General Info - Nampa

[Drbombay]

Yes, thank you for the message. Actually, I used to have a long-term sex friend / roommate who is a Japanese woman that started out as an English student. She was a student from an Eikaiwa, rather than my usual, which is a private English student. I usually try to avoid hooking up with students from an Eikaiwa I work at (even part time jobs that I do not care about losing) just to avoid legal issues with the school, should drama arise out of such a relationship.

Before I had this long-term sex friend / roommate I would do day game in various places downtown and usually start out by collecting LINE contacts of various women. I have done day game and taken Japanese women directly to love hotels, but usually that takes so much energy out of me, that I usually do not do that.

I am getting older and going out to do day game is sort of becoming a pain in the ass to be honest haha. I am tempted to maybe post private English teaching ads up in city hall and various community centers, which is something I used to do years ago. Most of the women that contact me via the email I listed would want to study English seriously, while the other half were just looking for some casual free talk to get to know me and hook up.

I have lived in Japan for almost 10 years, so I know pretty much right away which type a particular woman is when I first meet her. This woman wants to study English, but I can tell she is mostly just a bored housewife that is looking for companionship or someone to talk to or hook up with.

Since she knows the area I live in, I do not want to chance hooking up with her, so I am thinking of maybe just keeping her as an English student and just finding other single women.

So none of these guys you knew that were boy toys for married women never ran into legal issues with their husbands or anything like that?

There are many bored housewives out there just willing to have a chance for some extra fun. Some of them resort to the "escort" business and there are a few sites that offer them up for meetings. It is true, that if one party in the marriage feels cheated, they can sue the other partner's mistress / fling. I know of someone whose wife's friend did just that so he has to be extra careful when he steps out.

[JonSilverHand]

Have fun.

With all due respect, this website is for sex and this forum is for NAMPA. Your post belongs on some kind of Dear Abby or whatever the 21st century equivalent is.

Yes, I apologize. Since this is a Nampa forum, I did want to ask what are some common places (besides subway stations, outside of bars / pubs and shopping centers) where someone in a second tier city in Japan can do Nampa with some success?

I have done Nampa in the locations I have mentioned above, but the annoying thing is sometimes if I hang around too long in one area, security will tell me to move along. I have actually had a security guard patrolling around the station with his eye on me like I was some sort of criminal and I was only making conversation with women once in a while and not overly aggressive at all.

I have found that outside of smaller subway stations has been much easier for me, even though there are way less woman flowing in and out of them. When I do come across a woman walking alone, it is quiet enough for us to actually have a decent conversation.

Anyway, I thought I would ask on here because I have not done Nampa in a while. I might get back into it when it warms up in the summer time.

[JonSilverHand]

I have been a "nampa practitioner" for around 40 years, In Japan and mostly here in Australia (where there was no shortage of J girls to work on).

I have done a lot of reading on Japanese sexuality, and nowhere have I seen mention of anyone being able to be sued for screwing someone else's wife or GF. I'm sure the lady will be discrete, even if the practice is socially accepted. If you did get caught out, probably the worst that could happen is the husband sends a Yakuza operative around to rearrange your organs.

In my early travels back in the 1980-90's when there was little internet, I used print media to seek out companions who would be interested in meeting up for a meal / chat and showing me around their local areas. I met quite a few this way and mostly a sex encounter was expected; if they didn't get one, they wouldn't come back a second day.

Japanese women have little romantic attachment to sex. I have lived with them here, often in excess of 12 months; at the end of their visas, they just pack up and go home, never to be heard of again.

Yes, I actually come across a couple of interesting articles online on this topic:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/...y-is-involved/

This is actually surprising because if this woman really does want to hook up. She might know about this already and that is why she wants me to "teach her English". She pays me cash after every lesson, so I guess if anything else goes down afterward. That can just be seen as well, hey money is involved so no adultery right?

I also came across this article:

https://mainichi.jp/english/articles...0m/0na/005000c

So, it seems like even in extreme cases where cheating leads to a divorce (it usually doesn't), the spouse can't sue the extramarital lover unless their are "exceptional circumstances". Not sure what some examples of those would be though.

Another thing I noticed is that this woman that I teach English to seems to be using honne / tatamae on my GF. So the day that she met my GF in the garden, they were chatting a little while and when my GF said she does work as an esthetician and that maybe after the holidays she can have a session, she seemed interested and was going on about how she gets stiff shoulders blah blah.

So my GF exchanges LINE with her. After the clock struck midnight on New Years Eve, I messaged this woman wishing her a happy new year and so my did GF. The woman responded to me right away wishing me a happy new year but did not reply at all to my GF on LINE.

I know this might mean nothing, but if she really is a more discreet type, then this might be why she is trying to avoid my GF. She might also feel guilty for being interested in me sexually, so she wants to avoid contact with her.

I am supposed to meet with her tomorrow morning for another English lesson. I plan to just keep her as an English student and only maybe hook up with her if she makes moves on me or starts sending me more obvious hints. We sometimes get drunk together, so if she continues to show interest in me, she will probably only show it when she is drunk.

Yes, I know that everything is mostly online these days, but I still use print media once in a while. You sound like someone with way more time and experience here in Japan than me. I hope you do not mind me asking for specific examples of places where you would put up your print media (private English teaching ads?) and what places led to women actually contacting you?

I ask because the only places I have been allowed to put up my teaching ad with my contact information is at city hall, community centers and a couple kominkan in the local area. There is a cultural community center not far from where I live and I post my ads there.

There must be other types of places that I am completely missing out on?

[AussieGaigin]

The problem is she mentioned that she is married and she knows I have a girlfriend too. I know that sleeping with a married woman in Japan can cause a lot of legal issues where you can be sued for a lot of money by the husband. But my question is. How common is this?

I ask because I know of some married couples that know they cheat on each other and they don't seem to even care. I don't know if this is Japanese culture but I noticed that some spouses will know that when their partner is "working late" or "going out with the girls" it actually means they are out cheating, but neither of them makes a big legal thing out of it.

I have been a "nampa practitioner" for around 40 years, In Japan and mostly here in Australia (where there was no shortage of J girls to work on).

I have done a lot of reading on Japanese sexuality, and nowhere have I seen mention of anyone being able to be sued for screwing someone else's wife or GF. I'm sure the lady will be discrete, even if the practice is socially accepted. If you did get caught out, probably the worst that could happen is the husband sends a Yakuza operative around to rearrange your organs.

In my early travels back in the 1980-90's when there was little internet, I used print media to seek out companions who would be interested in meeting up for a meal / chat and showing me around their local areas. I met quite a few this way and mostly a sex encounter was expected; if they didn't get one, they wouldn't come back a second day.

Japanese women have little romantic attachment to sex. I have lived with them here, often in excess of 12 months; at the end of their visas, they just pack up and go home, never to be heard of again.

[JonSilverHand]

My wife (Japanese) hung out with a bunch of other married ladies while we were living in Shibuya several years back. Basically all those women had boy toys ongoing. Some were the tutors for their kids, too. Nice deal to spend an hour teaching shit and then go get laid.

There are a number of stories in the media about how married couples rarely talk, much less have sex. And it got a lot more common for the wives to step out and have some fun. I don't want to generalize too much, but on the surface it appears to be a rather normal thing in Japan. And folks there don't have the religion as a hang up about sex, as it's recognized as a normal part of life.

Yes, thank you for the message. Actually, I used to have a long-term sex friend / roommate who is a Japanese woman that started out as an English student. She was a student from an Eikaiwa, rather than my usual, which is a private English student. I usually try to avoid hooking up with students from an Eikaiwa I work at (even part time jobs that I do not care about losing) just to avoid legal issues with the school, should drama arise out of such a relationship.

Before I had this long-term sex friend / roommate I would do day game in various places downtown and usually start out by collecting LINE contacts of various women. I have done day game and taken Japanese women directly to love hotels, but usually that takes so much energy out of me, that I usually do not do that.

I am getting older and going out to do day game is sort of becoming a pain in the ass to be honest haha. I am tempted to maybe post private English teaching ads up in city hall and various community centers, which is something I used to do years ago. Most of the women that contact me via the email I listed would want to study English seriously, while the other half were just looking for some casual free talk to get to know me and hook up.

I have lived in Japan for almost 10 years, so I know pretty much right away which type a particular woman is when I first meet her. This woman wants to study English, but I can tell she is mostly just a bored housewife that is looking for companionship or someone to talk to or hook up with.

Since she knows the area I live in, I do not want to chance hooking up with her, so I am thinking of maybe just keeping her as an English student and just finding other single women.

So none of these guys you knew that were boy toys for married women never ran into legal issues with their husbands or anything like that?

[JonSilverHand]

My wife (Japanese) hung out with a bunch of other married ladies while we were living in Shibuya several years back. Basically all those women had boy toys ongoing. Some were the tutors for their kids, too. Nice deal to spend an hour teaching shit and then go get laid.

There are a number of stories in the media about how married couples rarely talk, much less have sex. And it got a lot more common for the wives to step out and have some fun. I don't want to generalize too much, but on the surface it appears to be a rather normal thing in Japan. And folks there don't have the religion as a hang up about sex, as it's recognized as a normal part of life..

Yes, I appreciate your response. It definitely gives some insight. I have definitely been one of those types of private English tutors that hooks up with lonely Japanese housewives. I only did this when I was single here in Japan. I have been living in Japan almost 10 years now, I was single for the majority of the time I have been here.

I think since she knows where I live and has met my girlfriend before. Most likely NOT going to pursue her, regardless of how hot she is because it just is not worth the trouble.

I know I sound horrible but I usually need a new sex friend every 4 or 5 years. Before I met my current girlfriend, I had a long-term sex friend which was a Japanese woman that was my roommate for about 2 years.

Before my met my roommate, I was living alone and completely single. I did day game, but I never really liked dating. Aside from day game, I would sometimes post private English teaching ads on the walls of city halls and community centers to meet a couple new Japanese women.

I am thinking about doing that again, but this time making the ad a little more obvious that I am looking for someone to hook up with. Of course, I can not just write down that I want a sex friend, since the staff will take down my ad immediately haha.

I am thinking of maybe putting something like: Private English teacher looking for bored housewives to teach English and have fun together. I am still deciding what to put haha.

Anyway, what are some other places good for meeting single or lonely Japanese women?

[Figrindan2]

Have fun.

With all due respect, this website is for sex and this forum is for NAMPA. Your post belongs on some kind of Dear Abby or whatever the 21st century equivalent is.

[The Tanuki]

Anyway, I apologize for the long post. This is just a complicated situation and I am wondering how to go about finding out if this woman is down to hook up with me without me making moves on her.

I would appreciate anyone's advice on here that has been in a similar situation with a bored and horny married Japanese woman.

My wife (Japanese) hung out with a bunch of other married ladies while we were living in Shibuya several years back. Basically all those women had boy toys ongoing. Some were the tutors for their kids, too. Nice deal to spend an hour teaching shit and then go get laid.

There are a number of stories in the media about how married couples rarely talk, much less have sex. And it got a lot more common for the wives to step out and have some fun. I don't want to generalize too much, but on the surface it appears to be a rather normal thing in Japan. And folks there don't have the religion as a hang up about sex, as it's recognized as a normal part of life.

Not recommending either path in your case, just providing some info I've collected over the years. YMMV.

TT.

[JonSilverHand]

Ok, so I am new to this forum. I used to use Tokyo Adult Guide, but I really don't like that forum. Most of the people on there act all high and mighty like their shit doesn't stink. It is annoying. From lurking on here often and reading the posts, most of the users on here seem more mature.

Anyway, so I have a Japanese girlfriend that I have been with for about 4 years now and I am living with her in an apartment. We actually rent out some farm space in one of these community gardens where neighbors can all grow vegetables. So we rented out some space to grow some vegetables and there is this Japanese woman that is renting out a space next to mine to grow vegetables as well.

So, when I first met her I noticed that she is attracted to me (or she is putting on a good act) because she smiles a lot, makes direct eye contact and holds it without looking away much, laughs at things I say even when they are not that funny and she even asked me if I could teach her English privately when she asked me what work I do. I told her that I do online translation work and part time English teaching and she seemed really surprised and happy to hear that.

So we exchange LINE contacts and I have taught her 3 English lessons so far. She wants to study once a week. A couple weeks ago, we got into a conversation about hobbies and I mentioned that I like to drink IPAs and beer in general and she told me that she does too. So I mentioned that we can drink sometime and maybe even have like a relaxing free talk type English lesson and drink on the beach (I live near the beach). She liked the idea and a couple days later, she messaged me on LINE inviting me to come drink with her and another friend of hers (Japanese woman) at this local restaurant / bar.

I show up and we order a bunch of drinks and we all end up pretty drunk. I was telling a lot of jokes and just making them laugh and they both seemed really relaxed around me. I noticed that the woman that I first met kept slapping and touching my arm like after I made a joke. She would sort of laugh and slap or touch my arm in reaction to the joke.

The problem is she mentioned that she is married and she knows I have a girlfriend too. I know that sleeping with a married woman in Japan can cause a lot of legal issues where you can be sued for a lot of money by the husband. But my question is. How common is this?

I ask because I know of some married couples that know they cheat on each other and they don't seem to even care. I don't know if this is Japanese culture but I noticed that some spouses will know that when their partner is "working late" or "going out with the girls" it actually means they are out cheating, but neither of them makes a big legal thing out of it.

I know it is really messed up to say this, but although I care about my girlfriend, I get bored and I have always like hooking up with women. I would do a lot of day game before I met my current GF. Also, even though this woman is married, so is really attractive and she seems either bored of her husband or just attracted to me.

I sometimes test the waters by telling sort of hentai oyaji gags (middle-aged man jokes) and she seems to really like them. I actually had a lesson with her last week and I joked with her and did some kino on her and she wasn't moving away from me or reacting overtly uninterested. She did say that she was a little nervous and giggled. I later apologized and said sorry if I tell too many perverted jokes and she said "No, it is ok. Those are my favorite. " So I am not sure if that is her way of letting me know she is down.

So before the English lesson began, she took out her textbooks and said, "Let's do it!" and I made a joke about that. I said "Let's do. IT?" Ok, sounds good. She knew what I meant and laughed. I did kino on her while I said this joke and put my arm around her shoulders. She laughed and said "but your girlfriend will be angry." Now, I am puzzled by this response because she didn't say "but my husband will be angry."

Because she only mentioned my girlfriend. Could it be that she is interested in maybe hooking up with me but she is worried about my girlfriend only?

In the near future I want to try to talk her into meeting with me without her friend to drink together and see how she acts around me. I don't want to make any moves on her like kissing or anything. I was thinking of just getting drunk with her and playing some drinking games and joke around with her and see how she responds.

Anyway, I apologize for the long post. This is just a complicated situation and I am wondering how to go about finding out if this woman is down to hook up with me without me making moves on her.

I would appreciate anyone's advice on here that has been in a similar situation with a bored and horny married Japanese woman.

[Pita123]

If you have a World Friends Premium membership and the girl doesn't, can she read the private message? Can you send an email or phone number in the private message?

[BionicMan]

So I'm on Skout and spot this lovely Filipina l...."

I believe you are not aware of the fact the subject of your report is a big "no-no" on the forum.

Better you read forum rules and eventually delete this report to avoid a moderator or the admin ban you.

[Jpn Dude]

So I'm on Skout and spot this lovely Filipina ladyboy profile. Looks like a visiting escort, so I play the "serious relationship" card. Thats where I tell them I'm looking for "real love" and not just want to fuck (yeah right). It's worked a few times in the past and made some good friends and gotten relatively free fucks (I paid for dinner only).

So this girl tells me she's in town for a week with her friend. I don't ask her about escorting (the next day I found her ad in CL) and she gives no hints about compensation but she asks if I'm OK with her being a ladyboy. I said sure. We agree to meet for light dinner near her hotel in Shinjuku. She is tall, slender, pretty face and a body with nice curves and very leggy, which are a big turn-on. The date goes on well, so much that she invites me up to her room. I was a little weary it might be a setup where her pimp or someone else might be waiting there for trouble.

As we entered, she introduced me to her friend, a big sized masculine looking ladyboy. I got very turned off, but they made me feel at home. We had some small talk in the tiny room that barely fit 2 people, much less with my big body around. They offered me a coke and they sat me down in bed to watch TV. Then the bigger girl asked if I'm tired and offered a massage. I was surprised and said, "Oh, well, yeah, I think so. " The sexy girl I liked asked if I'm OK with it and I said yes but inside I was a little nervous and uneasy thinking they might make a grab for my wallet inside my bag. But I just followed their lead.

They start removing my clothes and the big girl places my head on her lap while she takes of her bra and lays her operated on boobs on my face. The sexy girl started massaging my legs and eventually started playing with my cock. I wanted to relax but was still feeling a little hesitant about the situation. The sexy girl was talking dirty to me and teasing my cock while the big girl was being sweet and kissing me on the face and chest. They used some oil on me and I was getting rock hard. I really wanted sexy girl to lay those sweet lips on my cock but she began to pump it harder just inches from her mouth. I was going to us my hand to guide her head closer but at that moment I popped to spewed all over the bed and my legs. She jerked her head back and her hand released my cock. Not exactly the way I wanted it to end but I spewed a lot all over the place.

They cleaned me up and let me rest. I wanted to get dressed and out of there as soon as possible. But they were so nice. Then the big one asked if I had a tip for them. I'm like "uhmmm, I didn't think about that. Maybe next time?" I can see the disappointment in the big girl's face. The sexy girl said not to worry, it's OK. After a few minutes, I was going out the door thinking, "My god, what just really happened?" The sexy girl sent me away with "I love you. Text you later."

[Jpn Dude]

It's been a long time since I've posted on the Nampa forum.

In the past month, I've been talking to three ladies via the Skout app. They are all Filipina and happen to be around Aichi-ken, so I decided to go "on tour" and see the ladies. This is my first tour since I did a "Cupid Tour of Kyushu" visiting 3 ladies a couple of years ago.

On Saturday, I'll be taking the Shinkansen to see an 18-year-old working at a local omise. She claims to have had sex only with her ex-BF over a year ago. I have a local business hotel reserved and all she asked was for some sweet omiyage. She's already at "I love you" phase. Yikes!

After saying our goodbyes on Sunday afternoon, I'll be using a local train for about 30 minutes to meet up with lady #2, a 49-year-old mama-san with a smokin' body. She said we can use her club to fool around in before customers come in around 8 pm. According to her, she hasn't been with a man since her hubby passed away 10 years ago. Hmmm.

That night, I have a place rserved on the opposite side of Nagoya. I plan to just have a quiet evening in the room or find a local massage shop. The next morning I'll meet up with a 22-year-old in Japan on a tourist visa. She can leave her relative's home for a few hours in the morning. Lucky for me, check out time is noon.

Then I come back to Tokyo and rest before going back to work on Tuesday. Wish me luck!

[LoveShibuyaGirls]

Come on guys, no reports for over a year?

Time was, the line between nampa and fuzoku was blurred and this thread was full of reports of picking chicks up off the street.

[DueReflection]

Np, it can get dicey. When I was younger, I would front like I was single then had it blow up in my face on a couple different occasions, incidentally with women I really fell hard for (one was the hottest Vietnamese babe I ever saw in my life, used to come and fuck me at my office after everyone else went home for the night.).

Nowadays I probably talk myself out of contention with some fines but it's exhausting; you figure if you go the faux-single guy route, then you're talking about two separate sets of lies to keep track of. If done right, the affair / side dish, whatever you want to call it, should be a fun and relaxing endeavor, and optimally, either she adheres fully to a don't ask / don't tell policy or is appraised of your situation and is genuinely cool with it. A lot of women don't want the long-term emotional attachment so a married guy is a good choice, we're distracted and likely not looking to complicate matters.

As you pointed out, revealing marital status narrows the field but at least this way you can't be accused of misrepresenting yourself.

This thread must have jinxed me as I am no longer seeing the woman I met on WFs (LOL) and I actually just signed back up on the site.

As for the picture, if ever confronted my profile merely says I am looking for language exchange / Japanese lessons, it's plausible deniability.

But I think 15 yrs in, my wife not being an idiot and all, she knows what I am up to and just kinda looks the other way -- she probably views it as less work for her. Likewise time is at a premium, I don't want to have to invest too much time away from the home front.

Thanks for these great tips for us married guys.

Here's another question: Did you put your photo up on the site? If yes, were you concerned about an acquaintance seeing it? If no, I guess not having a profile photo did you no harm. (and I assume you sent a photo by private message before meeting?

(As an aside, I like this strategy of being able to signal that you are married up front and then (mostly) have women who are okay with that contact you. Personally, while married I have picked up a few girls in bars who became girlfriends / sexfriends, but doing so takes a lot of time, which as a married guy with young kids is at a real premium in my case. I use Aussiegaijin's strategy of "Don't broach the subject yourself; but don't lie if they ask, unless you are sure you can get away with it. " I have hit it off really well with some smoking hots girls in their 20's, only to have them lose interest when I admit to being married after being directly questioned. My experience is that, if you're picking up women in bars, after you admit you're married perhaps only 1 in 5 still go for it.).