Chat Rooms & Pen Pals

[Ms Account]

You met these girls on CB? What's that?

How exactly do you arrange such a deal? Do you make a profile on some sight saying so, or do ask directly during conversation?

CB = Cherry Blossoms. I also have / do use FC=Filipino Cupid. Others here report using PL=Pinay Love. I used to use DIA = Date in Asia but my account was closed for copy and pasting and for the life of me I can't seem to open a new account (it is detecting both my landline IP address and my mobile wifi IP address. Even tried a VPN and it detected it was a VPN IP address. I was going to reopen it when I was in the Philippines (with a new IP address) but my guess is once I logged back on with my banned IP address it would close it down again). If DIA put as much effort into blocking people using its website as its actual website functionality. It would be a world beater. If anyone can please explain DIA's business model. Please enlighten me.

In my profile I don't specifically mention sponsorship. But what you write there probably is irrelevant anyway because they don't read it. If after initial contact I think I am interested I will straight away be upfront that I am sponsorship not marriage. 50% drop away. I am a big believer in karma. If you give out crap, crap will come back to you. So I never advocate misleading or wasting a girls time. It would be very easy to promise the world (sponsorship or marriage) and then once you have conquered the mountain move on. From the feedback I get from many girls I have chatted. This is a very common tactic. Good luck to the mongers who do that (and for your sake I hope I am wrong about karma).

The main problem with this strategy is spontaneity vs waiting for the right candidate. I only visit every three months (which still is quite often) and I find it extremely difficult to maintain the volume of interactions necessary before arrival. More often than not if you don't maintain regular chit chat before arrival. Either they have changed mobile numbers or their chances of meeting you is significantly reduced. It would be best to delay your search until a week before arrival and be able to say OK great lets meet next week. But then you are restricting yourself to candidates who happen to login in the last week. Most girls are not very frequent users of these websites and may only login every few weeks to a month. The ones logging in every few hours are probably not good sponsor candidates.

That is why I look on to some the exploits described in FR's here and think how do you maintain such a high volume of chatmate interaction necessary to achieve multiple ST arrangements. It would be a full time job.

My final observation. Life is a network. Even though you might not be interested in one candidate you meet from a chatsite. Don't burn bridges because the greatest opportunities lie in the network not your initial entry point. But that takes time and effort that casual visitors will find difficult to achieve (and even at trips every 3 months I find difficult to achieve).

[Member #4716]

Given I lived in China up until 2010 (commuting monthly so nearly living) I had already experienced high volume and also high quality short term (ST) arrangements (although I never did a FR here but it is irrelevant now because the Guangdong scene is dead anyway).

My first foray into Filipino chatmates was back in 2007.

My approach was (and still is) to seek a girl for sponsorship.

My motivation for this approach is.

- I don't have a lot of time for a high volume of chatmates to establish the volume of contacts necessary for continual ST arrangements.

- given I am really fussy I would get tired of continual meet and greets. Knocking back most I would meet.

- generally you are going to get a better looking girl from a sponsorship than ST chatmates or P4P (in my view but seasoned experts may disagree).

My first sponsorship was a girl in Davao who I met on CB (I have an expat friend who lives in Davao but I keep the two worlds separate)...

You met these girls on CB? What's that?

How exactly do you arrange such a deal? Do you make a profile on some sight saying so, or do ask directly during conversation?

[Member #4351]

Anyone disagree with my numbers?

Sounds about correct. I agree with your thinking and am doing the same, here is what she sent me regarding costs:

"Hi, I just got home from the school together with my two girls classmate theyre pretty but I am more pretty.

I'm there to take the exam and they went to the school to get their schedule because they take early, and they got 25 units, they get the coarse my dream coarse HM, and they paid 28 K because HM is more on skills like cooking, and I do love cooking at the same time.

Thats the semester cost - 28 k.

For my fare for 1 month-5 k because Saturday have class.

School uniform and p. E is not a problem because I can I adjust my sis uniform.

School supply-1 k the left I will buy bag.

And for my school shoes-1 k because I want a school shoes have heels so I will be look sexy.

Books -3 k but if they recommend us the book and my sis have it already I won't buy because I am a saver, I don't want to waste and I don't want to abuse my sponsor that's why if I can find way to save I will."

[Dg8787]

Dear sir,

Thanks for great report. Certainly much credit to you for doing it your way sir and not any other "mildly" suggested way here. Hope you have or will find the one, then imo 6 k allowance might be light. But it certainly is up to you.

DG8787.

[Ms Account]

Given I lived in China up until 2010 (commuting monthly so nearly living) I had already experienced high volume and also high quality short term (ST) arrangements (although I never did a FR here but it is irrelevant now because the Guangdong scene is dead anyway).

My first foray into Filipino chatmates was back in 2007.

My approach was (and still is) to seek a girl for sponsorship.

My motivation for this approach is.

- I don't have a lot of time for a high volume of chatmates to establish the volume of contacts necessary for continual ST arrangements.

- given I am really fussy I would get tired of continual meet and greets. Knocking back most I would meet.

- generally you are going to get a better looking girl from a sponsorship than ST chatmates or P4P (in my view but seasoned experts may disagree).

My first sponsorship was a girl in Davao who I met on CB (I have an expat friend who lives in Davao but I keep the two worlds separate).

This worked out well and although I didn't go there that often, the girl finished college around 2009 and I still see her on a casual basis.

I was absent until 2013 when I decided to try again.

This time I sort of chose Cebu or maybe because I met a girl in Cebu, Cebu ended up being my focus.

This lasted 1 year with trips every 3 months. It ended when I caught her with another sponsor.

I had organised a trip and she said she would be in province. I said if she didn't meet me it was over. I still went anyway and luck shown down upon me because I was walking in SM and she was walking with a tall Australian guy (she told me later). I followed them and she knew I was following them and he also detected I was following them. I contemplated making a scene but walked away. Sorry Mr tall Australian man, maybe I could have saved you some misery and money.

I recently decided to try again and had lined up to meet in May 2015 1 girl in Manila, 4 in Cebu and 1 in Davao who I had discussed prospective sponsorship with who based upon photos and cam matched my expectations. Unfortunately the trip got delayed till the end of June meaning to maintain the relationship I sort of felt obliged to fund their initial enrollment early June. April / May is the best time of year to meet girls for sponsorship. Not going till end of June was a mistake.

The Manila girl (18 yo virgin) never turned up. 1 girl in Cebu I just agreed to a meet per pay arrangement (pretty but not enough for sponsorship). 1 girl in Cebu had a great personality but didn't match the photos / cam in real life. I had developed such a good relationship with her though I agreed to sponsor her one semester (with no relationship as wasn't interested). 1 girl in Cebu (who I was not sold on anyway) didn't turn up. 1 girl in Cebu who I thought from modelling photos would be my prime candidate in real life was a bit of a downer. Also she said she was a virgin and part of the deal was I inspected and although virginity is not a driver she was fibbing on that. At this stage I sort of had enough and was going to cancel going to Davao. But I went and the Davao girl was the gem I was seeking. Just my look and to date. A genuine personality.

As for costs. I over paid on my first Cebu foray in 2012.8000 per month plus school fees. Now I don't offer beyond 6000 per month including school fees but depending on the city this is probably the bottom end of what they need. Generally fees will be around 20000 per semester (depending on college / city) plus books / uniforms maybe 2000 per semester and 3000 per month transport / food costs (assuming they live at home). So over a 10 month school year that is 7500 pesos per month or spread over a year (with only living allowance in April / May) of 7000 per month. For this FR is the first time I have done the maths so 6000 per month does seem stingy. Anyone disagree with my numbers?

Of course the other factor is how far progressed are they. If they are just 1st year then that is a big commitment 4 years. In the case of the Davao girl she is 4th year so it is only 1 year.

Seasoned veterans may say this is a suckers approach because as I found out there is high chance you are not the only sponsor or there is a Filipino BF in the background or.

If I lived in the Philippines maybe it would be different but for a casual but regular visitor like me. It seems to be the best match to my drivers above.

Any views?

Photo attached. Original Cebu sponsorship as an example of what I define as attractive.

[Mrdurden]

Yeah except from a rare few well travelled and educated (intl) ones hanging around the general pinay crowd is realy depressing after the bedding is done. So any hanging out as in a dinner (if I am hungry) or drinks have to be done prior to session take place. After session, if not a spectacular one so a round two comes into play, I loose totaly interest and can not get them to leave fast enough.

Dinner is the difficult part, but when I meet my Viet girlfriend in Singapore, our pre- and post-sex activities mostly consist of us both surfing the internet on our iPads or laptops, just like I would do at home alone. (of course, there are lots of touristy things to do outside also).
But eating is the one time when I am bored silly and feel rude about checking out my phone.

[Dg8787]

Hi,

I just wonder if anyone knows were you can buy Viagra without prescription in Cebu City and if there are any sex shops around as well.

Thanks

One question at a time. This chat room is only for 7th graders bagging on 5th graders! But I will be a leaver for now. LMF9thgradeAO.

It is available in any drug store without a script.

[Hutsori]

Hi,

I just wonder if anyone knows were you can buy Viagra without prescription in Cebu City and if there are any sex shops around as well.

Thanks

Odd questions to ask in the Chat Rooms and Pen Pals thread. Try the Cebu thread, http://www.internationalsexguide.inf...ilippines-Cebu. WR posted some info that answers one of your questions in Feb of this year.

[Mad Mad]

Hi,

I just wonder if anyone knows were you can buy Viagra without prescription in Cebu City and if there are any sex shops around as well.

Thanks

[Charlie Horse]

I did ask a girl, telling me she's good in maths and want to study accounting: You got 2 cakes. From the first one you take a slice 33% of the cake size. And from the 2nd cake a slice 1/3rd of the cake. Which one is the much bigger piece?

"Oh that's easy. The piece with 33".

Follow up by asking them "what weighs more? A pound of feathers or a pound of gold?

[Member #4387]

Fully agree with that - 1 question a time. In many cases you will get another question back as answer. If its an important fact which you want to know, be persistant. Most of the girls on the datingboards are high-school leavers at the best, which puts them on an intelligence level like a 5th grader in our system. You won't find the true university. Students there. And even college education for nurses is not covering general topics like history, language, maths.

I did ask a girl, telling me she's good in maths and want to study accounting: You got 2 cakes. From the first one you take a slice 33% of the cake size. And from the 2nd cake a slice 1/3rd of the cake. Which one is the much bigger piece?

"Oh that's easy. The piece with 33".

The time to get them bedded can be fun. But once that's done. Boredom starts. Just hand her over the TV remote and you carry on with whatever you like to do.

By writing like this you will probably get the phil protectors on your back but it is nothing to loose any sleep over, hehe. Yeah except from a rare few well travelled and educated (intl) ones hanging around the general pinay crowd is realy depressing after the bedding is done. So any hanging out as in a dinner (if I am hungry) or drinks have to be done prior to session take place. After session, if not a spectacular one so a round two comes into play, I loose totaly interest and can not get them to leave fast enough. I do realy, sometimes, struggle hard to behave accordingly if I see them sit down and wants to talk.

What I do to prevent to much uninterested talks is I allways bring bluetooth loadspeakers so I play loud music. Many pinays love to watch "phil got talent" and even if it bores the hell out of me times fly by and we can soon start the bedplay.

I am very excited for my upcomming trip though (in a few days) as I have done some changes in my overnighting crowd. This trip I have chosen more or less unscreened girls to come stay the night. Seemingly educated as they handle two or more questions in a sentence (basically ex looks and bodystructure this has been my only requirement). If they never answered "huh" they are good to go. It is this easy realy. All 8 of them are screened from myself through my fake fb account and are a mix of one nurse, one ship broker, 2 cashiers, 2 receptionists (Hi so hotels but not Ascott), one recently returned OFW (Dubai) and one casino floor manager. Well well good luck to me. I will need it. We will see if nights will be very long and the remote will come in handy.

[Amadeuss]

Regarding writing with many pinays (not all but many) only use one sentence at a time and only one question per sentence. If you add in a couple of questions or more they will mostly only answer the last one. If you meet one can handle multiple sentences and multiple questions and answer them she might be a keeper, hehe. It is nothing as depressing writing a small essay and the pinay replies "ok" or "huh".
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Fully agree with that - 1 question a time. In many cases you will get another question back as answer. If its an important fact which you want to know, be persistant. Most of the girls on the datingboards are high-school leavers at the best, which puts them on an intelligence level like a 5th grader in our system. You won't find the true university. Students there. And even college education for nurses is not covering general topics like history, language, maths.

I did ask a girl, telling me she's good in maths and want to study accounting: You got 2 cakes. From the first one you take a slice 33% of the cake size. And from the 2nd cake a slice 1/3rd of the cake. Which one is the much bigger piece?

"Oh that's easy. The piece with 33".

The time to get them bedded can be fun. But once that's done. Boredom starts. Just hand her over the TV remote and you carry on with whatever you like to do.

[Dg8787]

And it might be a problem to book a room for the 3 of you. So maybe you have to take 2 rooms.

You would only book the room for 2 with queen or king size bed. Then just bring up the 2 or more girls. If anyone asks then just say the extra person is visiting. I have never been asked the 10 or so times.

[Member #4387]

True, I did not even consider that! It will certainly arouse attention at the check in counter, haha :)

Hehe, no worries. Some of the pinays are so tiny so you can only hang a babybassinet on the wall and the nr 2 girl can rest there, hehe. No need for two rooms.

[Mrdurden]

Have you thought about taking a WG on your trip?

That is certainly an option, but I always prefer non-pros if the opportunity arises and it looks like Philippines might be best for this situation. If nothing comes from the dating sites, I will use that as "Plan B".

And it might be a problem to book a room for the 3 of you. So maybe you have to take 2 rooms.

True, I did not even consider that! It will certainly arouse attention at the check in counter, haha :)