Sexual Addiction

[Night Cat]

Sexual addiction is when your dick does your thinking for you.

Not really. Sometimes my dick does the thinking, sometimes my brain, sometimes other parts. It's called democracy.

[Chocha Monger]

Sexual addiction is when your dick does your thinking for you.

[Rock Dog]

This is in reply to a recent post by Turbo Pascal.

I don't believe there really is such a thing as sex-addiction. Not anymore than you could be addicted to walking, drinking or breathing air.

Sexual intercourse is THE great motivator of the human species. People like to think that they are so intelligent, spiritual and rational, but we aren't. We're just a bunch of talking monkeys. Don't believe me? Well, all the things that are important to a monkey are the same things that are important to humans. Food, security, status within one's social group and choice of reproductive partner/s.

We're genetically geared towards getting laid as much as we can with as many partners as we can. This is particularly true for men. Wolves howl at the moon.... do we say they are addicted to howling? Do we label them obsessive-compulsive? Obviously not, it's what they do.... it's their NATURE.

The following items were given as criteria for sexual addiction:

1.Recurrent failure to resist sexual impulses.
2.More extensive/longer sexual acting out than intended.
3.Ongoing, but unsuccessful, efforts to stop, reduce, or control behavior.
4.Inordinate time spent obtaining sex, being sexual, or recovering from sexual experiences.
5.Feeling preoccupied with sexual behavior and/or preparatory activities.
6.Acting out takes significant time away from obligations: occupational, academic, domestic, or social.

Response:

1. Why would I WANT to resist my sexual impulses? If anything, that would seem to be unnatural.
2. You're having fun, hey let's keep this party going!
3. This would seem to be a repeat of #1.
4. Again, sex/being sexual is a normal, integral part of my psycho-social makeup, so it follows that these activities account for a significant amount of my spare time.
5. Research has shown that people, on average, think about sex, or feel a sexual impulse of some sort..... several times an hour ALL DAY LONG. Are we then all sex addicts?
6. If someone is out chasing pussy instead of working, it's because that's their priority. I spend a fair amount of time at work. However, that does not mean that I'm addicted to work, or money for that matter. If I could have a reasonable standard of living without working, I could quit my job tomorrow.

Most people would act like sex maniacs if it weren't for the social oppositions towards that kind of behavior. Don't believe me? Try book a 2 week tour in Jamaica with Hedonism. Anonymity nullifies social restrictions. The result? You'll see men AND women doing whatever, whenever, with whoever.

Sex is a key part of who we are. It is the underlying motivation for much of what we do. It is genetic and natural. There is no such thing as sexual addiction. So-called sex-addicts are merely people who have different priorities that don't want to take responsibility for the choices that they make.

Rock

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[Night Cat]

It seems like this thread is dead more than likely because most men will not or cannot admit they are addicted to sex with women.
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Please feel free to voice any opinions!

OK, allow me to play Devil's Advocate. Could it be that the whole concept of "sex addiction" is flawed? If someone wants or has an above-average amount of sex, instead of saying something's wrong with them, why not say they are normal, or even gifted?

Then, if there are some associated problems (health, financial, legal, etc.), why not just address those problems separately from the question of how much sex a person wants or gets?

To make an analogy, suppose a guy has a passion for cars, and drives a lot for pleasure. Then, he gets injured due to driving too fast and not wearing seatbelts. Maybe he doesn't need to reduce how much he drives, he just needs to be smarter about safety. And if he buys cars that break his budget, then maybe he just needs to improve his skill at budgeting, and buy cheaper cars.

Or, if a guy likes to compose music, and gives up his corporate job, maybe even his marriage, to focus on that, then of course we can say that it has disrupted his life, but why not just let him do what he wants? If he starts stealing to support himself, it doesn't necessarily mean he needs to focus less on music, he just needs to find a better funding alternative to stealing.

Does that make any sense? I just want to see if we can look at this another way, by removing the "sex is bad" assumption. I would similarly question the validity of the concept of "workaholism" which I think is a non-issue (unless the person in question says he has a problem). If a person really wants to spend a lot of time working, composing, driving, or sexing, then why not just help them find a way to accomplish their goal safely and soundly, rather than try to persuade them to do less of what they're passionate about?

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[Buko Max]

Hello All,

It seems like this thread is dead more than likely because most men will not or cannot admit they are addicted to sex with women.
When your penis is making decisions your brain should be making, its inevitable that you'll make a fool out of yourself.
Sexual addiction can cloud your judgement, make you easily influenced by a pair of T&A, and eventually friends will question your judgement and rationale.
Please feel free to voice any opinions!

[Turbo Pascal]

Recurrent failure to resist sexual impulses.
More extensive/longer sexual acting out than intended.
Ongoing, but unsuccessful, efforts to stop, reduce, or control behavior.
Inordinate time spent obtaining sex, being sexual, or recovering from sexual experiences.
Feeling preoccupied with sexual behavior and/or preparatory activities.
Acting out takes significant time away from obligations: occupational, academic, domestic, or social.

Continuation of behavior despite consequences:
Risk of VD
Lost partner or had marital problems
Lost rights to be with children
Career problems
Risk arrest

Tolerance - More frequency or intensity of behavior is needed over time to obtain the desired result.

Deliberately limiting social, occupational, or recreational activities to keep time open for acting out.

Distress, restlessness, or irritability if unable to do behavior (withdrawal)
Dizziness
Body aches
Headaches
Sleeplessness
Restlessness
Anxiety
Mood swings
Depression

A minumum of 3 of the above 10 needed are needed for sex addiction to be considered present. Most sex addicts have 5 signs, while over 50% have 7.

[Capt Ajax]

Sexual expression is a natural part of a well-rounded life. But if you have an overwhelming need for sex and are so intensely preoccupied with this need that it interferes with your job and your relationships, you may have a problem.

You may spend inordinate amounts of time in sexually related activities and neglect important aspects of your day-to-day life in social, occupational and recreational areas. You may find yourself failing repeatedly at attempts to reduce or control your sexual activities or desires.

Health experts use a number of labels for this potentially serious condition. It's sometimes called hypersexuality, nymphomania, erotomania or perversion. Some doctors call it sexual obsession. Others use the term sexual addiction, comparing it with the uncontrolled use of a drug. Others argue that it's an issue of impulse control or obsessive-compulsive behavior.

No matter what name is attached to the behavior, compulsive sexual behavior is a very real affliction that interferes with everyday living. The disorder is most common among men. While it's difficult to accurately assess the number of people with this disorder, experts estimate that as many as one in 20 people in the United States exhibits compulsive sexual behavior.

Signs and symptoms

Sexual behavior becomes a problem and is considered compulsive when it's repeated often enough to interfere with your normal daily living and with your relationships. If your sexual behavior is compulsive, you may display it in a number of ways, including:

Having multiple sexual partners or extramarital affairs
Having sex with a succession of anonymous partners or prostitutes, and treating them as objects to be used for sex
Using commercial sexually explicit phone lines and Internet chat rooms
Engaging in excessive masturbation, as often as five to 15 times a day
Using pornographic materials frequently
Engaging in masochistic or sadistic sex, such as experiencing sexual excitement by inflicting or receiving pain during sex
Exposing yourself in public
Feeling compelled to engage in sexual activity when you're stressed, anxious or depressed.

Many people who are sexually obsessed are married and appear to live otherwise normal lives. They often lead double lives and may have difficulty establishing and maintaining emotional intimacy.

Sexually obsessive behavior tends to be chronic, intense and beyond your control. Although you may seek gratification through sexually compulsive behavior, you're unlikely to achieve fulfillment over the long term. In fact, you may feel that your life is becoming increasingly empty. People with compulsive sexual behavior often use sex as an escape from other problems, such as loneliness, depression, anxiety or stress.

Causes

Many experts believe that other psychological disorders underlie sexual obsessions and compulsions. Sexual obsession may be a maladaptive coping mechanism for other emotional problems, including mood and personality disorders.

For example, if you grew up in a dysfunctional family or were sexually, emotionally or physically abused as a child, you may have developed an unhealthy attitude toward sex. These early traumatic experiences may lead you to feel shameful and unworthy, emotions that can inhibit normal sexual expression and intimacy and can result in extremes in sexual activity.

If you're feeling lonely and depressed, you may perceive your sexual compulsions as a way of filling the voids in your life. But even if compulsive sexual behavior brings you short-term relief, your negative feelings are likely to return, often at an intensified level.

In some cases, compulsive sexual behavior can be caused by a neurologic disorder, such as epilepsy or Alzheimer's disease.

When to seek medical advice

Most people with compulsive sexual behavior need professional treatment. Attempts at self-care are usually unsuccessful because, by definition, a sexual compulsion tends to be beyond a person's control.

Some questions you can ask yourself are:

Can I control my sexual behavior?

Is my sexual behavior hurting my relationships with friends and family, affecting my ability to work, or resulting in negative consequences, such as getting arrested?
Is sex constantly on my mind, even when I don't want to be thinking about it?
If you're concerned that you're obsessed with sex, look for a doctor who specializes in treating sexual behavior disorders. Your family doctor may be able to give you the name of such a specialist, or you can contact a nearby major medical center and ask for a referral.

Complications

If you experience sexual obsessions and compulsions, you run the risk of wide-ranging negative consequences. For example, you may:

Neglect your partner or become deceitful in your marriage or other primary relationship. This can jeopardize or destroy the relationship.

Accumulate large financial debts in pursuing your sexual impulses by spending money on prostitutes, pornography and phone-sex lines.

Contract sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and place other partners at risk.
Be arrested for sexual offenses, such as exhibitionism or solicitation of prostitution.
Lose your focus at work, risking your job.

Cause an unwanted pregnancy.

Engage in other high-risk behaviors, such as abuse of drugs or alcohol.

Feel shame and guilt over your inability to control socially unacceptable behaviors that interfere with normal relationships.

Treatment

A number of treatments are available for compulsive sexual behavior:

Psychological treatment. Individual or group therapy helps many people manage their sexual obsessions. In therapy you can begin to acknowledge that sex should be part of a loving relationship. You also can start to deal effectively with developmental or interpersonal issues instead of acting out in a sexual manner. Doctors sometimes recommend inpatient treatment, but most people do well in outpatient settings. Support from family and friends can help in the recovery process.

Marriage counseling. Marriage counseling is often necessary to help resolve the relationship problems that arise from sexual obsession.

[Eric #1]

Hi,

I guess sexual addition is more on the needs and urge to have sex more often than other and with the need of having it with difference partners.

I am from HKG and i use to travel with my mate to look for partners that we dont know just because we want to have sex and keep it a secrect to us.

My place is Singapore and Malaysia where we go for single or couples that we meet at the lounge or pub .

These place are not sex heaven like Thai and Phil so is safer and cleaner.

Any ones who is interest to join us in Malaysia 10 -15 Aug can PM me.

We prefer caucasian and age below 40 in KL

[Daddy Rulz]

I think Deep Wet should be encouraged, the boards haven't fiction of this caliber since Lefty stopped posting.

[Travis Bickle 2]

Deep Wet, While I enjoy reading your posts, I find it hard to understand how they are related to sexual addiction. I suggest you post them elsewhere., perhaps under "oral sex." Unless of course you are saying your sex addiction has progressed to the point where you are swallowing the love juice of hookers with no regards to the multitude of diseases you may be ingesting.

[Deep Wet]

I know 2 Indian Girls studying in U.S. and they sometimes invite me to spend the night with any of them. I usually pay them $ 125 for the whole night and $ 200 for three some. They are from good families and not pro/Street *****s, and do it for some money usually once or twice a week. I always have wonderful GFE with these two. Last month, I was with one of these two girls and I was surprised to note my Girl gushing. Earlier this never happens during oral stimulation of her clitoris. During vaginal intercourse it’s a different story. I was amazed the 1st time this happened. I’ve never been w/a woman that was able to cum excreting fluids such as this. She looked at me & asked if that was me, I said “NO”. She just smiled & said “I know it was me & WOW!!!” She explained to me that it had never happened to her before, that I was the only man that has ever brought her to such a massive orgasm. This only happens in specific positions. Now it’s a goal of mine to bring her to as many fluid orgasms as possible. We double up three towels under us to absorb all of her cum that she excretes. Absolutely awesome. I’ve never been able to get into a position in which I was able to pull out & have her cum in my mouth.

A few weeks ago she was on top & we were very intimate, she had already had at least 7 orgasms & 5 were very fluid. We were absolutely soaked in her love juices. So much to the point it was splattering in my face as she pounced up & down on me. On one of her fluid orgasms I had her pull off & slide up on my face. Her love juices were dripping all over my chest. I had her set on my face as I licked her vagina. Oh my what a mess we made.

So I guess the answer is yes I would drink her love juices.

I wonder how many woman are capable of cummin in such a manner as to saturate their partner in their love juices. I know of this one for sure.

Now, I would like to know whether any of you have experienced such situation with any of your Girls or SWs/Hooker, as most of you are all practicing 69 position regularly.

[Robux]

Johnny Sax,

Don't know if you're a very experienced street monger, but you took so many extra unnecessary risks I lost count. It appeared the game you played was trying to get caught. Illicit sex just seems to be the modus. My recommendation to you is to either stick to AMPs or similar establishment or study up here the art of dealing with SWs. For that I refer you to the posts of our esteemed and dear departed Trash Man in Baltimore, Maryland. He's been gone for about a year so search back a ways.


All wet,

While your intentions may be sincere, the last thing I want to do is go down on a SW. I'd rather lick a septic tank.

Robux

[Deep Wet]

I have read a number of posts on how a Hooker pleases her Clients and also what we all expect from the SWs. Have we ever thought that the SWs, with whom we are trying to get GFE, also have desires and want to be loved and caressed. Here are a vew tips on how you can please your Girls so that they enjoy having sex with you and next time you can expect a good discount from her. May be, you can get a free ride, in case she likes you.
Women love guys that go down. Like a blow job for a man, giving head is all about intimacy, trust and having someone worship your most intimate parts.

Getting Started:

• Get the right spots - Know your anatomy: Clitoris, Labia Minora, Labia Majora, Perineum, Mons Pubis.

• Enjoy - There is nothing that will make her come faster than your enjoyment. Be sure to moan and tell her how much you're enjoying yourself.

• Work out your tongue - Trace the alphabet on her clit with your tongue. Mouth L words, curl your tongue and slide it in and out.

• Talk about it - Talk about what you both like and don't. Maybe discuss your favorite oral sex scene in an erotic video.

• Get comfy - Find a place with no distractions where you will have time to explore. But oral sex can be great for a quickie too!

Tips for her to get what she wants:

• Guided Tour - Have her use her fingers to demonstrate her preferred spot and motion.

• Too Much, Too Soon - Don't stimulate too directly in the beginning. Some women new to the sensation are very sensitive. Work your way in to the clit by kissing and licking the inner thighs and vulva.

• Pay Attention - If she is getting there and you make a move to come up - she should get assertive and let you know she's getting close to orgasm.

• Every Woman is Different - What may have worked before, may not now. Hopefully she's communicating to you what she likes, just be sure you're following the directions to HER "Owner's Manual" and not someone else's.

• Pubic Hair Trimming - It may help to identify anatomy as well as make it easier for you to access more of her.

• Scent of a Woman - Perfumes should be used sparingly. It won't taste better than she does. Regular hygiene should do the trick. Taking an erotic bath or shower together first can heighten the arousal. However, if there is an unnaturally bad smell it is probably a sign of infection.

• Taste Test - Taste can vary according to variables such as diet and hormones. Each woman will have her own "brand." Learn to love it...become a connoisseur!

• "Beavers are Gorgeous" - This is your opportunity to get up close and personal. Take in the beauty.

Technique - The Basics:

• Use your whole mouth - Circle around the clit and suck gently, don't just flick. Get your whole mouth involved.

• A Strong Tongue - Try 'em all and see what she responds to...

• Firm dispersed pressure - In any direction on and around the clit.

• Soft sloppy strokes - Side to side with lots of saliva.

• Energetic flicking - Use this sparingly as a stiff tongue may be too hard on the sensitive clit.

• Long prolonged strokes - From above her clit, down to her perineum.

• Sucking - Try varying pressure and start lightly.

• Circle the Clit - Lick underneath, on the shaft, around the hood.

• Get a Rhythm - You won't need to go faster and faster. And don't change position when it's working! Rhythm is important.

• Tongue Fatigue - Replace your tongue with a finger if you need a break.

• Feedback - Keep going until you feel (hear) a response such as groaning, muscle tightening (thighs press to ears), arching of the back, and curling of toes.

• Don't Rush - She will feel your urgency to come up for air. The biggest killer of pleasure.

• Don't Stop - If you can feel her orgasm building.

• Multiply Orgasmic - Some women are much more likely to have prolonged or many orgasms in a row with oral stimulation. Read her signs and keep going even beyond the first orgasm.

Positioning:

• Sit back and Relax - Most couples begin with the woman sitting in a chair or on the bed. This gives full access to the genitals and support to the back so that the woman is relaxed and her hands are free to stimulate herself. The partner performing oral sex can lie or sit facing the woman, free to use his or her hands for stimulation with the fingers.

• The Squat - The woman can squat on all fours or if strong enough just on her legs over her lover's face as she or he is lying down. If she is using her hands to stabilize herself, some prefer this position because it allows her to move her pelvis to accentuate the stimulation.

• The "69" - This position also allows a couple to mutually stimulate one another when it is performed with each partner kneeling over one another at opposite ends. This position can be a bit trickier because it can be difficult to place your tongue right where you want it and it may be more challenging for either one of you to orgasm if you are focused on performing for the other person.

• On "Her" Knees - She can kneel over you, facing forward and have more hip control.

• Standing - Couples who wish to engage in playful dominance-submissive role playing might like to try standing while the other partner performs oral sex on his or her knees.

Advanced Tips:

Tongue Fucking - Make your way away from the clit to the vagina.

Humming - It sends subtle vibrations through the whole area.

Dessert Anyone? - Eating sexy foods off of and out of her can really mix it up.

Mons Massage - The mons is the mound of skin which is found on top the pubic bone above the vaginal opening. Take one or both of your hands and carefully touch the mons and surrounding area much the same way you would massage someone's shoulders. Be careful with the amount of pressure and the broadness of your movements.

Add a Vibe - While licking your lover insert a vibrator or dildo into her vagina.
Breath Mints/Cough Drops - Have a mint or menthol drop in your mouth to give both her and you a refreshing tingle during oral sex.

G-Spot - Get a specially designed vibe to work on not only giving her a clitoral orgasm but a G-Spot one too. You can also use one or two fingers inserted about two inches into the vagina to rub the top wall.

Ass Play - Use your saliva as lube to rub and insert your fingers or butt toy into her anus.

I have practiced the above and many times got laid without paying even a single Penny. My girls, once satisfied with me, have treated me quite well and offer good healthy diet, after I performed my skills on them.