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06-01-18 08:00 #9447
Posts: 86The number of times I have seen sweet bar girls that I screw wearing a condom to then see them a few months later pregnant. They go home and are happy I guess.
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05-31-18 22:06 #9446
Posts: 1562Originally Posted by KabulGuy [View Original Post]
Some American faith-based NGOs walk a careful tightrope in their programs. A large bulk of their fund-raising comes from collection programs in domestic churches, so their marketing has to be very careful. World Vision is an interesting example. They play down their actual involvement in family planning in developing countries, but in Africa they are quietly dispensing condoms, and maybe elsewhere too. It is not discussed in any of their fund-raising promotions.
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05-31-18 07:21 #9445
Posts: 983Originally Posted by SoapySmith [View Original Post]
If caught the contract or grant can be terminated.
So someone working on one of those billion dollar programs in Afghanistan or Iran stops into Jules bar in Dubai and the program can be canceled? (Never happened as far as I know but I do know people fired for that by the contractor citing that clause.) I agree it should happen for what Oxfam allowed to happen in Haiti but a basically retaln p4 p activity conducted far away from and not involving the program is a little far fetched don't you think?
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05-31-18 07:14 #9444
Posts: 983Originally Posted by Hutsori [View Original Post]
The women were forced into the activity by financial concerns, by limited options and sometimes by their male partners who wanted them to make money on the side.
The punch line was that they were piano teachers.
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05-31-18 06:04 #9443
Posts: 1562Originally Posted by NiceGuy99 [View Original Post]
If this woman and her interviewers are liberals, and I suspect they are, they sort of belie the notion of a monolithic liberal media that all think in lockstep.
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05-31-18 03:14 #9442
Posts: 807Originally Posted by PinaLove [View Original Post]
I've turned out a number of pinays. Roger has experienced one and I'm sure he'll vouch. The authors of this article are detached from reality. Unlike FSU girls who may be totally controlled and exploited, pinays are generally independent. They enjoy sex, they enjoy money and they enjoy you. Deal with it liberal press.
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05-31-18 01:36 #9441
Posts: 86Originally Posted by Hutsori [View Original Post]
Sometimes it’s just like, “Oh I want a new phone” or “I would like new shoes.” These cases then show that there is agency in sex work. Of course, I’m also very conscious of not pretending that this is the face of the movement, because within the sex work community, there are hierarchies. And there’s also a lot of resentment among street-based sex workers against the more high-end Internet-based sex workers or students engaging in sex work who come from a position of privilege and are in a better position to negotiate their clients or their hours. But yes, that does happen even in the Philippines. I’ve spoken to several students of private universities who engage in this...
While breaking up can seem problematic, once they know that the money is no longer flowing their way then they know they must move on.
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05-31-18 00:09 #9440
Posts: 1562Originally Posted by Hutsori [View Original Post]
Although Ms. Parmanand's perspective seems thoughtful, I believe there is a glaring omission in the interview: very little discussion of the nature and behavior of users. Ms. Parmanand observed that many decriminalization efforts address only the activities of the sex workers, but not the users. So, if there are few reliable data about sex workersand an urgent need for themwouldn't the same be true for the other side of the exchange? Over the years we have had a few light-hearted discussions about doing such research among ISG participants. There would be several difficulties involved: nobody would ever fund such research, few if any skilled researchers would dare undertake it, and it would be an uphill battle to ever get the research results accepted.
Ms. Parmamand makes the interesting point that testimonials offered by former sex workers are inherently biased in at least two ways: they typically reinforce the "rescuing" institution's values, and within the sex worker community there are lessons shared about what to say in order to be treated favorably by those who "rescue" or arrest you. The values around the activities of users is perhaps even more of a minefield.
A couple of interesting observations: first, the acknowledgement that a few (emphasis on few) progressive-thinking NGOs are getting ahead of the curve on trafficking, and a few feminists (e. g. , Ms. Parmanand) are beginning to see beyond the "victimization" narrative of their sisters. I think the key idea here is "agency"; that is, that many sex workers in fact make intentional decisions to engage in sex work as a means of livelihood, and, that policies that ignore this reality probably do more (uninformed and unintended) harm than good. So policies that assume they're unwitting victims also eliminate from consideration remedies that actually empower them and keep them safe. It appears this is the subject matter of Ms. Parmamand's doctoral thesis research at Cambridge.
Maybe it's important to consider genuine agency in the activities of users as well, instead of chalking it all up to thinking with the little head, as some in ISG as well as many feminists and religious moralists--are inclined to do. It might be interesting to map out the kinds of meetings and conferences at which Ms. Parmamand is likely to speak, and then show up and pose questions about the lack of data and attributions of agency for users.
One important caveat should be offered: some exploitative traffi--king does occur, and it is important that we not look the other way when it appears.
Finally, three cheers for USAID's achievement in attending to both streams of anti-sex work moralistsmainstream feminists and religious moralists.
Thanks for sharing this, H.
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05-30-18 09:08 #9439
Posts: 1459Originally Posted by KabulGuy [View Original Post]
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05-30-18 00:44 #9438
Posts: 983Originally Posted by PinaLove [View Original Post]
Sometimes I want to information to make decisions, other times I just like the process because it is somewhat intellectually shiny. Either way I take great exception to any researcher who starts a study already "knowing" the outcome. Over time I think I have developed a knack for shifting the signal out of the noise. However that could just be hubris in my old age.
The sex trade is a perfect example. Some people think it is wrong and immoral, and that is their right to believe that but when they then undertake a "study" to "prove" that they are the ones that are IMHO immoral. Of course the other is just as bad, people who undertake a study to prove that the sex trade is all beneficial and a good thing in every respect are just as beneath my contempt.
I believe, and this is based on a lot of googling and reading the actual source studies, (in construction camps you often have too much time on your hands and need any entertainment and distraction you can get LOL) that whether or not the sex business is harmful depends on why you are participating in it, what you and your family and your culture believe about it and how long you stay in the business.
If there is to be any regulation then that regulation should be to ensure that it is as safe as possible for both and that anyone participating in the industry does so voluntarily and can enter or leave as they determine suitable for themselves. I. e. Everyone legal age, no forced participation and proper STD education, prevention and treatment practices available to all, etc.
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05-29-18 17:25 #9437
Posts: 15915Originally Posted by PinaLove [View Original Post]
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05-29-18 12:44 #9436
Posts: 86Originally Posted by KabulGuy [View Original Post]
I'm in Angeles most of the time. Over the years I've noticed it is really a 3-6 month tide for many of the girls. Newbies wash in, others wash out, a few a longer term. In any case, there are always newbies.
I meet more girls here whom get married than I've met in my home country. In the past year 2-3 girls that washed into AC, got fucked by me, also found a guy to marry them and whisk them to another country.
Meeting foreigners is still a long term play for many.
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05-29-18 05:08 #9435
Posts: 983Originally Posted by Sammon [View Original Post]
They generally refuse cash but I will always at least offer to call a Grab on my account for them or for the regulars I'll buy presents for them.
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05-29-18 05:02 #9434
Posts: 983Originally Posted by PinaLove [View Original Post]
No it doesn't is you are just having fun with a few the 3% of the population. (You are using sample in the sense of taking a selection out of the 3% that is offering delights.) You will wear your dick out before you taste all the delights in the 3%.
The numbers are actually better than you indicate. Not all tourists coming here are male sex tourists. Many are families and females (not eliminating females as sex tourists though LOL). You should also factor in the roughly quarter million foreigners who live here (just under 200 k in 2010 so I bumped that up for population growth in last 8 years) . Again not all of these are male mongers, some are in happy stable long term relations and some are like me here for both a good time and a long time.) There is a seasonal variation in tourists arriving here. Some months less than 50 k tourists some months over 600 k.
OTOH you need to account for local mongers. There are lots of them out there. I see them at massage places and read their FR's on other web sites. Usually need google translate.
I'll have to do some searching to see if I can find any non-biased research papers on actual numbers of sex workers here and sex tourists. It could be interesting to see some data.
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05-29-18 02:16 #9433
Posts: 3281Originally Posted by Member#1088 [View Original Post]
I found a girl in Cebu who was living with many uni students. In the beginning she said she would not arrange. I convinced her by paying her extra. In the end she got me two. These girls always need money. They will do part time only just to support themselves.