Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[Dg8787]

What's the most times you've had sex with different girls in a single day in the Philippines.

I want to take a trip and I want to try to break my record but I have no idea how many different girls is possible to F**k in one day.

F**kin one girl several times doesn't count, it has to be different girls, like bang one, go out, find another, bang and so on.

In terms of the time it takes and logistics, ID like to know how many you've banged.

Thanks.

Are you a newbie one handed basement keyboard lurker?

[PeteAppleSeed]

What's the most times you've had sex with different girls in a single day in the Philippines.

I want to take a trip and I want to try to break my record but I have no idea how many different girls is possible to F**k in one day.

F**kin one girl several times doesn't count, it has to be different girls, like bang one, go out, find another, bang and so on.

In terms of the time it takes and logistics, ID like to know how many you've banged.

Thanks.

[WestCoast1]

Also there are laws against adultery so you being a foreigner and her being a Pinay you will lose this battle. If your wife would be happy with you two going your separate ways you could try this approach but she would hold all of the cards. With social media and the local networking anything you did would probably be easy to find out unless you found some place to live in the jungle. SNIP

Probably your best bet would be move to the Philippines with her on a 1 year Balikbayan visa, settle down then go for a trip to Thailand and dump your cell phone, social media accounts, ect. Then abandon the idea of ever being married again.

Romance never dies on this board.

After all you only have yourself to blame for marriage.

True'r words taint never been spoke before.

[TomParsons2000]

Absolutely, go get legal advice at home. They will be recommending that you engage them but they may present options that you weren't aware of and will be aware of local technicalities and loop holes.

Comments on both options:

1/ Act first and get your affairs in line. You don't want to be panicking after she has all her side in order and is sueing you.

Where I'm from, if you get advice from Lawyer X, they can no longer give advice nor assist the other party. That applies forever. Being the first to visit all the best lawyers in town can be a valuable blocking move and leave her with only the local ambulance chaser for representation.

Regardless of how it plays out, western divorces are expensive. Just the fees will be 10's of thousands. Add asset settlements and ongoing alimony to that. The advantage is that it's clear cut.

Do you have the option of a direct negotiated settlement? These can be enforceable and much cheaper if you think she would be reasonable.

2/ The big question is if you want to remain in PI or remarry? A bitter and twisted ex, who has lost out on a financial windfall, is unlikely just to turn the other cheek and make this easy.

I've always found it better to have a GF break up with me and move on rather than just kick her to the street. Much easier and everyone goes on to do their own thing. Instigating this is pretty easy. Unfortunately loose a work contract or make a few bad investments and be broke for a while. With no spare cash, her luxuries, family support etc drops considerably. Be sure to take her with you to social events, especially those with newbies present. It's surprising how fast she will move on if things are rocky emotionally at home too.

Do you have kids? They complicate everything a lot.

Good luck. G.

P.S. Of course, it's cheaper to keep her. Only you will know but is reconciliation, counselling, a romantic holiday a better option?

Some great analysis here -- thanks for this, Goferring.

The more I think about it, the more I realize Option #2 isn't really viable or ethical. Getting my affairs in order pre-emptively and going with Option #1 seems best.

A negotiated settlement would be a good idea. I believe we could make that work, if I approached it in the right way. Also not a bad idea to have her feel as though she is in control of the process somehow.

For sure it's cheaper to keep her. But I don't think we can go back to those happy days of the past, even with counselling. We only get one shot at life, and I want us both to enjoy the years we have left.

[TomParsons2000]

Are you married through church?

In catholic you can divorce but never marriage again and you would continue your live whitout sex like a priest.

Why is your marriage getting worst? Is she wising a divorce?

Filipina is family oriented, they are humble and lovely, if you breaks surely she will be totally destroyed.

Is all of it just because her body is deteriorated for the years and you wants to enjoy younger one?

Something of Filipina still attracts you because you want to go there.

Don't be materialistic and hedonistic, choose your current wife and don't follow anothera just for fool creampies.

I have also a Filipina with tattoos who jerks me in public transport and is lovely with me. She will be loyal to me and the mama of my future kids if all works well. I won't divorce never.

Be more explicit about your marriage problems. Do you go to mass with hers? It could solve your problems, GOD can all.

Yes, we were married in the church. So there would be no more church marriage for me in the future unless we pursued an annulment. I have no interest in inflicting that painful process upon us. Divorce would be bad enough.

She knows the marriage has deteriorated but is living in denial to some extent I think. I agree it's best to make a rational decision and not one based on hedonism. Including the availability of creampies.

Congrats on finding your Filipina. Never tried the public transit action myself, but the risk of getting caught would be good for a thrill!

[TomParsons2000]

If you married her in the Philippines like you said it is very difficult, timely, and expensive to get an annulment (I. E. 5 years or longer 10 K USD +). It makes no difference whatsoever where you were married. Laws apply to every marriage in the country whether they were performed in a church or an outhouse. You could get residency via a 13 A Visa but she can revoke that at any time she pleases as she has to sponsor you so that doesn't look good. As for your visa the SRRV would be an option but not sure how the marriage will affect that when you go for NBI clearance. Also there are laws against adultery so you being a foreigner and her being a Pinay you will lose this battle. If your wife would be happy with you two going your separate ways you could try this approach but she would hold all of the cards. With social media and the local networking anything you did would probably be easy to find out unless you found some place to live in the jungle. Even then you still will have to report to immigration so option 2 is not a good choice. Probably your best bet would be move to the Philippines with her on a 1 year Balikbayan visa, settle down then go for a trip to Thailand and dump your cell phone, social media accounts, ect. Then abandon the idea of ever being married again.

The Thailand scenario made me chuckle. Alas, it's the Philippines that has captured my heart. Despite its many shortcomings, I love the place. Thanks for the other thoughts on my situation.

For some of the reasons you've mentioned, I now feel a clean break (meaning divorce as per Option #1) is best. I don't want to live the rest of my life in fear of the hammer dropping and ending up in some kind of bad visa or legal situation. And my wife deserves the chance to be free and meet someone else too if she wants in the future. Everyone deserves a chance to be happy.

[TomParsons2000]

The question you have to ask yourself is by getting a divorce here will it land you in a poor house?

If so option #2 comes to mind. When you yourself us in deep financial hole saving yourself is considered survival strategy.

If you are comfortable with equitable sharing of wealth whether she had any contribution or not is immaterial. You definitely do not want to send her to the poor house. All the other excuses like saving face with her family etc does not make sense. I have seen many women landing a windfall from a foreigner and helping family ended with herself with no money.

If you are well off let her have her share. For better or worse it is always better to settle the differences amicably. After all you only have yourself to blame for marriage.

Thanks for the feedback. I'm definitely comfortable with an equitable division of assets, and would never want to see her in the poor house. What I'm less comfortable with is splitting everything 50/50 and still having to pay alimony on top of that. But if that's the price I have to pay for freedom and happiness, I may have to go that route. I'll get some proper legal advice on this.

Fully agree that it's best to settle things amicably. You're right, I only have myself to blame for the marriage. A decision based on lust, back when I was young and more idealistic.

[Mr Enternational]

Probably your best bet would be move to the Philippines with her on a 1 year Balikbayan visa, settle down then go for a trip to Thailand and dump your cell phone, social media accounts, ect. Then abandon the idea of ever being married again.

Half way through your post I was like I see Thailand in his future. Then I get to the bottom and you had seen it too. Got to lie in the bed you make for yourself.

[Mr Enternational]

I have also a Filipina with tattoos who jerks me in public transport and is lovely with me. She will be loyal to me and the mama of my future kids if all works well. I won't divorce never.

You mean she will be loyal to us!

P.S. Don Malo wrote this, but when I quote it it comes up as Goferring.

[Sammon]

The question you have to ask yourself is by getting a divorce here will it land you in a poor house?

If so option #2 comes to mind. When you yourself us in deep financial hole saving yourself is considered survival strategy.

If you are comfortable with equitable sharing of wealth whether she had any contribution or not is immaterial. You definitely do not want to send her to the poor house. All the other excuses like saving face with her family etc does not make sense. I have seen many women landing a windfall from a foreigner and helping family ended with herself with no money.

If you are well off let her have her share. For better or worse it is always better to settle the differences amicably. After all you only have yourself to blame for marriage.

[Beavis]

Gents, I'm wondering if anyone has advice or experience on a scenario I'm about to share.

I've been married to a Filipina for several years. We got married in the Philippines, then I sponsored her to join me in my country. We've lived in my country ever since. The marriage has deteriorated and I now wish to go my own way and separate from her. My desire is to retire and move to the Philippines where I can enjoy life as a single man.

Although we were married in the Philippines where there is no divorce, we could get a divorce here in my country where we live. Let's call this Option #1. The foreign divorce would be recognized in the Philippines, so I would have the option of remarrying in the Philippines if I wanted to at some point in the future. But on the flip side, divorce will probably entail paying costly alimony (spousal support) for many years. Our assets would be forcibly divided, even though my wife brought no assets into the marriage. There's also the drama that the divorce will cause, and the need for expensive lawyers, court processes, etc.

An alternate approach (let's call this Option #2) has crossed my mind: Skip the divorce, and instead initiate a move to the Philippines with my wife. I know she is open to this idea, as we've often talked about retiring there. Upon arriving in the Philippines, I could gradually separate from my wife. Since there is no divorce there, she might have little recourse. I would avoid paying alimony and having my assets forcibly divided. My wife would also save face with her relatives and friends, because we would technically still be married, even if we lived hundreds of miles apart. That face-saving is big in Filipino culture. I would of course ensure my wife was looked after and got her fair share, including enough money to live comfortably.

If I were to go with Scenario #2, two key risks I foresee are my visa situation and the potential for legal trouble. I would need to ensure I wasn't reliant on my wife for my visa status in the country, as she could decline to cooperate. And there are laws against adultery and "concubinage" in the Philippines, so I would need to gauge whether my wife has the inclination to make trouble for me from a legal standpoint, if / when she finds out I'm seeing other women after our separation.

Thoughts guys? Should I just bite the bullet and get a divorce as per Option #1, or is Option #2 worth exploring?

If you married her in the Philippines like you said it is very difficult, timely, and expensive to get an annulment (I. E. 5 years or longer 10 K USD +). It makes no difference whatsoever where you were married. Laws apply to every marriage in the country whether they were performed in a church or an outhouse. You could get residency via a 13 A Visa but she can revoke that at any time she pleases as she has to sponsor you so that doesn't look good. As for your visa the SRRV would be an option but not sure how the marriage will affect that when you go for NBI clearance. Also there are laws against adultery so you being a foreigner and her being a Pinay you will lose this battle. If your wife would be happy with you two going your separate ways you could try this approach but she would hold all of the cards. With social media and the local networking anything you did would probably be easy to find out unless you found some place to live in the jungle. Even then you still will have to report to immigration so option 2 is not a good choice. Probably your best bet would be move to the Philippines with her on a 1 year Balikbayan visa, settle down then go for a trip to Thailand and dump your cell phone, social media accounts, ect. Then abandon the idea of ever being married again.

[Sam 14]

I think there might be a higher chance I'm being paranoid. Other issues aside I'll be happy if she's a real girl.

You're probably not been too paranoid. If you don't send money, he'll probably go away. If you met on Tinder, 100% chance it's a man. Any other site, allot less. Tell her you like hairy snatch. Or plucked chicken, or whatever. Ask if you can please see what it looks like. . Haha.

[Mr Enternational]

Absolutely, go get legal advice at home. They will be recommending that you engage them but they may present options that you weren't aware of and will be aware of local technicalities and loop holes.

I would not get legal advice. Personally I would try to keep other folks out of my business. And exactly what a law office is is a business that you will have to pay for.

In November I was in a minor car accident and went to the chiropractor. He kept trying to get me to get a lawyer. I told him that I was a smart guy. I did my own case by simply negotiating with the insurance company myself. They had made an initial offer, but I wrote letters of counteroffers. My personal payment ended up being $4000 where they originally offered me $1500. They also paid $2500 to get my car fixed and they paid for a car rental and I have up to 6 months to get up to $10,000 in medical care. Not bad when most people could hardly see the damage on the car. Once my kid was in an accident and I tried to advise her to do it herself as well. She decided to get a lawyer and her $5000 turned to $500 by the time she received her portion from the lawyer. They charged her for stamps and everything. For my case I did send 2 certified letters, but the negotiation was mostly done through email.

I did my own divorce where as my ex wife hired a lawyer. I ended up getting most everythihg. Initially, I asked my wife how she wanted to divide things up and I drew up the paperwork according to how we agreed, but in the end she did not sign it and chose a lawyer instead.

The key is to talk to his wife and find out how she wants to handle things then draw up the paperwork yourself and you both sign it and file it at the local courthouse and wait for a judge's order. There are plenty of forms and examples online these days. All a lawyer is going to do is cost you unnecessary money and time. I would not involve a lawyer unless you can not come to an agreement with the person and have to actually enter a courtroom for formal litigation. A monkey could type up paperwork, and that is basically all a lawyer is going to be able to do for you, at an exponential cost. He can not make you or her agree to anything. The agreement is for the two parties to come to.

[Mua Tur]

Gents, I'm wondering if anyone has advice or experience on a scenario I'm about to share.

I've been married to a Filipina for several years. We got married in the Philippines, then I sponsored her to join me in my country. We've lived in my country ever since. The marriage has deteriorated and I now wish to go my own way and separate from her. My desire is to retire and move to the Philippines where I can enjoy life as a single man.

.....

An alternate approach (let's call this Option #2) has crossed my mind: Skip the divorce, and instead initiate a move to the Philippines with my wife. I know she is open to this idea, as we've often talked about retiring there. Upon arriving in the Philippines, I could gradually separate from my wife. Since there is no divorce there, she might have little recourse. I would avoid paying alimony and having my assets forcibly divided. My wife would also save face with her relatives and friends, because we would technically still be married, even if we lived hundreds of miles apart. That face-saving is big in Filipino culture. I would of course ensure my wife was looked after and got her fair share, including enough money to live comfortably.

.........

Thoughts guys? Should I just bite the bullet and get a divorce as per Option #1, or is Option #2 worth exploring?

It's a hurtful step if you want the break up. You did not mentioned if you have kids with her not. So we can think you don't have any issues. It's true without love and affection living together could be an another punishment for both of you. Don't try to be tricky with the peoples once you loved. I think better you bring her back to Philippine and pay her annulment fee whatever amount comes by. OR you can provide proper support for her residency in your country in exchange of freedom of yours. I think that would save her and would give you legal way to live your life in your way. I believe it will be relatively cheaper for you.

[Don Malo]

Gents, I'm wondering if anyone has advice or experience on a scenario I'm about to share.

I've been married to a Filipina for several years. We got married in the Philippines, then I sponsored her to join me in my country. We've lived in my country ever since. The marriage has deteriorated and I now wish to go my own way and separate from her. My desire is to retire and move to the Philippines where I can enjoy life as a single man.

Although we were married in the Philippines where there is no divorce, we could get a divorce here in my country where we live. Let's call this Option #1. The foreign divorce would be recognized in the Philippines, so I would have the option of remarrying in the Philippines if I wanted to at some point in the future. But on the flip side, divorce will probably entail paying costly alimony (spousal support) for many years. Our assets would be forcibly divided, even though my wife brought no assets into the marriage. There's also the drama that the divorce will cause, and the need for expensive lawyers, court processes, etc.

An alternate approach (let's call this Option #2) has crossed my mind: Skip the divorce, and instead initiate a move to the Philippines with my wife. I know she is open to this idea, as we've often talked about retiring there. Upon arriving in the Philippines, I could gradually separate from my wife. Since there is no divorce there, she might have little recourse. I would avoid paying alimony and having my assets forcibly divided. My wife would also save face with her relatives and friends, because we would technically still be married, even if we lived hundreds of miles apart. That face-saving is big in Filipino culture. I would of course ensure my wife was looked after and got her fair share, including enough money to live comfortably.

If I were to go with Scenario #2, two key risks I foresee are my visa situation and the potential for legal trouble. I would need to ensure I wasn't reliant on my wife for my visa status in the country, as she could decline to cooperate. And there are laws against adultery and "concubinage" in the Philippines, so I would need to gauge whether my wife has the inclination to make trouble for me from a legal standpoint, if / when she finds out I'm seeing other women after our separation.

Thoughts guys? Should I just bite the bullet and get a divorce as per Option #1, or is Option #2 worth exploring?

Are you married through church?

In catholic you can divorce but never marriage again and you would continue your live whitout sex like a priest.

Why is your marriage getting worst? Is she wising a divorce?

Filipina is family oriented, they are humble and lovely, if you breaks surely she will be totally destroyed.

Is all of it just because her body is deteriorated for the years and you wants to enjoy younger one?

Something of Filipina still attracts you because you want to go there.

Don't be materialistic and hedonistic, choose your current wife and don't follow anothera just for fool creampies.

I have also a Filipina with tattoos who jerks me in public transport and is lovely with me. She will be loyal to me and the mama of my future kids if all works well. I won't divorce never.

Be more explicit about your marriage problems. Do you go to mass with hers? It could solve your problems, GOD can all.