China Women - Opinions and Advice

[Mmlouie]

Ahhh...this means Groom or an another sense Stableman. I am not seeing the connection here.

Do you mean "she" keeps a stable of fellas?

-CPE

If you go by the book, that will be the translation. Local lingo and meanings are not translatable, just like jarring. for example; 鲍鱼 does not mean abalone in local lingo.

Mmlouie

[Maddog40]

Hey guys,

I'm not sure about stereotyping here, but has anyone noticed that Chinese women seem to have larger labia minora (inner lips) and smaller clit protrusion than other races? I'm not trying to get technical here, just don't know how else to ask the question?

Thanks,

MD40

[Old Mean Dog]

Chinese have a old saying addressing someone in particular as "马夫".

Mmlouie

Ahhh...this means Groom or an another sense Stableman. I am not seeing the connection here.

Do you mean "she" keeps a stable of fellas?

-CPE

[Old Mean Dog]

WHOA Dere Pardner!!

As far as I know, Tightway had always been upfront with the gals he meets. Practically his first opening gambit had always been - I am LOOKING FOR a true love relationship and not just P4P or one night stands. Repeat - he does not lie to them about his intentions at all. He absolutely does NOT promise that he will definitely get serious with the gal.



SEAJ

Ps. I am NOT defending Tightway at all - but just relaying to you what I do know about him..

Yes and No.

Maybe he can justify his actions, by saying he is seeking out his one true love/perfect match, but in the process of finding her, he will sample any and all gals to seek her out.

If he wants to play this with P4P gals, then it becomes a game of one bullshits the other, but when he uses this game on the common, hardworking, sometimes a bit nieve girls, then it's bad news.

As you are fully aware, many girls in China have a strong desire to marry and have children, it's the holy grail for them. As many have already said, it's difficult enough for a common Chinese girl to be with a foreigner, let alone end up being used by one.

If he is so sincere, in finding love, why is he in such a hurry to get into her pants?

Love 'Em and Leave 'Em or I Love You Till I Cum?

I have met Tightway, he seems to be a nice guy, I just hope he ain't like the guy mentioned above.

-CPE

[Mmlouie]

Would it matter if she was Chinese, Russian, American, Thai, etc. If I am with a gal and many men are coming up to her and saying Hi, then I would safely figure she probably gets around and is a *****.

This is not some "Secret" Chinese good girl/bad girl detection method, this is just common sense.

Enrich us with something more than this.

-CPE

Chinese have a old saying addressing someone in particular as "马夫".

Mmlouie

[Mmlouie]

Would it matter if she was Chinese, Russian, American, Thai, etc. If I am with a gal and many men are coming up to her and saying Hi, then I would safely figure she probably gets around and is a *****.

This is not some "Secret" Chinese good girl/bad girl detection method, this is just common sense.

Enrich us with something more than this.

-CPE

Well, this girl happens to be a very popular sauna girl. We look but we don't see.

Mmlouie

[Old Mean Dog]

Like most of us, we look but we don't see or that we just refused to see.

Here's one; A Taiwanese friend of mine married a China girl years ago, she was very attractive and with a great figure. He once mentioned to us that he noticed that many men are smiling and saying Hi to her on the streets in her hometown. You think this is "big red sign"? To make a long story short, he married her anyway and you could guess the ending.

Trust your instincts, they are usually right. Sometimes you just need to ask yourself why a hot looking 20's China girl with a brick house body would be interested in a middle-age balding man with a beer potbelly? Btw, I was just making a point and was not in anyway directing this comment to you or anyone else. So, please do not take offense.

Mmlouie

Would it matter if she was Chinese, Russian, American, Thai, etc. If I am with a gal and many men are coming up to her and saying Hi, then I would safely figure she probably gets around and is a *****.

This is not some "Secret" Chinese good girl/bad girl detection method, this is just common sense.

Enrich us with something more than this.

-CPE

[Vista Sushi]

I spend a reasonable amount of time RTFF and have tried to contribute some along the way. And, I must say the research supporting my publications has for the most time been pretty fun. And when it isn't fun, it has been insightful. I've played at a few sauna's and picked up some WGs. I've even struck up some pen pal relationships that turned into meetings. But, most of these girls are in their early 20s. I'm not complaining.

But, a lot can be said about an older (35+) Chinese woman. First, they look better than the Caucasian version (in most cases). Second, they seem reasonably open to having action on the side since there is an assumption their husband is doing the same.

But, how do you find them? Where do they congregate? How much time goes into grooming them for action?

[Vista Sushi]

Trust your instincts, they are usually right. Sometimes you just need to ask yourself why a hot looking 20's China girl with a brick house body would be interested in a middle-age balding man with a beer potbelly? Btw, I was just making a point and was not in anyway directing this comment to you or anyone else. So, please do not take offense.

Mmlouie

No offense taken. Mainly because I don't fit your description. Yet. Time and copious beer consumption will take care of that.

Along with this thread I found the following web page pretty helpful to figure out a mess that I got myself into.

http://middlekingdomlife.com/wp/rela...-sex-in-China/

The sections I refer to are these:

"Much to your surprise, and, paradoxically perhaps (in light of the relative importance of virginity at marriage), you will find many that many girls are actually eager to sleep with you on the second or third date (in fact, they are often the ones to initiate it), but you should exercise extreme caution in how that apparent sexual aggressiveness is interpreted: For most "good" Chinese girls, an offer of sex is almost always a gesture of good faith in contemplation of marriage. It’s intended to be a binding dealmaker and that is how it should be responded to, one way or the other. "

AND

"Finally, Chinese girls who have lived with or even dated Western men are extremely limited in their future marriage options if the relationship doesn’t last (which then often leads to a forced pattern of serial monogamous cohabitating relationships with foreign men exclusively). Outside the three major international cities, it is highly unlikely you will encounter an unmarried Chinese girl, under the age of 35, who is only looking for a "friend with benefits. " If this is all you are interested in, then you must be clear about that from the outset. "

In any case, I got caught up with a girl that dated an English teacher about a year ago. Apparently, they were getting near to marriage and he took off to live back in the States. As a side note, that could have meant 3 dates for all I know. But in any case he met the family. So, that devastated her because now she's got the public stigma of losing a guy (and face). Now, she's pretty much on the hunt for his replacement. She tagged me as that guy, but I ain't having it. Now it's time to milk it or run.

In any case, the site if full of some guy's opinion, but for guys that don't have much experience with the Chinese woman, it seems like a good start.

EDITOR'S NOTE: I would suggest that the author or another Forum Member consider posting a link to this report in the Reports of Distinction thread. Please Click Here for more information.

[OldAsiaHand]

WHOA Dere Pardner!!

As far as I know, Tightway had always been upfront with the gals he meets. Practically his first opening gambit had always been - I am LOOKING FOR a true love relationship and not just P4P or one night stands. Repeat - he does not lie to them about his intentions at all. He absolutely does NOT promise that he will definitely get serious with the gal.

SEAJ,

First of all, I do not know Tightway as well as you do, However, have you ever been with Tightway when he chatted up a girl? Were you with him in his hotel room when he was trying to get in her pants? Have you talked with any of his rejects? I remember he pulled his shit with one in CP and she called the cops on him when he refused to pay her.

IMHO, "I am LOOKING FOR a true love relationship" is one in the same. What comes with a "true love relationship"?

Now, maybe he really believes that he wants to fall in love with every girl he meets on the street. Whether he directly promises anything is not important. The "LOOKING FOR" line is enough to give them false hopes.

Just my POV.

OAH

[SE Asia Joe]

Tightway,

I second the motion. You are always welcome to post your POV on this forum provided you do so according to the set guidelines.

I have a question for you. How any regular girls do you think you would score if you were completely straight up with them? I mean to tell them from the start that you only want to do them and move on rather than feeding them bull and giving them false hopes of looking for a g/f, getting married, foreign passport, taking them out of their misery, etc. I guess some guys will do whatever it takes to get laid for free, but I cannot con them the way you do.

I remember the day we met and went to KTV. Did you pay that KTV girl you left with or feed her the same bull to get her to do you for free? How would you like it if someone came to China and asked you to do some work for them here only to find out later that they left the country, did not pay you and never contacted you again after the work was done? Is this not the same scenario as doing a P4P girl and not paying her?

I get my share of regular girls, albeit not the numbers that you do, but I am always upfront with them from the start about my situation and intentions. I sleep better that way.

Just my POV.

OAH

WHOA Dere Pardner!!

As far as I know, Tightway had always been upfront with the gals he meets. Practically his first opening gambit had always been - I am LOOKING FOR a true love relationship and not just P4P or one night stands. Repeat - he does not lie to them about his intentions at all. He absolutely does NOT promise that he will definitely get serious with the gal.

NOw, what the gal's reaction to such an up-front proposition is of course her own choice. Amongst them:

- She finds him truly attractive and will try to snare him by hook or by crook
- She thinks - yeah right! OK, I'll go along with this nonsense and see how far it gets AND how much I can get in the end
- She don't know what to think - but just go with the flow - to see where it leads to - and will decide what to do when and wherever she gets to.
- whatever else....

But as far as I know/believe, Tightway does NOT promise them anything up-front.

At first of course I was VERY sceptical as to his "methods" - but what I found out as I got to know him better was .... TIGHTWAY REALY BELIEVES that he is on a search for his one true love.

I told him time and again that CP, Zhuhai KTV, BBS and Saunas are definitely NOT where he is gonna find his true love - and that to a very large extent, for him to search for such true love in such places is TOTALLY UNFAIR to the gals. The gals are not doing what they are doing searching for love but to make $$. BUT, he tells me that he doesn't mind where a gal is from and what she's doing - if it was meant to be, then it was meant to be.

Now, you guys will most probably say that this guy is so full of shit he should spend his whole life in the toilet - but from what I do know about him - he really believes that what he's doing is 100% correct.

Different Strokes for Different Folks - you go figure

SEAJ

Ps. I am NOT defending Tightway at all - but just relaying to you what I do know about him..

[Mmlouie]

Please do tell. What are the signs of a bad girl that we seek?

Like most of us, we look but we don't see or that we just refused to see.

Here's one; A Taiwanese friend of mine married a China girl years ago, she was very attractive and with a great figure. He once mentioned to us that he noticed that many men are smiling and saying Hi to her on the streets in her hometown. You think this is "big red sign"? To make a long story short, he married her anyway and you could guess the ending.

Trust your instincts, they are usually right. Sometimes you just need to ask yourself why a hot looking 20's China girl with a brick house body would be interested in a middle-age balding man with a beer potbelly? Btw, I was just making a point and was not in anyway directing this comment to you or anyone else. So, please do not take offense.

Mmlouie

[Csun213]

Tightway,

I have a question for you. How any regular girls do you think you would score if you were completely straight up with them? I mean to tell them from the start that you only want to do them and move on rather than feeding them bull and giving them false hopes of looking for a g/f, getting married, foreign passport, taking them out of their misery, etc. I guess some guys will do whatever it takes to get laid for free, but I cannot con them the way you do.

I remember the day we met and went to KTV. Did you pay that KTV girl you left with or feed her the same bull to get her to do you for free? How would you like it if someone came to China and asked you to do some work for them here only to find out later that they left the country, did not pay you and never contacted you again after the work was done? Is this not the same scenario as doing a P4P girl and not paying her?

OAH

I totally agree. It is hard to image that anyone would be so cheap to lead a girl on thinking that there might be a future and then break her heart just so you can save a couple of bucks.

I think it is fair game if you are serious about a girl, date for a while but then find out you are not right for each other but to lie and cheap without any intention of a future with them is just wrong. I just hope what goes around comes around for these guys.

[OldAsiaHand]

Probably there is some kind of divide between the older and younger guys on this board regarding this issue, since it may be difficult for 60 yo's to find regular girls, so they get kind of snappy when you address the issue.

Phil1980,

Eaglestar is living proof that it is not difficult at all for 60 yo's to get regular girls. Just take a look at the Photo Gallery.

Just my POV.

OAH

[OldAsiaHand]

Great post Tightway!! Really!!

You know what I appreciate most about you??
You truly are so full of shit - but its shit that you truly believe 100% in. No, that's true!! You are a genuine one of a kind!

Tightway,

I second the motion. You are always welcome to post your POV on this forum provided you do so according to the set guidelines.

I have a question for you. How any regular girls do you think you would score if you were completely straight up with them? I mean to tell them from the start that you only want to do them and move on rather than feeding them bull and giving them false hopes of looking for a g/f, getting married, foreign passport, taking them out of their misery, etc. I guess some guys will do whatever it takes to get laid for free, but I cannot con them the way you do.

I remember the day we met and went to KTV. Did you pay that KTV girl you left with or feed her the same bull to get her to do you for free? How would you like it if someone came to China and asked you to do some work for them here only to find out later that they left the country, did not pay you and never contacted you again after the work was done? Is this not the same scenario as doing a P4P girl and not paying her?

I get my share of regular girls, albeit not the numbers that you do, but I am always upfront with them from the start about my situation and intentions. I sleep better that way.

Just my POV.

OAH