Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[Sammon]

Yes, easier to find. Sure some are desperate and some want out of the PI but they are in the minority IMO. I think many bargirls are desperate but they do not represent all Filipinas. Cheers.

All girls all over the world including USA want a well to do husband. Want a stable family with kids. Poor countries girls tend to be desperate. In USA the age difference counts a lot unless you are a multimillionaire. Others will marry any age as long as the man supports them. Atleast 6 of my girls in Philippines married much much older men and living in UK, Germany, Netherlands, France. I have kept in touch with atleast 3. None say they are really happy but with nothing to fall back at home they are stuck. Lots of Philippine girls would love to marry foreigners who live in Philippines. Many would love to go to USA but the path is not so simple.

Yes, if you are looking for a young wife irrespective of your age it is available in Philippines. There are plenty of very pretty girls from provinces who would have married me. But I told them right from the beginning that I am looking for fun only. If you are dead serious to marry you can even find virgins and take care of her. Love is not necessarily in the picture.

[D Cups]

Speaking of wives, does it seem like it would be easier to find a wife / loyal young woman here compared to other countries? Are they coming off as desperate and willing to move to usa and please in a real relationship?

Just wondering if that's been an experience even if its just mongering.

Yes, easier to find. Sure some are desperate and some want out of the PI but they are in the minority IMO. I think many bargirls are desperate but they do not represent all Filipinas. Cheers.

[Aml3740]

Speaking of wives, does it seem like it would be easier to find a wife / loyal young woman here compared to other countries? Are they coming off as desperate and willing to move to usa and please in a real relationship?

Just wondering if that's been an experience even if its just mongering.

I think it is easier to find a genuine woman here than a western country. I have a young filipina and she specifically said she doesn't want to come to the US. I have an older partner as well near my age and she doesn't want to come, either, but may for a few years just to work.

[Goferring]

Yep. Budget allowances.

1. Household.

2. Her own discretionary spending money.

3. Her Family allowance and family emergency fund. Deal with this upfront and set up for periodic review.

I'm constantly amazed by stories of an uncle's dying buffalo becomimg the husband's problem. It's amazing how similar problems fade away when these are paid out of the wives' disposable income / account.

Enjoy. G.

[Don Malo]

Man you are funny as fuck. You remind me exactly of a woman. You have this idea in your head of how you want things to be then set out to try to find someone to fit the mold that you have created. Women do that exact shit. Unlucky for you, people do not work that way.

Only an uneducated woman would initially go along with your plan. But you expect her to be educated enough to educate your kids well? Have you heard of the blind leading the blind? Because this will be the dumb miseducating the uneducated. And you also assume that she will not only be able to cook, but I assume cook the food that you like to your standards. I do not think anyone that has an inkling of experience with Filipino culture would set out to do what you are trying. I think most men would meet someone, hit it off with that person, and later decide they would like to marry them in particular. You are definitely better off getting a maid seeing that you already have a list of chores and payment amount for a "wife" you have yet to even meet.

I'm aware a uneducated woman would be nice and fit 100% with me if I don't want to make a family, I meet there very dumb empty brain province women but no all are dumb. And of course I didn't fuck any dumb Filipina because I don't want to hurt a woman that I don't want for serious commitment (I prefer to fuck a hooker than fuck a normal girl who expects to build a love story with me when I don't have interest).

https://youtu.be/kvil0PiKvE8?si=qogwIKyIuKxvMvX7

That YouTube guy get what I want to have. It means it is not impossible, she is young, smart and housewife. I just ask for advices to get it.

And I have said that I don't need her cooking also all days, I can cook Sunday for many days of the week like chicken with vineyard and vegetables. I have life with a Filipina already and I bought for her the sauces she like and I just eat a few different things, and she was good and not a scammer, but she was just too lazy doing house chores (educated Filipina bachelor's degree and closer to 30 than 20).

[Mr Enternational]

My idea is not get a maid, but if I work a lot from Monday to Friday, I need someone with future kids who educates them well and make the simple house chores. I even could cook many dishes in weekends to avoid her to cook all from Monday o Friday.

Man you are funny as fuck. You remind me exactly of a woman. You have this idea in your head of how you want things to be then set out to try to find someone to fit the mold that you have created. Women do that exact shit. Unlucky for you, people do not work that way.

Only an uneducated woman would initially go along with your plan. But you expect her to be educated enough to educate your kids well? Have you heard of the blind leading the blind? Because this will be the dumb miseducating the uneducated. And you also assume that she will not only be able to cook, but I assume cook the food that you like to your standards. I do not think anyone that has an inkling of experience with Filipino culture would set out to do what you are trying. I think most men would meet someone, hit it off with that person, and later decide they would like to marry them in particular. You are definitely better off getting a maid seeing that you already have a list of chores and payment amount for a "wife" you have yet to even meet.

[Dg8787]

You do not need to pay her a "salary", but you should be able to work out together an "allowance" for her to buy food and household necessities, plus some spending money for herself. This is basic "Budgeting 101" which any couple should develop.

Yep. Budget allowances.

1. Household.

2. Her own discretionary spending money.

3. Her Family allowance and family emergency fund. Deal with this upfront and set up for periodic review.

[Robotron]

Speaking of wives, does it seem like it would be easier to find a wife / loyal young woman here compared to other countries? Are they coming off as desperate and willing to move to usa and please in a real relationship?

Just wondering if that's been an experience even if its just mongering.

[AussieGaigin]

You do not need to pay her a "salary", but you should be able to work out together an "allowance" for her to buy food and household necessities, plus some spending money for herself. This is basic "Budgeting 101" which any couple should develop.

[Don Malo]

Just a couple of thoughts here.

I do not think a self-respecting woman living with you as a wife will want or accept a salary. That is demeaning. She is your wife, not an employee. I send my partners money monthly to cover the bills and to save a little bit, but I don't do that if I am there. Treat her like a wife. They do not expect money just for being a wife. Just treat her well and you will be okay.

If you are going to the province, be aware that some girls are really dirt poor. Especially if they live in Sitio of some far-flunged barangay. Their house may literally be a wooden shack with a dirt floor and anahau roof and no power. You can not expect to get a girl like this and her be able to clean a western home properly. There is a learning curve.

My last piece of advice is just personal. It seems you're more interested in getting a maid than a wife. In the Philippines, women tend to be more traditional and subservient to their husbands. But, even then, they have feelings and do not want to be seen as a maid or an employee. You really need to change your mindset if you want to find a good Filipina wife who loves you like she should and not as a ticket out of poverty. With what you're doing, it's likely you may attract a woman who just wants out of poverty and a future, and she may use you as a ticket to leave the country and then leave you after she is safe from deportation. You wouldn't be the first man this happened to.

Well, if I won't pay a salary to her, at least she needs access to my bank accounts. I don't want my wife asking for money if she wants to buy clothes, food, a book or things like that. The point is that I guess that maybe a province woman could not be aware of the cost of money and some day make my bank account empty to pay an expensive travel or a family send of money whitout my commitment also. Not because she is a bad person, because of she is not aware of the money value. Like I see eur 50 k in the bank account and some day spent 15 k to buy concret for her family or pay a travel to phillippines for wathever reason in an expensive hotel. I don't want to control what she wants to do with her money or part of our money but I want to avoid some problems also.

My idea is not get a maid, but if I work a lot from Monday to Friday, I need someone with future kids who educates them well and make the simple house chores. I even could cook many dishes in weekends to avoid her to cook all from Monday o Friday. And I'm aware as the husband of a traditional Filipina, I will spend my weekend time with her because they value a lot spend time the husband or boyfriend and I couldn't go anymore with my friends a lot of hours without her also there. My idea is make a lot of activities with her, but I want a simple and good life whitout argues, problems and things like that and due to it I want in a rational way choose a housewife with good heart to respect and work for each other.

I meet a few european women who become Muslims and married educated engineer moroccos and they marriages and families are big and with a lot of calm and peace. Whitout anxious because luxury things wishes, angry because their husbands are working a lot for the family, etc.

[Aml3740]

To West coast, I know this site is for mongers but you meet also this country and semi prostitutes who are looking for boyfriends also.

Furthermore, mongers are more pragmatic and rude to give me better advices.

The movie locked up for abroad is not allowed in YouTube anymore. But I won't marry a woman already married.

I won't pay any euro before marriage, as much am special gift as a motorbike or a Latin language classes after months of relationship and without her asking for it. Just as a surprise.

My idea after kids is pay to her monthly a salary if she is housewife like split my salary into 40% 60%.

I prefer province women because in many provinces 10 k is more than a monthly salary, my idea is pay 10-15 k as support. 20 k is a full salary in Manila or Cebu.

I'm. Not closed to single mother but I'm young also, I'm early 30 and childless and move to western with a baby is not the most easy. Hmm, maybe a young single mother as 20 years old. But it's not my priority. I met before many single moms online and they were too lazy, it's better if I meet women there.

Are not province or mountain girls very strong who knows how to do all house chores and working hard in industry or as maids?

The point is that Paul's Asian Adventure being and engineer of 55 y old married a perfect woman 19 y old and I think I could do the same but it is not easy if I only go there one month yearly.

My ex was from city and very good hearted, she only took 50 k and 20 k pesos in dumb gifts for her family because I was a beginner, but after it no one euro to her. But she was not very good in house chores and it scared me to make more serious commitment.

Just a couple of thoughts here.

I do not think a self-respecting woman living with you as a wife will want or accept a salary. That is demeaning. She is your wife, not an employee. I send my partners money monthly to cover the bills and to save a little bit, but I don't do that if I am there. Treat her like a wife. They do not expect money just for being a wife. Just treat her well and you will be okay.

If you are going to the province, be aware that some girls are really dirt poor. Especially if they live in Sitio of some far-flunged barangay. Their house may literally be a wooden shack with a dirt floor and anahau roof and no power. You can not expect to get a girl like this and her be able to clean a western home properly. There is a learning curve.

My last piece of advice is just personal. It seems you're more interested in getting a maid than a wife. In the Philippines, women tend to be more traditional and subservient to their husbands. But, even then, they have feelings and do not want to be seen as a maid or an employee. You really need to change your mindset if you want to find a good Filipina wife who loves you like she should and not as a ticket out of poverty. With what you're doing, it's likely you may attract a woman who just wants out of poverty and a future, and she may use you as a ticket to leave the country and then leave you after she is safe from deportation. You wouldn't be the first man this happened to.

[Don Malo]

This board is for mongering, but I know you can find good women in the Philippines, too. Here is my advice.

- An 18-20 year old meeting up with a foreigner probably isn't so innocent. You may find a unicorn, but probably not.

- Do not negotiate paying her a monthly salary to be your wife. She is your wife and partner, not an employee. The type of woman you seek should not be concerned about money from you. If she is, that's a huge warning sign to you.

- Expect to pay a dowry to her family. This practice is still common in Philippine provinces, and is often in the 20 k range. You may be asked to provide something for the farm or family business, too..

To West coast, I know this site is for mongers but you meet also this country and semi prostitutes who are looking for boyfriends also.

Furthermore, mongers are more pragmatic and rude to give me better advices.

The movie locked up for abroad is not allowed in YouTube anymore. But I won't marry a woman already married.

I won't pay any euro before marriage, as much am special gift as a motorbike or a Latin language classes after months of relationship and without her asking for it. Just as a surprise.

My idea after kids is pay to her monthly a salary if she is housewife like split my salary into 40% 60%.

I prefer province women because in many provinces 10 k is more than a monthly salary, my idea is pay 10-15 k as support. 20 k is a full salary in Manila or Cebu.

I'm. Not closed to single mother but I'm young also, I'm early 30 and childless and move to western with a baby is not the most easy. Hmm, maybe a young single mother as 20 years old. But it's not my priority. I met before many single moms online and they were too lazy, it's better if I meet women there.

Are not province or mountain girls very strong who knows how to do all house chores and working hard in industry or as maids?

The point is that Paul's Asian Adventure being and engineer of 55 y old married a perfect woman 19 y old and I think I could do the same but it is not easy if I only go there one month yearly.

My ex was from city and very good hearted, she only took 50 k and 20 k pesos in dumb gifts for her family because I was a beginner, but after it no one euro to her. But she was not very good in house chores and it scared me to make more serious commitment.

[NvRoberto]

I have had 4 virgins in my life.

1. High School GF, We were both like 18 and neither of us knew really what we were doing. Obviously not the greatest sex but we were both still super turned on.

2. College GF when I was mid 20's an she was 17/18 freshman. First sex was painful and regular sex wasnt that great, but at 22 you take whatever and its enough.

3. Ex Wife when we were both 25, lost her shit after the first sex but then turned into amazing kinky sex. Enough to make me marry her even though she was crazy (and I was young and stupid).

4. Taiwanese girl who was 30 (I was 51) but still a virgin. I didn't know she was a virgin, she just said she hadn't had "much" experience. First sex was drunken. Then she said she didn't want to repeat. Then she turned into a kinky sex monster the next time she came and wanted me to teach her everything.

I have never had paid sex with a virgin though and don't think I would. And OP had already sent call center girl money so it was paid for sex no matter what he thinks.

Poking around and saw this thread and thought I'd share.

About 2 years ago I connected with a girl who ran a "massage" service near Manila and soon she was providing me about 1 new girl a week. We became friendly, meaning when she needed money for her family I helped her out haha. At some point I asked if she could get me a virgin, and she responded "ok" immediately. Within a month I had 2 - an 18 and a 19 year old. Both girls were terrified and asked the manager to be there when I fucked them so that was also my first time meeting the manager in person (FYI, she was HOT. Like stunning. After that the manager and I fucked a few times but that's another story). I thought it would be fun to fuck a virgin but not so much. They kept pulling away, crying out in pain before I even put in the tip, could not manage even basic positions, both cried. Sometimes the fantasy is better than reality.

[GentileBear]

Hey DonMalo,

Watch 'Locked Up Abroad' - Philippines story Prisoner Of Love I think. There is an episode of a guy who wanted to marry an innocent Pinay. Unfortunately she was already married but he did not know she was still married . This guy paid an awful price.

[WestCoast1]

Hahaha. The best way to find wedded bliss on ISG: read back 100 pages and choose the polar opposite girls, locations and MO's listed by horny mongers.

Didn't Don have the hoes into housewives conversation a few months ago?

Yes. And I believe another BM also mentioned to him at the time that this is not a marriage advice column.