General Reports

[The Hammer1169]

so i guess i'm probably in this boat now. i have been getting a bit serious with one of my favoritas that i've known for many years. dated outside as well. i honestly don't know if i'm simply being reeled in or not. one thing's for sure, she is either a really really good actress or she genuinely likes me. my take is that she is being sincere towards a relationship. but knowing these stories there will always continue to be doubts. i'm just going to have to keep a close watch and make sure i don't end up as a true "plm" pathetic loser monger. also, thanks for that guys, while on one of our dates the word "plm" kept crossing through my head. i practically felt like i had the word written on my forehead :/

my friend, there are times to this day, after five years of marraige, i still doubt my wife. you are right; there will always be doubts. it is because we know their entire career has been working men, and that thought of "am i being played" will always be there. i never got secure in my wife until she got her permanent visa and stayed around. it was at that moment i finally lost that edge and tension.

there are things i did, tests i put my wife through so to speak, before i started thinking "ok, this is legit." i cut off paying her any money and studied her reaction. she had never, after our first "date" when i picked her up out of a strip club in tijuana, asked me for money, but i would spend a weekend with her in a hotel and always leave $150-$200. it got expensive as i traveled to mexicali every weekend, and i had those doubts you mention. so; one time i kissed her on a sunday and left without leaving a dollar. she never said a word, nothing. she called me all week every night like always, and the next weekend i was back there. she evetually let me go to her home and the hotel scene edned. she told me "the hotels cost too much!" another tes passed; she cared about my money. there was one time a couple of months after i cut cash off we were leaving on a sunday and she was with me in the car lane at the border. she would ride with me then jump out and go to work at a club right there. she climbed up in my lap and started treating me like a client, and asked for money. i grabbed her hand and said "i though we had moved past this. if this is how you see me, then we have two different visions of this relationship." it went dead silent, and she said "no. i'm sorry. it is just that when i see you on the weekends i lose money and i need help." i told her "ok; dance on the weekends and after work we will have time together."

i suggest you put your girl to that test, unless you fear the outcome. meet her as usual, date, and do your thing, but hold back money and see how she responds. if she asks you for cash then you know she is in it for the money. many of these girls slow play men and get inside their hearts, their head, and then their wallets. pay her way at dinner, all events, but don't pay for her time. that will be the tell all right there. if she wants money she has no interest in you. by the way; these girls are the best actresses god ever created. they will scream your name in orgasm, hump like a dog, but you find out later when you go long term that stuff fades into normalcy. all i can say is this: these relationships are very strenuous and difficult to maintain. i am a very rare success story; mainly because i came to terms with her past. many men can't.

one final word of caution; if it goes somewhere understand these are women. any thoughts of a porn star sex life because you hooked up with a sex worker are illusions. i fell into that. leading up to marriage we were fucking / sucking every night, but once the marriage came it became like any other relationship. i found out she was just like any other woman."mood" was a factor. in fact it took almost three years to get her to understand i wasn't a client, i was her husband and i had needs more than her once a week. the last three years she learned to provide every two or three days or i got cranky. she will say "you want bam bam (quicky) or you want wowies (blow job)" then every week she will want her action and we get it on. many guys, including myself, go into these relationships focused on the sex only and we think these girls love sex and want it all of the time. my wife forced me to get to know her on a deeper level, which made our relationship stronger but caused some issues for awhile too. in fact a guy on here who married a worker from mexicali just ended it in divorce. the disconnection and sexual issues were too much to over come. remember; sex for these girls has become work and they have serious issues forming deep emotional bonds. honestly; to this day i can be deep in my wife, filled with passion and on fire, cum and melt in her arms and she will get up, let the cum run out of her on the bed, and shower. no kiss, no i love you, nothing. these things make it really hard on a person who understands "normal" love making. i told her i think the industry did that to her, but she claims she just has never got deeply sentimental or romantic. however, there are many times, like last night actually, that she wraps me in her legs, embraces me, and pulls me deep into her and holds me tight.

good luck and hold your heart tight and your wallet tight. if someone ever asked me "should i marry a sex worker" i would say hell no, don't do it. there will so much psychological damage to wade through, normal jealousy and possessiveness issues to over come, so much trauma to deal with that most can't go more than two years. i stayed in for two reason 1. bottom line i'm 48 years old married to a 30 year old hottie who cooks, cleans, works every day, and takes damn good care of me 2. i saw more good in her than bad, and was willing to wade through the shit, unpeel the heart to get to the center after years of hardening, and be patient. her brother told me that every boyfriend she had before me walked away due to inability to work through those issues.

[Efjayel]

I'm hearing stories of how these girls become attached. I guess we all need to be careful and keep it in arms distance. I too have a girl at HK and one at AB. Guess I better be careful as these girls want to meet outside of work and do stuff in the day time. Thanks for heads up guys.

Happy New Year and happy mongering.

Please take some advice: Be very careful. I wrote on here many times about my time in Mexico living with and eventually marrying a stripper, who by the way I brought to the states and we remain together. I have been inside many of their intimate conversations. They love to wortk guys who want grilfriends. They slow play you. They usually have three or four they work that way; all sending a few bucks and thinking they are the main guy. Those are the guys that keep the revenue coming in. I'm telling you man; I have hear them openly laugh about those types they reel in. I have no doubt I filled that role intially with my wife too but some how we caught on with one another. Look; 1-1000 of those relationships last.

Be very careful!

So I guess I'm probably in this boat now. I have been getting a bit serious with one of my favoritas that I've known for many years. Dated outside as well. I honestly don't know if I'm simply being reeled in or not. One thing's for sure, she is either a really REALLY good actress or she genuinely likes me. My take is that she is being sincere towards a relationship. But knowing these stories there will always continue to be doubts. I'm just going to have to keep a close watch and make sure I don't end up as a true "PLM" pathetic loser monger. Also, thanks for that guys, while on one of our dates the word "PLM" kept crossing through my head. I practically felt like I had the word written on my forehead :/

[The Hammer1169]

things happen quick in the alley and side streets. if you ever want to check out the alley action from a safe distance, the cascadas hotel built a balcony to sit and relax over the alley. in fact, there is a phone on the balcony where you can order drinks and food if you want. one night, artist and i were hanging up there with one of the street girls; good entertainment for sure!

one time around 1:00pm my wife and i were up on about 4th and revolution looking for a place to eat. we pass an alley that dead ended at a stair case in a darkly lit cave like place. there was a wolf staged out front, i mean this guy was desperate. his adrenaline was running and running hard and his eyes were bulging. he says "hey, you want something? come here." i stop, and remember i'm on the sidewalk at this time, and i answer "no, i'm ok." as my luck would have it my wife needed to go up in that damned cave! there was some store she wanted to get at. i literally had to virtually walk backwards and keep my eyes on that dude. when we came out you could literally, and i am not exaggerating here, read on his face the look a leopard gets when its pray gets away. he paced back and forth as we walked by and got back to the street. oddly enough, my wife never noticed! a mexican that knows all the dangers and she totally missed him! i'm like "you didn't see him! that guy wanted us both!"

by the way, last time i was at hong kong on 11/21/12 i was talking with a little asian / mexican girl named alexis that was working the floor. some how her jewelry came up and she said she had been repeatedly robbed in the streets. she said because she is so tiny they just grab her and rip her stuff off right from her wrists and neck, rings, everything. i told her that she needs to take taxis when she leaves right to her apartment. she said these robberies occur in broad daylight when she is shopping, not at night.

my wife takes all her cash and valuables and either puts them in her bra or down her pants. i'm like "that is asking for [CodeWord123]! they know what you women do with your valuables. that dude is going right inside your bra and the next thing you will know you will be on your back in an alley." better to leave valuables at the hotel and only take a little out.

[The Hammer1169]

One time I had something occur that I am not sure what to think of. I was walking down Calle Coahuila going east to walk to my hotel room at Las Cascadas. I was watching my back and watching my wallet. I had my wallet in my front pocket to make it more difficult for pickpockets to get plus I had a smartphone in a front pocket too. I had my passport and most of my money in a pacsafe holder strapped around my neck sideways and in my pants so that it could not be pickpocketed. I had just checked my front pocket to make sure my wallet was still there and it indeed was and what looked like a homeless bum started walking towards me. He was wearing torn and tattered clothes. He was like an older guy and to be honest with you he looked like he was too old and decrepid to put up a fight. I happenned to be right in front of Adelitas and the guard saw this guy walking towards me and he immediately put his arms out and blocked the guy from being able to come even close to me. I am not sure what to think of the situation. I do not know if he was just a harmless vagrant that was going to ask me for some change and they were basically telling him to get away or if he was a carterista or a ratero and the Adelitas guard was able to recognize that so he stopped him from doing anything. I will never know.

My guess is a panhandler and the guard was taking care of their clientele. They don't like the vagrants messing with people. One other remote possibility is the guy had AIDS, and I'm not joking. I lived there in Mexico for three years. They can't deal with the AIDS cases and turn them out in the streets. I have seen them so close to death they were skeletons along the border line.

[The Hammer1169]

Just curious, what club was this in San Luis? I want to make darn sure I never go to that place when I go to San Luis in the future. Was it Boobies, Medusas or Africa? Those are the only 3 clubs I know of in San Luis.

It was Boobies. Never had a problem there before but this new waiter came in and was running some crooked stuff. By the way they ran him off a short time later. Africa is safest but last time I was in there not many girls and a really traditional Mexican clientele.

Worse thing outside of the above event I had occur in San Luis RC is a cop shakedown. Cops are really bad there.

[MS Clive]

I posted a couple of pics of her. I had a few guys on here call bullshit when I write about her or my expereinces. Its for real man. I met her when she was just turning 25 and I was 42. We married and are doing good today. I kind of miss the lifestyle on occasion, as she probably does to. But, she is 30 now and her days of stripping are long gone. I f she was still down there no doubt she would have stepped down to a floor girl at Hong Kong or Adelitas fucking instead of dancing. But she is still a great looking girl; especially for a dude pushing 50!

Hammer. Respect for all your stories and experiences. You seem to have lived a full and eventful life. Thanks for the safety advice as well. Might save my life as I would easily have done what you did in the bar. Only I would not have known how to escape the situation.

But dude. You posting and reposting your wife's pics on ISG. This is a first.

[TomJackin]

It was at noon, a short ways south of the callejon, west side of the street. I was going to look for a SG I'd had before. I heard running footsteps behind me. I didn't think much of it, but it somehow alerted me a split second before this arm came around my neck. I turned quickly, dropping to the ground and threw the guy off balance and he never got the choke hold applied. I was struggling to get up when his partner ran up. I got loose, got up and was ready to beat the shit out of him or die trying. I was as pissed off as I'd ever been. They both took off running like Carl Lewis.

Things happen quick in the alley and side streets. If you ever want to check out the alley action from a safe distance, the Cascadas hotel built a balcony to sit and relax over the alley. In fact, there is a phone on the balcony where you can order drinks and food if you want. One night, Artist and I were hanging up there with one of the street girls; good entertainment for sure!

[AmanteDeLatina]

One other time I went to a strip club in San Luis RC. A place I knew well. I notice a new waiter, and normally my instincts are solid outside the above fuck-up. This waiter comes up and starts hard selling me on girls. Now mind you I'm married to a cute little Mexican stripper and was really just having some beers. I tell the guy that and he says ok and walks away. I look down and he had dropped a small bag of what looked like cocaine next to me. Been there and done that in the 1980's / 90's. Well past that stage so I call him back and basically tell him to get the shit away from me. By now all my instincts are crying "get out of here." He becomes involved in a heated conversation with the bar keeper who knew me, and I assume the guy was asking this waiter what the hell he was thinking. I see the waiter get on the phone, and about ten minutes later in comes the craziest woman I have ever seen, with a pimp that looked like he had just finished ten years hard time in a Mexican prison. Bald, tatted up head to toe, gang signs all over him. Bad dude. They come right to me and this girl, who looks whacked on meth or coke, says "you want to fuck me?" I know at this moment I need to go, and every sense I have is saying "danger." I knew if I rejected her out right she would go off. The whole time her pimp is burning into me with his eyes. I tell this girl "you are very beautiful, but I am married." Sure enough she goes defensive and starts shouting "you say I ugly?" I'm thinking "ok, how you going to get out of here."

I look at the bathroom and see two guys go in, so I get up and go in with them. I stand at a urinal with my face point at an old stainless steel paper towel dispenser and I see the pimp's reflection as he came in and stationed behind me in a corner. I'm about to get rolled and I know it. He is just locked in on me and my back. The guy next to me turns and starts to walk out, so I positioned myself so he was between me and the pimp, and shaodw him out the restroom door. I bolted! There was a cab right out front and as I jumped in I see the pimp run for the door. I made it. No doubt that waiter set me up. At that time they were kidnapping Americans and holding them, so either I was going down or they were going to rob me.

Just curious, what club was this in San Luis? I want to make darn sure I never go to that place when I go to San Luis in the future. Was it Boobies, Medusas or Africa? Those are the only 3 clubs I know of in San Luis.

[AmanteDeLatina]

There's always a risk, but you stated it above. That risk almost always includes drugs. I have had several near hits in Mexico, but most were out of my own macho, here comes god attitude. Once I was partying at a strip club on 9th and Revoluccion called Amnesia. I was getting worked by a young lady pretty good who agreed to go to my hotel. Sure enough her shift ends and she disappears. Being well lit and with a mad on, I decided to walk 9-blocks down the hill to Hong Kong. I get two blocks and a taxi pulls up. Dude says "get in." Right away I cop an attitude having just been stroked out of a shit load of drinks thinking I had some pussy coming. Guy says to me "senor, look behind you." I glance back and three thugs are trailing me. He tells me "the wolves are hungry" in Spanish. I took the ride! In that case I broke every rule you can break and get out alive. Alone at 3:00am, walking in isolated areas, drunk and unaware. All of them. I could have and should have been rolled. I didn't care at that moment.

One other time I went to a strip club in San Luis RC. A place I knew well. I notice a new waiter, and normally my instincts are solid outside the above fuck-up. This waiter comes up and starts hard selling me on girls. Now mind you I'm married to a cute little Mexican stripper and was really just having some beers. I tell the guy that and he says ok and walks away. I look down and he had dropped a small bag of what looked like cocaine next to me. Been there and done that in the 1980's / 90's. Well past that stage so I call him back and basically tell him to get the shit away from me. By now all my instincts are crying "get out of here." He becomes involved in a heated conversation with the bar keeper who knew me, and I assume the guy was asking this waiter what the hell he was thinking. I see the waiter get on the phone, and about ten minutes later in comes the craziest woman I have ever seen, with a pimp that looked like he had just finished ten years hard time in a Mexican prison. Bald, tatted up head to toe, gang signs all over him. Bad dude. They come right to me and this girl, who looks whacked on meth or coke, says "you want to fuck me?" I know at this moment I need to go, and every sense I have is saying "danger." I knew if I rejected her out right she would go off. The whole time her pimp is burning into me with his eyes. I tell this girl "you are very beautiful, but I am married." Sure enough she goes defensive and starts shouting "you say I ugly?" I'm thinking "ok, how you going to get out of here."

I look at the bathroom and see two guys go in, so I get up and go in with them. I stand at a urinal with my face point at an old stainless steel paper towel dispenser and I see the pimp's reflection as he came in and stationed behind me in a corner. I'm about to get rolled and I know it. He is just locked in on me and my back. The guy next to me turns and starts to walk out, so I positioned myself so he was between me and the pimp, and shaodw him out the restroom door. I bolted! There was a cab right out front and as I jumped in I see the pimp run for the door. I made it. No doubt that waiter set me up. At that time they were kidnapping Americans and holding them, so either I was going down or they were going to rob me.

My point is this; stay around the clubs where there are allot of people, never get isolated by yourself because they are watching your every move, and don't get pulled away from that zone and everything will be fine. I'm telling you, I lived there for three years. I know their games, I know when I'm being watched, I know it. I was just in Mexico a couple of days ago. I learned to watch their eyes. The wolves will scan your pant pockets, your valuables, if your cellphone comes out they will lock right on it. They are studying you. I got so wise I broke up a purse snatching on my wife once as I watched the guy find us as soon as we crossed the border. His eyes went right to her purse and I knew game on. He fell in behind us and started pacing. I whispred to her "su bolsa" which means "your bag." I suddenly stopped walking and the guy smacked right into me. I looked at him and said one word "no." He knew I knew and he disappeared. By the way; keep all your cash crotched. Hide your passport in your room and only carry your state I'd in the streets.

I saw some crazy shit in my three years down there man. Crazy. I partied with my wife's stripper friends from Aguas Caliente to Cancun, all over Sonora, and Baja California. I literally quit working in the states and my wife supported me those three years. I would hang at the hotel or go to other clubs while she stripped. The girls down there move in a circuit as they follow major events across Mexico, so I made that circuit for three years until we married and she came to the states. Once she got here, five years ago, no more stripping and she has worked as a waitress in a restaraunt and become a model wife.

I met CBP officers who made hundreds of thousands letting cars cross loaded down with "contraband" and partied at their seaside houses in San Felipe, basically everything you can imagine. I have been to orgies with strippers where that same CBP dude had literally a table in a backroom of his home stacked with cocaine, ectasy, any drug you wanted was there. My wife and I are clean except for booze, but those girls would line up at that table and then clothes were off and the sex was on. I saw literally gangbangs on, lesbian action for real, jizz covered chicks, truly the seedy side of life. We bailed when things went that direction. My wife, as mentioned before in previous posts, finds that stuff appalling. She had a set of standards as a stripper and never left them. She told me once that dude had brought her back to that room, showed her all the drugs and a shit load of money, and said "anything you want is yours if you will join in with us." She walked away. To this day she has never done a drug, not even weed.

I posted a couple of pics of her. I had a few guys on here call bullshit when I write about her or my expereinces. Its for real man. I met her when she was just turning 25 and I was 42. We married and are doing good today. I kind of miss the lifestyle on occasion, as she probably does to. But, she is 30 now and her days of stripping are long gone. I f she was still down there no doubt she would have stepped down to a floor girl at Hong Kong or Adelitas fucking instead of dancing. But she is still a great looking girl; especially for a dude pushing 50!

One time I had something occur that I am not sure what to think of. I was walking down Calle Coahuila going east to walk to my hotel room at Las Cascadas. I was watching my back and watching my wallet. I had my wallet in my front pocket to make it more difficult for pickpockets to get plus I had a smartphone in a front pocket too. I had my passport and most of my money in a pacsafe holder strapped around my neck sideways and in my pants so that it could not be pickpocketed. I had just checked my front pocket to make sure my wallet was still there and it indeed was and what looked like a homeless bum started walking towards me. He was wearing torn and tattered clothes. He was like an older guy and to be honest with you he looked like he was too old and decrepid to put up a fight. I happenned to be right in front of Adelitas and the guard saw this guy walking towards me and he immediately put his arms out and blocked the guy from being able to come even close to me. I am not sure what to think of the situation. I do not know if he was just a harmless vagrant that was going to ask me for some change and they were basically telling him to get away or if he was a carterista or a ratero and the Adelitas guard was able to recognize that so he stopped him from doing anything. I will never know.

[SBeach25]

Oh yeah, Tijuana is safe as other US cities! Absolute bullshit!

Two years ago, my friend and colleague was killed in Tijuana. I took a right hook to the face in HK for no apparent reason. Supersteve got thrown in jail for no apparent reason. I got shook down twice by the wonderful Tijuana police for no apparent reason.

These things never happened in a US city.

Never compare Tijuana to a US city and always, I repeat always, watch your back in Tijuana.

Sorry that you had to lose a friend and a bad experience in Tijuana. It seems there is the good and bad in Tijuana. Either one you have to exercise safety both in the rooms and on the streets. I've been lucky since I normally travel with a buddy or group but even that doesn't guarantee 100% safety. I have a few times traveled there alone but I just go straight to the zone and stay in that area only. So far I've been lucky. But I agree, I Never compare Tijuana with a US safety. With Police corruption, it adds the danger even more. Remember keep your wits up at all times no matter what country your in.

[The Hammer1169]

Oh yeah, Tijuana is safe as other US cities! Absolute bullshit!

Two years ago, my friend and colleague was killed in Tijuana. I took a right hook to the face in HK for no apparent reason. Supersteve got thrown in jail for no apparent reason. I got shook down twice by the wonderful Tijuana police for no apparent reason.

These things never happened in a US city.

Never compare Tijuana to a US city and always, I repeat always, watch your back in Tijuana.

Look for a very long post I added yesterday. Always watch your back in Mexico. Shakedowns by the cops are just a way of life in Mexico.

[HectorSanchez]

As long as you stay at HK area and not [CodeWord140] off the women and not talk to street guys you should be ok.

I won't drive either. And if you ever got into a bad conversations (even if you are right) just accept the defeat and move on. We can't think like Americans when you are in Tijuana. Most people don't understand this.

Oh yeah, Tijuana is safe as other US cities! Absolute bullshit!

Two years ago, my friend and colleague was killed in Tijuana. I took a right hook to the face in HK for no apparent reason. Supersteve got thrown in jail for no apparent reason. I got shook down twice by the wonderful Tijuana police for no apparent reason.

These things never happened in a US city.

Never compare Tijuana to a US city and always, I repeat always, watch your back in Tijuana.

[TomJackin]

The same is true of USA cities though. Tijuana is no different than Phoenix or any other city.

Oh yeah, Tijuana is safe as other US cities! Absolute bullshit!

Two years ago, my friend and colleague was killed in Tijuana. I took a right hook to the face in HK for no apparent reason. Supersteve got thrown in jail for no apparent reason. I got shook down twice by the wonderful Tijuana police for no apparent reason.

These things never happened in a US city.

Never compare Tijuana to a US city and always, I repeat always, watch your back in Tijuana.

[SBeach25]

Sorry for what may be a dumb question but I am considering my first trip but am a little hesitant because all the photos on here are of large chested women. I prefer small chested women A and B cup. Will I find ladies that meet my likes or are most silicon enchaned?

Yes, there are all types to choose from down there. In fact, too many sometimes. But every now and then I like to do a Russian so you should enjoy that too. LOL.

[Phordphan]

My take on the place is that if you keep on Calle Coahuila in between Ninos Heroes and Constitucion and on Callejon Coahuila you are ok. If you decide to go wandering then you may have trouble. Also be very careful when walking next to the alley by the oxxo. Walk as close to the street as possible when you walk by it and always be looking in that direction.

Just curious, what part of Constitucion were you attacked on? Was it in the part between Calle Coahuila and Callejon Coahuila?

It was at noon, a short ways south of the callejon, west side of the street. I was going to look for a SG I'd had before. I heard running footsteps behind me. I didn't think much of it, but it somehow alerted me a split second before this arm came around my neck. I turned quickly, dropping to the ground and threw the guy off balance and he never got the choke hold applied. I was struggling to get up when his partner ran up. I got loose, got up and was ready to beat the shit out of him or die trying. I was as pissed off as I'd ever been. They both took off running like Carl Lewis.

That particular weekend there were something like 3 other guys choked out on Constitucion and Primero. They would choke you until you passed out, then rob you, and then sometimes take your shoes and pants. I think there still may be youtube video of some poor bastard outside of Bar Taurino. Since the cops came back, I haven't heard of any more of these.

Some months ago, before I got my SENTRI, I was standing in the line to cross the border when a kid came up to me. He didn't look in all that great a shape. He asked to borrow my phone, and when I gave him a funny look he pleaded and insisted he wouldn't steal it. So, I let him. He called his dad. He'd been partying the night before, gotten drunk and mugged. Had his I'd and all his money stolen. Poor kid was only about 18, and you could tell he was really distraught. DI's bee metaphor is a good one. You're in an area with a high concentration of bees. If you don't pay attention, you're liable to get stung.