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[D Cups]

Good insights, CM, thanks. Your comments make a lot of sense to me.

QUOTE=Chocha Monger;2003983 Once they know your likes and dislikes, they are in a better position to tell you the lies that are most likely to help them in achieving their agenda. . drama queens without any filters. They have no concept of privacy and when they tampo expect to see some extremely negative and potentially harmful PR releases. The concept of no contact with someone from a past sexual relationship is bewildering to them. QUOTE.

[FreebieFan]

I don't bother much with online sites, but I've read some profiles, and I think many times these ladies pick words almost at random from other listings and just throw them in on the assumption that they sound good. I doubt they're overly concerned about whether or not the words make sense or the context in which they're used.

GE.

So true. One case in point seen today. " my relationship with myself set the tone for every other relationship I have. ". I queried her on this and asked if she had multiple personalities. She replied " No I just love myself so much more than you could imagine. Baffled and bemused.

[FreebieFan]

This is quite true. Tell a girl in Tarlac that you had a girlfriend in Surigao City for 3 years, and that the Surigao relationship ended 7 years ago, and you might get quizzed by the Tarlac girl on / off for the entire time you know her (years maybe) as to why the Surigao relationship ended, what is the last time you spoke to the Surigao girl, did you have feelings for her, if you spoke to her 2 years ago briefly online then you *must* still have feelings for her, and so forth. The amount of odd (and false) relationship drivel in pinays can be astounding. Trying to convince pinay #1 that you are NOT in love with pinay #2 can be difficult.

Watch the telenovas and " old gfs " are always either appearing on the scene, inventing themselves as new and reformed lovers to be, or they are being evil and cunning and planning revenge on the guy and the girl. Theres no in-between. So when all the lurid details of the ex are being sought its so that the new lady knows how to position herself (so to speak!).

[Omega 3]

FWIW, in my experience older sisters have more skill, younger sisters more enthusiasm. YMMV.

Sometimes true, sometimes not. Luck of the draw.

Was with two sisters from Bicol for a couple of weeks. Both were great. The younger one sparkled, and was a firecracker and quite intelligent. The older one smoldered, and had more mood and flavor. Was in love with both of them, and they were amenable. Regrettably, a long term relationship just was not meant to be, mainly because my roving eye was caught by yet another bonnie lass at the time. Ah, the mistakes we make.

Then, there were the 3 sisters from Surigao del Sur. The youngest was one of my regulars in Angeles, and great both in and out of the sack. She told me that her two older sisters were visiting "from the province" and I persuaded her to invite them to join us. The two older sisters turned out to be total duds. What a disappointment.

Other sister sets and, more commonly, cousin sets, and only rarely, mother-daughter sets, were similarly "all over the board". No predictability, but usually titillating and a lot of fun!

YMMV.

OM.

P.S. Never had twins, though. Twins might have been more interesting to compare and contrast?

[WestCoast1]

The concept of no contact with someone from a past sexual relationship is bewildering to them.

This is quite true. Tell a girl in Tarlac that you had a girlfriend in Surigao City for 3 years, and that the Surigao relationship ended 7 years ago, and you might get quizzed by the Tarlac girl on / off for the entire time you know her (years maybe) as to why the Surigao relationship ended, what is the last time you spoke to the Surigao girl, did you have feelings for her, if you spoke to her 2 years ago briefly online then you *must* still have feelings for her, and so forth. The amount of odd (and false) relationship drivel in pinays can be astounding. Trying to convince pinay #1 that you are NOT in love with pinay #2 can be difficult.

[Dg8787]

I take it the days of the "art of conversations" are gone? Or did some of us ever had it?

[MrWoolyBooly]

talks too much

It's just another generic question to make conversation. I think the only answer that they would react to would be "Oh, she's going to be back form shopping in 30 minutes, let's get on with it. ".

Next time I'm in a don't give a rat's ass mood, I'll reply "She talked too much, couldn't stop complaining every time I banged her sister. " I still have a 2017 goal of three sisters. I'm just not sure whether half-sisters count for full points. Eventually my luck will run out, but going to enjoy the ride. FWIW, in my experience older sisters have more skill, younger sisters more enthusiasm. YMMV.

[BrainDrain]

Even stranger is that if you have a kid they assume you were married to the mother even though most of them have not been married to their kid's father. And like you said they ask about them. My daughter is 20 years old and her mother has been married 17 years. I don't know a damn thing about that woman. Talk about asking for outdated info.

It's just another generic question to make conversation. I think the only answer that they would react to would be "Oh, she's going to be back form shopping in 30 minutes, let's get on with it. ".

[Chocha Monger]

I always wondered why women do that. What is the point of an ex club unless to reaffirm their decision or to form a negative PR machine against you?

In the Philippines, the women do this to obtain information about you. They want to compare notes about you with your exes. Once they know your likes and dislikes, they are in a better position to tell you the lies that are most likely to help them in achieving their agenda. For example, if they discover that you broke up with you ex because she cheated on you, they will try their best to present themselves to you as a loyal woman. If your last relationship ended because you were the cheater, they will tell you that they are not jealous and don't mind if you fuck other girls. Of course, it is all lies but whatever it takes to get into your pockets and maybe sucker you into marriage.

There is a real danger to letting pinays figure out how to contact you exes, family members, and friends online because they tend to be drama queens without any filters. They have no concept of privacy and when they tampo expect to see some extremely negative and potentially harmful PR releases about you online.

The really jealous girls will try to figure out if any of your exes pose a threat and would like to get back together with you. They may attack your ex if they see her as a potential rival due to your continued communication or shared offspring. It is not unusual to see Filipino family and relationship drama play out on Facebook, if you understand their language the dialogue can be very entertaining.

Pinays also see your past relationships through their own cultural lens where their ex-boyfriends never truly go away but remain lurking in the background for periodic meet and fuck sessions to work out lingering feelings. The concept of no contact with someone from a past sexual relationship is bewildering to them.

[BushRusher]

The most nonsensical question I get regularly about my ex (es) from Pinays: "Where is your ex now?" I usually reply "Strange question. I have no idea. I'll text now to ask... "

That is a good one. I forget the Tagalog term, but many women are willing to interject themselves into very personal lives of strangers or lovers having a spat. And the woman involved is usually more than willing to share. The intrusive style is not so common worldwide. IMHO, I try to make the problem all me because I don't want to take any more advantage of the girls and have them try to mold themselves into my ideal. As we all know, the later charade can only go on so long and they do not have a future with me.

[Mr Enternational]

The most nonsensical question I get regularly about my ex (es) from Pinays: "Where is your ex now?" I usually reply "Strange question. I have no idea.

Even stranger is that if you have a kid they assume you were married to the mother even though most of them have not been married to their kid's father. And like you said they ask about them. My daughter is 20 years old and her mother has been married 17 years. I don't know a damn thing about that woman. Talk about asking for outdated info.

[D Cups]

Yes, selfish, not enough sex, talks too much or too many problems are my standard replies.

I'd welcome any other useful canned replies.

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[MrWoolyBooly]

I always wondered why women do that. What is the point of an ex club unless to reaffirm their decision or to form a negative PR machine against you?

The most nonsensical question I get regularly about my ex (es) from Pinays: "Where is your ex now?" I usually reply "Strange question. I have no idea. I'll text now to ask... " They immediately get uncomfortable and say "Nevermind". Filipinos in general feel much more comfortable asking for or exchanging sensitive information with third parties instead of asking the person concerned directly. To my Western perspective it seems like gossip mongering. The advantage that takes a while to get used to is that you can feel comfortable asking for and getting all sorts of information about every girl they know. You're right that spreading negative PR is one form of revenge. I try to be charming until I have enough dirt on them to have some degree of protection. Or avoid giving them my real name.

Contacting the ex (es) seems to be more along the lines of the "Why did you break up?" question. That one seems almost legitimate as an interview question to determine whether you'd make a good match. I try to confuse them by saying "Shouldn't you ask first why we became a couple in the first place?" Depending on the girl, I'll sometimes say "She didn't want a long-distance relationship" or "My sex drive was too much for her. " I'd welcome any other useful canned replies.

[BushRusher]

You can send a friendship request to everyone. I don't even have FB and thought I was save. But my ex GF searched in FB by my last name and sent a friendship request to my ex wife. WTF. Unfortunately I have a very unique last name.

I always wondered why women do that. What is the point of an ex club unless to reaffirm their decision or to form a negative PR machine against you?

[Bamboo Pete]

I'm pretty sure it uses several criteria to suggest friendships. One of them I strongly suspect is simply having looked at a person's profile. The looker's profile will eventually be in the suggested profile of the lookee.

You can send a friendship request to everyone. I don't even have FB and thought I was save. But my ex GF searched in FB by my last name and sent a friendship request to my ex wife. WTF. Unfortunately I have a very unique last name.