there other sites for hooking up with horny women that are more effective due to the way the site is constructed or managed ?

[NastyBoy]

Interesting Intersting.....

Well.....I get email from Russia and Romania about meeting their girls....I know the Russians at one time were very expensive...like $2K for their brides. And I also heard that when the American guy went over to meet his future Mrs...... Boris and his buddies were there to kick his ass and take his $$$$$$$$

Romania is funny because I have to join their website to unsuscribe from their list. Damned if u do ..... Damned if u don't.

Ah the Columbian senoritas.....well I live in Miami, Fla and I have met my share.... my impression is they are selfish and somewhat stuck on themselves and think the world owes them a living. But it's just my opinion. Lots of Latin babes down here if you like those girls.

Lately I have been communicating with Eastern European women and have met quite a few I would like to import, but ...... check out the State Department web site for the particulars. It ain't easy.

NB

[ChrisC30]

J.G. -

There are afew good points, and bad points to meeting someone through an agency. One bonus is you don't have to go wandering the countryside searching, another is you can pretty much guarantee (assuming it isn't one of the numerous services that are scams) that the girl/woman in question is indeed seeking her mate in life, and she will also probably post some details about herself, which saves the need to ask alot of pointless questions. You can generally get to know her weeks if not months before the actual meeting, and she can get to know you somewhat.

The bad points, include services who don't update their "catalog" of ladies often enough, poor customer relations, con jobs by the agency, con jobs by the women, immigration difficulties depending on where both of you are from, a lack of "spontaneous" chemistry (meeting someone by accident and finding a connection is much more dynamic and special than if you reply to an advertisemen, not to detract from personals services), trust issues based on distance (what's to stop her from cheating? you're 5000 or more miles away!), the list can go on and on (both pro and con).

Your best bet, is to be wary. Caution can save you alot of heartache later on if you stay open to both success AND failure. I know of success stories, and failure stories from matchmaking services, personals, classifieds ads, as well as spontaneous meetings, so anything is possible.

If you're prepared for the effort, they can be rewarding, but if you have other options left, that can be better. If you like latin women, here's an idea, go to latin america for your vacation, pick a country with women you find appealing, meet them, flirt, be happy, have fun. Unless you're totally unappealing, you'll probably find some interest, and you will be interested as well.

If you must go with an agency, be wary of the above points. I have never personally made use (successfully) of such an agency (although have done it to find friends and casual encounters sometimes), so I can't say I am happily married to a gorgeous woman. When you look at agencies, consider it shopping, compare service and price, check around the internet, you might even find a friend (male or female) in a chatroom who can fix you up with a girl in their own country, thus saving either of you the hefty fees some agencies charge one or both of you for the privelege of placing you together.

[Member #4239]

to THE E

A latin girl whom you bring from Mexico or Colombia will hopefully be a traditional moral woman. By that I mean that she'll be some one who is gonna take good care of her man, and her kids(i.e. she won't be a *****). And hopefully she will not have had about 15 boy friends before you which is the typical case with the gringas. So I think a Colombiana or a Mexicana(and the same goes for Phillipina girls) will be MUCH SUPERIOR to any latin girl over here who has been americanized.
As far as the girls just wanting you for your money, or for your american citizenship, well I agree that you should be careful and of course get to know the girl before you get married. But I think most of them just want to meet a nice stable man to get married with and establish a family.
I'vd had several latin girl friends, but I never married them because I just wasn't ready for that before, but I can tell you if you are looking for good women who are gonna take good care of their man and their kids, you just can't beat the latin woman.
J.G.

[The E]

J G

I am currently courting a young Ethiopian girl via one of those services. The services are legit, and the women are real. But it is not as easy as you think. Number one, these women usually live with their families... strict families. And they have usually not told anyone about them taking the picture and putting it on the internet. My girl had to sneak to talk to me. When have spoken on the phone probably 10 times in the past year and have sent many pictures back and fourth. I am 26 and rather attractive so she liked me. But don't think that these girls will just like anyone. You need to ask yourself, "will she really like my looks" Becasue you don't want to be let down by her later on. Also, there a risk that the girl only wants to hook up with an american guy in order to get into the US. She will like you for what you did, but not really be in love with you. The US is known to be the richest country in the world, and these women, just like all other women, want to be "saved" I am planning to travel to meet my girl next year sometime, but I already have a girlfriend here now and do not plan to marry her. I have told her that we can be "friends" and she agreed. But she still likes me very much. So, it is a big risk. I am not sure where you are from, but if you just want a Latina, it would be alot easier to go to Hartford, CT or NYC and pick you up a sister in the hood. They are just as desperate to be picked up by some guy who has a little money. Plus you won't have to worry about the immigration issues. Also, they can speak English as well as carry the sexy Spanish accent.

[redfish]

my wife is from Cali, CO and we met through an agency. email me for more info: wilfish22@yahoo.com

[Member #4239]

Hey guys
Since this is the "amateurs" section, I think this would be an appropiate question to pose here:
Does any one know about the mail order brides/girls businesses especially in Colombia? I have checked out the web sites, but has any one actually dealt with any of those agencies? I love the latin girls, and I think I am gonna eventually end up marrying one. Supposedly, the girls from Cali, Colombia are really pretty and educated. Any info on this would be appreciated. J.G.