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[Blackypop]

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[Fun And Sun]

Hi guys.

I read in this thread about "Malayas". Waht does it mean?

Blackypop

You can find what it is if you scroll back a few pages, but can understand you don't want to do that given that the Mombasa Board is more and more filled with junk posts these days.

A "malaya" is a working girl, or in more plain English, a prostitute. It's thrown around very liberally on this thread, but it is very offensive and you should not ask a girl if she is a "malaya" unless you want her to pour her drink on you.

Funny thing is that most "malayas" don't see themselves as "malayas", but all their competitors they think of as malayas and refer to them as such.

[Bareback Jack]

...Sure there is a save sex forum, there is a moderator, Jackson, to decide what's allowed to post or not too. I've been searching for insults on the thread, are you confusing disagreeing with insults?

You are right. There have not been any insults on this particular forum. However, there have been on others and as this topic is coming up every now and then on different forums and involving many of the same names I'd prefer to avoid posting this on every thread. Everybody should know the rules. They are explicitly stated. No criticising, taunting, insulting and no safe sex bragging.

You yourself have used words like 'it is morally not correct' in conjunction with this and IMHO this goes way past disagreement. It is simply a very judging statement.

Cheers J

[Member #4364]

Exxay; I don't want to post about every single area; I try to help;

But first please make a decision in which area you want to stay.

[Expat Kenya]

People in Africa take it PERSONALLY when you criticize their county. It's really quite funny.

You know why?

You travel to an African country for holiday. When you criticize the country, people wonder why you came (back) in the first place. Africans know that their country is 'behind' in development, no need for visitors to remind them. So why take the trouble to spent a lot of money, come into their house, criticize what they already know instead of talking the good things that brings you to Africa. Criticizing is not going to help you, or the Africans.

Avoid talking politics in Africa, it is non of your business and it can really upset some Africans, the way it used to upset people in western countries.

I believe everyone has the right to make their own choices. This is true for every area of your personal life including sex. It is not against the spirit of the forum to express personal choices. I've expressed my choices in favour of BBFS and explained why. I can understand why others make different choices and what their rationale is.

What I don't understand is how people take the liberty to insult or criticise others for not following what they consider safe sex practices. As the forum rules clearly state such posts are reserved for a special forum which is called safe sex.

Therefore let's just agree to disagree. I have no problem with the mongers using condoms and I won't go out of my way to criticise them. So anyone who doesn't agree with my BBFS preference please feel free to express your continued disagreement but please refrain from criticising or insulting statements

Sure there is a save sex forum, there is a moderator, Jackson, to decide what's allowed to post or not too. I've been searching for insults on the thread, are you confusing disagreeing with insults?

Stay safe.

[Member #4379]

Forgive me for playing 2 cent political scientist, but I'm amazed at the childish behaviour I've witnessed from adults born and raised in Africa, especially dictatorships. It seems the absence of democracy really shows up in these 1 on 1 interactions. That is, personal insults are used without hesitation when the subject matter is completely IMpersonal (I. E. Facts about a country, same sex practices etc) People in Africa take it PERSONALLY when you criticize their county. It's really quite funny. It's like you have personally insulted their mother when you tell them that their 'GDP has declined etc' or 'that there is a lack of transparency' on what they are doing. I guess when they say 'developing' they are also referring to their own development. It reminds me of children in a school yard who call names, lie, and manipulate to 'defend' themselves. Children no problem. But when you see adults behaving this way it's really bizarre. I've seen 6 years of it in 4 African countries.

I believe everyone has the right to make their own choices. This is true for every area of your personal life including sex. It is not against the spirit of the forum to express personal choices. I've expressed my choices in favour of BBFS and explained why. I can understand why others make different choices and what their rationale is.

What I don't understand is how people take the liberty to insult or criticise others for not following what they consider safe sex practices. As the forum rules clearly state such posts are reserved for a special forum which is called safe sex.

Therefore let's just agree to disagree. I have no problem with the mongers using condoms and I won't go out of my way to criticise them. So anyone who doesn't agree with my BBFS preference please feel free to express your continued disagreement but please refrain from criticising or insulting statements

[Exxay]

Bamburi is a beach with hotels; furthermore a village.

Inside the contry. Mtwapa is a town north of.

Furnished aprtments; use google: Koh I noor / Glory villas.

In the City. At Bamburi the apartments of Sai Rock.

Or Bamburi Villas.

Make your decision and ask about your choosen location

I don't mind these answers but I don't understand why are you still here on this forum.

I read some of useful messages from you, and from some others like you, but at the same time you and some other frequent posters around here are some of the worst people to go to for to ask simple questions. It might not be your fault, the forum is set-up in this way, but I still don't understand why are you and others still lurking around. Your job is done, you posted a lot of useful info but now, that you became bitter and you offer shit all info, why do you bother?

If I could find the info I wanted on google I wouldn't have been here.

People coming to the "international sex guide" forum are looking for specific question, trip reports and so on. After reading a few hundreds messages here I see a common theme, broken only by people with very few messages posted, wanting to give back. My hat down to them.

The theme around here, from the veterans, is "fuck off, you are all overpayers, you don't know shit, we are here fucking for free dumb, but cunning, malayas".

Why do you bother posting still?

Get up a pinned message like this:

1. Don't fall in love, you are not that special. It will end bad for you. If you send money for whatever reason you are retarded but you don't know it yet.

2. The market prices for st, lt are.

3. The best places to stay, girl friendly, are, in order. (special mention here for the guys recommending hotels that are definitely NOT girl friendly, where they had a great time with their wifes! WTF? On a sex site? Really? Retards!

4. The differences between, Mwtapa, Bamburi Nyiali, Mombasa are.

Everything else different, informational, is a nice bonus.

But repeating all the times to people how much of a good time You are having doing things that a normal tourist cannot do realistically, gives no support to this kind of site.

Bragging about fucking for free girls that are in the business it just shows you are a cheap person and you are not seeing why people will sell themselves. You are the lowest of the low!

In this regard, the fact you are still posting on this site, without offering any meaningful information to people who seek sex in various countries, just shows that you have nothing better to say about your life than trying to amaze people with your lucky experiences. Which, after reading hundreds of messages on this board, I can see they are coming from just a few persons so their reality could be discussed further.

I hope, for the good of all, this board will get genuine posters and people who really care about it.

The blabbing 'expats' should have no place here as they stopped offering any meaningful info for mongers years ago.

I am a frequent poster somewhere else, on a mongering site, where people are actually trying to help others and not to just keep posting shit and fighting. Sadly, they don't have a 'Kenya' chapter so I had to 'google it' to get to a place where I am told to 'google it' if I want more info.

My hat off to the genuine people who actually try to help or give back bits of what they got here!

YOU are the ones keeping this interesting and alive!

To all the others with what they want to call "inside info". F off. You are worthless now. You stopped being useful in the moment you started being too full with yourself!

[Bareback Jack]

BTW I all suggest you to download and watch the movie "House of Numbers Anatomy of an Epidemic" (2009). It's the best documentary about HIV. AIDS ever made.

You can find it on The Pirate Bay

Thanks for the link. Very interested to watch this over the next few days. Another interesting link is this one http://www.rethinkingaids.com/

[Bareback Jack]

I believe everyone has the right to make their own choices. This is true for every area of your personal life including sex. It is not against the spirit of the forum to express personal choices. I've expressed my choices in favour of BBFS and explained why. I can understand why others make different choices and what their rationale is.

What I don't understand is how people take the liberty to insult or criticise others for not following what they consider safe sex practices. As the forum rules clearly state such posts are reserved for a special forum which is called safe sex.

Therefore let's just agree to disagree. I have no problem with the mongers using condoms and I won't go out of my way to criticise them. So anyone who doesn't agree with my BBFS preference please feel free to express your continued disagreement but please refrain from criticising or insulting statements

[Blackypop]

Hi guys.

I read in this thread about "Malayas". Waht does it mean?

Blackypop

[Woef Woef]

BTW I all suggest you to download and watch the movie "House of Numbers Anatomy of an Epidemic" (2009). It's the best documentary about HIV. AIDS ever made.

You can find it on The Pirate Bay

[Woef Woef]

The chance that this happens is: (the chance that I have HIV) multiplied by (the chance that I transfer the HIV virus to a lady while not using condoms) multiplied by (the chance that the lady get pregnant by me) multiplied by (the chance that the virus is transferred to the baby) multiplied by (the chance that the mother dies)

This seems to be a very very small chance to me, why should I adapt my lifestyle to this? You also don't adapt your current lifestyle by spending a lot of money due to the possibility that you can win the lottery in future do you?

Cheers.

Thats the point why malayas wand to have unprotected sex, getting pregnant and have a mzungu financially and emotional attached to the child and its mom.

Protected or unprotected is your own choice. However, I think its morally not very correct because the ladies wand to get pregnant, there're desperate, and you might be spreading a cause of death which other don't choose for. Its possible for an infected women to give birth without the baby being infected. Are we going to Kenya for fun or producing orphans?

[Member #4379]

Unless you take the AIDS for the virus rather than for the anti-bodies, you can be HIV+ and still test negative up to 16 weeks after being infected. Unless you and your partner are prepared to not have sex with anyone else for that 16 week period, there is always a risk of getting infected / infecting your partner.

[Bareback Jack]

...The partners you infect are 20 to 35, may have responsibilities of small children, enjoy very little and expensive healthcare in a 3rd world country...

I understand your point Expat, but first of all how am I going to infect them if I am free of disease? Secondly, I don't like stereotypes. There is excellent health care available in Kenya. Due to cost it is just not available to anyone but the same is true for many countries and has long been a reality in the US too. I have never refused any of my long terms anything that was clearly needed, health care included. If one them needed emergency health care in an upmarket Nairobi hospital I would most certainly be willing to provide. This is just a simple act of humanity.

...Its not all about you Jhack, its about your sexual partners and fellow mongerers too...

I do care about my sexual partners, that's why I stay with them for long enough that testing makes sense. I'd never infect anyone and I'll make sure of that by keeping on top of my status. The test kits available today are incredibly fast and accurate and you don't have to wait 3 months anymore. In respect of my fellow mongers. What risk do they take if they insist on protection?

No test in this world. Whether after 8 days nor after 3 months. Is a guarantee. Tests will always have false negatives and false positives, but the accuracy that has been achieved today is good enough for me to accept the residual risk that remains.

[LustyHombre]

Statistics are manufactured by people to support the message they intend to convey.

We were taught in "Introduction to Statistics" in Economics 101 already that " liers figure and figures lie ".

Hope you feel good about the choices you make for yourself; I know I do.