Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[Centeaur]

Whoa !!

This is my first post after a couple of years of lurking around on the board. I am trying to figure out what planet your from. I’m a black man and I have been out with plenty of hot white woman; couple ugly ones too. Even married a blond who was trained in classical ballet and modern dance. If you’ve ever been out with a true dancer (not a SC dancer) you’ll appreciate that. But I drift.

I too am afflicted by the Asian Vagina affinity. It’s doable in the US, but depending on what part of the country you are in you got to work at it. However, in Asia, especially in the PI its truly pussy heaven.

I spent most of my time in Vietnam, Singapore and Malaysia from 91 to 97. It wasn’t bad, if fact it was quite good. The Filipina woman I met outside of the PI (as far as Dakar of all places) where amazing, pretty open and lots of fun. But when I finally got to the PI in 2002. I couldn’t believe it. My problem; well not really a negative sort of problem, is I hooked up with a woman in Laguna Province so my mongering has been somewhat limited over the last couple of years.

You will have no problem-attracting woman. The type you end up with really depends on your personality. Just go over, show a little bit of modesty, respect, and courtesy and you will be totally blown away.

Centeaur

[Humilde]

Any suggestions,currently sending my girlfriend to college ,graduates in two years with a technical degee worth about 75000 a year here in US. Plan to marry her and have a child. Problem ,she has 7 brotheers and sisters ,what are the chances she will try to bring them all over here at my expense once the green card is given. She says no way but family is number one with filipinos. She is a province girl but I met her in Manila and am positive she is not fooling around. My biggest problem is that I still want to monger big time around the world and finally have enough time and money to do it, but I do not have the same feelings for any of the many girls as I do for my girlfriend. She knows I fool around when I am not with her but still tries to monopolize my time and wants to go with me everywhere, I do not want to dump her but at the same time I dream of new encounters. We have spent almost a year of time together so my understanding of her is pretty good, Her family has never asked me for a dime as they own land in the province and dhe could move there now and live without working in her home town which is very rural , I am torn on what to do she is 22 and I 45,any suggestions

7 brothers/sisters have a HIGH probability of trying to move to the USA, namely any empty floor space in your home. You home may become "squatter central"

You cant blame people for wanting to improve their lives, but if you sponsor them you are economically responsible. If they all can/will/work/study rather than sucking up public assistance might work out.

I have seen a huge difference between educated and non educated pi's. seems to be a rather disorganized culture. Upper class pi's disown the lower strata and I have seen a lot of "show offs"; lots of gold, jewelry, tackyness, damn cars with loud exhaust systems that make my toilet bowl flushing sound like Mozart.

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[Bouraq]

Reading through the posts I come across various opinions on various issues and thought I would add my own two pennyworth.

Filipnas dont make good wives are many indications ! Like any race, I guess it depends on your luck in the draw. I've been married to one for close on 22 years now, she looks after (but does not "control") all our finances, keeps a good house, looks after me and still pleasing to the eye and good company. We moved to live in the Philippines around five years ago after time in various other coutries. She is a number one and I have never regretted my marriage. By the way, I know many other foreigners here in a similar situation. There are many more marriages here alive and well in the background. With a good woman by your side life in the Philippines can be good, a little money goes a long way here. I have a modest but pleasant house in Manila and a four acre farm lot a few hours drive from the city. We lead a quiet low-key life and are never short of friends and things to do. For me and many others I know, marriage to a Filipina is good and life here in the Philippines is also. Choose your woman, select the right life-style and you should be OK.

PS Just got back from a weekend out at the "farm". On first arriving there stopped at the local shop and bought six bottles (total three litres) beer for 100 pesos, marginally under 2 $ US, a couple of packets of Marlboro Lights for another $1, some fresh pork for another couple of bucks then the wife set to with the bar-b-que. Salad items were home grown ... the makings of a great laid-back evening ! An early night with some good sex completed the day. I urge people to look deep before discarding the Philippines or the women to be found there!

[Member #2718]

Member #2718,

You fit the profile of a gullible Westerner. Why do you have to believe any of the words of a ho? The only thing these hos are interested in is your money.

Perhaps, but I have lived in the P.I. off and on for the last 20 years and continueously for the last 5. The build-up of info over time has been very consistant. As for an interest only in money, I have observed that is also a consistant trait of everyone on the planet. The chief difference being that the pros are more up front about it (which is refreshingly honest).

Wake-up and enjoy whats out there before you miss it all.

Happy Hunting

[MasterBlaster]

Member #2718,

You fit the profile of a gullible Westerner. Why do you have to believe any of the words of a ho? The only thing these hos are interested in is your money.

[Teddy Bear 99]

The mother of my godson came to the US when she met and married a McDonald's franchise owner. She eventually got a job as a waitress at Denny's here in the US. This is where she met a guy who was a valet, she eventually divorced her older guy, married this valet, and has had three kids with this valet.

The difference I see in this woman, is that she brought stability to this guys life. They both ended up going to medical technical school. He's a radiologist and she's a dental hygenist now and they made it without her getting a penny from the divorce.

Talk about marrying down?

[Member #2718]

What you find when you talk to many Filipinas is a distinct dislike for Filipino Men. Its amazing to hear so many of them rattle off the exact same reasons. "they are lazy", "they are always drinking", "they are always gamlbling", "they alway beat them", "they are are always babaero (womanizing)". I have pointed out that the last one could be said of any guy, but the usual response is that Filipinos don't support any of their women and expect the women to assume all the support function, that is their real complaint. Westerners generally will provide some measure of support All this bodes well for ANY westerner (including Japanese) of any race.

So guys enjoy the hunting while it lasts. Someday they may actually fix the economy here and ruin a great thing for all us mongers.

[Spam Hog]

While it is true that Filipina have a thing about pale skin and all, I've never seen them really exclude a Black, or swarthy looking men on race alone.

Going with a white, black, hispanic. arab or "Turko" is a matter of preference, some will not get near an arab, terrified of them, but have no problem with black. Its a difficult social issue here, generally, pale skin, tall is associated with the wealthy chinese, being light skinned is equated with wealth, status etc. Dark skin means you are a peasant and got that way working in a rice field. Asians are very social concious and one does not marry beneath ones station and Filipinos are very concious of this!

Now the spamhog prefers darker women, I think they are especailly exotic, however Filipino men refer to this as "pangit" or ugly, they often laugh at us, why do you have a girlfriend (wife) who is so dark, you can have a light skinned mestiza if you want or chinese? Hey, I like 'em like that!

I think Thai women have a bigger problem here with race, after all Thailand used to have a caste system, the darker ones skin the lower on the social order,

Spamhog

[GoodEnough]

Domino:

I do not know what else I can tell you, except that these guys are hardly unique here. I actually see more of these guys here than I saw in my 6 months in Vietnam, which I guess is not surprising given that, at least from the point of view of languages, it's easier here.

You're correct, I do like it here, though it's not (my opinion only) nearly as interesting culturally as Vietnam. On the other hand, it's a somewhat easier place to live and the pace is a whole lot slower. Vietnamese food though is alot better. Attracting non pro women is not difficult here and somewhat more difficult, though hardly impossible, in Vietnam.

I think you should empirically test both countries before making your decision. In fact, I could perhaps volunteer as a lab assistant for the experiment. Seriously, if you get here, send me a PM and let me know when you're coming.

GE

[GoodEnough]

It's true, there is somewhat of an obsession here with skin lightening, and it's also true that the TV is full of ads for various skins creams promising to lighten and brighten the skin. This may be more a matter of personal vanity than preference in men. I have had a couple of black friends here, and I never saw one of them shot down because of the color of his skin. I'm not saying it does not happen; just that I have never witnessed it.

I agree completely with Marc 25; there are so many women here and such abundance of opportunity that racial hang ups should not be any deterent at all.

GE

[Firedick]

Pimpster,

You must have missed the original post about the prenup. It was proposed that the poster could have a prenup that gave him his future wifes earnings ! ie: a contract such as, "I paid for your schooling and getting you over here, you owe me XX years of salary". (paraphrased)

No prenup denying basic human rights would ever make it to court.

GE,

On the money.

FD

[GoodEnough]

I met a 75 year old guy on the golf course today, who has a five year old child here. I know another guy of 73, who just started a new restaurant, and whose 20 something year old wife is pregnant. Some may call this a triumph of optimism over common sense, but I don't think so. These guys have, by moving here, given themelves a new lease on life. They're happy. They're productive, and the women to whom they're married do not feel at all cheated.

These relationships would not, of course, work in the West. First, the men could never hope to attract such women and even if they could, the extent of the ridicule from society at large would create enormous strains. It's better, I think, if you're considering the "May/December" route, to stay here, where such relationships are not uncommon. There's nothing hypocritical about this. All relationships are at least somewhat contextual, and the cultural context here makes these relationships tenable.

Rather then, considering whether to bring young Filipinas to the States, to Europe, or wherever, the alternative may be to consider whether you should relocate here.

GE

[Pimpster]

iI you are an educated black man, your kinda of shit out of luck. I think if you dress hip hop and is thugish, go to japan lots of japanese girls are really into black guys that can't have that urban ghetto look. I've always question why would anyone want to go down versus up. I believe that the Philipines are quite open to black guys as well. Even in the states, but your shit out of luck with most other asians though.

[Pimpster]

Prenups are enforceable regardless especially if she from the Philipines, because there laws are very close to our own. Lawyers from the Philipines can come to the u.s. and just take the bar and if they pass they are recognized as a lawyer. So, a buddy of mine who is a good lawyer says it can be enforce and with a good prenup it basically iron clad, and will hold in up in court, one of the things he told me was that you must keep your assets separate and have a list of what items you came into the marriage with and have your lawyer draw up the document as such.

As for the issue of f*cking them and leaving them, hell most of them will end up leaving us when they get to the u.s. so what the hell. You know most of the girls will give you lines etc. and lie to you so all is fair in love and war.

I don't think you should lead a virgin on or anything like that but if she a bar girl or some chick that gives it to you the first hour you know that chances are she in it for the pasport or the money

[Mookman]

King Arthur, I disagree with the fuck'em and leave'em policy because we're suppose to be people and have a concious. If it's straight P4P then no problems but when guys are promising girls to marry them and them leave them high and dry that's just plain fucked up. There girls are people not animals to throw out when you are bored. Make no promises and play it straight and you make no problems for anybody and yourself.


For the most part, if you want to marry a girl from the PI and want to make sure it actually lasts. Others suggest marrying a girl that is already well off and doesn't need your money but that's almost impossible and let's face it, if they didn't need your money why the hell would they marry your ugly, loser ass, right?

I seriously believe that you must get a girl that is in your league. If you are old and fat and try to marry a young hottie, who's 20 years old, chances are that it's not going to last long once she comes to the US. Now if you get an older woman in her 30's or 40's then ok, way better chance. But that kinda defeats the purpose right of going to the PI to find a young hottie.

I know 2 guys in their 20's, married girls from the PI also in their 20's. So far their marriages are working fine they are happy and it seems like it will last. Reason being, these guys would of married the same type of girl if they married girls from the US, it's just that they happen to be from the PI.

So basically, if you can't get the same type of girl from the US as in the PI then most likely it will not work out, plain, simple and being realistic.

Mook