Chat Rooms & Pen Pals

[GregLondon]

The girl I am hanging out with at the moment has told me that if I want casual fun in the phils i had better say that I was looking for an open minded friend rather than a girlfriend. The point being that a "girlfriend" here in the Phils is seen as a pretty serious exclusive relationship, meet the parents provide financial support etc. Whereas "friends" includes what we might call remunerated fuck buddies. However she does say that "open minded " has several meanings not just sexually open minded. She suggests something like "who can make it happy to me" which apparently is unambiguous.

for the guys experimenting with "bad boy" profiles. My advice would be to be "frank" but also NOT CRUDE, there are loads of really nice girls who will give you no strings remunerated sex but who just delete any of the many messages talking crudely and disrespectfully.

[X Man]

All I can say is WOW. An interesting strategy, and obviously a well written essay. Thanks for the post. X

Well, what an adventure is DIA. Based on the advice and experience of those who have gone before, I adopted a two prong approach to this free Filipina dating site.
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Just bear in mind guys, no matter what, in all likelihood when they tell you "you are the only one" they really mean, "I wish you were the only one."


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[GregLondon]

Well, what an adventure is DIA. Based on the advice and experience of those who have gone before, I adopted a two prong approach to this free Filipina dating site. Basically I created two profiles. The first I call Alterboy; the second Sexybeast. Alterboy is the decent, sincere white-bread LTR/marriage minded sort. Sexybeast is up-front about his desire for a until-fuck-do-us-part, I will be generous to nice girls for sex, short-term only relationship.

It has been fascinating.

I began with Alterboy a few weeks ago. Even without a pic in the profile at first he generated tons of interest from young attractive ladies in the 18-25 demographic, his target. He approached and responded only to ladies who themselves only had “good girl” profiles.

The girls would readily respond to his messages and very many would initiate messages themselves if they noticed he had visited their profiles but had not left a message. After chatting with scores of girls, those who did not fall off the line themselves or be rejected by Alterboy outright for one reason or another, fell into two main camps. There were those who made it fairly clear that they needed support and would be Alterboy’s lover when he came though they hoped for more, and those who were playing the role of the good girl virginal traditional Filipina girl whose only desire was for a good foreign man for marriage because all those bad Filipino boys/men are nothing but players and drunkards.

After a shorter or longer period of chatting with a girl from either group, each and every one of them would indicate that Alterboy was or was becoming “their only one.” Though this was belied by the fact that casual observance of yahoo messenger or DIA activity on their part usually indicated much time spent on the internet chatting up other guys.

Whereas Alterboy spent an inordinate amount of time talking to them about their life—their family, their work, their schooling, their likes and dislikes, what they were looking for or not looking for in a man, ad nausea—Sexybeast went right for the Jugular. His profile stated up front that he was looking for short-term love in return for generosity. In his first chat he verified they had read his profile and new exactly what he wanted. He got their agreement that they would entertain him in his hotel room.

In only a couple of days Sexybeast had nearly a dozen hot young women fully on board with his program. Though Sexybeast was expecting to keep these girls in the virtual rolodex until he had actual use for them, a surprising number of these girls indicated they hoped they could chat with him regularly until he came to the phils, and thought they knew exactly what he wanted and that they would give it to him, they hoped that they and Sexybeast would remain friends afterwards and that Sexybeast consider them girlfriend/wife material!

Alterboy, however was not after volume, he was after The One. His life mate. There were so many possibilities but he was selective. He was judicious and careful. He whittled down all the possible mates he was finding down to two that seemed to have the requisite beauty, intelligence, loyalty, sincerity, and moral fiber.

Whereas the “you are the only one” declarations of all the other girls rang hollow, with these two their sincerity was touching and real. Their internet activity appeared reasonable. They were fun and charming to chat with. They never asked for money or gifts. Their life goals and ambitions meshed quite well with those of Alterboy. He would meet both of course in person, but if both turned out as wonderful as they so obviously were which one to choose would turn out to be quite the dilemma.

To help with this, and to possibly save Alterboy from himself, I decided to enlist Sexybeast in Alterboy’s selection process. Sexybeast from his unique DIA profile sent both of these paragons of the marriageable Filipina his standard approach message praising their beauty and entreating them to read his profile and get back to him. Both of them did! Enthusiastically! Despite their obvious love and devotion to Alterboy (which oddly enough, I believe was genuine), both of these girls wanted to fuck Sexybeast for his money.

The lesson: Filipinas are beautiful, charming, and interesting creatures; however, just about every single one of them will fuck around until they have the security of that ring on their finger, no matter what you think. They approach love and marriage just like the major airlines just coming off a passenger down-cycle—no matter what they are going to overbook the marriage flight until they have the thing locked down. Once on board, they will probably fly you to where you want to go, but until that time they cannot risk their future and security with potentially empty promises.

Because of this experience, I now believe, that if you are using and internet dating sites to find a wholesome Filipina for marriage your best bet is to hit them up with one profile for P4P first, may a few times, and then approach the ones that do not respond with your nice guy profile. After a period of courtship, retest them or investigate them. Trust, but verify, then trust but verify again.

Just bear in mind guys, no matter what, in all likelyhood when they tell you "you are the only one" they really mean, "I wish you were the only one."

I will be in Cebu in a couple of months, I’ll post my in-person experiences once I have the pleasure of having them.

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A very useful experiment and cautionary message to those who are seeking a Goodie 2 Shoes type wife on DIA or other Phils dating sites. In defence of the dishonesty of Filipinas I think the vast majority of guys on DIA are equally dishonest about their intentions, their plans to come to the Phils, the number of girls they are chatting to etc. Many of the girls i hang out with like to do their DIA/Tagged/Friendster stuff in my room (I carry a netbook as a backup to my regular laptop which I allow them to use - which increases the desire of girls to hang around and get fucked repeatedly considerably).

Some of the hard core guys are very nasty pieces of work IMHO

[Member #3428]

in many cases guys dont actually meet more than 1 or 2 of the girls they have been chatting to

Not surprisingly majority of the girls I meet have NEVER hooked up with a guy they chatted with until me, and they are surprised I actually do transit and work in Manila.

[GregLondon]

While I am intrigued by my converstaions with this girl, they are only converstaions at this point. I am not some young and dumb horn toad who thinks all is right with this. Time will tell and when I am there I will attempt a meeting with these tow to try and iron out what is real and what is not. If it happens to be a game then so be it.

Good Luck guys and thanks.

I think one needs to be honest and realistic and realise that 95% of the internet conversations one has with PI girls whilst not in the country is a form of masturbation. Guys feeling lonely in western countries where no girls under 35 are willing to even acknowledge him and 100 messsages on dating sites receive 2 replies from fat 45 year olds and another 4 from glamorous Russian ladies living in Siberia. Suddely guys discover a site such as DIA where they can get a 50% response from an unlimited number of 18-30 cuties.

However the "due diligence" that people imagine that they are doing for months or years is in reality of fairly limited value first because in many cases guys dont actually meet more than 1 or 2 of the girls they have been chatting to, instead falling for the hotel receptionist, a friend of someone they met on the plane etc etc.

In most cases its REALLY difficult to get an idea of how the girl will be through her profile and its only when u get here and actually meet her in person that you get a feel for how it will be in reality.

[Riverman]

Well, what an adventure is DIA. Based on the advice and experience of those who have gone before, I adopted a two prong approach to this free Filipina dating site. Basically I created two profiles. The first I call Alterboy; the second Sexybeast. Alterboy is the decent, sincere white-bread LTR/marriage minded sort. Sexybeast is up-front about his desire for a until-fuck-do-us-part, I will be generous to nice girls for sex, short-term only relationship.

It has been fascinating.

I began with Alterboy a few weeks ago. Even without a pic in the profile at first he generated tons of interest from young attractive ladies in the 18-25 demographic, his target. He approached and responded only to ladies who themselves only had “good girl” profiles.

The girls would readily respond to his messages and very many would initiate messages themselves if they noticed he had visited their profiles but had not left a message. After chatting with scores of girls, those who did not fall off the line themselves or be rejected by Alterboy outright for one reason or another, fell into two main camps. There were those who made it fairly clear that they needed support and would be Alterboy’s lover when he came though they hoped for more, and those who were playing the role of the good girl virginal traditional Filipina girl whose only desire was for a good foreign man for marriage because all those bad Filipino boys/men are nothing but players and drunkards.

After a shorter or longer period of chatting with a girl from either group, each and every one of them would indicate that Alterboy was or was becoming “their only one.” Though this was belied by the fact that casual observance of yahoo messenger or DIA activity on their part usually indicated much time spent on the internet chatting up other guys.

Whereas Alterboy spent an inordinate amount of time talking to them about their life—their family, their work, their schooling, their likes and dislikes, what they were looking for or not looking for in a man, ad nausea—Sexybeast went right for the Jugular. His profile stated up front that he was looking for short-term love in return for generosity. In his first chat he verified they had read his profile and new exactly what he wanted. He got their agreement that they would entertain him in his hotel room.

In only a couple of days Sexybeast had nearly a dozen hot young women fully on board with his program. Though Sexybeast was expecting to keep these girls in the virtual rolodex until he had actual use for them, a surprising number of these girls indicated they hoped they could chat with him regularly until he came to the phils, and thought they knew exactly what he wanted and that they would give it to him, they hoped that they and Sexybeast would remain friends afterwards and that Sexybeast consider them girlfriend/wife material!

Alterboy, however was not after volume, he was after The One. His life mate. There were so many possibilities but he was selective. He was judicious and careful. He whittled down all the possible mates he was finding down to two that seemed to have the requisite beauty, intelligence, loyalty, sincerity, and moral fiber.

Whereas the “you are the only one” declarations of all the other girls rang hollow, with these two their sincerity was touching and real. Their internet activity appeared reasonable. They were fun and charming to chat with. They never asked for money or gifts. Their life goals and ambitions meshed quite well with those of Alterboy. He would meet both of course in person, but if both turned out as wonderful as they so obviously were which one to choose would turn out to be quite the dilemma.

To help with this, and to possibly save Alterboy from himself, I decided to enlist Sexybeast in Alterboy’s selection process. Sexybeast from his unique DIA profile sent both of these paragons of the marriageable Filipina his standard approach message praising their beauty and entreating them to read his profile and get back to him. Both of them did! Enthusiastically! Despite their obvious love and devotion to Alterboy (which oddly enough, I believe was genuine), both of these girls wanted to fuck Sexybeast for his money.

The lesson: Filipinas are beautiful, charming, and interesting creatures; however, just about every single one of them will fuck around until they have the security of that ring on their finger, no matter what you think. They approach love and marriage just like the major airlines just coming off a passenger down-cycle—no matter what they are going to overbook the marriage flight until they have the thing locked down. Once on board, they will probably fly you to where you want to go, but until that time they cannot risk their future and security with potentially empty promises.

Because of this experience, I now believe, that if you are using and internet dating sites to find a wholesome Filipina for marriage your best bet is to hit them up with one profile for P4P first, may a few times, and then approach the ones that do not respond with your nice guy profile. After a period of courtship, retest them or investigate them. Trust, but verify, then trust but verify again.

Just bear in mind guys, no matter what, in all likelyhood when they tell you "you are the only one" they really mean, "I wish you were the only one."

I will be in Cebu in a couple of months, I’ll post my in-person experiences once I have the pleasure of having them.

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[Sellmerch1]

While I am intrigued by my converstaions with this girl, they are only converstaions at this point. I am not some young and dumb horn toad who thinks all is right with this. Time will tell and when I am there I will attempt a meeting with these tow to try and iron out what is real and what is not. If it happens to be a game then so be it.

Good Luck guys and thanks.

I agree with Canyon. There is nothing in the description you have given so far to suggest this girl is not an honest, decent girl with high morals. Of course its early days and you haven't even met her yet so who knows.

Personally I always try to go around with bi girls or girls who are open to threesomes in the phils. it makes life far more interesting than otherwise. I find that the majority of Phils girls are initially appalled by the idesa then if they are persuaded to try quickly become very much into it. That's certainly the pattern with the girl i am with now who only 5 days ago was hiding in the CR when one of my female friends wanted to lick her boobs. Now she is constantly on the hunt for new girls for us to try together. it is much easier for her to hit on girls in the street or mall than I usually within a few mins she has got their cell number then we can start suggestive texts.

I think the guys who marry a phil girl who is jealous about you seeing any other girls are just signing up for a lifetime of deceipt and cheating and probably ultimate expensive divorce.

[Sellmerch1]

Wow Bill.

Sounds like you really know how to treat those little ladies there! That is why we Westerners get our bad name there! While I do appreciate your view on things there I do not agree with them.

Jesus man are you kidding

You would have to be a moron to marry this slit

You know I got to laugh at the guys who marry prostitiutes, bisexual women and bimbos they get some good sex at first, but are too fuking stupid to realize what keeps a good marriage together

Use you head man, and stop thinking like a pea brain

You fuck these slits you don't marry them

If you get married find a pretty, nice, good morals girl, with a really good family

Start using common sense.

[GregLondon]

Sellmerch,

I wouldn't be put off by the comments of Bill1963. He's expressing his opinion, but I wonder about his language and the way he puts down other human beings. Given his vocabulary, I wouldn't pay him any mind.

My advice is to find out what's behind it. It really sounds interesting and you might find a wonderful menage a trois. Do, however, proceed with caution. She's very pretty.

I agree with Canyon. There is nothing in the description you have given so far to suggest this girl is not an honest, decent girl with high morals. Of course its early days and you haven't even met her yet so who knows.

Personally I always try to go around with bi girls or girls who are open to threesomes in the phils. it makes life far more interesting than otherwise. I find that the majority of Phils girls are initially appalled by the idesa then if they are persuaded to try quickly become very much into it. That's certainly the pattern with the girl i am with now who only 5 days ago was hiding in the CR when one of my female friends wanted to lick her boobs. Now she is constantly on the hunt for new girls for us to try together. it is much easier for her to hit on girls in the street or mall than I usually within a few mins she has got their cell number then we can start suggestive texts.

I think the guys who marry a phil girl who is jealous about you seeing any other girls are just signing up for a lifetime of deceipt and cheating and probably ultimate expensive divorce.

[Canyon]

Sellmerch,

I wouldn't be put off by the comments of Bill1963. He's expressing his opinion, but I wonder about his language and the way he puts down other human beings. Given his vocabulary, I wouldn't pay him any mind.

My advice is to find out what's behind it. It really sounds interesting and you might find a wonderful menage a trois. Do, however, proceed with caution. She's very pretty.

[Bill1963]

I have posted a few times in the general section but not here yet. I am one of the VERY few here who is looking for a long term possibly marraige. Please don't smack me in the head!

Anyways, I have been scanning the DIA website now for a few weeks and only sending a few select girls who interest me a quick note. Most get back to me and are anxious to talk and get things going immediately and usually it isn't long before I get the questions about sending them something to help support them! Well once that happens I immediately bounce them. The other day I get a unsolicited email from a girl who is upset at me for my profile and attacks me about how we "Westerners" think all filipina's are prostitutes and *****s! I never sent her mail or anything and to be truthful my profile does not really lead you to believe that is what I am looking for. Which I am not.

So after several back and forth emails over a few days, she acknoweldges that she misunderstood my profile. I get her YM address and we start chatting. BTW, this girl is very pretty, single no kids and has a job so no mention of money has come up at all. Well over the next few days we talk each day on YM and this girl really starts to loosen up with me. She lets it out that she has a GF who she has loved since 15 but now she wants a man in her life but asks me how I would feel if we were together and she wanted to share with her friend. She emails me photos of her friend and her both are very pretty girls. One is 22 the other is 24 and while she says she is not a lesbian she does say that she enjoys her friend very much too. And was afraid that I might not be accepting of her friendship and love for her friend!

At this point I am secretly jumping for joy! This is every mans dream, a woman who is open with sex and relationships with other woman! She even said that she looks at other woman all the time and wonders how they would be in bed, but is too shy to go for them. So now we are to the point of figuring out how to move things along and see if this thing will work between us. I told her upfront that it will be a long time before I was ready to marry, but would be open to a long term relationship if she was the right one and she was fine with that.

So I guess either I am being dupped here and being setup for something or I have struck it rich. Guess time will tell!

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Jesus man are you kidding

You would have to be a moron to marry this slit

You know I got to laugh at the guys who marry prostitiutes, bisexual women and bimbos they get some good sex at first, but are too fuking stupid to realize what keeps a good marriage together

Use you head man, and stop thinking like a pea brain

You fuck these slits you don't marry them

If you get married find a pretty, nice, good morals girl, with a really good family

Start using common sense.

[Sellmerch1]

BTW, the photo is real as I have chatted on CAM with her and she looks exactly like photo!

Ok so here is her pic for you guys who are more visual! I think sh is a real cute girl!

[Sellmerch1]

I fully agree with you and am going into this with my eyes wide open and my small head in check! I expect that this is some form of scam or fishy thing going on! To me she seemed way too willing to give out this type of informtion so readily.

I am game though for playing along and seeing where it all goes. If a meeting does take place it will most definately take place on my terms not theres. I have both of there regular myspace and facebook acounts along with there friendster accounts for both. She gave me the myspace and with a bit of research I was able to find the others and nothing on any of those sites seem to be out of the ordinary and all the photos on all those sites seem to clarify that they spend alot of time together as most the pictures are of them together.

I will be very cautious with this though! If we get to the point of a meeting I will insist they both meet me in a nice public place, then in my hotel room for a sample of whats ahead. I am in no rush to find my long term lady, but I guess I need to start somewhere.

Hmmmmmm I would be going VERY cautiously with this one. My antennae tell me that she is setting you up for something but as you say, time will tell.

To repeat, if ever you decide to meet her and her friend in person, do so in a public place (like a mall coffee shop) and have a VERY thorough interview/discussion with them both. Watch out for the body language between them. It seems funny how she progressed from giving you heaps for contacting Pinays to sharing such intimacies with you.

You also, of course, might have hit the jackpot, but be careful until you find out.

[Sellmerch1]

Ok so here is her pic for you guys who are more visual! I think sh is a real cute girl!

[Eaglestar]

Nice gal, nice rack if anyone wants to pursue. I have not pursued.

http://www.dateinasia.com/UserProfil...e-f49ec2cde36a