Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[Don Malo]

Your plan is a contract. Problems include getting her a visa, hoping Philippine immigration will let her out, your compensation agreed or not, her demand to send home money for this and that and the empowerment of the power she gets being in Europe. Your plan is thinking Philippine women will be subservient in Europe is totally wrong.

Better make frequent trips to Philippines and enjoy the women there.

Which examples do you know of good Philippine girls changing a lot theirs behaviors after some months in Europe? In one party, dome months ago I met two Filipino in Luxembourg and they Seems to me excellent woman's with naive boyfriend. And they were good housewives. I really regret nos ask this girls for his contact of asked if in Luxembourg exists any Philippino comunes.

I think that Luxembourg would be easy for this girls because we speak English well. Also I met people in Caritas that helps illegal's migrants in order to have legal papers, due to this could be enough if she comes with my with the tourist visa.

[Don Malo]

Maybe I'm not explaining well my situation.

1: the rose, I don't want change a prostitute, I'm not a white knight. I explained that I share mi live with chinese prostitute that I met in Barcelona during 7 months without problem for me part, I respect her work and I understand that these girls never wants change the work because for she is easy and earns good salarys. The problem that I have with hooker, is make a long relationship with sons, I never would be sure of that during the months of reproduction she will stop her work. That's the problem with hooker, I'm not jealous and I undertand that they fuck with other boys for work not pleasure.

This chinese woman, never demands me money, she even pay part of the food (all the rent was payied be me because is my house, not her). If only one day, she would demand me money, I NEVER would get money to she. Because she was winning more money in Luxembourg than me.

2) Ok Ex Pat: suppose I go to Manila un February 2023, I search a AirBnB and one gym for the mornings in the firsts hours (my hobby is the powerlifting and for me is furniture to find a good gym with deadlift, etc). I would pass one month knowing girls in Philippines and losing my time fucking with some of them. All of this only for learn. Ok. And I come back to Luxembourg alone, with less money and more experience.

Ok, now we are in 2024 and I repeat this, will be enough one month in 2024 to find a good girl and comeback with she to Luxembourg? Because I only could go one month for year as much, I don't have more time, I must work a lot of hours every day.

I understand that now, with FilipinoCupid, Tinder, etc. They know more about the world and are less impressive and maybe are colder. Ok, I should deal with this problem.

3) If now Philippines is hard to find a good girl. Ok, let's see. I'm opened to learn about Laos in this forum. But only if Laos is easier. I thought that Philippines would be easier because is a country with english lenguage, catholic cristianism and close to USA and Spain. Maybe in Vietnam the culture is more different and, thus, harder.

4) Remember that I don't choose Thailand because I know that in this country the girls that speaks well in english are escorts or girls looking for fools sugar daddys. I don't want this in Vietnam.

We are 7. 000 m of persons in this world, shouldn't be impossible to get a success with my idea.

Thank's again for your answers and advices.

[Expat American]

Ok. Thank's to you and expat american.



Maybe I could go other country in this case.

Thank's for your explanations and time answering me.

Its not about the country, its about the process. I would suggest going to Phils for a visit. If done properly it will change your perspective on women completely. But consider it only as a learning opportunity where you try to meet as many girls as you possibly can. Sleep with as many as you want. You will lose the desperation that many western men feel. Once you see that there are literally millions of women who would choose YOU, then you need to learn how to choose and appropriate one for YOUR needs. Just remember, you cannot fall in love in a couple of weeks. No matter how sweet the girl is. The purpose of this trip is to change YOURSELF.

[The Rose]

Ok.
If in order to meet a good girl in Philippines I must spent a lot of years, and its hard to convince them with two weeks of relationship datting every day (because If I go 4 weeks to Philippines I could meet the good girl in the second week). I don't have nothing to do.

Maybe I could go other country in this case.

Thank's for your explanations and time answering me.

My feeling is that you are completely unprepared for going to the Philippines. You seem nave and gullible. The kind of person that would easily be taken advantage of. The Philippines is a hard knocks country. It is a former colony and as such the people have come to look upon foreigners differently. I think that it is difficult for a Filipina to develop greater allegiance to a foreigner then it is to anyone of their compatriots. I've seen my Filipina girlfriends take sides with a trike driver that she doesn't know over me. It is probably the worst place in the world to go spouse hunting but perhaps the best country in the world to get an easy lay. BTW, you do not want to get emotionally involved with a prostitute. You can't unscramble an egg and you can't reform a prostitute.

My advice would be to go to Vientiane Laos for a month and hang out. I think the girls there are less jaded and more sincere. You will find a girl there will be grateful for you and see you for yourself and not as an income source. Good luck and be careful.

[Don Malo]

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Anyways, Good luck!

Ok. Thank's to you and expat american.

Your messages are a little disappointment. If its hard to convince a girl in order to come with me to Luxembourg with only one month or less of relationship, I don't have nothing to do.

I only could go 1 month for year to Philippines as much. When I say that I'm around 30, I don't want specify my real age, but I'm under 30. The problem is that I don't want Wait until 35 or 40 years so as to make a family.

Imagine that I meet a Hooker, for me isn't a problem her work, I don't want change her. For example, some years ago I had a relationship of some months with a Chinese of 41 years old that works as a hooker. She was with my an excellent person with a good heart, she was even jealous and call me every day when I had meetings with my friends in order to be sure that I wasn't with other girls. I was 23 years old, and she began to look me when I started to visit her with a suit, working in a good company. She never demands me money, sometimes I regret cut this relationship, she was an excellent women and she threatened me very well. In 7 months living together, we never discuss or yell. The problem was the difference of age, imagine present to the family a woman 18 years older than you who don't speaks enough well in your language, or to your bosses in a company lunch. It's hard to confront.

Now, she is working as a ***** in Germany, Barcelona and Sweden. I miss she.

In Luxembourg the minimum salary monthly is EUR 1920. I'm earning more than the double, enough to kept a complete family.

If in order to meet a good girl in Philippines I must spent a lot of years, and its hard to convince them with two weeks of relationship datting every day (because If I go 4 weeks to Philippines I could meet the good girl in the second week). I don't have nothing to do.

Maybe I could go other country in this case.

Thank's for your explanations and time answering me.

[Wicked Roger]

Let's apply some common sense here. Your 'GF' who is apparently a virgin knows that she likes playing with bi-couples and she wants to (only) watch.

This girl to me sounds unusual..

Maybe unusual in the sense of a chick with a D**k.

Am sure he will find out soon enough AP while spoil the fun for us.

[AsianPursuits]

Hi everyone,

I've been doing distanced relationship with my half filipino girlfriend in PH, its been 8 months and I'm finally planning to visit Philippines after the summer. I have some questions regarding the apps / forums to find couples in Philippines. Me and my girlfriend are into dominating Bi couples, so what we need is a place to look for couples or single girls so we can invite them. I got a lot of attention from filipinos and other Asians before so I'm kinda confident that I'll find people to my needs but as I said I don't KNOW where.

Also: We are both 23, GF is a virgin, I am not, she wants to watch me dominate a submissive / bi couple. She won't have intercourse but may get involved with licking stuff. She just simply wants a couple to serve me. I'll be very very glad if someone guides me through how to do such things, where to find people in Philippines. You can DM. Thank you!

Let's apply some common sense here. Your 'GF' who is apparently a virgin knows that she likes playing with bi-couples and she wants to (only) watch.

Before you get too carried away I would suggest going and meeting her, making sure she is legit and actually up for this.

Any dating app will produce the results you want. That's not the limiting constrain. This girl to me sounds unusual.

I won't even dare to ask how much your long distance GF asks you to send her.

[Xtrk1]

Hi everyone,

I've been doing distanced relationship with my half filipino girlfriend in PH, its been 8 months and I'm finally planning to visit Philippines after the summer. I have some questions regarding the apps / forums to find couples in Philippines. Me and my girlfriend are into dominating Bi couples, so what we need is a place to look for couples or single girls so we can invite them. I got a lot of attention from filipinos and other Asians before so I'm kinda confident that I'll find people to my needs but as I said I don't KNOW where.

Also: We are both 23, GF is a virgin, I am not, she wants to watch me dominate a submissive / bi couple. She won't have intercourse but may get involved with licking stuff. She just simply wants a couple to serve me. I'll be very very glad if someone guides me through how to do such things, where to find people in Philippines. You can DM. Thank you!

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[Dizaster]

If you start giving them money from the start forget it they will see you as a cash machine no matter how young you are and how handsome you look

So true man wish someone would have told me that at my earlier days, never lead with your wallet cause its a mistake and it back fires. , them pinays immediately see you as a provider rather than a lover even the ones who are not golddiggers they just can't truly fall in love with you the real way after all. They even lose respect to you if you overspend it makes you come off as a clown who can't handle his money.

[Steve Nash]

Hello, I'm new in this Forum, I'm Don Malo a Luxembourg male that want to go to Philippines in 6 months un order to find a real girlfriend. I had a lot of problems with my occidental ex girlfriends and I want a change in my life.

If I had a girlfriend I never would fuck with other girls, but I can acepta a hooker as a girlfriend, I'm not jealous and I understand that the prostitution is only a job.

Even so, I prefer meet a girl that don't work as a prostitute.

I will join to filipinocupid and made me a Revolut credit wallet so as to use un Philippines.

Do you think that would be easy find a girlfriend in Philippines? I want a good girl in order to make children after one year or relation (or before). And she will must come with me to Luxembourg.

Still exists restrictions of covid in Philippines?

I will be only 26 days.

I'm around 30 years old.

Should be easier for you to find a good girl since you are young (my guess is you are white since you are from Europe). Just by being 30 yrs old you can find any girl at any age without worrying about the age gap (19 and over of course, you don't want an underage), 11 yrs difference will be your biggest age gap, so more likely both of you will look like the same age, so she won't be ashamed of you or try to hide you from her family or friends (like it happens sometimes with a bigger age gap like 30 yrs or more). Chances are IF YOU FIND A GOOD GIRL she will take you seriously, love you, and be happy to have a family with you.

Now just because you are young it doesn't mean it will work out for you and they won't take advantage of you, it will all depend from your aptitude and the way they perceive you. If you start giving them money from the start forget it they will see you as a cash machine no matter how young you are and how handsome you look, so anyone asking for money say NO right away and if they keep pushing say bye to them (there are lots of fish in the sea). Don't show low self esteem and desperation, they will see it right away and they will take advantage of your vulnerability and exploit your emotional weaknesses. That's why you are better off of trying to just date as many girls as you can on your first trip, don't fall in love, no matter what, learn from your experience, you will make mistakes which is fine but learn from them, remember is your first time in Philippines so you will have a culture shock, you are a newby, you are a rookie, you never see a rookie going for the big prize on his first year, your first trip should be about learning how Filipinas are.

Is different meeting Filipinas in another country than meeting Filipinas in Philippines. You will see it once you are there, I always say: 50% of Filipinas in Philippines are golddigers and the other 50% are good girls, the ones you want to meet are the good girls, so don't go to girly bars and try to date them, you will never change an escort / freelancer, and the few that you might change them you will always be thinking is she change completely? Or her past will come back? You will never be able to 100% trust her. So don't go for them, avoid them as much as you can. The Good girls are the ones that are hardworkers, or educated, some might have business already or a career, they are independent and they don't need a foreigner to support them, most of them are breadwinners in their family. Those are the ones you want to have a family with.

I agree with EA, forget the long term (for now), don't go there and tell the girls that you want to have kids in a year of relationship, getting married and having a family is not a joke, you can not put a time limit for that. I used to say I want to have a family when I'm 35, then that time came and I change my mind, then I said when I'm 40, again I change my mind, and I said: Fuck No, I won't put a time limit anymore. Now I'm on my early 40's, and look at me now I'm starting a family soon, it work when I stop putting a time limit. Once you meet the right girl and the chemistry is there you can tell her about your future plans, and from there you can decide if she is the one or not. I will personally try to avoid telling them about having kids and bringing her to your country because you might scare her, what happens if she has a business or she just started her university degree, you will scare her right away, so wait until the right time comes, or just say something like: "I would like to have kids in the future and hopefully bring her to my country, but she has to be the right woman, my soulmate" (Filipinas love that word).

Your mission on your first trip should be about learning, experiencing and improving your dating style, so when you make the second trip you are more prepared on finding your future long term partner.

By the way, I have dated lots and lots of good girls in the past, so if you have any questions you can pm me or just read my past messages where I talk about how to find and date good girls.

Anyways, Good luck!

[Expat American]

Hello, I'm new in this Forum, I'm Don Malo a Luxembourg male that want to go to Philippines in 6 months un order to find a real girlfriend. I had a lot of problems with my occidental ex girlfriends and I want a change in my life.

If I had a girlfriend I never would fuck with other girls, but I can acepta a hooker as a girlfriend, I'm not jealous and I understand that the prostitution is only a job.

Even so, I prefer meet a girl that don't work as a prostitute.

I will join to filipinocupid and made me a Revolut credit wallet so as to use un Philippines.

Do you think that would be easy find a girlfriend in Philippines? I want a good girl in order to make children after one year or relation (or before). And she will must come with me to Luxembourg.

Still exists restrictions of covid in Philippines?

I will be only 26 days.

I'm around 30 years old.

Oh boy, where to begin? You are only 30 years old and in 26 days want to find a girl who you can marry and bring back to Europe and make babies with and you are okay with her being a hooker? Sorry but that smells of desperation and if you go to the Phils with that attitude you will be seriously burned. My suggestion is forget the long term. Go there and just check it out. If you don't want hookers, don't stay in Manila or AC. Its usually easy to screen out hookers online. Hookers will be quick to want to meet and not ask many questions about you. Real girls will be more shy and nervous. These are the ones you want. Meet several girls. do not fall for the first one you meet.

Just consider the first trip a recon mission and do not commit. You are just there to learn and understand. Good luck.

[Don Malo]

Hello, I'm new in this Forum, I'm Don Malo a Luxembourg male that want to go to Philippines in 6 months un order to find a real girlfriend. I had a lot of problems with my occidental ex girlfriends and I want a change in my life.

If I had a girlfriend I never would fuck with other girls, but I can acepta a hooker as a girlfriend, I'm not jealous and I understand that the prostitution is only a job.

Even so, I prefer meet a girl that don't work as a prostitute.

I will join to filipinocupid and made me a Revolut credit wallet so as to use un Philippines.

Do you think that would be easy find a girlfriend in Philippines? I want a good girl in order to make children after one year or relation (or before). And she will must come with me to Luxembourg.

Still exists restrictions of covid in Philippines?

I will be only 26 days.

I'm around 30 years old.

[Pheasantplucker]

Many thanks to one and all for the comments and info on this.

I really appreciate your input and now know which direction to take.

Happy days to you all.

PP.

[Goferring]

I have sponsored 5 Girls over the years. All for education.....

I have stayed near their colleges and have met her college friends....

You raise a couple of valid points:

1/ before upping an allowance, what has PPs considerable assistance todate actually financed? Has she built a house, a small business, a college degree? Or has it all gone to "consumption" ie partying with her girlfriends?

2/ Asians really can be judged by the company they keep. If a girl's friends are all students, working at SM etc, then you can have a lot of confidence that she is making an effort to get ahead. If all her friends are unemployed party girls dependent on foreign "boyfriends" then alarm bells should be ringing.

The above is not to disparage PP or his girl but some indications on how to check the validity of what girls say.

Cheers. G.

[GoodEnough]

I'm trying to be as constructive as possible:

1/ Everyone thinks their girl is different.

2/ Any girl capable of hooking a whale for 20 k per month plus ad hoc sick buffalos and dying uncles has likely played the game before.

3/ any skilled girl (see 2/ above) knows how to keep 2, 3 or 10 guys on the go, each thinking they are her only Sponsor and true love.

4/ if you have been unable to visit for a year or two, what have you received for 250 to 500 k? Only you will know if it was money well spent. That sort of money pays for a hell of a holiday when you do arrive.

Do I think sponsoring a Pina is worth it? No.

Do I think you are her only sponsor? No.

Is 20 k a good monthly salary? Yes.

Is 20 k a good salary for essentially doing nothing all day? Definitely.

When I'm there in town, have I ever had a girl refuse to see me because I didn't send her money while away? Never.

Sorry if these are not what you want to hear but in all probability your situation isn't any different to many others.

Good luck. G.

I would encourage any of you with similar concerns to read G's sound advice carefully, and take it to heart. I have no idea how many people the girl in question is "helping," but the notion of needing Php600 per day or more for food or drink for personal consumption here is absurd, unless she's reluctant to prepare / cook her own food. I have heard the "I know, but my girl is different." comment from countless (clueless) foreigners in the more than two decades that I've lived here, and my advice, which is identical to that proffered by G, is typically ignored. Folks are, of course free to spend their money, without judgment, however they please, but should do so, I think, based on at least some reliable knowledge of how their money is being spent.

GE.