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[Cbea20]

An Filipina friend (from the past) posted a picture of a hospital room with a vague comment that implied she was in the hospital. Of course some of her friends inquired about her health and what is wrong. Her reply, "two years ago, ha, ha".

I guess humor doesn't cross cultural boundaries very well....

Laughing it off is how she deflects blame for lying or misleading. She implies that she was only joking. They do know when they are doing wrong!

[X Man]

An Filipina friend (from the past) posted a picture of a hospital room with a vague comment that implied she was in the hospital. Of course some of her friends inquired about her health and what is wrong. Her reply, "two years ago, ha, ha".

I guess humor doesn't cross cultural boundaries very well.

(I was going to put this in the Filipinas thread, but they are busy talking about health care over there).

Hope everyone is enjoying the weekend. I'm doing as well as possible considering I'm not in the Philippines! X Man.

[Pip Jaeger]

All they see is pale skin and a 'pointed nose'. I have come to they conclusion most of the girls in the provinces and new to AC and manila or who have very little first hand exposure to foriegners can't tell a handsome one from a homely one.

You forgot that they also see a fat wallet and a potential ticket out of there; perhaps even more so for some of the ignorant province girls. For many of them there we're nothing but a walking ATM machine.

[Worf1972]

Great post, some solid learning here. I have tried the approach used by the almighty Skogis and it works quite well. The first contact is made on ground in the real world. You treat the first few contacts really well and then they spread the word for you. Its like having your own personal pimp. And the results are delightful.

That said, I am none closer than Mars in terms of the number of chicks banged thru this route as compared to Skogis.

Women are more likely to judge & view a man as more attractive when they see another woman looking, smiling at him or knows him .

[ImAGuy]

Whoa, guys! I wasn't saying that I'm having trouble meeting girls, just that meeting them offline is much easier than Facebook, Badoo, etc. At least in my experience.

It could be Cavite, too.

[Wicked Roger]

This is my preferred approach now and it has been incredibly successful. I no longer use dating sites.

This way is the best IMHO and have used this method for a number if years. I ask about their friends etc and sure enough some are always willing to meet. Even better some are 'educated' about bisexuality and the joys of threesomes, group and the need for 'accessories'.

All from asking nicely when I see a photo of the cuties with her friends. Am doing this at the moment and new one in Cebu is preparing to meet innocent me.

[Python75]

If I recall correctly Skogis established his relationships with women first on the dating sites, later created his fakebook account, and his first friends were those women he already knew. From those he was able to grow his base by searching through their friends and also by their referrals - basically word-of-mouth advertising, the most successful kind. This approach is quite different from the more difficult cold-call approach I believe the OP is using on wastebook.

This is my preferred approach now and it has been incredibly successful. I no longer use dating sites.

[Blanquiceleste]

Yep....

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If I recall correctly Skogis established his relationships with women first on the dating sites, later created his fakebook account, and his first friends were those women he already knew. From those he was able to grow his base by searching through their friends and also by their referrals - basically word-of-mouth advertising, the most successful kind. This approach is quite different from the more difficult cold-call approach I believe the OP is using on wastebook.

Great post, some solid learning here. I have tried the approach used by the almighty Skogis and it works quite well. The first contact is made on ground in the real world. You treat the first few contacts really well and then they spread the word for you. Its like having your own personal pimp. And the results are delightful.

That said, I am none closer than Mars in terms of the number of chicks banged thru this route as compared to Skogis.

[Hutsori]

I have found the opposite to be true on the ground.

Yep. Of course the ground isn't wastebook and badoo, the places where the OP's attempts to attract women were based.

Any foriegn guy who has problems getting willing attractive, young if they wish, female companionship 2-3 levels above their 'grade' in the Phils is due solely to their attitude and the way they treat the girls, not their physical attractiveness.

Though I hesitate to use the word 'solely' (and 'never' & 'always') when the issue is debatable, you're mostly right. Of course the OP only mentioned his "decent" looks and did not disclose the content of his messages so it's difficult to analyse the reasons for their shunning him. Knowing how attractive women receive several dozen messages everyday I think their ignoring him could be due to one or more of the following reasons (some serious and other less so): he's not as decent looking as he thinks he is; he's much better looking than he thinks he is and the girls are scared of his handsomeness; he's sending boring 'Hi' messages; he's sending rude messages; the girls prefer other blokes; the girls are too lazy or busy to read or reply; the women he's contacted are all comatose or deceased; something else. If forced to pick one sole reason . . . I guess they've forgotten their passwords.

Yes, probably "sexual shoplifter" kuripot cheapskates.

Perhaps. But since it's only messages he's sent it seems unlikely the women could deduce his miserliness unless his profile photos depict him as a destitute beggar or mangy hobo or his message says "fuck for free" unambiguously.

I don't know whether the OP is looking genuinely for recommendations, but if he is then he ought to include more details about his approach. If I recall correctly Skogis established his relationships with women first on the dating sites, later created his fakebook account, and his first friends were those women he already knew. From those he was able to grow his base by searching through their friends and also by their referrals - basically word-of-mouth advertising, the most successful kind. This approach is quite different from the more difficult cold-call approach I believe the OP is using on wastebook.

[Member #4351]

Any foriegn guy who has problems getting willing attractive, young if they wish, female companionship 2-3 levels above their 'grade' in the Phils is due solely to their attitude and the way they treat the girls, not their physical attractiveness.

Yes, probably "sexual shoplifter" kuripot cheapskates.

[D Cups]

Tried talking to about 20 random girls in my city on Facebook with zero response. I'm decent looking and early 30's. Badoo is just as bad. Also, every white guy I've seen on the street or in the mall is with a sub-5 girl always the same age if not older than the guy. Saw a handsome guy who had to be in his late twenties with a sub5 woman who looked 35. At that point I stared at the sky, expecting the legendary Skogis to descend from the heavens and smite this noob for not having 500 girls adding him hourly on Facebook.

Try date in asia and get their skype if they have it. American women? Forget it! None of them are worth the trouble plus most are overweight, bitchy and selfish, lousy lovers. I stick to Asian and Latin women? They know how to treat a man!

[Pantot]

Are you sure? I recall reading research a few years ago about guys who overrate their appearance by 2 points on the 1-10 scale - the psychological phenomenon of 'self-enhancement'. A lot of fours thinking they're sixes. Post some of your photos on a hot-or-not website and let the public opine. This is also a good way to have photos selected for your dating profiles.

Take heart. An okcupid study showed women rate men low yet still message them, http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/yo...nline-dating/.

". . . women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh. On the other hand, when it comes to actual messaging, women shift their expectations only just slightly ahead of the curve, which is a healthier pattern than guys pursuing the all-but-unattainable. But with the basic ratings so out-of-whack, the two curves together suggest some strange possibilities for the female thought process, the most salient of which is that the average-looking woman has convinced herself that the vast majority of males arent good enough for her, but she then goes right out and messages them anyway."

I dunno about that. I never heard about credible polling in the Philippines. I have found the opposite to be true on the ground.

When my friends who barely travel and are puzzled about why I go the Phils I try to explain like this.

When I'm there I'm 6'2" (I'm 5'9 1/2" I'm viewed as much more handsome than I am here at home, maybe +3 on your scale though I never used that metric maybe I will, thanks. I am viewed as wealthy, while here I am quite frugal and not at all wealthy. My dick becomes a source of awe and grows 3 inches and increases in girth in the eyes of the girls.

My age effectively is cut in half and I'm able to attract females the age and attractiveness I did when I was in college. Is it a sustainable reality and is it true? No of course not. Are they expert in buttering me up? Hell yes but its intoxicating. Would it be reality if I were there 365 24/7? No way. But in three week bursts a few times a year its a well earned and paid for tonic for life.

All they see is pale skin and a 'pointed nose'. I have come to they conclusion most of the girls in the provinces and new to AC and manila or who have very little first hand exposure to foriegners can't tell a handsome one from a homely one.

Any foriegn guy who has problems getting willing attractive, young if they wish, female companionship 2-3 levels above their 'grade' in the Phils is due solely to their attitude and the way they treat the girls, not their physical attractiveness.

[Hutsori]

I'm decent looking . . .

Are you sure? I recall reading research a few years ago about guys who overrate their appearance by 2 points on the 1-10 scale - the psychological phenomenon of 'self-enhancement'. A lot of fours thinking they're sixes. Post some of your photos on a hot-or-not website and let the public opine. This is also a good way to have photos selected for your dating profiles.

Take heart. An okcupid study showed women rate men low yet still message them, http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/yo...nline-dating/.

". . . women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh. On the other hand, when it comes to actual messaging, women shift their expectations only just slightly ahead of the curve, which is a healthier pattern than guys pursuing the all-but-unattainable. But with the basic ratings so out-of-whack, the two curves together suggest some strange possibilities for the female thought process, the most salient of which is that the average-looking woman has convinced herself that the vast majority of males arent good enough for her, but she then goes right out and messages them anyway."

[ImAGuy]

Tried talking to about 20 random girls in my city on Facebook with zero response. I'm decent looking and early 30's. Badoo is just as bad. Also, every white guy I've seen on the street or in the mall is with a sub-5 girl always the same age if not older than the guy. Saw a handsome guy who had to be in his late twenties with a sub5 woman who looked 35. At that point I stared at the sky, expecting the legendary Skogis to descend from the heavens and smite this noob for not having 500 girls adding him hourly on Facebook.

[D Cups]

This message found on CL Cebu:

I'm a single mom with tree kids (ellipsis) and willing to accept my kids and live with my tree kids.

Female Tarzan?