Sadomasochism

[Benchseats Rock]

fetish,

your perception is absolutely correct. almost all of the clientelle are submissives for the simple fact that most dominants already have relationships with their own submissives. a dominant looking to pay to "play" with a submissive should raise an immediate red flag, they are usually untrained and don't know how to focus aggression or to build relationships to express it healthily. in short, they are dangerous.

"does the mistress/master actually enjoy punishing their subs?"

sadists, by definition enjoy inflicting pain, suffering, punishment, discipline, humilation: call it what you will. i know i get hard (as hard as with viagra during "vanilla" sex) when i have a sub over my knee and start to spank them, i get turned on when i have them tied to a cross and they are being flogged or having a forced enema, and i have a friend who is a dominatrix who finds nothing more pleasurable than watching the humiliation and disgust on a sub's face while she [CodeWord110] on them. as a dominant, i enjoy punishing my subs, partly because i am a sadist, partly because i know that the sub is loving every minute of it and not getting off (no matter how much they beg), and the extra added bonus is when the sub makes an unintentional mistake that deserves punishment. but i am really into the scene and the lifestyle, so are many of my friends and of course, so are all the people that i play with.

sadly, there are many, many, many women out there who think that being a dominatrix is nothing more than a very good paying job with a neat uniform. do these women (they are not true dommes after all) really get off on administering punishment? i have heard more than one "domme" complain about the length of session necessary to satisfy a submissive's tolerance not being worth what they were charging. the focus isn't the money in the real version of this game, though there is money exchanged, it is more of a formality. mostly i think that the fakers out there do it just for the money and could care less about the sub. if you don't push the sub to their limit you have no place holding a whip.

a true dom/domme wants to get that sub to their limit and then push a little further. maybe not in one session, but as a goal. luckily the community is pretty tightly knit and a sub looking for a real dom/domme can find one who does enjoy it. if the dom/domme isn't having any fun, then the sub isn't going to get a good session.

hope this was helpful,

br

[Fetish]

BR,

This is a very interesting discussion. I have a question, it seems that most of the customer are sub (my preception) and enjoy been dominated by their mistress/master. Does the mistress/master actually enjoy punishing their subs?

[Benchseats Rock]

Hi all,

I have been in the BDSM lifestyle for the last 13 years and am happy to offer my experience here if it will help out at all. As far as my credentials in the arena, I produce a line of fetish videos that run the gamut from light bondage to extreme spanking, though I will not discuss vending them here. There is enough porn out there that you can go and find your own if you want it badly enough. That being said:

Latin: Generally "pony riding" is female domination over either sex. It boils down to how much you weigh and how strong is the sub. Of course, if you are paying to dominate (this is rare) everything you want to do will be discussed beforehand. Havanaman is dead on in this respect.

nwtn20: There is a world of difference between being tied and teased as part of a service that includes light bondage and teasing to release and actually being tied and teased by a mistress and being dominated via S&M.

S&M is intense and VERY psychological. Most people involved in the scene have long standing relationships based entirely on trust: This is the only way to facilitate complete submision. There is a distinct difference between doing what you are told and submitting to the demands of a master or a mistress. Total submission takes some time to achieve, though it can be rewarding in the sense of breaking down personal barriers and building inner strength and confidence. All good dominants MUST start off as submissives, otherwise there can be no reciprocal understanding of your limits, or knowing and understanding how a punishment can affect you. Like anything else sexwise, there are true providers and girls who spank for money. Unfortunately, there are many, many more of the latter these days.

The critical difference in S&M as opposed to prostitution in general is simple. In real life S&M, sex and/or release isn't the goal, and doesn't have to take place in order to dominate the sub or have what is generally regarded as a successful session. Release is usually seen as a reward for being an obediant submissive; And though some providers will give you a HJ or a BJ to completion, most will force you to do it yourself in the corner, cum on their boots and then lick it up. This is certainly not the hard and fast rule, obviously YMMV, but in S&M you are trying to experience the domination and submission through pain as the catalyst and motivator, not sex.

Hope this was helpful. I'll try to answer any questions you all may have.

Stay Safe

[nwtn20]

Hi people,

I am developing an interest in SM, I was wondering how does 'Tie and Tease' work in practice. I guess I would get tied up and my 'mistress' would play with me. But what I anted to know is after playing with me will I get relief - Hand job or blow job or foot job .

Thanks in advance

[Latin]

I feel attracted by the idea of riding a girl like a pony before making sex, does anybody have the same feeling? Do you have experience in this?

[Organicgrowth]

Fetish

I have not been to Malaysia yet, but you can get all you want if you pay for it, this off course is the reason we can all hobby: we pay, they display. Ask your sex providers for what you want and they will probably go for it as long it is not too painful or disgusting to them.

Regards, Havanaman

[Fetish]

hi all,

this is a very interesting subject. i just a normal guy who wwants to try out everything. i can't seems to get any of this action in malaysia.

had anyone ever had experience like foot workship, coporal punishment, [CodeWord103] etc? how does it feels like?

[One Man]

>> And people think I screwed in the head.


The world of "BDSM" as it is often known is roughtly broken down into 3 pursuits. They are:

1. Bondage and Discipline
2. Domination and Submission
3. Sadism and Masochism

There is a significant subculture that considers bdsm and each of its subcultures to me very acceptable and "normal", if perhaps a bit kinkier than vanilla sex.

Personally I don't think they are anymore screwed in the head than we are, just different.


I am just

One Man
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Hey, let's be careful out there, and wear a condom for Pete's (and my) sake

[Raider]

I am not much into S&M and have not had much experiance in this area .The closest I have ever been maybe is when a long time ago an old girlfriend let me tie her hands to the bed posts and let me fuck her brains out .Oh Boy ! That brings back some memories

[MeatMan]

ah!well lookie here!

i have a friend who is into it enitrely.what he likes is to have the woman walk over her and, call him every derogatoy name in the book.now he wants to try "[CodeWord117]"

and people think i screwed in the head.

[OttoGraham]

Havanaman's post reminds me:

When asked by the Army recruiting sergeant in Stripes if he was a homosexual, Bill Murray replies: "Well, no, but is there a special school you'll send me to?"

-Uncle Otto

[Organicgrowth]

Wow: first to post here!

I’m not experienced with SM at all. I would love to learn more. Tips, tricks and philosophies appreciated.

Regards, Havanaman

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