Thread: 2007 Thai Women - Opinions & Advice
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12-02-07 02:06 #470
Posts: 3823Originally Posted by Animby
Why do many Thai construction companies hire a Farang forum to oversee the work? To make sure it gets done properly (not fucked up).
How many Thais does it take to sell someone a simple item in a department store? (Just one person in the west).
Its easy to see the strong cultural differences from the west.
On the other hand I like to work in Europe, excluding the U.K. and I don't like to work in USA much.
Why?
In the USA and U.K., people are always finding excuses not to take action. They are basically lazy and don't work very hard (this coming from myself, a lazy person).
I find other European countries better for getting things done like Germany, Austria, Holland, etc.
I work in IT (large Computer systems).
Overall we see that not all countries are the same.
The work ethic and standards of quality vary greatly.
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12-02-07 01:07 #469
Posts: 915Originally Posted by Animby
Any updates on the office politics, JB?
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12-01-07 10:15 #468
Posts: 1749Originally Posted by Old Thai Hand
is for love or to live in LOS? If so that could save Farangs the hassle of constant VISA runs.
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12-01-07 09:58 #467
Posts: 1749Originally Posted by Old Thai Hand
2. Are you speaking of political, monetary, military, or moral power?
To me many TGs look oriental, some Japanese, others Chinese. Many look like something else, maybe E. Indian, maybe a Canadian caucasian with a suntan.
3. While in the West fair skinned ladies frequent beaches and tanning salons seeking the Thai skin colour. Personally I prefer whited skinned girls with blond hair, but I have seen very few blond TGs here. Red heads are much more common in the NEP area.
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12-01-07 09:08 #466
Posts: 116Uncanny Abilities
Jungle Bluebird: "Thais have the uncanny ability to mess up fully functioning, good things. This talent extends to family matters."
JB, I have lived and worked in many places all around the world. Leave out the word "Thais" in your quote and insert andy nationality you wish. It works. Trust me.
Caanadians have the uncanny ability
Russians have the uncanny ability
South Africans have the uncanny ability
Brits have the uncanny ability
etc...
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11-30-07 19:42 #465
Posts: 4665Originally Posted by Bumholes1
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11-30-07 13:49 #464
Posts: 5Bargirls are social outcasts and if they are lucky to get some hapless Farang to actually marry them, they or their families should not expect anything more (although they'll certainly demand it).
Some of the families never find out what their daughter is doing if she doesnt
show up in her hometown with a Farang. They usually think she is working as
a shop assistant, hotel derk or so. And they propably dont seek for the truth
as long as she is sending them some money.
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11-30-07 12:59 #463
Posts: 1642Cheer up!
Opebo,
Cheer up!
Haven't you heard that Lonely Planet recently voted US citizens one of the nicest, friendliest and most hospitable people on Mother Earth?
(Kansas excluded, no doubt)
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11-30-07 11:45 #462
Posts: 1641Don't you fellows who claim that 'Thais mess things up' find you are being a bit arrogant? After all the country functions very well - one has good roads, excellent power, decent food, reasonable safety, and so forth. I'll admit the water is sometimes less than perfect - they say you shouldn't drink it, and the pressure is often inadequate. Government is only moderately corrupt - personally I've never been asked for a bribe, and everything is done 'by the book', even though the book is a bit anti-farang.
On an individual level, people survive, live their lives, have kids, and even run businesses if they have a smidgen of Chinese blood (yes I'm being facetious).
I really can't see any signs of poor functioning of this society, at least compared to my homeland, the US (admittedly the very bottom of the barrel of 'first world' nations).
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11-30-07 07:54 #461
Posts: 139Thankyou all for your input on marriage, I have no plans to ever get married but u never know. I just thought it interesting how much some guys will pay for a girl, and do they really know what they are getting themselves into.
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11-30-07 07:05 #460
Posts: 403Just Say No
Originally Posted by Mick Licker
Let her brother work and save money for his dowry. Not your problem. You no doubt had to work to get enough money to come to Thailand in the first place. We all did.
Let him do the same. If he really wants to marry, then he must save money instead of drinking and gambling as most Thai men do, and then coming to you with his hand out.
Say NO NO NO -in the long run you will earn respect
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11-30-07 06:51 #459
Posts: 3823Originally Posted by Old Thai Hand
So should be no dowry.
Her official divorce was thankfully cheap as her ex had not found out about my existence.
The bad news is that I tend to choose girls without looking at the family status at all. e.g. Does she have a nice temperament? Is she jai dee?
Is she pretty? Does she like sex a lot?
So having picked up an Ubon girl from a poor family, I will be paying one way or another for ever. Fortuantely there are not too many members in the immediate family.
One problem is her brother needs a dowry to get married, probably 40K Baht. So far she has ignored his requests for help as money needed to be spent on more urgent problems like house repairs, but how long can this last?
Once all the family know about the Farang boyfriend, I can see the requests for money will start getting more frequent.
So its not the GF who is the real problem. I can support her with no problems. Its her family. This is normal.
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11-30-07 01:35 #458
Posts: 2102Sin Sord (Dowries)
Originally Posted by Bob Down
The dowry should drop dramatically if the woman is over 30, or has had a child and should not exist at all if she's been married before or she's been a bargirl. Bargirls are social outcasts and if they are lucky to get some hapless Farang to actually marry them, they or their families should not expect anything more (although they'll certainly demand it).
To summarize and simplify:
The going rate for poor Isaan farmgirls is, as Bumholes states about 40-50,000 and 1-2 baht of gold. It seems that rate doubles to 100,000 whenever a Farang enters the picture and I've seen more than one moron agree to pay it.
In the north (Chiang Mai, China Rai etc.) the starting rate even for country girls is 200,000 and 5 baht of gold, which reflects the premium placed on what are considered here the great beauties of the country.
Generally, a middle-class Thai girl will be about 500,000+ and 5-10 baht of gold.
An upper-class girl will be 1,000,000+ and 15-25 baht of gold.
It should be noted that if you marry a poor farmgirl, especially from Isaan you can kiss the money goodbye and will probably keep paying again and again long after the wedding.
But, if you marry a girl from a better family, the money and gold are usually just for "show" and you'll get it all back. Also educated Thais tend to be considerably more enlightened on the whole matter. For example, while I've agreed in principle to pay sin sord, my GF's father has said it's unnecessary because I'm a Farang, it's not my custom and that I have been taking care of her. As far as he's concerned, that's enough. As my GF says, they don't need to put on a show. Her father is the bigshot in the village, has the biggest house, 3 cars and lots of land. He doesn't need to impress anyone by flashing my money around.
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11-30-07 01:03 #457
Posts: 3116As with Bumholes1, my wife wasn't a sex worker. She was 28 years old and in Thai culture she was over the hill. This didn't come from me but from her. As noted in my earlier report I didn't have a lot of money and I make it clear. My own opinion about a dowry was I wasn't marrying Thaksin daughter so any amount ask by the family was out of the question. They don't expect that amount from a Thai so why expect it from me. Luckily for me the topic never came up maybe because of years of stressing no money from my wife they never ask as far as I know. When I went up to Sukhothai, gave a few thousand baht to the mother and family for the little kids they lined up and I gave them each 100 baht. No party just a few strings on the wrist and I was married in their eyes!
As with Bumholes1, my job was to provide a quality life for my family and a education for my son. I have never been in favor of a dowry and any family especially a BG one asking for such a amount is living in a dream world and is doing nothing more than a BG, saphoning money from Farangs over the internet! If they ask for that before they are married one better brace themselves for damn sure because they're looking at him as a ATM for the family and not as a person trying to provide a better life for their daugther and her kids.
LBM
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11-30-07 01:03 #456
Posts: 2102Originally Posted by Jungle Bluebird