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[FreebieFan]

Man. In the early days of websites it was good and easy to find serious relationships online. These days I would not recommend that shit. Hookers and johns have pretty much taken over. Even if you are only looking to fuck, there is no need in trying to prearrange shit before you come. When you land at the airport you can literally get on one of these dating sites and have a chick waiting in your hotel lobby before you even get there.

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In the very good old days, back when Yahoo Messenger was in its infancy it had a great search feature that they later removed due to privacy concerns. In it you could specify an age, gender and even street name so if you were in Burgos and happened to be looking for a 23 year old in JP Rizal, press enter and there they were. Dating sites came around many years later, but for a couple years it yielded rich harvests. If you got bored with always using one street could quickly move to another. Most girls were good to go as they say.

Wechat of course now has nearly the exact same feature in its lookaround feature.

I always have one lined up for the first night at least, both out of habit and a way of self reminding that I'm back in the land of sweet petite brown ladies (chubsters don't get past a "Hi " with me).

[The Tall Man]

I forgot to discuss this. I don't know that site; the ones most commonly mentioned here are dateinasia, pinalove, and filipinocupid. There are others such as tagged, cebuanas, cherry blossoms, and then the Christian-orientated sites.

Dateinasia (DIA) is completely free and therefore the girls get bombarded with messages. Pinalove (PL) is mixed free and paid; free male users may send a message every ten minutes and the paid subscribers are unrestricted. Women there may message unrestricted. Filipinocupid (FC) is also mixed, but free male users are more tightly restricted than PL. A free user may send a message but the free user recipient will only see the first few words. If you're a bit clever you can figure out ways to bypass this to get a girl to message off site, but if the admins find out they'll edit the profile or delete it. Paid members, who are mostly male, have free rein. Of the three sites FC allows the fella the best opportunity to get a girl's attention since the free riders are for all intents and purposes eliminated from the game; girls quickly learn to not waste their time with them.

Before throwing money to a site make sure it has a large member base.

The truth be told I, the tall man himself, used Colombia cupid back about 2007 to 2011 and after a lot of effort, even back then, got some great responses from some beauties in Colombia, made many trips to both Bogota and medellin, and I recall after really getting to know 2 of these latinas they showed me there profile page and WHAM a thousand or more of messages and interests and all kinds of BS stories.

Here we are almost 10 years later and they must, as you all correctly state, get inundated daily with 10 to 20 interest requests.

I started my filipino cupids search, paid one month fee, and have a stable of 5 to 8 girls kind of at the ready when I land. Let me tell you it takes a great deal of time and effort going through all the interests, many by grand mothers (I kid you not) as of today I have received about 300 interests and actual messages but weeding through them all is a pain in the a*.

I will be Makati this weekend so I will be sure to book end my experiences with you all.

TTM.

[MrWoolyBooly]

Of the three sites FC allows the fella the best opportunity to get a girl's attention since the free riders are for all intents and purposes eliminated from the game; girls quickly learn to not waste their time with them.

I paid for FC and get substantive replies from about 20-25%. I'm no Hollywood or K-Drama looker, but I can confirm your observation on FC. Getting replies doesn't always mean getting what I want, but it's the necessary first step.

[Hutsori]

But I have just registered at http://www.cupid.com

I forgot to discuss this. I don't know that site; the ones most commonly mentioned here are dateinasia, pinalove, and filipinocupid. There are others such as tagged, cebuanas, cherry blossoms, and then the Christian-orientated sites.

Dateinasia (DIA) is completely free and therefore the girls get bombarded with messages. Pinalove (PL) is mixed free and paid; free male users may send a message every ten minutes and the paid subscribers are unrestricted. Women there may message unrestricted. Filipinocupid (FC) is also mixed, but free male users are more tightly restricted than PL. A free user may send a message but the free user recipient will only see the first few words. If you're a bit clever you can figure out ways to bypass this to get a girl to message off site, but if the admins find out they'll edit the profile or delete it. Paid members, who are mostly male, have free rein. Of the three sites FC allows the fella the best opportunity to get a girl's attention since the free riders are for all intents and purposes eliminated from the game; girls quickly learn to not waste their time with them.

Before throwing money to a site make sure it has a large member base.

[Mr Enternational]

Firstly, define 'serious relationship(s)'? Are you genuinely looking for marriage or do you want to date for a few months and then move on?

Man. In the early days of websites it was good and easy to find serious relationships online. These days I would not recommend that shit. Hookers and johns have pretty much taken over. Even if you are only looking to fuck, there is no need in trying to prearrange shit before you come. When you land at the airport you can literally get on one of these dating sites and have a chick waiting in your hotel lobby before you even get there.

These same scenarios that Huts describes go for anywhere in the world. A chick I was fucking in Dominican Republic showed me her cupid and just the same there were over 1000 unopened messages. So to even get through to one of these chicks is sheer luck.

You know how many chicks answer me 1 month after I have sent them an email? Then the lying bittches will say it is because I never come on this site. Bullshit. It is because you had to go through those other 1000 mfs first. These days I would not even waste my time unless I was in country and could tell a chick to meet today or tomorrow.

[Cons68]

That is true. People often do things for a lifetime and get away with it until one day their luck runs out.

Hello, is this the Dubai forum?

I just wanted to support ChochaMonger's view here. I have too seen plenty of people thinking along those lines, for some reason people tend to think that when they are abroad rules do not apply. In the UAE they usually come in two flavors:

-white idiot, who thinks this will not apply because he is Murican (or British, or any generic white flavor).

-brown idiot, who think that he is smarter than anyone else.

I have seen people get away with truly idiotic behavior for very long (drunk driving in a Muslim country qualifies methinks) but at some point your luck may run out. It all depends on your risk appetite. I personally only take high risks when paid for it.

[The Tall Man]

Firstly, define 'serious relationship(s)'? Are you genuinely looking for marriage or do you want to date for a few months and then move on?

Are you overseas or in the Philippines? Personally I would never engage in a long-distance relationship because I think it's tricky if not impossible to understand someone (motivations, sincerity, loyalty, etc.) unless you spend a lot of time together. My thoughts are reinforced by the behaviour of girls I've met online for fubus who have overseas partners yet play the side. Are all girls like this? No. Are many? Yes. Is it much easier to find a good girl whilst living in the Philippines? Absolutely. Can you still be duped? Yes.

I think you may not realise how many messages attractive girls get. See attached screenshot of a girl's DIA account (scrubbed of any personal info). That's 1073 unopened messages. Certainly an ego boost. But soon she learns it's a lot of overseas fellas looking for cam sex or just attention. She reads a lot of empty promises; fellas sending a first or second message declaring his affection and intent to marry sets off her BS detector. Or, she messages a guy for many weeks and then he suddenly ghosts her. This happen a lot. Over time this tends to make a girl jaded, so she concludes a sincere bloke is an anomaly, yet he has to compete through all that noise to get a message opened and then be enticing and believable enough to earn a reply. At least you being in the country demonstrates availability and potential.

The danger to you being in country is you're the kid in the candy shop. Do you become a glutton or do you exercise self control and remain true to your goal? Keep in mind that so many women are convinced that all men cheat that even if you don't there's the suspicion in her mind. Some girls decide to (pre-emptively) retaliate by cheating, whether that suspicion was genuine or just a pretext to allow herself cock on the side - a former fling is back in town.

My approach is to use all that noise to my advantage. I'm here, they're not, you don't need to waste your youth sitting at home night after night. I'm not looking for marriage, and I'm not looking to control you, so you can still keep looking for Prince (C)Harming and still meet me once a week or so. Does this work with all women? No. Does it work with enough to keep me busy? Yes. Do some girls find their prince and marry? Yes. One of my former fubus did recently, and then she messaged me on PL. Why was she back on PL? That's a good question.

What you wrote here is so spot on, others need to read and understand the nature of these web site and all the nuances associated with trying to find both short and long term relationships via long distance by this method. This is the truth and its not for the faint of heart.

TTM.

[Hutsori]

I have never tried Tinder or some dating websites at all. But I have just registered at http://www.cupid.com Maybe I will have some luck there. But honestly, I would like to meet a good girl for some serious relationships in the future. Do you think it is possible online?

Firstly, define 'serious relationship(s)'? Are you genuinely looking for marriage or do you want to date for a few months and then move on?

Are you overseas or in the Philippines? Personally I would never engage in a long-distance relationship because I think it's tricky if not impossible to understand someone (motivations, sincerity, loyalty, etc.) unless you spend a lot of time together. My thoughts are reinforced by the behaviour of girls I've met online for fubus who have overseas partners yet play the side. Are all girls like this? No. Are many? Yes. Is it much easier to find a good girl whilst living in the Philippines? Absolutely. Can you still be duped? Yes.

I think you may not realise how many messages attractive girls get. See attached screenshot of a girl's DIA account (scrubbed of any personal info). That's 1073 unopened messages. Certainly an ego boost. But soon she learns it's a lot of overseas fellas looking for cam sex or just attention. She reads a lot of empty promises; fellas sending a first or second message declaring his affection and intent to marry sets off her BS detector. Or, she messages a guy for many weeks and then he suddenly ghosts her. This happen a lot. Over time this tends to make a girl jaded, so she concludes a sincere bloke is an anomaly, yet he has to compete through all that noise to get a message opened and then be enticing and believable enough to earn a reply. At least you being in the country demonstrates availability and potential.

The danger to you being in country is you're the kid in the candy shop. Do you become a glutton or do you exercise self control and remain true to your goal? Keep in mind that so many women are convinced that all men cheat that even if you don't there's the suspicion in her mind. Some girls decide to (pre-emptively) retaliate by cheating, whether that suspicion was genuine or just a pretext to allow herself cock on the side - a former fling is back in town.

My approach is to use all that noise to my advantage. I'm here, they're not, you don't need to waste your youth sitting at home night after night. I'm not looking for marriage, and I'm not looking to control you, so you can still keep looking for Prince (C)Harming and still meet me once a week or so. Does this work with all women? No. Does it work with enough to keep me busy? Yes. Do some girls find their prince and marry? Yes. One of my former fubus did recently, and then she messaged me on PL. Why was she back on PL? That's a good question.

[Dg8787]

Some direction please. Either a reply here or PM. I only know of Green Belt and LA Caf.

Very much appreciated!

Those 2 places are enough for a starter to last a year. Add in Burgos for insurance.

[JoelR]

I have never tried Tinder or some dating websites at all. But I have just registered at http://www.cupid.com Maybe I will have some luck there. But honestly, I would like to meet a good girl for some serious relationships in the future. Do you think it is possible online?

[CygnushYoga123]

proven market places.

Some direction please. Either a reply here or PM. I only know of Green Belt and LA Café.

Very much appreciated!

[Member #4558]

I hear people had good experience with PinaLove but I just hate that app ransom user into paying for useless features.

My take as an relatively heavy user of Pinalove is that its features as a premium member comes in handy for a few reasons. The most important features would in random order be: you will be on top of girls search lists, you can switch to hide mode while you are actually online (handy when searching for other girls while lying and saying you are exclusivly into one but want to line up a 15 or 20 girls or so). Your msg to girls will be on top on their receives msgs list (many girls receive hundreds of msgs and will mostly only read a few of them so being on top never hurts). You can send multiple msgs without any 5-10 min penalty before you write a new msg (I use copy paste method and send out to many girls at once, easy prey), paying premium membership also indicate you are not a cheap charlie and girls with some money incentives would be concerned greatly regarding this. Just a few heads up.

[Dg8787]

Just reading on the recent discussion, I am wondering.

1 Is it not safe to bring non working girls back to hotel? In particular Metro Manila? I am asking this as a general opinion not specific case incident.

2 What are fellows experience here with Tinder? I have matched many (in fact too many). Some are out right P4P but most would not say especially I have not discuss meeting up with them yet. I hear people had good experience with PinaLove but I just hate that app ransom user into paying for useless features. Paid feature in Tinder seem to be more practical. So what's the take with you ISGs?

P.S. I asked before but no one seems to know, anyone can tell me if Hotel 101 is girls friendly? Really appreciate some comment.

1. Generally safe.

2. No experience in this. Waste of time for me when there are proven market places.

3. Call or email Hotel 101 with your question. As stated numerous times before generally 92.873% of hotels are GF.

[CygnushYoga123]

Just reading on the recent discussion, I am wondering.

1 Is it not safe to bring non working girls back to hotel? In particular Metro Manila? I am asking this as a general opinion not specific case incident.

2 What are fellows experience here with Tinder? I have matched many (in fact too many). Some are out right P4P but most would not say especially I have not discuss meeting up with them yet. I hear people had good experience with PinaLove but I just hate that app ransom user into paying for useless features. Paid feature in Tinder seem to be more practical. So what's the take with you ISGs?

P.S. I asked before but no one seems to know, anyone can tell me if Hotel 101 is girls friendly? Really appreciate some comment.

[Chocha Monger]

You can probably do it for a lifetime without getting caught but when shit hits the fan and some authority finds out I bet they try collect all the shit they can to lock you up as long as possible aka squeeze you for cash / bribe money.

I give girls a fake name but I don't carry any false ID. But if a girl really wants to find my true ID she could get it down at the reception. The point is to avoid this to happen. Acting nice helps.

That is true. People often do things for a lifetime and get away with it until one day their luck runs out. Most convicts in jail did not think they would be caught. If they knew without a doubt that they would have been caught, chances are that they would not have done the crime. They took a calculated risk that they could circumvent the law to reap benefits believing the odds were in their favor, they gambled with their freedom and lost. One of these guys actually had a pocket full of money when he got caught stealing. It just puzzled me, so I asked him why he did it. He told me that although he had more than enough money on him to purchase the items, he just wanted to see if he could get away with stealing them. Sometimes, people just get a thrill out of breaking the law because taking risks makes their dick hard.

Regardless of all the available information on the forum and elsewhere, some guys are just going to scratch that itch knowing the hellish conditions in Flip jails and glacial pace of the judicial system. In fact, there is a guy in Cebu who ignored many warnings because he was convinced that the laws were not going to be enforced. Well, he has been locked up for years now without a trial. When a foreigner is involved expect every law to be enforced. The police, prosecutors, and politicians know that locking up foreigners for breaking the law is good press and great money. Notice that every detail of the items found in the foreigner's possession at the time of an arrest or raid is published in the local newspapers to present the worst possible image. Fraudulent documents and fictitious identities will definitely make authorities hold on to a suspect if only to dig a little deeper to find out what exactly he is hiding, and to check for international warrants to see if there is a reward for his capture. The corrupt authorities are going to start thinking if the guy went through the trouble of obtaining and using fraudulent identification, then he must be someone willing to pay a lot of money for his freedom and discretion. They will extort every penny he has once they get hold of his passport and do a bit of digging on his true identity to see just how much he has to lose.