Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[Mr Enternational]

For much of history marriages were arranged and little value was given to a Hollywood vision of mutual sexual attraction.

True. And traditionally people got married because of need. A man needed someone to cook his food and wash his dirty underwear. A woman needed someone to put a roof over her head and feed her. And there were a limited number of options. You got to pick from whoever was single in this town or the next town over if there was someone to meet the person through. Later those people stayed together because of a sense of duty.

These days there are microwaves, fast food, washing machines, computers, and airplanes. Guys can get their own food and wash their own clothes. Women in most societies can get their own jobs and buy their own roof and food. There are millions of people to come into contact with in the palm of our hands and there is nothing to buy a ticket to be face to face with the person in a matter of hours. And if you happen to not like the slightest thing about that person then you can ditch them and dig into those millions again and in a matter of seconds have another one.

Kids? What do you need kids for? People had kids to help with work and have someone take care of them in their old age. These days you can pay someone to do that if you can't. But there are chances that you will be able to take care of yourself. I have two aunts that are 104 and 101 and they both live alone. Never been married and never had kids. One was a teacher and one was a nurse. I do not see them in any way being failures the way the op thinks he will be if he is not married with kids by the time the clock strikes a certain hour.

To me having a kid is saying I don't have enough bills or enough responsibility; let me create those things for myself. Maybe they will make you feel warm and cozy inside seeing someone with your same features and traits, but is that juice worth the squeeze? Especially when there is another person involved that could turn out to be as shitty as my kid's mom is. Remember the only person you can control is yourself. You do not know what kind of bullshit the other person will be up to. Hell they do not even know. People are like this today and like that tomorrow. It is a gamble that there really is no reason to take. I took it once and lost and was not willing to take it again.

[Steve Nash]

The Hurry is because I'm close to have 30 years and I have already a economic situation upper the middle. If in 5 years as much I wouldn't have childens, for me this will be a total faillure. 33 years and no childrens for me is a totally failure. I'm catholic and my ideology is to conservative.

Firstly, congratulations for your lucky and effort. How you build your relation with your wife in this three years? How do you meet her and kept the relation?

As I repeat many times, I only can go one time by year and be 1 month as much.......

Listen to GE advice, he makes great sense, you are complicating things and thinking too much in advanced.

Since you ask me, my case was different, I was never looking to find a wife, in fact I didn't believe in long distance relationships, my goal was to dated good girls (I never paid for sex and I never slept with prostitutes), if I found a girl I have good chemistry I will see her again and sometimes I will take her in a 3 days or 4 days or even 1 week holiday.

I met my wife in Cebu, she was on her break in Ayala mall, in the terraces actually, she worked as a secretary in the building beside Ayala mall, I even drop her to her work that day (Oh man, I hope she never finds out about this website, LOL). Anyways, when I went on the first date with my wife we had instant chemistry, I've never experienced anything like that before (and I had dated hundreds of Pinays in Philippines). We ended up traveling to different beach destination the rest of my trip. Remember I met her after my 5th or 6th trip to Philippines (during a 6 or 7 years span, I didn't go to Phils for 1 year during that span), and after dating alot of girls. Which is exactly what we are suggesting for you to do, maybe you don't have to wait 6 or 7 years like me, but you have to at least dated lots of girls, in 1 month (30 days) you can easily dated 20 good girls, because you are young it should be easier for you to do that, maybe choose to dated 7 to 8 girls (in 10 days) and then choose the best one, the one you have chemistry the most and bring her to a beach trip for 5 days or a week, just make sure you don't choose after the first few girl you meet, you need to at least meet 7 to 8 girls before you choose. The big test is that you can not give them money no matter what, once they ask you for money you need to eliminate them from your list, you don't want to start a relationship with someone seeing you as a cash machine.

Since you are catholic, is better if you meet her in the church (Good advice from GE), there are way less chances to meet a bad girl or a prostitute there. AND if you meet them in church, then maybe meet less girls 4 or 5 only before you choose one. Meeting her in Philippines spontaneously or being introduced by a friend you trust is much better too. Don't you have a Filipino friend you trust? Maybe they know someone they can introduce you with, I had a couple of friends in Canada that introduce me to their friend / family in Philippines and they were both good girls (actually only one of them, because the other one was the sister of my ex in Canada that I met her in Cebu to give her a package my ex was sending her, we kept it a secret and it was just a one night stand, plus I was in an open relationship with my ex in Canada, but still if my ex found out she would kill me that I slept with her 19 year old younger sister).

Honestly, I don't know what to tell you, because no matter what you will look desperate to most girls and they might take advantage of you. That's why you need to meet alot of girls and disqualify the ones asking for money. The more you dated the less desperate you will look, because you will act like you been there and you have done that.

29 years old you are still young, MAN!

I'm on my early 40's and I have not problem having kids at this age, is not like you are a woman and you need to have kids before 40!

And even for a woman who is 29 or 31 (like two of my exes in Canada) I kept telling them you are still young to have kids, you have a whole decade!

Anyways, take your time BRO, don't be desperate!

[Steve Nash]

People look at marriage like they are making a purchase. It is the total opposite. They decide they want to get married then they look for someone to do it with them. If I go buy a car I can look at reviews and talk to mechanics and decide pretty quickly yes this would be a pretty good car to buy.

You can not do that with a person. I say you need to live with a person at least 1 year (4 seasons here in North America). You need to get to know all of their habits. Do they pay bills on time. Do they clean up after themselves. IMO you should get to know a person then decide to marry the person, not decide to get married and then find the person as you would do a car.

I agree 100%, it took me 14 months to live with my wife and be 100% sure she is the one, I wasn't going to marry her just because we had a baby together, because I have no problem coming to Philippines and visit my daughter every year and stay single IF I knew she wasn't the one, I made the decision on month 13 (after living with her for 13 months) and then we got married on the last month.

I just suggest DonMalo 6 months because he is so desparate to get married ASAP, so at least 6 months is better than nothing. But yes I agree it should be at least 1 year.

[Mr Enternational]

I think you are overthinking this way too much. You're obsessed with a set of rules that will likely become irrelevant once you arrive.

In short, stop worrying so much and just enjoy the experience of being here.

I thought you were telling him that he is obsessed with some superstitious bullshit. Failure at 33 without kids? And what does it mean to be this failure besides something totally psychological? Will you no longer be able to feed and cloth yourself? Will you disappear from the face of the earth? Will a mob come hunt you down? Nope. Shit will still keep going on the same as it had for the past 33 years. Putting pressure on yourself for some bullshit is bullshit. Where did you see this rule that you are a failure at 33 without kids? If that is the case I know some people that are successful than a mf because they had 5 kids by age 20.

[GoodEnough]

The Hurry is because I'm close to have 30 years and I have already an economic situation upper the middle. If in 5 years as much I wouldn't have childens, for me this will be a total faillure. 33 years and no childrens for me is a totally failure. I'm catholic and my ideology is to conservative.

I was tempted to respond to you in French, since I assume it's your mother tongue, but the rules here will not allow that, so English will have to do. I think you are overthinking this way too much. You're obsessed with a set of rules that will likely become irrelevant once you arrive. My advice is simply to do your best to meet as many women as possible and let nature take its course. You're a Catholic, and most of the women you will meet here will likely be Catholic as well, so you might want to add churches to your list of possible avenues to meet women. Go to a mass or two or three and, if someone attracts you, start talking to her.

In short, stop worrying so much and just enjoy the experience of being here.

GE.

[Don Malo]

Why the hurry?

Finding the right woman and having a family is not easy, is not like you go to a store, choose a product, take it home and that's it!

Most people takes them years to find one. It took me 3 years (and living with her for 14 months) for me to be finally 100% convince that my wife is the right woman for me, you can take a shortcut of course and do it for less time BUT you got to live with her at least 6 months before you decide she is the one, not less than that, you can not just visit her one month and then know for sure she is the one, it doesn't work like that anywhere in the world.

Maybe you can find someone online have a long distance relationship for 1 year (videocall her everyday) and then you can visit her and by the second trip you can marry her. You can do it if you are ready for it, but we don't think you are.

Your advantage is your young age BUT your biggest disadvantage is your inexperience. The fact that you say marrying a prostitute is fine, and that you are OK with her work (a woman who values money more than love). We just don't see you are ready. You will be taken advantage anywhere in the world not just Philippines!

That's why we suggest to go visit a country first (Not just Philippines, this applies to all the countries) date as much as you can and gain experience of the women there. Once you know how women are, and how to differentiate good women from bad women, then you are ready to start looking for your wife. If you don't do this, you will regret it later on when she leaves you once she gets her visa.

The Hurry is because I'm close to have 30 years and I have already a economic situation upper the middle. If in 5 years as much I wouldn't have childens, for me this will be a total faillure. 33 years and no childrens for me is a totally failure. I'm catholic and my ideology is to conservative.

Firstly, congratulations for your lucky and effort. How you build your relation with your wife in this three years? How do you meet her and kept the relation?

As I repeat many times, I only can go one time by year and be 1 month as much.

Ok, I likely will avoid the idea of have a pinay hooker as girlfriend. In this case, in the following sentences I will write the steps that I should follow:

-meet girls un Philippines, maybe I can start before using Filipino Cupid and other similar applications and use videocalls.

-if after the 5 or 6 date, she wants present me her fathers and brothers, this should be a good point. Right?

-I must avoid fuck with the good girl, because I can't work with condoms. I only can make bareback sex (never anal, only pussy) and if she is a bad girl will be obsesionated with the sex in order to cath me. For example, If I fuck only one time and I make a creampie in she, and she would be fucking with other boys, she could send me a message saying that she is pregnant of my son and needs money every month. Right? I should Avoid the same in Luxembourg, at least, the first 8 months of relationship.

-I could send 200-300 EUR or dollars when I will marriage. The same if she wants any type of physical operations like boobs incrementation of 6. 000-15.000 EUR. Nothing until the marriage.

- In summary, I meet she in one month (2023 or as much in my second travel on 2024) she presents her family and we keep the contact daily by messages and videocalls. After some months, I invite she to Luxembourg with the tourist visa, slipping together but avoiding sex (she could make me the same sex trap that I related before). If after 8 months (less than one year), she shows to me that we can live together whitout problems, I decide start the sex and the future marriage in a little time. With our marriage earn the correct visa will be easy.

Ok, are this steps enough rational and slow?

I never will betray this girl and I never will fuck with other girl.

- I shouldn't forget this other special point: purchase bitcoins and with this bitcoins buy my subscriptions so as to send MP to us and make a faster and better comunication.

Thank's all of you for your help and advices.

[The Rose]

People look at marriage like they are making a purchase. It is the total opposite. They decide they want to get married then they look for someone to do it with them. If I go buy a car I can look at reviews and talk to mechanics and decide pretty quickly yes this would be a pretty good car to buy.

You can not do that with a person. I say you need to live with a person at least 1 year (4 seasons here in North America). You need to get to know all of their habits. Do they pay bills on time. Do they clean up after themselves. IMO you should get to know a person then decide to marry the person, not decide to get married and then find the person as you would do a car.

For much of history marriages were arranged and little value was given to a Hollywood vision of mutual sexual attraction. For the most part those marriages worked and still do. In Korea, for example, most people get married when the female is about 27 and the guy a few years older. It's like salmon swimming to a spawning ground on a set biological cue. Parents can introduce the couple and after only a few encounters they agree to marry. For the ceremony Koreans have these marriage companies that operate out of multistory buildings. The couple will rent a floor for several hours. They will get married there, have a reception, and leave making way for the next couple to be married. It's all very mechanical but it works for them.

[Dg8787]

Just a suggestion, but you might want to start seeing a slightly higher class of Filipinas, as after 2 decades here, it's a problem I've never seen.

GE.

These are generally AC bargirls from the province.

[Dg8787]

Just a suggestion, but you might want to start seeing a slightly higher class of Filipinas, as after 2 decades here, it's a problem I've never seen.

GE.

Duly noted.

[GoodEnough]

Some Pinays annoying CR habits.

1. They are not used to flushing after each peeing.

2. They leave the seat up to squat and pee.

3. They leave the CR door open after #2 to air it out to the rest of the room!

Just a suggestion, but you might want to start seeing a slightly higher class of Filipinas, as after 2 decades here, it's a problem I've never seen.

GE.

[Mr Enternational]

Some Pinays annoying CR habits.

1. They are not used to flushing after each peeing.

2. They leave the seat up to squat and pee.

3. They leave the CR door open after #2 to air it out to the rest of the room!

That has more to do with being a poor uneducated person from a rural area than it has to do with them being Filipina. You find people doing the same thing in most poor places. My girlfriend is from Brazil and she does not like the seat either. The toilet seat is a western thing. Other cultures prefer to feel the cold porcelain.

[Mr Enternational]

BUT you got to live with her at least 6 months before you decide she is the one, not less than that, you can not just visit her one month and then know for sure she is the one, it doesn't work like that anywhere in the world.

People look at marriage like they are making a purchase. It is the total opposite. They decide they want to get married then they look for someone to do it with them. If I go buy a car I can look at reviews and talk to mechanics and decide pretty quickly yes this would be a pretty good car to buy.

You can not do that with a person. I say you need to live with a person at least 1 year (4 seasons here in North America). You need to get to know all of their habits. Do they pay bills on time. Do they clean up after themselves. IMO you should get to know a person then decide to marry the person, not decide to get married and then find the person as you would do a car.

[PedroMorales]

Maybe I'm not explaining well my situation.

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Pinay hookers make great wives as long term posters here can attest. To see if Luxembourg suits, can you specify the price of the following.

1. get nails done.

2. Hair extensions, dyes.

3. Boob and butt jobs.

4,. Is there a Jolibee? How much is McDonalds.

5. Is satellite TV available? Does Lux / FR / German TV show al ot of cartoon?

6. How are Lux STI clinics? Good?

7. Many WU branches?

8. Street walking opportunities?

9. Man why Pinay hookers she can knock about with?

10.420's?

[Steve Nash]

Ok. Thank's to you and expat american.

Your messages are a little disappointment. If its hard to convince a girl in order to come with me to Luxembourg with only one month or less of relationship, I don't have nothing to do.

I only could go 1 month for year to Philippines as much. When I say that I'm around 30, I don't want specify my real age, but I'm under 30. The problem is that I don't want Wait until 35 or 40 years so as to make a family.

Imagine that I meet a Hooker, for me isn't a problem her work, I don't want change her. For example, some years ago I had a relationship of some months with a Chinese of 41 years old that works as a hooker. She was with my an excellent person with a good heart, she was even jealous and call me every day when I had meetings with my friends in order to be sure that I wasn't with other girls. I was 23 years old, and she began to look me when I started to visit her with a suit, working in a good company. She never demands me money, sometimes I regret cut this relationship, she was an excellent women and she threatened me very well. In 7 months living together, we never discuss or yell. The problem was the difference of age, imagine present to the family a woman 18 years older than you who don't speaks enough well in your language, or to your bosses in a company lunch. It's hard to confront.

Now, she is working as a ***** in Germany, Barcelona and Sweden. I miss she.

In Luxembourg the minimum salary monthly is EUR 1920. I'm earning more than the double, enough to kept a complete family.

If in order to meet a good girl in Philippines I must spent a lot of years, and its hard to convince them with two weeks of relationship datting every day (because If I go 4 weeks to Philippines I could meet the good girl in the second week). I don't have nothing to do.

Maybe I could go other country in this case.

Thank's for your explanations and time answering me.

Why the hurry?

Finding the right woman and having a family is not easy, is not like you go to a store, choose a product, take it home and that's it!

Most people takes them years to find one. It took me 3 years (and living with her for 14 months) for me to be finally 100% convince that my wife is the right woman for me, you can take a shortcut of course and do it for less time BUT you got to live with her at least 6 months before you decide she is the one, not less than that, you can not just visit her one month and then know for sure she is the one, it doesn't work like that anywhere in the world.

Maybe you can find someone online have a long distance relationship for 1 year (videocall her everyday) and then you can visit her and by the second trip you can marry her. You can do it if you are ready for it, but we don't think you are.

Your advantage is your young age BUT your biggest disadvantage is your inexperience. The fact that you say marrying a prostitute is fine, and that you are OK with her work (a woman who values money more than love). We just don't see you are ready. You will be taken advantage anywhere in the world not just Philippines!

That's why we suggest to go visit a country first (Not just Philippines, this applies to all the countries) date as much as you can and gain experience of the women there. Once you know how women are, and how to differentiate good women from bad women, then you are ready to start looking for your wife. If you don't do this, you will regret it later on when she leaves you once she gets her visa.

[Dg8787]

Some Pinays annoying CR habits.

1. They are not used to flushing after each peeing.

2. They leave the seat up to squat and pee.

3. They leave the CR door open after #2 to air it out to the rest of the room!